“I will heal their waywardness and love them freely, for my anger has turned away from them.” Hosea 14:4
Do you know a wayward spouse or loved one who is living blatantly in sin and laughs about it? I do. That is why I will always be standing, praying and fasting for many loved ones and friends. Why would you not pray for your spouse, children or your Mom, Dad, sisters or brothers for them to get gloriously saved, filled with the Holy Spirit and then to serve the Lord?
I love reading God’s Holy Word. Do you? Has the Lord given you a scripture that seems to leap off the page regarding your marriage or spouse or does it answer one of your questions you have been asking God? That is a rhema word. I received a rhema word when I was reading the Bible and praying for marriage restoration when Bob was living in the far country. I pray that you will reread the above scripture, which I believe is a very powerful promise for your own beloved spouse. Now go back and read it a third time and pray it with your husband’s or wife’s name in it.
Let me share what wayward means from the American College Dictionary: turned or turning away from what is right or proper; perverse; a wayward son; swayed or prompted by caprice, or capricious. Now what does “caprice” mean? It means: a sudden change of mind without apparent or adequate motive; whim.
“Woe to the obstinate children,” declares the Lord, “to those who carry out plans that are not mine, forming an alliance, but not by my Spirit, heaping sin upon sin.” Isaiah 30:1
Have you heard about “personal apostasy?” Bob and I talked about “personal apostasy” or “turning away” many times before he went to be with the Lord. This Greek term is defined as: a falling away, defection, rebellion, abandonment, withdrawal or turning from what one has formerly turned to.” (The Full Life Study Bible) That described my husband when he was serving the Lord as he was tempted and he chose to give up his faith and moral values and choose a lifestyle contrary to a believer. Does that describe your spouse today? It is going to be a downward spiral, unless you fast and pray for the Holy Spirit to speak loudly to their hardened heart, as they are denying their Lord God in so many different ways.
“Those who are wayward in spirit will gain understanding; those who complain will accept instruction.” Isaiah 29:24
I know that your beloved spouse may have been a strong believer. The Bible gives us warning throughout its pages of abandoning our faith. We must follow the Lord’s commands and live in obedience to our Lord Jesus Christ. Apostasy is a Christian severing their relationship with Jesus Christ or withdrawing their true faith in Him. Moral apostasy is when a Christian becomes enslaved again to sin and immorality just as before when they were an unbeliever. That is why I prayed so hard for Bob as I knew he was a man of God. The enemy tempted him and he became blinded and deceived.
In Bob’s Bible during his prodigal days, he has sermon notes which said the solution to apostasy is:
- Love faith,
- Learn faith,
- Live faith,
- Loose faith in your life.
Never give up on your wayward, deceived spouse. One very important prayer that we must pray regularly is that your spouse and all prodigals will soften their hearts. You often can see your spouse’s sins which may include any of these: anger, alcohol, drugs, pornography, adultery or another sinful nature. Pray for their repentance as there are consequences to their disobedience in God’s timing.
See to it, brothers, that none of you has a sinful, unbelieving heart that turns away from the living God. But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness. We have come to share in Christ if we hold firmly till the end the confidence we had at first. As has just been said: “Today, if you hear his voice, do not harden your hearts as you did in the rebellion.” Hebrews 3:12-15
Are you still a baby in standing, or are you growing in the Lord? You may already be more mature than many of your Christians friends, because you have become a man or woman of faith, being sure of what you hope for and certain of what you do not see. Do not allow doubt and unbelief to steal your faith, hope and trust in your Lord Jesus Christ’s power in restoring your marriage because of the many different circumstances.
Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. Hebrews 11:1
Be alert that you as a stander do not allow your own heart to become hardened by thinking that your spouse will never change and that your circumstances are impossible. You have just believed a lie from the enemy. Nothing is impossible with God. Never doubt the power in the Name of Jesus or the Blood that our Lord Jesus Christ shed on Calvary or God’s promises in His Word. Jesus Christ paid the price for us to be able to walk in victory.
Your Lord loves your spouse and all prodigal spouses so very much. Our Heavenly Father is going to keep speaking to your beloved spouse over and over again, softly at first and then more loudly to get your spouse’s attention. God does speak. He speaks to His children twenty-four hours a day. Don’t give up! Listen for your instructions and know God’s timing is always perfect.
But you, dear friends, build yourselves up in your most holy faith and pray in the Holy Spirit. Keep yourselves in God’s love as you wait for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ to bring you to eternal life. Be merciful to those who doubt; snatch others from the fire and save them; to others show mercy, mixed with fear— hating even the clothing stained by corrupted flesh. To him who is able to keep you from falling and to present you before his glorious presence without fault and with great joy—to the only God our Savior be glory, majesty, power and authority, through Jesus Christ our Lord, before all ages, now and forevermore! Amen. Jude 20-25
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