How are you feeling now that Thanksgiving is over? Are you hurting? Are you angry or mad that your spouse never called you or even talked to your children on Thanksgiving? Were you alone this Thanksgiving and your spouse had your children? We are hearing praise reports of prodigal spouses being together with their family for Thanksgiving, but we also are hearing about the many standers who never heard from their spouse at all. Are you ready to forgive your spouse one more time?
Yes, you may have had a very lonely, devastating Thanksgiving, but have you taken captive the negative thoughts the enemy is constantly trying to tell you? Satan wants to steal and destroy your faith, your hope, and God’s promises for restoration of your marriage. Satan wants you to stop praying and give up on standing for restoration of your marriage, especially through the Christmas holidays. Satan wants to steal God’s plan and purpose for your life and marriage.
“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” John 10:10
Do you know how much your Lord loves you in spite of your circumstances right now? Let me share some powerful truths that you need to always remember. God is in control of your life and your marriage completely. All things are under the absolute control of our God, who is the God of the universe. God desires good things for you. Never forget that Satan himself cannot touch a hair on your head without God’s permission and then only for God to have it turn around to your good in the future. Not all things are good when they happen, but our Lord God will make all things work together for your good in the future, to bring glory and honor to our Lord.
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose… What, then, shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things? Romans 8:28, 31-32
May I make two suggestions for you this weekend? First, forgive your spouse for all that they did not do on Thanksgiving and for what they are doing to you and to your children every day. The enemy will try to destroy your walk with your Lord Jesus Christ by you building a wall of unforgiveness in your heart. Forgive your spouse or anyone else who may be hurting you now or has hurt you in the past. Your walking in forgiveness is vital for your own spiritual walk and for restoration of your marriage.
“‘And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.’ For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” Matthew 6:13-15
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.” Matthew 18:21-22
Second, you must choose to love your spouse unconditionally. Yes, regardless of their lack of compassion, lack of commitment to your marriage, or their lack of responsibility to you and to your children. How are you doing in loving your spouse, your in-laws, extended family or friends, unconditionally who may have even taken your spouse’s side during Thanksgiving?
Do you know who loves you the most? Your Heavenly Father who created you and who loves you so very much. Never forget, regardless of how you were conceived, you are no mistake in this world. God has a very special plan and purpose for your life that you still have not seen or may not know about yet.
Today, seek your Lord for His love and compassion that only He can give you. There will always be someone who can hurt, ridicule, reject or abandon you, but your Heavenly Father will never leave you or forsake you. You need to learn how to love regardless of other people’s behaviors.
“Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” Hebrews 13:5
Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8
May I challenge you this weekend to examine your heart and be certain that you are choosing to love the Lord and others as He commands you to do. Are you loving your Lord, yourself, your spouse, your neighbor and your enemies? Your answer will reflect your spiritual growth and maturity in the Lord. Let me share a few scriptures that teach us our Lord’s principles and commands.
“Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” Jesus said to him,” ‘You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Matthew 22:36-38 (NKJV)
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Ephesians 5:25
Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. Titus 2:4-5
“You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your brothers, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” Matthew 5:43-48
Here’s a special prayer for you to pray:
“Lord, heal my hurts and pain in my heart. Help me to forgive and love my spouse unconditionally. Holy Spirit, empower me to love my Lord, my spouse, myself, my neighbor and my enemies as the Word teaches me. Lord, reveal God’s truths to my spouse and to my loved ones whom I pray for their salvation daily. Lord, make this Christmas season special to me and to my family. I pray this all in the mighty Name of Jesus. May my beloved spouse and many prodigals come to the Lord Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord of their lives throughout this Christmas season. I pray this all in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen.“
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