Are your family and friends suggesting because your husband or wife has or is committing adultery, that you need to get rid of them and “move on with your life? God has someone better for you.” Yes, the Lord does have someone better for you. Who is it? Your own husband or wife who has been touched and transformed by the power of the Holy Spirit. May I suggest you pray this scripture with their name it daily:
“‘To open their eyes and turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan to God, so that they may receive forgiveness of sins and a place among those who are sanctified by faith in me’.” Acts 26:18
The world today is winking at the word “adultery.” You and I must hate adultery, as it has attacked our spouses, our marriages, our churches and is destroying so many families. May you and I make a difference in teaching our family, friends and our church families to tell them the consequences of adultery!
Her house is a highway to the grave, leading down to the chambers of death. Proverbs 7:27
I know the pain of discovering that your husband or wife has fallen into Satan’s trap of temptation of adultery. Please do not give up on your spouse. I did and the Lord showed me that He had another plan. When your spouse has been tempted into an adulterous relationship, they use words such as: “love, happy, they are so compatible, never argue, they can’t live without them.” Never forget that the enemy, Satan, has blinded and deceived them, so they are listening to the devil’s lies, not God’s truths. What husband or wife would leave their one-flesh spouse and children for a counterfeit?
Do you doubt that adultery is wrong? Then you must read Proverbs Chapters 5-7, as the Bible clearly states what will happen to the adulteress or the adulterer if they do not repent and turn from their sinful ways.
Never forget that we love the sinners, but hate the act of adultery and all that it represents. The spouse who has had the affair often moves out of their home, lives with the other person and, in time, may even marry the other person. The other person often asks for this “marriage” to happen, to sever and destroy the original marriage.
Does anyone think that God will bless the relationship that was birthed out of adultery? We need to pray that all men of God will not marry these couples as they are condoning and legalizing their adultery. God still sees them married to their covenant spouse, while the courts may say they are divorced. There are more men of God proclaiming that this is wrong and that is our prayer – that all churches will proclaim from the pulpit that adultery is wrong and they will not participate in marrying that couple.
Our society has painted adultery as exciting, everyone is doing it and with no consequences. That is 100% wrong. There are severe consequences to the person who commits adultery, to the other person who is involved in the adultery, as well as the pain of the betrayal to the innocent spouse and their children, if there are any. Sexual immorality can be stopped and our world can turn from the promiscuous lifestyle that we are advertising on our televisions, movies, radio talk shows and on the Internet.
There are many studies that demonstrate to us that both parents are needed to raise children. Teenagers are now becoming sexually active at a much younger age because of their searching for happiness, love and acceptance due to their family problems and often divorce. God’s ways and standards are the only way!
Let’s look at what the Bible says about adultery.
My son, pay attention to my wisdom, listen well to my words of insight, that you may maintain discretion and your lips may preserve knowledge. For the lips of an adulteress drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil; but in the end she is bitter as gall, sharp as a double-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave. Proverbs 5:1-5
How is your heart? How is your spouse’s heart? An impure heart will corrupt one’s thoughts, feelings, words and actions. We need to pray for ourselves, for our spouses and children, to get a new transformed heart, seeking to be more like our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ every day. We must learn how to say “no” to temptations, evil, adultery, drugs, alcohol, pornography, greed, sexual immorality and all selfishness.
“But the things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these make a man ‘unclean.’ For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander.” Matthew 15:18-19
Your spouse has fallen into Satan’s trap of sin. Sin is wrong and there will be consequences to sin on judgment day. I pray that you will be careful not to harbor anger, unforgiveness and bitterness in your heart. Lay your spouse and the other person at your Lord’s feet and allow the Lord to deal with your spouse and the other person every day. Your responsibility is to forgive and love your enemies. Your Lord God knows what is best for you and your marriage. We pray that you will never give up on your husband/wife and pray for marriage restoration. Never stop praying for your spouse’s salvation so they will be in Heaven with you and your loved ones eternally.
For a man’s ways are in full view of the LORD, and he examines all his paths. The evil deeds of a wicked man ensnare him; the cords of his sin hold him fast. He will die for lack of discipline, led astray by his own great folly. Proverbs 5:21-23
Adultery and sexual immorality can be avoided. We need to teach our young people the importance of purity before marriage. We need to discourage couples from living together before marriage. Let us teach this in our churches, along with obedience and disobedience to God’s laws and committing sins. If you are a parent, you need to teach your children the Word of God, so they learn right from wrong and know why it is wrong.
Will you pray for your family and beloved spouse, that they will turn their hearts toward their Lord Jesus Christ and toward home?
Have you surrendered your personal life to the Lord, choosing to follow Him and wanting to be in the will of God daily? God has a perfect plan and purpose for you and your family, just don’t give up! Every day pray that your husband or wife will be obedient to the Lord’s wooing, that they will repent, and that the Lord will cleanse their heart as they turn from their sinful lifestyle. We must hate adultery, but love the sinner. Nothing is too hard for the Lord Jesus to do. Remember, He shed His Blood for their sins!
Have mercy on me, O God, according to your unfailing love; according to your great compassion blot out my transgressions. Wash away all my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin… Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean; wash me, and I will be whiter than snow. Let me hear joy and gladness; let the bones you have crushed rejoice. Hide your face from my sins and blot out all my iniquity. Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Psalm 51:1-2, 7-10
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