Has your heart become hardened while you have been praying for your spouse to return back to your marriage? I know that when Bob and I were having marriage problems, I was having anger and unforgiveness starting to brew in my heart. I was not seeking my Lord for help or answers. I was reacting to all our marriage circumstances in the flesh as the world does. I was telling everyone our problems and the more I talked, the more people told me to “get rid of him,” or “don’t put up with that.”
Blessed (happy, fortunate, and to be envied) is the man who reverently and worshipfully fears [the Lord] at all times [regardless of circumstances], but he who hardens his heart will fall into calamity. Proverbs 28:14 (AMP)
As Proverbs talks about a “fool,” I was the one to listen to and take surveys from everyone! I made a very grave mistake listening to anyone who wanted to tell me what to do about my marriage problems. I had allowed the enemy, Satan, to harden my heart by speaking lies to me and not reading the Bible daily.
Imagine, I did not even ask or know about these unlicensed counselors (friends) status of their own marriages first! As you know, that was very costly to every one of our family members, friends, co-workers and the list goes on. I had taken the vote and tallied their uneducated advice and divorced Bob. How many divorces could be avoided if at least one spouse would seek the Lord, pastors or counselors who truly believe in marriage restoration! That is the secret. Always find out what the pastors or counselors teach, preach, counsel or believe. Divorce is not the answer, but praying and standing in the gap for the Lord to move your mountain is the solution.
God sent His only Son, Jesus Christ, to die on the Cross for all our sins. Jesus is the answer. We must rebuild our marriages on the solid rock of Jesus Christ. Have you hardened your heart to God’s truths? Are you ready to compromise your moral values? Are you listening to the world’s ways?
How would you rate your comprehension of listening to someone talk? One of my favorite lessons to teach is that God does speak to His children. The question is: Are you hearing the Holy Spirit speak to you daily? Are you willing to be alone with the Lord and your Bible, reading and praying, waiting for the Lord to speak to your heart? The Lord will speak to you. He may speak in many different ways, but one way may be by a scripture that seems to leap off the page in answer to one of your questions or prayers.
“‘Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.’” Jeremiah 33:3
Has your heart become hardened due to all the problems that you are having to face alone each week? Are you being tempted to quit standing and praying for your spouse and marriage? Are you tired of waiting? Are you weary and lonely? Your Lord knows what you are going through every day just as He knew what the Israelites were facing in the wilderness. Is the enemy deceiving you to lead your heart to go astray from following God’s perfect will and way in your marriage?
God wants you to seek Him first. He wants you to believe in His promises and trust Him to solve all your problems now, including your marriage, as He did for the Israelites. How big is your God? Remember, God parted the Red Sea and His Son fed 5000 men.
Why do you say, O Jacob, and complain, O Israel, “My way is hidden from the LORD; my cause is disregarded by my God”? Do you not know? Have you not heard? The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” Isaiah 40:27-31
As Bob wrote over and over again, God does speak to His prodigal spouses and children right where they are living in sin. The Lord wants all sinners to come to know Him personally and be used by God mightily in the future.
You may be the spouse who was the prodigal and your heart has been touched and softened by your Lord Jesus Christ. Praise the Lord! You know God’s mighty power in touching hardened hearts, regardless if your spouse says they will not forgive you. They have a hardened heart for right now. You need to pray for the Lord to soften their heart.
“For nothing is impossible with God.” Luke 1:37
Will you examine your own heart and not allow the enemy, Satan, to sow seeds of anger, hatred, jealousy, bitterness, unforgiveness, and apathy into your heart? Beware of the temptations from the world. Will you pray this scripture with both of your names in it regularly?
“‘For I will take you out of the nations; I will gather you from all the countries and bring you back into your own land. I will sprinkle clean water on you, and you will be clean; I will cleanse you from all your impurities and from all your idols. I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.’” Ezekiel 36:24-26
Thank You Lord for touching all Your children’s hearts to becoming pliable to Your will and way. Lord, touch all hurting hearts and marriages and heal them by Your mighty power. Lord, change me first. I pray this in the mighty Name of Jesus. Amen.
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