Today’s message is from Bob who was a prodigal who returned home and was remarried to me for an additional 23 years before the Lord took him home to Heaven. Bob wrote 19 books from the prodigal’s perspective for more than two decades after our divorce and remarriage. - Charlyne
We often receive a letter or email stating, “I can’t stand any longer because someone told me the Bible says ….” When asked what scripture this Someone cited as the reason, either the stander does not know, or they are totally mis-interpreting a verse they have neither read nor cross referenced.
I tell you, this Someone really gets around. They seem to be mis-informing standers all around the world. If we could send Someone off to Bible college, perhaps they could come back home actually knowing the Bible and giving standers the hope and support they need, not undermining their stand, citing the Bible for what is not even there.
In the cover of one of my Bibles is a handwritten note, “If you don’t stand for something you will fall for everything.” Sadly, that is where many standers are when they cross paths with this Someone.
Please understand, Charlyne and I are not wanting you to get into a heated debate with people who challenge your stand, waiting and praying for a marriage healed God’s way. We know that it is important for you to know not what Bob and Charlyne say, but to know what God says in His Holy Word, the Bible.
As an aside, there are two distinguishing traits of every audio teaching my wife has done over the past many years. She has done hundreds of these, and every one is filled with scripture. She is teaching people how to discover their own answers in the Bible. It will be so much more life-impacting when the lights come on for you over a specific issue or concern, rather than you taking at face value what Charlyne (or Someone) has said, working in their own power.
The second trait of Charlyne’s audio teachings is that each stands alone. I peeked at our automated inventory and saw that we have over 6,000 tapes and 2,000 CDs on hand. If a person who had never heard of marriage restoration God’s way were to listen to any one of those items, they would hear what God can do for a fractured family. By the way, this is not intended to sell tapes and CD’s. You can listen to Stop Divorce Radio broadcasting teachings 24/7 free.
Do you realize that Someone has been around since the first century, often attempting to persuade God’s people to go a different way?
While Jesus was still speaking, someone came from the house of Jairus, the synagogue ruler. “Your daughter is dead,” he said. “Don’t bother the teacher anymore.” Luke 8:49
Someone in the crowd said to him, “Teacher, tell my brother to divide the inheritance with me.” Luke 12:3
A little later someone else saw him and said, “You also are one of them.” “Man, I am not!” Peter replied. Luke 22:28
“‘Look, you scoffers, wonder and perish, for I am going to do something in your days that you would never believe, even if someone told you.’” Acts 13:41
The bottom line is a personal question: Are you going to listen to Someone or listen to the Holy Spirit of God?
A new two story home is being constructed next to us. Today they are preparing to plaster the exterior. I never knew so much was involved. First, all the construction debris was removed. Then the sand adjacent to the home was leveled, and then compacted. Scaffolding was brought in and assembled. Steel pins were hammered into place to keep the scaffolding secure. Finally they are ready to actually plaster.
Can you see how that compares to building a restored home where you live? First, you had to remove the debris of sin, both hidden and seen, that was in the way. Jesus warns us about building on sand.
“The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.” Matthew 7:25-27
The area surrounding your restored home under construction needs to be leveled. Any unforgiveness, bitterness or hatred needs to be bulldozed and replaced with the solid soil of unconditional love.
The role that Charlyne and I have in restoration of your marriage is nothing more than the people delivering the scaffolding. That is done every day. It is up to you to choose to put up that scaffolding so the plaster of prayer can be applied to every area of your marriage.
About the time when you are plastering prayer fervently, is when Someone will come along and attempt to pull the pins from your scaffolding of standing. Whether or not your stand and your home rebuilding project collapses, will depend on how well you have secured the pins of biblical truth that are holding together your standing scaffolding.
The home next to us is being built by the contractor who will live there. Since this will be his home, everything is being done in the most solid way. In the years ahead, and once completed, that home will undoubtedly survive many a storm. My wife and I want to see your home rebuilt in solid, biblical ways, so your family is protected against the storms of the future.
Imagine what would happen if Someone went over to that builder and offered an opinion on his work. It would make no difference what Someone said, because that man knows what he is doing.
Right now we have a dirty and noisy construction project next door. After a while, these days will be forgotten and we will have a beautiful home next door. If you stand firm, after a while the dirty and noisy days of family strife will be history, as you and your restored family serve the Lord God you are getting to know so well these days.
Each time some sidewalk superintendent attempts to pull the pins out of the scaffolding of standing surrounding your restored home under construction, may you politely thank them for their opinion, but continue to rest in the truths of God’s Word. Your responsibility is to learn those truths so that you can stand firm against any attack the enemy sends your way.
Long before ground was broken next door, someone had a dream. That dream became plans, and after time, those plans are becoming a home. Where are you? Is your vision of a restored marriage still only a dream, or has it, with God’s help, become a plan? If you are living through that process, may you never let Someone tell you anything different than what God has shown you.
When Someone attempts to change your plans, they must be able to take God’s Word and show you the biblical basis for what they are saying. Beyond that, you have a responsibility to do a diligent Bible study to see if the changes are true to Holy Scripture. Cross reference verses and read what comes before and after the scripture being quoted. In what context was it written? Above all else, what is God speaking to your heart about His plans.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.” Jeremiah 29:11-12
May you and I always listen to and follow The Only One, not Someone. That Someone just may be wrong, but the Lord is never wrong.
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