Why Did My Marriage Fall Apart?

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4

I am blessed every day to pray for standers, but to also be able to hear the many different stories of how the Lord is turning around impossible circumstances. I am blessed to hear testimonies of how the Lord has brought standers to accepting Jesus Christ as Savior. I can see the Lord in healing marriages, but first He needed a husband or wife to become a believer in Jesus Christ.

"God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him." John 3:16-17

Why are you having marriage problems? Let me share another testimony where a stander wrote that she and her husband had never gone to church during their married lives as they were always busy doing other things. This stander shared how she had just started praying and seeking the Lord before her husband told her that he was leaving. Of course, this stander started seeking the Lord immediately after her husband left. We hear from many standers saying that their salvations happen after the crisis in their marriages. Wow! God is already moving mightily in their lives by them coming to know Jesus Christ personally.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28

I sought the LORD, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears. Psalm 34:4

Why are you having marriage problems? There may be many different reasons, but one main reason is for you to come to know your Lord God like never before. Are you there yet?

My Lord gave me a very special scripture after our divorce. It is in Genesis, from the story of Joseph who had been rejected, abandoned and sold into slavery by his brothers. But God rescued, saved and changed Joseph’s life completely. God had a much bigger plan and purpose for Joseph’s life and he dreamed about it when he was a child.

Then Joseph said to his brothers, "Come close to me." When they had done so, he said, "I am your brother Joseph, the one you sold into Egypt! And now, do not be distressed and do not be angry with yourselves for selling me here, because it was to save lives that God sent me ahead of you. For two years now there has been famine in the land, and for the next five years there will not be plowing and reaping. But God sent me ahead of you to preserve for you a remnant on earth and to save your lives by a great deliverance. "So then, it was not you who sent me here, but God. He made me father to Pharaoh, lord of his entire household and ruler of all Egypt." Genesis 45:4-8

God has a purpose and plan for you, your spouse and your family. God is wanting to rescue you from the world’s ways. God sent His only Son down to the earth to die for all sinners for them to have eternal life. Do you think you know why your marriage problems have happened? Have you deepened your walk with your Lord Jesus Christ?

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart." Jeremiah 29:11-13

First, God wants you to know Him personally and intimately. God is a jealous God. How well do you know God, or Jesus Christ, or the Holy Spirit? I thought I knew my Lord personally as I was a Christian. But when the enemy came into our home looking for someone to devour, Bob and I were not prepared nor did we know how to fight the spiritual battle that we were in.

Why did our marriage problems happen? I believe that God had a divine perfect plan for Bob and I to minister to hurting people who were having marriage problems. I know I would not have had the compassion or understanding if I personally had not gone through our marriage problems or our divorce. I know now what pain and suffering are like when going through divorce, or health issues or having a Mom or Dad, brother, grandchild or husband die. I have empathy now, as I have walked through these deep waters of circumstances. You, also, now can have understanding and compassion for others who have marriage problems. You can now direct them to your Lord Jesus who is the answer for all problems.

This poor man called, and the LORD heard him; he saved him out of all his troubles. Psalm 34:6

My own testimony has expanded recently as you know. I can tell you of God’s amazing grace and mercy every day that I took care of Bob when he was sick at home. I have found my Lord to meet me right where I was when I did not think I could go through the sorrow and pain without Bob the first week after his death. I can tell you I know again how your heart hurts so bad, but I also can tell you that my Maker is my husband for life and He has touched me with such amazing peace that I feel like I am in a cocoon. My testimony is only growing so that I can continue to share with others how I believe in physical healing as Bob had for over sixteen years and that the Lord is truly the Comforter when your heart is broken in two in losing your husband or wife in death or in divorce.

You and I need to share to others the love, the faithfulness and the power of our Lord Jesus Christ. If we do not have a testimony of triumph and victory in our trials, then we will never be able to share the power of our Lord God. God is all you and I need when we are in a crisis or having impossible circumstances due to a marriage that is crumbling in pieces. He will meet your every need, if you cry out to Him. Will you surrender your all to Him right now?

I talk to my Maker, my husband, all day long asking Him questions that I would normally go into Bob’s office and ask, but now I ask my Lord. Yes, I am walking in faith. That is what I want you to do! Never give up on your beloved spouse and stand in the gap praying and believing in the mighty power of our awesome mighty God to bring your husband or wife home. God wants to teach you the power in the Word of God, the power in prayer and the power in your daily relationship with Him.

Are you learning? I hope so. I can truly say it was a blessing from God when He allowed me hit bottom after my marriage was destroyed by the enemy, but to find my Lord Jesus as I know Him now! I hate divorce even more now because of how the enemy destroys families. I praise the Lord for my children and grandchildren. I only want to be obedient to the Lord’s will and way, following my Lord every day. Will you join me? Join me in stopping divorce starting with you in your church and your city.

…But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead. He has delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us. On him we have set our hope that he will continue to deliver us. 2 Corinthians 1:9-10

Be Blessed,
Charlyne Steinkamp
Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc.
Post Office Box 10548
Pompano Beach, FL 33061 USA  (Ministry web site)  (Bookstore)  (24/7 Radio)  (Support)

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