Answers to some of your most often asked questions

Charlyne responds:
Ask your Lord to remove the pain that you are going through right now. He knows all that you are facing and all your circumstances. Your Lord is the only one that can help you twenty-four hours a day. If you can do nothing else, call on the name of "Jesus." He will hold you in His arms.

I never knew my Lord as my refuge and protector until I became desperate and had to cry out to Him and see if He was really real. May I suggest you just start reading the Psalms and let them comfort you. Read Psalms 20, 23, and 91.

Yes, you are going to hurt because you have been wounded and rejected by the one you love. Allow your Lord to become your spouse for this season. Ask your Lord to heal your wounded and broken heart.

"...He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted...to comfort all who mourn and
provide for those who grieve in Zion--to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of
ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a
spirit of despair." Isaiah 61:1b-3

I can remember the pain, but it is a scar that is now healed. Trust and seek your Lord for His hope and plan for you each day. Today, your Lord wants you to seek Him first for all your answers.

Now I have the privilege and honor to share God's love for you in this crisis in your life. God will heal your hurting and dead marriages. God will heal your wounded heart. Allow God to help you right now. Seek His face. He will never fail you. Read Psalm 55 and Isaiah 54:4-17.

These answers have developed in response to questions we have received over many years. May you consult the answers with an open Bible and an open heart, thus allowing God's Holy Spirit to help you find the truth.

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Kim responds:
The first thing to recognize is that the other person is not the enemy. They are a child of God and He loves them just as He loves you and the one you pray for. They, too, may be hurting and searching for that one thing that will make them whole again. They have been blinded and deceived by the great imposter into believing that your spouse is the answer to that hole in their heart.

One scripture from the Bible that always helped me was Proverbs 5:6 - "She gives no thought to the way of life; her paths are crooked, but she knows it not." That other person is not aware that they have been taken captive by the enemy to do his will. They don't know that God has a plan for their lives - a plan that includes only His best. We can pray for God's best for this other person, knowing full well that His best does not include our spouse.

The best way to get rid of our enemies is to leave them to the Lord. He is our vindicator; He is our help. Lay your marriage, your family, your spouse and anyone else in their lives at the foot of the cross. God will take this burden, too.

These answers have developed in response to questions we have received over many years. May you consult the answers with an open Bible and an open heart, thus allowing God's Holy Spirit to help you find the truth.

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Charlyne responds:
We have no "program." Marriage restoration is done by God, not by people. Turn to Him, not to people, for your solutions.

These answers have developed in response to questions we have received over many years. May you consult the answers with an open Bible and an open heart, thus allowing God's Holy Spirit to help you find the truth.

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Kim responds:
It IS difficult to stand on God's Word when there are those who tell us to "get on with our lives." It is even more difficult when the one saying it is our one-flesh partner. But His Word is clear - "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." Genesis 2:24

Sometimes the enemy has our spouse so blinded and deceived that they actually think they are doing us a favor by telling us to move on. But we must listen to what God tells us - not what anyone else says. Listen to the words God speaks to your heart and hold fast to His promises. His Word is truth, no matter what anyone else says.

These answers have developed in response to questions we have received over many years. May you consult the answers with an open Bible and an open heart, thus allowing God's Holy Spirit to help you find the truth.

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Charlyne responds:
Strive to speak in God's amazing unconditional love regardless of what your spouse is doing because they are blinded and deceived. Seek the Lord for His guidance and protection in the court room. Allow the Lord to be your Advocate in the darkest hours of your life. The Lord said in Matthew 10:20: "For it will not be you speaking, but the Spirit of your Father speaking through you." We wrote a book, "Your Father Knows Best" which has many encouraging testimonies of what our Lord has done for many differrent standers. In our book, we have about ten pages of scriptures that you can claim when you are facing legal issues. "Plead my cause, O Lord, with them that strive with me; fight against them that fight against me." Psalm 35:1



These answers have developed in response to questions we have received over many years. May you consult the answers with an open Bible and an open heart, thus allowing God's Holy Spirit to help you find the truth.

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Charlyne responds:
Know who you are in Christ. No weapon forged against you will prosper. Stand on the Word of God and then I would read the Psalms. God will give you faith, hope and trust in your Lord God.

These answers have developed in response to questions we have received over many years. May you consult the answers with an open Bible and an open heart, thus allowing God's Holy Spirit to help you find the truth.

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Charlyne responds:
No, you should not file for divorce as God hates divorce. Your spouse is wanting you to do it, so he will not have more guilt and shame. Listen to the Lord only for His guidance. I Corinthians 7:10-11

These answers have developed in response to questions we have received over many years. May you consult the answers with an open Bible and an open heart, thus allowing God's Holy Spirit to help you find the truth.

To order Books and Tapes go to:
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We want to share the reply that Carole, one of our volunteers provided to a fellow stander:

When things become fast and furious at the Rejoice Ministries office, I help by answering e-mails. I am a stander. I have been standing for about a year and a half. I was married for 25 years before my husband left me for another woman. You write in your e-mail that "your husband doesn't love you anymore and doesn't want to." The destroyer who speaks through your husband on these occasions is the one who doesn't love you and who never will. As a matter of fact, if you allow him to, he won't stop with your husband but will sweep through the whole family. My husband is my "one-flesh" mate, even though he is living in adultery with another woman. I don't think God looks upon it as my privilege to pray for him, but rather my responsibility. You say that praying all those prayers and reading all those scriptures does nothing to change his will. This is not true. Charlyne can testify to the fact that prayer and the Word can change someone. I have a friend with whom I correspond who stood for her marriage after her husband coldly and formally announced to her that he didn't love her anymore and never would again. Today my friend enjoys the FRUITS of a God-centered, God-healed marriage that is a blessing to all around her. Her husband has said many times to her, "Thank you, thank you for standing for me." He is now a born-again to the bone Christian whereas before he was a so-so one.
It happens. God is no respecter of persons. What he has done for Charlyne and my friend, he will do for you and me...but it takes faith. The kind of faith that looks at the circumstances and says, "So what, what does it matter what he says or thinks?" Your husband has been taken captive by Satan to do his will. You have the choice of believing what comes out of your husband's mouth or what the Word of God says. My God tells me that with Him NOTHING is impossible (doesn't make any exceptions there about your hubby's 'will'). Let that piece of Scripture sink into the marrow of your bones. "With God ALL, ALL, ALL things are possible." He tells us to ask whatsoever we will, believing, and it shall be done for us. Do you notice any clauses in your Bible that prohibit God from acting? I don't. He tells us in Isaiah--"I work and who can hinder it?" Your husband? My husband? I think not.

These answers have developed in response to questions we have received over many years. May you consult the answers with an open Bible and an open heart, thus allowing God's Holy Spirit to help you find the truth.

To order Books and Tapes go to:
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Kim responds:
It is sometimes difficult to know what is of us and what is of God but at some point we just have to trust. Sometimes the circumstances we face and our own emotions and feelings get the better of us and we hear what God is telling us - we just don't want to listen. We let the things of this world and our emotions at the present time dictate our actions. There are many of us who followed our hearts and not our God and now find ourselves where we don't want to be.

The best way to dispel doubt and confusion is to pray - and pray and pray and pray. Even when God's answer is not as clear as we would like, we'll know when we are on the right path because we will have a peace about it - a peace that can only come from our Savior.

"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6-7

These answers have developed in response to questions we have received over many years. May you consult the answers with an open Bible and an open heart, thus allowing God's Holy Spirit to help you find the truth.

To order Books and Tapes go to:
http://www.stopdivorce.org

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Kim responds:
There's a scripture card on my desk right now - "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." This message is for you, too.

It may seem like you are buried in the rubble of debris - fallout from broken promises and enemy attacks. But there is One who can help you see your way out of this mess. His name is Jesus.

He has promised that if we call on Him, He will help us. He has promised that if we seek His face, He will bless us. He has promised that He will be with us, always.

"When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze." Isaiah 43:2

Your circumstances are, indeed, difficult and the situation may seem impossible. But we serve the God of the impossible. If you can just keep walking and believing and trusting, you will find your way out of the rubble. It is not an easy path we have chosen but it is one we have been called to walk. God promises that we will not walk it alone. So reach out for His hand today and let Him show you the way out.

These answers have developed in response to questions we have received over many years. May you consult the answers with an open Bible and an open heart, thus allowing God's Holy Spirit to help you find the truth.

To order Books and Tapes go to:
http://www.stopdivorce.org

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