Below you will find a sampling of testimonies from standers and prodigals that will encourage you in how God is moving in their lives.
Each Saturday in Charlyne Cares we publish testimonies from people around the world. You can subscribe to Charlyne Cares by visiting charlyne.org. You can submit your own testimony by visiting our testimony submission page!
"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," declares the LORD. "As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts." Isaiah 55:8-9
"I have been asking the Lord to help my husband to get away from
his sin. Then this week we talked and my husband asked if he
could come see our daughter. Next week he will be seeing her."
"I want to praise The Lord. My prodigal filed for divorce from
the non-covenant." (Georgia)
"The death he died, he died to sin once for all; but the life
he lives, he lives to God. In the same way, count yourselves
dead to sin but alive to God in Christ Jesus. Therefore do not
let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its evil
desires." Romans 6:10-12
And we rejoice in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us. Romans 5:2b-5
"I was in the used Christian bookstore yesterday. While browsing
through the books, I noticed an older Bible commentary so I
opened it and it opened straight to the commentary on Malachi 2:
14-16 about covenant. I opened the second book and it opened up
to the commentary on restoration in Ezekiel 36. Verses 22 to 36
gave me a great vision of our marriage restoration. I saw a
third book, a daily devotional. It opened to our anniversary.
Only God. Needless to say, I purchased the books." (Washington)
"I was sad because I was going to have to sell my engagement and
wedding rings to pay for my part of the divorce. I asked the
Lord if there was any other way to pay this without selling my
rings. Two days later my prodigal called to say we received a
tax return, which we were ordered to split. It even paid the
remaining balance of my lawyer's bill. Praise God. What
provision and a sign from Heaven to keep standing. Though it
looks grim I have no doubt from God that my prodigal is coming
“It has been several years since my covenant wife left. I thought she was the main problem and I would wait for her to come to her senses. I divorced her several years later. I wasn’t regularly committed to Rejoice Ministries or other standers and re-married. About one year later, I told her (non-covenant wife) that I believed God was going to restore my marriage to my first wife. I am waiting for the court to grant the divorce. John 14:23, ‘Jesus answered and said unto him, If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him. If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done unto you.’ God will change the circumstances. He has more power than any circumstance! The devil will try to speak to us; he is a liar. We have authority over the devil. Charlyne tells us to daily speak the full armor over us (audibly). Believe God and His Word, and stay connected to Rejoice Ministries and standers.” (Tennessee)
"He brought me out into a spacious place; he rescued me because he delighted in me. The LORD has dealt with me according to my righteousness; according to the cleanness of my hands he has rewarded me. For I have kept the ways of the LORD; I have not done evil by turning from my God." Psalm 18:19-21
"Last Monday the divorce dismissal was signed. My husband, though still out of our home, spent most of the weekend with us. He came to church with us on Sunday and the church body welcomed him back. Next week will be three years that my husband has been gone, but I never gave up the hope of Jeremiah 32:27 for our marriage; 'Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh; Is there anything too hard for Me?' God continues to work His miracles." (California)
“Glory to His name. Jeremiah 33:3. Last week I cried out to the Lord in prayer because I realized that I have been wavering in my faith since my stand began. I realized that my lack of faith was because I had never heard from God about His will for my marriage specifically. I cried out to God and asked Him to confirm for me His will for me and my beloved asCharlyne Cares had said to do. A few days after I committed to praying for this daily, I called my husband's aunt, who lives in another city from me, to see if she had heard from him or if she knew how he was doing. To my surprise she laughed and said she was about to call me as she left church to tell me she was led by God to stand in proxy for me at that evening's service. The service was recorded so she played if for me over the phone. The minister prayed and prophesied about my marriage and confirmed that God ordained my marriage, expects me to obey Him and stand as long as it takes, and that He will bless my obedience.” (Georgia) Join the many standers and prayer warriors who pray for all the court dates on our Court page praying that they will be canceled. “Tomorrow we were supposed to have the mediation session that would finalize our divorce. After going back and forth, my husband finally decided to cancel it. I have posted every court or mediation date on The Courtroom page and every date has been either continued or cancelled. Today my attorney told me she has been an attorney for 25 years and this is the strangest case she has ever had. It isn't strange - it's lots of prayer and GOD!” (Indiana)
"My anniversary was last month and not a word was said by my husband. Christmas and New Years was basically the same way, so when I woke up yesterday morning, I thought to myself, "Lord please don't let this be the same. At least let him say 'Happy Mother's Day.' (Husband) got out of bed and dressed before I did. He jumped in his truck without saying where he was going and came home about an hour later with perfume, body powder and a card. Thank You Jesus. The Lord has been working on my husband. I can see him trying to fight the feeling from the Holy Spirit. I give all the glory to God for even the little things, but Lord how much it means to me now." (Indiana)
"My prodigal returned this past October and we're as happy as
when we first married. The biggest change has been the practice
of zipping my lips." (Georgia)
This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us—whatever we ask—we know that we have what we asked of him. 1 John 5:14-15
“I have been praying for boldness to be a clear witness for Christ to my family and others. Praise the LORD, I am now in a running conversation with my father-in-law. May God continue to open his understanding and draw him close, that God's Name will be glorified!” (Virginia)
“Praise God! My husband spent Thanksgiving with us and it was such a blessed time, our best Thanksgiving ever! He also came over and we decorated our tree together and he is going to spend Christmas with us. God is great and so awesome and so faithful. Keep praying, seeking, and pressing into God. He is not a man, He does not lie He fulfills His promises to His people, take heart, have faith and believe.” (Ohio)
“My husband called me to say Happy Birthday! During his call he said when his lease is up on his apartment we are going to get back together. He has six months left on his lease. I am believing God that my husband will see our togetherness as more important than a lease and come back even sooner. He told me he loved me and he shared why he left. I've never been big on celebrating my birthday but just the conversation we had this morning is the best gift I could hope to receive. I know that he's coming home! Lord, multiply the time in the natural and let it be so; let it be sooner than even he believes! Stand with me as I continue to stand and pray for all other standers. One can chase a thousand and two - ten thousand! We serve a God of multiplication! I believe it is so for me as well as for you! Don't give up standers, God is moving in the heart of your beloved! We will reap if we faint not!” (Virginia)
"Yesterday I was astonished when my husband told me my hair
looked nice, when for years he has only said unkind words to me.
I thank God. I have asked for love like His for my husband."
“I would just like to thank you for your ministry. It was one year ago today my marriage problems began. Two days after that I found your web site in an online search for help. Although I am grounded in my church, had it not been for your ministry, I do not think I would be standing on my two feet today. One year later I am still willing to accept my husband back when he returns. Thank you for your direction in praying. I have learned a lot this year. I read your devotionals daily and listen to your Stop Divorce Radioall day at work and leave it on while I sleep. The 24-hour support helps tremendously. God Bless your ministry. Merry Christmas.” (California)
"A nugget was given to me by my friend. She said to take each sign God gives me for my marriage restoration and think of it as a kernel of corn. All the kernels will one day make up the whole ear of corn (restoration). She also said "What is a kernel of corn? A SEED!" Each sign God gives me is a seed which produces another stalk. Each stalk produces two to three more ears of corn. This was my friend's way of telling me God will never give up on my spouse and for me to put all my trust in Him. The Lord will continue His work on my prodigal and for me to watch for the signs(my kernels of corn)" (Texas)
“I just want to praise God for restoring my relationship with my father in-law after nine years! He and my husband are still estranged but God is working on that situation as well. My father in-law has invited me and my son to spend a week with him during the Christmas holidays and we have accepted! He also shared with me that he gave his life to the Lord three years ago and now prays for my husband every day. He also shared that he will be praying for us to have a restored marriage and the addictions in my husband's life will be broken. I just praise God for bringing me and my father in-law back together and restoring the close relationship we once had. It was nothing short of a miracle. Thank You Lord Jesus! I know you will restore our marriage in Your time.” (Alabama)
"I received a surprise phone call and visit last week from my
husband who lives in another state hours away. He wants to work
things out. His comment was he couldn't understand how I acted
as though nothing had happened and I had let my hair grow and
gained a little weight just for him. It is time to wait longer
so that God can get the glory for our restored marriage, which He
has confirmed to me." (Mississippi)
"I often remind myself what it means to stand through this acrostic that I developed: S - Staying. T - true. A - amid. N - nagging. D - doubt. Be encouraged!” (Jamaica)
“Praise God! My husband and I have been separated for many months and he has returned this week. God is restoring our marriage. Thank You Jesus and thank you Charlyne for your ministry.” (Texas)
“Praise Father, Son and Holy Spirit for RMM and this testimony page! I know I'm ‘preaching to the choir’ but these testimonies give me so much encouragement and hope in the midst of the storm. Thank you for sharing as God restores my heart and is working on my wife as well.” (Virginia)
"My husband came home. Prior to his coming home, there was a
peaceful encounter between my husband, the other woman and me.
My husband informed the other woman that he did not love her as
he still loved me. He apologized to both of us for this
mess. Since his return, he has rededicated his life to God and
has attended a men's fellowship and plans to continue. He is
asking God to give him the strength to pray and read his Bible
more because God has spared his life. If I have learned
anything, I have learned that God is faithful and He is a
"This is what the LORD says: "Restrain your voice from weeping
and your eyes from tears, for your work will be rewarded,"
declares the LORD. "They will return from the land of the
enemy. So there is hope for your future," declares the
LORD. "Your children will return to their own land."
“I just wanted to give God all the praise and glory! I started standing many years ago after I was saved. These years have been the most difficult financially and emotionally. However, I praise God for this journey because I found Him. My husband is not home yet and I pray that he comes home to Jesus first then to us. Don't give up! God is with us!” (Pennsylvania)
“Our God is truly a good God, to Him be the glory. I just finished reading the very encouraging Saturday Testimonies and am led to share that, although I see nothing in the natural, I continue to stand on God's promise of restoration. As stated at the Dallas conference and once again confirmed by all the miraculous testimonies, I'm not crazy. God is in the business of restoration, not only of our marriages but, more importantly, of us to Him! Never give up, God will do this!” (Oklahoma)
“The enemy of my soul is trying to tell me not to post this testimony because every time I do, something bad happens but he is a liar. This past weekend was amazing! My husband came to town to visit our son and to attend our son's Kindergarten graduation. He stayed at the house, we watched movies, and on Sunday my son asked him to attend church with us. First he said no but the Lord changed his mind and HE DID! My son got baptized and his dad was there to witness it. I am praising the Lord for this! I am praying to God to break any other relationship and restore my husband back to our family. I know, I believe, He is able. All honor and praise is to Him!” (North Carolina)
“My prodigal wife came back after four months. Praise the Lord. We talked through our issues that we had before and realized that with God it is so possible not to just correct our relationship, but also to be abundantly blessed as a family if we step up in faith to God and ask Him to help us. We are back on the right track and God is the only One who made it happen. He will perform miracles for those who love Him and believe in His greatness. Thank You Jesus.” (Vermont)
“I understand that God had to part my husband and I for the love of us; to break us and then rebuild us according to His will and divine plan. God knows in my heart I want ‘our’ covenant marriage to be restored. Formerly my thought process was this marriage consists of my husband and me. Now I firmly know it must be God, my husband and me - a cord of three strands. I had not been consistent in making God my foundation in all areas of my life. Today there is a strong inner peace and understanding that God needs to work on my husband and on me individually before our marriage can be restored. I have gained deeper awareness that my role is not only to be a godly wife but to stand in the gap and pray for my husband’s salvation. In God’s time the greater good of His plans will be clearer. I am choosing to seek God in everything, entrust Him with my life and believe He will restore at His right time.” (United Kingdom)
"Two years ago my prodigal husband came home after months of separation. I give God all the credit for that happy day. I also thank Bob and Charlyne for being messengers of the Word. Everyday I think about how God moved in my life and our marriage. God restores, and it is better than you could imagine. I'll never regret the decision to stand for our marriage. Out of the pain, I gained a stronger relationship with my husband and God." (Virginia)
"It has been one year since the restoration of our marriage and I
thank God for the victory. Our marriage is better than it was
before. We both have a deep appreciation for each other and do
not take each other for granted like we used to. Don't give up.
God is faithful to do what He said He would do." (Michigan)
"The Friday before Father's Day my husband made the first step in coming home to our family. By Labor Day weekend we were all under one roof. Two weekends after that we were baptized as a family. Thiscoming Saturday we will be renewing our vows. Our faithful Father hasanswered my prayers down to every detail." (California)
"Weekends are usually difficult for me, being alone, but this
weekend, I have been so blessed. My spouse went to my parents'
house and out to eat with them. This is the answer to a prayer.
I also received Bob's new book and reading it is so encouraging.
It is amazing to see how God answers small prayers. This is the
day (weekend) the Lord has made. I will rejoice and be glad in
“My father never left the family, but he was absent both emotionally and spiritually. The burden of caring for me and the household fell squarely on my mom's shoulders. At the time, I never understood why she stayed with my dad; why she put up with everything, put up with being hurt over and over. Now, while standing for my own marriage, I understand. My mother was very active in church and I was raised in a Christian household despite what my dad was doing. I have always valued the Christian example she set for me. But, it wasn't until I began my stand that I truly appreciated the godly example she set when I was younger regarding marriage and staying in your marriage no matter what. Due to this, we now have the closest relationship we've ever had. I praise God for using what was meant for evil to strengthen the relationship between me and my mom. He truly does make ALL things new.” (North Carolina)
"I was served with divorce papers the day after Christmas. The final hearing was two days after Easter. One week later my husband decided it was wrong what he was doing and wanted to return to his family. My marriage is now restored and we are working towards building a better life with God's grace." (Florida)
"Our Lord has provided for me, upheld me and blessed me
immeasurably more than I could have asked or imagined. I give
God all the glory for what He has done and is continuing to do.
Thank You, Lord." (United Kingdom)
“I received a call from my husband. He left the OW and drove all night. He is now home and yesterday spent time catching up on some sleep. I am so blessed and happy. My husband says he understands now, he loves me and has taken steps to stop contact with everyone who interfered before. He has cut all ties to the other woman, a step that has never happened before in previous attempts. He is happy and no longer has the dead look in his eyes. Thank you God for everything.” (Nevada)
"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways
my ways," declares the LORD. "As the heavens are higher than
the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts
than your thoughts." Isaiah 55:8-9
Barren For 10 Years!
Eight days after our 10th wedding anniversary, my husband asked for a divorce. I was devastated, but it took this to utterly break me before God. That night, I didn’t go to sleep, but the Lord led me to scripture after scripture. I finally fell to my knees before my own sin. I couldn’t look away, blame, or give excuse for all the selfishness, pride, disrespect, disobedience, and rebellion that I had lived in for all 10 years of our marriage. Instead of feeling anger or betrayal toward my husband, I saw exactly the unlovable person I had been asking him to love all these years and I understood. The Lord changed me that night. I didn’t become a different person overnight, but each day God would strip away another layer. Immediately, He led me to a group of women who were standing for their marriages! They led me to Rejoice Marriage Ministries where I learned that I was a “stander,” and my husband was a “prodigal” (Luke 15). I loved that! It was so apt.
I believed my husband when he said there wasn’t another woman, but the Lord was preparing me for a different story. After a month of standing, the Lord was asking me if I would stand, even in infidelity. See, God knew the hardness of my heart. If I had initially known my husband had found someone else, I would have never been broken. I would have raged against my husband and would have felt justified as I took everything he had. But then, I would have never stood in the gap for my husband’s soul. Now, I know that everyone around me knew about the other woman, but they wouldn’t tell me. That was God. It took His work in me and gentle nudges to show me what His marriage covenant really means. As you know, the covenant made before God has no stipulations. I did not vow to love until my husband cheated. I did not accept a ring only until my husband’s love disappeared. I vowed until death, and God was holding me to that vow. It didn’t matter that it was the worst day of my life when my husband finally told me about the other woman. The next day wasn’t much better. I helped my husband move out, believing that God would bring him back. All of this, my husband knew, but he wouldn’t “come to his senses” for a while yet.
I was commanded by God to do four things:
1. To Stand: When I was so overwhelmed with how determined my husband was in pursuing this divorce, I told God that I didn’t want to fight this battle and I didn’t want to have to try and find a Christian lawyer to defend my stand. God spoke 2 Chronicles 20 to me and let me know quickly that I wouldn’t have to find a lawyer, nor would I have to fight this battle. It was HIS battle, and He was going to win it for me!
2. To Wait: I thought this meant that I would have to wait for my husband to come home, but God said I was to wait on Him and the work He was going to do in our lives.
3. To Be Silent: Whew! If you only knew me, you’d know how nearly impossible this is! But God was working and nothing is impossible for Him (Luke 1:37). I tried so many times to reason with my husband and point out what God was showing me, but it wasn’t my place and it only hardened my husband’s heart toward me. Through this, God showed me that I am nobody’s Holy Spirit. I can’t convict, and I can’t change a person’s mind. That is God’s job, but He showed me that what He does lasts forever, so I’m glad I can’t change anyone…it wouldn’t last. God told me that no man could change my husband. He was the only one who could change my husband and I needed to let Him work!
4. To Be Still: This was the hardest command. As my husband progressed in the Far Country, I saw the state of his soul. I couldn’t believe a born-again believer could believe the lies Satan was telling him. Satan takes the Word of God and twists it to fit what the flesh wants, which Charlyne taught me only leads to doing the will of Satan (2 Timothy 2:26). My husband was trying to find biblical justification for all of his actions and what his flesh wanted. Obviously, he couldn’t but he gave it his best effort. Needless to say, and he finally admitted it after he came home, he was miserable out in the Far Country, even though he told me then how “peaceful” he was! (Standers don’t believe anything your prodigal says!) There were many days I would lie on the floor in our home begging God to release me from this stand. I didn’t want my husband anymore after seeing where Satan had taken him. I didn’t want a man who would cheat on me. I didn’t want any of this! But God would let me rant and rave, then remind me of all the promises He’d given me and remind me that this path, though excruciating, was His best for me. Daily, I had to surrender my will to Him, believing He knows what is best.
My husband works offshore. He sent me an email saying he was coming home in a few weeks when he came back in town. He told me he believed God had finally answered him. He sent an email to the other woman ending their relationship. I was amazed! The Holy Spirit told me to rejoice. Ah, but Satan wasn’t done yet! A few days later, I discovered that my husband was still talking to the other woman and was beginning to doubt coming home. As the days drew closer, my husband was determined that he wasn’t coming home and told me he may never come back. I was prepared for false starts thanks to your ministry, but the Lord reminded me that He had told me to rejoice. So instead of me telling everyone that my husband wasn’t coming home after all, I would say, “He says he’s not coming home…” Our God has a bigger plan, and thankfully, He’s greater than man (Job 33:12).
I invited my husband to our house for dinner the night he came in from offshore. Although he resisted, he finally agreed to come. I had a vision to run to him when he came home, just as the father did for the prodigal. When my husband pulled in, he parked in the back of our yard. I ran across our yard in my bare feet smiling the whole way. When I got to him, I jumped into his arms and bear hugged him. He was laughing and smiling. He now says that when he saw me do that he knew he wouldn’t be able to leave! That night he kept trying to leave, but God wouldn’t let him. I told him that I understood if he couldn’t stay…I knew God would bring him home! Finally, after watching him wrestle to the point of exhaustion, he started drifting off to sleep on the couch. I told him to come to bed, but he said he had to do something first. He went out to his truck where he left his cell phone and texted the other woman that he was staying home. Now I understand the struggle; she had told him that if he ever came back home, they were over. My husband told me that was the first night of sound sleep he had through all of this!
I have to admit, the restoration of our marriage has often been more difficult than the standing. God has reminded me that He is still working on the other side of that mountain, and He’s not done yet. I want to encourage other standers that God doesn’t work the way we think or expect. His ways are higher than our ways and our thoughts are not His thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9). The Lord has been revealing His truth in doses to my husband. I’m still learning to obey those four things God commanded me. Just because my husband is home and our marriage is better than it has ever been, it doesn’t change where we’ve been and who we are to become. I will forever be a stander for my husband and our marriage.
God gave me a lot of promises while my husband was in the far country and I look forward to God fulfilling every single one of them. The first promise He answered is the return of my husband. The second promise was recently confirmed. For 10 years I have been barren. We are pregnant with our first child! Standing and restoration have been hard, but I still believe my God is greater and He knows what’s best! “Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished!” Luke 1:45
“Yesterday my husband called inviting me and my daughter to his home. He asked if we could stay the night. We had a blessed time.” (Germany)
“PTL! God has restored my marriage after a year of standing. I felt like giving up but after praying and despite everything, I decided to stand for my husband. I prayed for his salvation and for the other relationship to end. The OW realized my husband needed to do the right thing. After a year God brought him back to us. We are in the process of looking for a house to move into together when his lease is up. Now, everyone knows when married couples are happy the devil tries to sneak in. Circumstances conspired to confuse my husband’s head and heart. But he said he is coming back to our family and will never leave me again. God is good!” (Georgia)
"I have been depressed and have not read Charlyne Cares lately. I felt the Lord is not answering my prayers. I prayed to the Lord to guide me and to remove the hate I have towards my husband and the other woman. I felt God speak to me and give me peace and told me to rest. Today’s Charlyne Cares (04-24-09) was confirmation of what I felt. My husband is not my enemy, he is blinded by the enemy." (California)
"My husband of a few months left me months ago. I was
devastated and doubted that such a brief, childless marriage
could ever be restored. After a false start, my husband decided
to divorce. I found this ministry online. I began to fast, pray
and wait for restoration. I attended the Monday night Bible
study (a blessing!). Last week, my husband asked me to attend
marital counseling and we were together in church on Sunday. I
continue to pray and fast because the battle is not over. When
things looked hopeless, God was working behind the scenes. I
relied on Ezekiel 36:26 and Proverbs 19:21 in my darkest hours."
"I needed to share medical information with my husband following
my recent surgery. He had come home to see me through it, but
had not been in touch since leaving. I started several times to
write a letter but it seemed like the Lord wasn't in it. Finally
I prayed that if God did not want me to write, my husband would
call from overseas. Not only did he call, but the Lord helped it
to be a good conversation." (Illinois)
“I was the prodigal when my husband and I separated. When I realized I had made a grave mistake, he no longer wanted to reconcile. By then, he had met another woman and was moving toward divorce. I began standing for my marriage for years. I committed to a prayer vigil each morning and every night before bed. In it, I thanked God for bringing my husband back. I prayed as if my prayers had already been answered. I was sustained in my faith through Charlyne Cares, despite continued advice from friends, family and church ministers to seek a speedy divorce. I refused to listen to the naysayers. I told everyone, ‘Thank you for your concern but my husband and I will be together again one day.’ That day has come! My husband and I are reunited and our marriage is stronger than ever. Stand firm all you Standers. Pray and believe without doubt. Even when our prayers are delayed, it is an opportunity to stand on God's Word in faith.” (Maryland)