"God is faithful. I am expecting our after-restoration baby.
Our marriage is better than before. Trust Him and He will answer
your prayers." (South Africa)
“Last week was my wedding anniversary. I was conversing via email with my Pastor about a couple of things he said in his message that day that were encouraging to me. In one of my emails, I made reference to ‘my uncelebrated, unacknowledged, meaningless wedding anniversary.’ But God! Then in my mailbox was an anniversary card! And it included the reminder that the greatest gift I can give my prodigal, my dear spouse, is the gift of waiting and being faithful to my wedding vows. Thank You, Lord and thank you RMM. Many blessings!” (Florida)
This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us—whatever we ask—we know that we have what we asked of him. 1 John 5:14-15
And we rejoice in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us. Romans 5:2b-5
"Thank You Jesus for providing for everything. I am not working
and God has used people to pay my bills, give me clothes and
provide my needs. Before my surgery I asked God to take away the
torment because my husband was not with me and that all would go
well with no pain. He answered. Someone took me to the
hospital, stayed with me, brought me home, provided money for
prescriptions and bought me groceries." (Texas)
“What an awesome God we serve. I just wanted to encourage someone that even when it's darkest God is still at work. I was reading someone's testimony about how they had to repent because of idolizing their stand. I asked God to reveal to me if I was doing the same. Realizing that my focus needed to be on Jesus and not my prodigal nor the circumstances, I got on my knees in repentance and, all glory to Jesus, soon after I heard a knock on the door. I was expecting our son from his basketball game. It turns out my prodigal not only showed up to watch his game but brought him back home after the game which he hasn't done since our separation. I believe this was God reminding me that even though the circumstances look bad, our awesome God is in control. All praise and honor to him. Stay encouraged standers. Weeping may endure for the night but joy comes in the morning. Praise our Lord!” (Indiana)
“Today I get baptized to the Lord. I so believe that He brought this storm to me to bring me to Him. I so believe that He is bringing me to Him first and then He will bring my husband to Him. The signs He gives me to let me know that He is working are very encouraging to me. I was kneeling down to pray and as I was turning to kneel, there was a vision of my husband kneeling beside me by our bed praying, already waiting for me. I think that was God telling me what is to come and to be ready, suddenly. I am so thankful to this ministry for giving me the words of encouragement to go on . Thank you.” (Missouri)
"We went to court this morning to finalize our divorce. I prayed
that God's will be done. When we went in, my husband was told
that he could not divorce me and our case had to be thrown out
until our daughter is born in a few months. Praise God He is
"My husband and I got a divorce. He has since remarried. He has come to see me and calls often, telling me why he did what he did. I told him that I still loved him and am praying for him to come back. I can't wait to see how God is going to make us one again." (Pennsylvania)
“There is hope, don't give up on your prodigal. Praise God, He has sent my husband home. We were angry and I was ready to file for divorce; there was no hope. By the grace of God, He sent a relative and a friend to convince me to pray for marriage restoration. I also found Rejoice Marriage Ministries that same week. My hardened heart took God in and soon I was praying for my prodigal husband's return to God and return to us. He returned suddenly! He repented and recommitted to our family. I am still praying for my husband to completely return to God, and for the other person to return to God as well.” (Pennsylvania)
"My husband and I are legally divorced. At Thanksgiving my husband and his mother did not include me in their family dinner. We even had an argument about time with our daughter. The week before Christmas my husband told me he knew we were still married in God's eyes. His mother invited me to dinner Christmas Eve and gave me a Bible with my name engraved on it. My husband gave me a nice gift with a cross on it. That night my husband's mother had a heart attack and as a result, my mom and my husband had the first peaceful conversation in months. I give praise to my God who hears my prayers and melts hearts." (State Removed)
“I want to share with my fellow standers a sign that our Lord gave me recently. I was on my way back from a business trip and stopped for a break in the cafe of a supermarket. Whilst there I noticed these words on the back of a sweatshirt being worn by a young man, ‘Pain is temporary. Victory is forever.’ Isn't that wonderful? A message for all us standers from our Lord Himself. The pain, hurt and turmoil of our stand for our marriage is but temporary. The victory of a restored marriage and a restored husband and wife is forever. It is for all eternity. Our spouse saved and back in their Father's arms and the everlasting testimony of a marriage restored by the persistence, determination and obedience of a faithful stander. Thank You, Father for that wonderful encouragement in the most unexpected place.” (United Kingdom)
“My husband left and filed for a divorce. We have had very little communication. A friend introduced me to RMM about a month ago. The information on this site has been so encouraging. I’ve prayed every day for healing and restoration of my marriage. Today as I prayed I asked God to give me a glimpse of what was happening on the other side of the mountain. My husband called and asked if he could he come by to pick up an item. When he got here we hugged and began to talk. I was able to tell him how much I loved him and the door was always open for him to come home. Glory be to God! God is faith! Never stop trusting Him.” (Florida)
“I just want to thank God for what He is doing in my life, molding me into the woman, wife, and mother that He has designed me to be. He is preparing me for the return of my husband and family. I see God moving mightily in my life and even in the life of my husband, softening his heart and my children’s hearts as well. We have a lot of healing to do but I trust God and His process. My prayer is that God will shut the mouths of the enemy and continue to move in my husband’s heart and mine too, for that matter. I pray for the all marriages that have hit a bump in the road. Nothing is impossible to our Abba Father. Amen.” (Georgia)
“My husband offered to housesit for me while the children and I went to see my parents. To make a long story short, my husband decided he was coming home and staying home and moved his things back. Praise God. He took care of everything, even when my husband kept insisting he would not be coming back, He brought him home, suddenly, unexpectedly. My husband’s response to me and others was, ‘Why would I want sausages when I can have steak at home?’ Amen.” (Australia)
“Praise the Lord! I am a prodigal turned stander. He brought me from a place of total brokenness to complete peace. It is only by His mercy and grace that I am able to find contentment and peace in my situation, believing and trusting in His promise that He will restore our marriage. Use this time to have a closer relationship with God and allow Him to work in you and change you to be the spouse He wants you to be. God is good all the time! Keep praying, believing and trusting! Let go and Let God. He has a plan for us. Jeremiah 29:11. In His perfect time, our suddenly will come! Nothing is impossible with Him! Amen! Thank You Lord! We praise You Lord!” (California)
“PTL, my husband came to town this week and I asked him if he would like to go to lunch for his birthday. I did not hear from him but was thanking God that I was about to see him, when he contacted me. I picked him up and he was pleased that I took him to the place where we had our first date. I just praise God we were able to talk about old things and some new things to come in the future. God is truly amazing.” (Florida)
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“Move on. Get over it. Free will. After several years of standing, the God who is able to do immeasurably more than I could ever think or imagine restored my marriage, despite negative feedback from friends, family, pastors and my church. This was a good thing because now, as the Word says, ‘no flesh shall glory.’ We can only thank our God and our King. Listen to His voice, believe He is able to perform it, and He will. My spouse's free will does not supersede God's will. He is mighty to save. Don't let well meaning counselors get you focused on casting out Satan's lies of anger, despair, or fear. Ask the Lord to respond to the truth of His love, hope, thankfulness, gratitude and peace He placed inside of you, no matter how fragile these are. The Word says the greatest thing is love. Love cannot fail because God is love. Thank You Father that You are faithful, Your mercy is new every day. I will praise You all my days.” (North Carolina)
“I thank God for my Mother's Day gift. My mother lives out-of-state and my relationship during our marriage problems has been strained with my in-laws. I had been praying for a better Mother's Day this year. I had been praying and asking the Lord to place a burden on my husband's heart to acknowledge me on this day. The day was almost over and I was settling in for bed. My phone rang and it was my husband. Just calling to wish me a ‘Happy Mother's Day.’ Our children were around when the call came and we all smiled and praised God for His faithfulness!” (Florida)
"After being separated from my husband, God has shown me where
I was wrong and how to seek Him to correct it. I praise my God.
My husband and I are healing the hurt and the other woman is out
of the picture. Praise the Lord." (Texas)
“My husband showed up to spend Christmas Eve with me and the kids at our daughter's apartment! His father passed away a few days earlier and I gave him a book about Heaven which he said he would read. The promise is near! Thank you so much RMM! One more thing, I'm so happy I finally got to the Pompano Bible Study at the beginning of this month - what an encouragement!” (Louisiana)
"A rare Sunday off allowed me to listen in on the Fall
Teleconference. What a blessing! Thank you to Kirby and Nancy
for so honestly sharing their stand for marriage through the
power of the Holy Spirit. The encouragement was just what I, and
I'm certain so many other standers, needed to hear. It is always
wonderful to hear Charlyne teach and great to hear Bob's voice
again as well." (Indiana)
"I was praying for an Easter miracle. On Friday night (Good Friday) when I thought all was lost, my husband suddenly called and said he needed me. He said he needed to come home. He was done with the other person and really needed me. He had packed his car and was calling me from the road. God is faithful. All in His perfect timing." (New York)
“PTL even when it looks impossible, God is making a way out of no way. Every day is a testimony and I give God all the glory, honor and praise. I thank Him for saving me and my SPOUSE. He is no longer my prodigal, since God is preparing his return any day now. Speaking with my spouse this morning he revealed to me that the OW and he are going their separate ways. This time is different since God is in it. When I began my stand, God taught me to pray and surrender. I had to learn to take authority over my marriage, family and spouse. I learned to pray Hedge of Protection and Thorns. I also prayed for the OW’s salvation. I recognized my family and marriage was under a spiritual attack and I took back what Satan tried to steal. We will continue to fast and pray daily.” (Georgia)
“Is not this the kind of fasting I have chosen: to loose the chains of injustice and untie the cords of the yoke, to set the oppressed free and break every yoke?” Isaiah 58:6
"While my wife is away, I've been trying to rebuild relationships my past behavior destroyed. God has laid it on my heart to reach out to my step- daughter like never before. This week I got a hug back for the first time. God is working!” (North Carolina)
"Glory to God, every time I feel like I do not want to stand
anymore, He reminds me that He is working." (Virgin Islands)
“Just as our local power company took time to restore the power to our home after Hurricane Wilma, so did God take his time to restore my marriage. The power company needed to make sure that everything was fixed and all the connections were intact. Then they needed to make sure that other people around us were ready. They needed to make sure that everything was 100% before they threw that switch, so that the power did not just flicker and then go off again, but comes on and stays on for good. This is how God has restored my marriage to my wife. After being separated for two years, we are finally restored. God will restore your marriage. If you try to do it yourself, your restoration will only be a 'flicker.' Let God do it. He knows what He is doing and He will do it right so that your family's restoration brings permanent 'light' to your home." (Florida) (From a man who attends Rejoice Pompano.)
"Friday was my birthday and I had prayed and asked God to move my
husband's heart that he would remember this day. The day came
and went with no word and I cried out to God, expressing my
disappointment but choosing to trust Him. The next morning I
received a belated birthday wish from my husband after many
years. To God be the glory for all He has done for me, for
answering my prayer and for working on my husband's heart."
"The Lord has kept His promise. He continually showed me that my marriage would be restored. Before the Christmas holidays the Lord did just that. Now my wife and I are planning our remarriage celebration. Thank You Lord for keeping Your promise!" (Texas)
"Praise be to God, my husband came home months ago. It has been difficult. The devil was constantly bombarding us with everything, but I stood firm and claimed God's promises over my situation. I am now seeing changes and all the glory is God's." (East Africa)
“I experienced a lot of sadness on Mother's Day, but the sadness was somewhat tempered by the knowledge that I had sent my wife a generous check, above the child support that I've been blessed to be able to double) to help her and the kids, since I know she doesn't have much after leaving me. I am a civilian contractor in Kuwait and I eagerly look every day for some email or message from “home,” but often find only my daily Charlyne Cares. I thank God for those. Often they are the only real encouragement that I receive. Last week I received a thank you from my wife. It was short and simple, but it was something in a desert of a lot of nothing. I was sad because my birthday passed. I had prayed for some acknowledgment from my wife. I did not hear from her until May 10th. I got so excited that I called her and we talked for a half hour about kids and other things, all very casual with no ugliness. This meant a lot to me and I am very thankful to God for what He is doing in the unseen to restore our marriage. Praise be to our God.” (Kuwait)
"Many, O Lord my God, are the wonders you have done. The things you planned for us no one can recount to you; were I to speak and tell of them, they would be too many to declare." Psalm 40:5
"The Lord has done great things for us, and we are filled with joy. Restore our fortunes, O Lord, like streams in the Negev. Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy." Psalm 126:3-5
"For Mother's Day, my prodigal came to town to see our baby. He took us to eat lunch and we spent the afternoon at the park and had a wonderful time." (Texas)
"My husband and I have been divorced a few years and we live in
two different states. We still talk to one another and the good
Lord is really softening his spirit. I still love him. Thank
you for being there. I will continue to read 'Charlyne Cares'
every day for I believe the good Lord will restore our
“After my husband left, I found this site and started my stand for marriage restoration. It has been a very difficult road sometimes because I can't see what God is doing on the other side of the mountain or I might receive a long silence from the Lord telling me ‘be patient.’ In those moments of deep sorrow I have thought about giving up, but after crying out to the Lord, I have received comfort and a remembrance of in whom I have trusted. God is faithful and never fails. I know that God will give me what is best for me and my family and He will do the same for all of you who love and obey Him. Let's continue trusting in God!” (Dominican Republic)
"God has been faithful to me in 2008. I have maintained
employment with my company and we have increased and added more
staff. My children and I are well. We are all saved. In my
church body, we continue to draw close to our Lord, and to each
other. I have a vehicle, as do my children. We have food and
shelter. God has been faithful to my family and I thank You
Lord, for all Your blessings." (Ohio)
"My husband has been with the other woman for awhile. I had
major surgery and have not heard from him in months. I asked God
for any sign that He is working on my husband. That very day I
received a nice text from him that he was glad I am ok. I'm
still standing as God has been very specific even though many
think I'm crazy. Thank You, Jesus!" (Virginia)
"Saturday before Mother's Day I saw a woman that I have not seen in awhile. She looked at my ring finger and told me it was time to take those off. I told her I was still married. It was my husband's weekend to have the kids but he let me come and get them on Mother’s Day before church. When I did he gave me a bowl of chocolate dipped strawberries he had made for the kids to give me. I thanked him for making me a mom. It was wonderful and I got to be with my kids on Mother's Day." (Michigan)
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Barren For 10 Years!
Eight days after our 10th wedding anniversary, my husband asked for a divorce. I was devastated, but it took this to utterly break me before God. That night, I didn’t go to sleep, but the Lord led me to scripture after scripture. I finally fell to my knees before my own sin. I couldn’t look away, blame, or give excuse for all the selfishness, pride, disrespect, disobedience, and rebellion that I had lived in for all 10 years of our marriage. Instead of feeling anger or betrayal toward my husband, I saw exactly the unlovable person I had been asking him to love all these years and I understood. The Lord changed me that night. I didn’t become a different person overnight, but each day God would strip away another layer. Immediately, He led me to a group of women who were standing for their marriages! They led me to Rejoice Marriage Ministries where I learned that I was a “stander,” and my husband was a “prodigal” (Luke 15). I loved that! It was so apt.
I believed my husband when he said there wasn’t another woman, but the Lord was preparing me for a different story. After a month of standing, the Lord was asking me if I would stand, even in infidelity. See, God knew the hardness of my heart. If I had initially known my husband had found someone else, I would have never been broken. I would have raged against my husband and would have felt justified as I took everything he had. But then, I would have never stood in the gap for my husband’s soul. Now, I know that everyone around me knew about the other woman, but they wouldn’t tell me. That was God. It took His work in me and gentle nudges to show me what His marriage covenant really means. As you know, the covenant made before God has no stipulations. I did not vow to love until my husband cheated. I did not accept a ring only until my husband’s love disappeared. I vowed until death, and God was holding me to that vow. It didn’t matter that it was the worst day of my life when my husband finally told me about the other woman. The next day wasn’t much better. I helped my husband move out, believing that God would bring him back. All of this, my husband knew, but he wouldn’t “come to his senses” for a while yet.
I was commanded by God to do four things:
1. To Stand: When I was so overwhelmed with how determined my husband was in pursuing this divorce, I told God that I didn’t want to fight this battle and I didn’t want to have to try and find a Christian lawyer to defend my stand. God spoke 2 Chronicles 20 to me and let me know quickly that I wouldn’t have to find a lawyer, nor would I have to fight this battle. It was HIS battle, and He was going to win it for me!
2. To Wait: I thought this meant that I would have to wait for my husband to come home, but God said I was to wait on Him and the work He was going to do in our lives.
3. To Be Silent: Whew! If you only knew me, you’d know how nearly impossible this is! But God was working and nothing is impossible for Him (Luke 1:37). I tried so many times to reason with my husband and point out what God was showing me, but it wasn’t my place and it only hardened my husband’s heart toward me. Through this, God showed me that I am nobody’s Holy Spirit. I can’t convict, and I can’t change a person’s mind. That is God’s job, but He showed me that what He does lasts forever, so I’m glad I can’t change anyone…it wouldn’t last. God told me that no man could change my husband. He was the only one who could change my husband and I needed to let Him work!
4. To Be Still: This was the hardest command. As my husband progressed in the Far Country, I saw the state of his soul. I couldn’t believe a born-again believer could believe the lies Satan was telling him. Satan takes the Word of God and twists it to fit what the flesh wants, which Charlyne taught me only leads to doing the will of Satan (2 Timothy 2:26). My husband was trying to find biblical justification for all of his actions and what his flesh wanted. Obviously, he couldn’t but he gave it his best effort. Needless to say, and he finally admitted it after he came home, he was miserable out in the Far Country, even though he told me then how “peaceful” he was! (Standers don’t believe anything your prodigal says!) There were many days I would lie on the floor in our home begging God to release me from this stand. I didn’t want my husband anymore after seeing where Satan had taken him. I didn’t want a man who would cheat on me. I didn’t want any of this! But God would let me rant and rave, then remind me of all the promises He’d given me and remind me that this path, though excruciating, was His best for me. Daily, I had to surrender my will to Him, believing He knows what is best.
My husband works offshore. He sent me an email saying he was coming home in a few weeks when he came back in town. He told me he believed God had finally answered him. He sent an email to the other woman ending their relationship. I was amazed! The Holy Spirit told me to rejoice. Ah, but Satan wasn’t done yet! A few days later, I discovered that my husband was still talking to the other woman and was beginning to doubt coming home. As the days drew closer, my husband was determined that he wasn’t coming home and told me he may never come back. I was prepared for false starts thanks to your ministry, but the Lord reminded me that He had told me to rejoice. So instead of me telling everyone that my husband wasn’t coming home after all, I would say, “He says he’s not coming home…” Our God has a bigger plan, and thankfully, He’s greater than man (Job 33:12).
I invited my husband to our house for dinner the night he came in from offshore. Although he resisted, he finally agreed to come. I had a vision to run to him when he came home, just as the father did for the prodigal. When my husband pulled in, he parked in the back of our yard. I ran across our yard in my bare feet smiling the whole way. When I got to him, I jumped into his arms and bear hugged him. He was laughing and smiling. He now says that when he saw me do that he knew he wouldn’t be able to leave! That night he kept trying to leave, but God wouldn’t let him. I told him that I understood if he couldn’t stay…I knew God would bring him home! Finally, after watching him wrestle to the point of exhaustion, he started drifting off to sleep on the couch. I told him to come to bed, but he said he had to do something first. He went out to his truck where he left his cell phone and texted the other woman that he was staying home. Now I understand the struggle; she had told him that if he ever came back home, they were over. My husband told me that was the first night of sound sleep he had through all of this!
I have to admit, the restoration of our marriage has often been more difficult than the standing. God has reminded me that He is still working on the other side of that mountain, and He’s not done yet. I want to encourage other standers that God doesn’t work the way we think or expect. His ways are higher than our ways and our thoughts are not His thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9). The Lord has been revealing His truth in doses to my husband. I’m still learning to obey those four things God commanded me. Just because my husband is home and our marriage is better than it has ever been, it doesn’t change where we’ve been and who we are to become. I will forever be a stander for my husband and our marriage.
God gave me a lot of promises while my husband was in the far country and I look forward to God fulfilling every single one of them. The first promise He answered is the return of my husband. The second promise was recently confirmed. For 10 years I have been barren. We are pregnant with our first child! Standing and restoration have been hard, but I still believe my God is greater and He knows what’s best! “Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished!” Luke 1:45
“Seeing God work is so amazing, there are no coincidences with God. Charlyne asked once in a devotional how did you find RMM? When I think that I found a RMM tract tucked away in a drawer just when I needed it, all I can say is that God is amazing. Every time I try to give up on standing for my marriage I hear from the LORD through His Word, and when I see my small prayers answered I praise my LORD. I have committed to memorizing more of God's Word this year and I have started with Habakkuk 3:17-18, 'Though the fig tree does not bud and there are no grapes on the vines, though the olive crop fails and the fields produce no food, though there are no sheep in the pen and no cattle in the stalls, yet I will rejoice in the LORD,I will be joyful in God my Savior.'God is good always, in all ways God is good.” (California)
“My spouse left home many years ago. My Pastor, Christian friends and family also gave up on him as it seemed impossible for him to return home. I follow Charlyne Cares devotional daily and God always speaks to me. God is good. I happened to chance upon a man crossing the road wearing a t-shirt with the words ‘With God, all things are possible!’ on the day that I was most depressed. A month ago, I was still looking for legal advice to file for divorce to end this so-called marriage which I thought was beyond restoration. God fulfilled His promise of restoration to me, and my spouse started texting me that he still loves me and wants to come home. Praise the Lord! He works when we least expect it.” (Singapore)
“I thank and praise the Lord for what He’s doing in my life and marriage. My husband is not home yet but I believe through my faith and prayers (and prayers of others) he’s on the way. I was listening to one of Charlyne’s lessons ‘A More Christ Like Stand’and I began to recite and personalize the scriptures (Ephesians 4:17-24) given in the lesson. As I was reciting the scriptures my prodigal called. He asked about something we had already talked about and said he just wanted to hear my voice. PTL! I thank God that He is softening my husband’s heart but most of all God is working on me. Please remember: James 5:16. ‘The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.’” (Georgia)
“Christmas day was spent at our daughter’s. My prodigal was there also. I had been anxious for this day because of the issues I had recently with the OW. Our daughter had a long conversation about the OW and he is close to walking away from her. Thank You Jesus! He feels an obligation to her. I pray for them, but, I pray that my prodigal can walk away and feel no obligation to them; that all soul ties are broken. I praise the Lord for there was peace in my daughter’s house on Christmas. My prodigal hugged me and gave me a gift. We all talked and reminisced about earlier years and several times my prodigal would talk to me and others about our personal family Christmas memories. He would look at me and we laughed and at times cried. It was a joyous time and I give God all the glory.” (Texas)
“God is working on the other side of the mountain no matter what it looks like, feels like or what you hear. Even though my prodigal is intentionally cutting off communication with me, God is dealing with him. It has been weeks since I have heard from him. Out of the blue he texted me an invite to one of his family member's birthday party. Thank You, God! Standers don't give up. Expect a suddenly at anytime. God is able.” (Florida)