Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
“All the glory goes to God. My husband came back after several grueling months. I read these testimonies, wishing and, at times, doubting that I would get the privilege to write one. But God! Throughout the storm, when my husband's heart was hardened, God found a way to bring him back to me with a soft heart. I'm so thankful, and these testimonies gave me strength when I had felt like giving up. Please don't give up, God hears your cries and will not hold back when the time is right. The Lord gave me Jeremiah 33:3 (KJV). Call onto me and I will answer thee, and show thee great and mighty things that thou knowest not as well as Matthew 7:7 (KJV) Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you. I will keep praying for restored marriages all around the world. Don't give up, He is faithful.” (California)(posted 11/18/2013)
“My husband has been home for a few months now. I am still in awe! I remember at the beginning of my stand how he told me he had no hope for us, and now he says he'll never leave again. This is God softening his heart! While his relationship with God still isn't where it needs to be, I can tell he's trying. I know the Holy Spirit is leading and guiding him into all truth, as this is my main prayer for him right now. There are still really bad days, but I keep walking in love, standing on God's Word, and I know that God will bring this good work to completion. He did not save my marriage to let it fail at this point. Standers, never give up. My situation was as horrible as it gets, but I set my face like stone and through the rough days I praised God all the more and quoted His Word continuously and the results are manifested. My husband is home! My marriage is being healed! God is so good and will watch over His Word to perform it.” (Texas)(posted 1/13/2014)
“My husband left and was in the far country for many months. He came home for a time, telling me it was just for the kids, that he still felt nothing for me. Although I still held on and prayed all day every day, he left again. Two weeks ago I signed divorce papers and signed for an apartment. BUT GOD! One night I had a knock at my door. My suddenly happened! My husband came home! Last night he told me he loved me. We still have work to do but God is so faithful. I still pray and fast for other marriages all around the world. To God be the glory!” (Tennessee)(posted 4/14/2014)
"After years of standing, the Lord has won this battle for me. My wife said that she thought I might like to take her out for a meal as she thought I might have a question to ask her. She wanted me to propose. We went ring shopping the next morning, found the perfect ring for her, and went out for a meal. I got down on one knee and proposed and she said yes. Praise the Lord. A wedding invitation will be in the post! All glory to God." (United Kingdom)(posted 4/4/2008)
"Praise the Lord, my husband returned just as suddenly as he left me. I had just about given up on standing when God sent me the message that I was closer than I thought. Two days after receiving that message I got the phone call I had been waiting for. Our God is the one of suddenly. He is so good. Charlyne’s testimony is what helped me see that my situation was not hopeless." (Texas)(posted 9/5/2008)
"After months of separation, my husband is back home. He told me that he went to see a lawyer around Christmas to divorce me, but he realized that he didn't want to go through it. I had been praying and fasting during December and received a second promise from God that my husband would be back. A month ago, my husband was still telling me that he would never come home. If it wasn't for finding Rejoice Marriage Ministries, my husband and I would be divorced by now. Charlyne taught me how to stand and Bob's books helped me understand my husband's point of view. They both taught me to not look at circumstances, even when things seems impossible. I give all the praises and glory to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ for this miracle. My husband says he wants to forget the past and start over. Prodigals do come home, and they come home when we don't expect it." (Texas)(posted 1/26/2007)
"After years of divorce, my husband and I were remarried last night with our two children as witnesses. Your ministry was a gift from God during this walk of faith." (Ohio)(posted 3/27/2009)
“PTL, my wife has returned! After some years away and many months of standing, she rededicated her life to Christ and is currently going through the fires of repentance. She has begun referring to me as her husband again and is speaking of a ministry that we need to start to help others. All standers need to know, never to give up! This came suddenly and in a period of extreme silence. BUT GOD kept bringing me back to being obedient each time I wanted to quit. There is so much to praise but I want it known that I've heard so much from her that sounded like I was listening to Bob's writings. All the times I thought things were 'perfect' on the other side of the mountain, she tells me she was never happy. She said how the Holy Spirit never left her alone and finally got so loud that she decided to have a mustard seed of faith to leave the OM and come home. Not out of love (but the rekindling by the Lord is taking place now) but out of obedience. Now the standing really begins. Never give up!” (Kansas)(posted 10/21/2013)
"My husband left, but the next month moved back home. I stood on God's Word. Even though I felt broken and alone, God was with me all the time. We're now communicating and loving each other, spending time with one another and with the children. I am grateful to the Lord for restoration. (Maryland)(posted 7/11/2008)
“Praise, glory and honor to God and my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ! I filed for divorce due to many circumstances. This weekend, I discovered the prayers here on this website and prayed them for three nights over the weekend. Last night, my husband called me, with a convicted heart, asking me to withdraw the divorce petition and to reconcile. Glory to God!” (Georgia)(posted 12/3/2012)
“I just wanted to drop a line to thank you once again for your prayers for the return of my unsaved husband several years ago. We just had our 27th anniversary. Our marriage is going great. He is a Christian man and we are closer and stronger than we ever were. I believe him leaving me was for the best, but at the time I didn't understand. God was preparing us both for a better walk in life. My new saying now is...Our God is stronger than Satan, Amen!” (Florida)(posted 5/22/2013)
“This past summer, there has been more friendly contact with my wife than ever before. She has asked my boys and me to move in with her and even though she says it's for financial purposes only, I strongly feel that it's the hand of God moving toward my marriage being restored.” (Texas)(posted 12/3/2012)
"Nothing is too difficult for our God. I had the privilege of having a restored marriage, but I stopped standing soon after and my prodigal left home again. I kept looking at the circumstances, but God was working behind the scenes. I thank the Lord that I am seeing my prodigal’s heart(posted 8/30/2012)
“God has restored our marriage! After many years of standing through separation, divorce, remarriage to one another and then more separations, God's amazing plan to finally sever all ties with the OW came to fruition this week. My husband recognized his circumstances as coming from God, and he has a truly broken and repentant heart. God did something that I never could have dreamed up, but it has definitely put an end to the immoral relationship and filled my beloved spouse with fear of the Lord and a desire to serve Him. A true miracle took place this week, and no one who knows us or our situation can deny it was God. THANK YOU, LORD JESUS!” (Ohio)(posted 10/28/2013)
Barren For 10 Years!
Eight days after our 10th wedding anniversary, my husband asked for a divorce. I was devastated, but it took this to utterly break me before God. That night, I didn’t go to sleep, but the Lord led me to scripture after scripture. I finally fell to my knees before my own sin. I couldn’t look away, blame, or give excuse for all the selfishness, pride, disrespect, disobedience, and rebellion that I had lived in for all 10 years of our marriage. Instead of feeling anger or betrayal toward my husband, I saw exactly the unlovable person I had been asking him to love all these years and I understood. The Lord changed me that night. I didn’t become a different person overnight, but each day God would strip away another layer. Immediately, He led me to a group of women who were standing for their marriages! They led me to Rejoice Marriage Ministries where I learned that I was a “stander,” and my husband was a “prodigal” (Luke 15). I loved that! It was so apt.
I believed my husband when he said there wasn’t another woman, but the Lord was preparing me for a different story. After a month of standing, the Lord was asking me if I would stand, even in infidelity. See, God knew the hardness of my heart. If I had initially known my husband had found someone else, I would have never been broken. I would have raged against my husband and would have felt justified as I took everything he had. But then, I would have never stood in the gap for my husband’s soul. Now, I know that everyone around me knew about the other woman, but they wouldn’t tell me. That was God. It took His work in me and gentle nudges to show me what His marriage covenant really means. As you know, the covenant made before God has no stipulations. I did not vow to love until my husband cheated. I did not accept a ring only until my husband’s love disappeared. I vowed until death, and God was holding me to that vow. It didn’t matter that it was the worst day of my life when my husband finally told me about the other woman. The next day wasn’t much better. I helped my husband move out, believing that God would bring him back. All of this, my husband knew, but he wouldn’t “come to his senses” for a while yet.
I was commanded by God to do four things:
1. To Stand: When I was so overwhelmed with how determined my husband was in pursuing this divorce, I told God that I didn’t want to fight this battle and I didn’t want to have to try and find a Christian lawyer to defend my stand. God spoke 2 Chronicles 20 to me and let me know quickly that I wouldn’t have to find a lawyer, nor would I have to fight this battle. It was HIS battle, and He was going to win it for me!
2. To Wait: I thought this meant that I would have to wait for my husband to come home, but God said I was to wait on Him and the work He was going to do in our lives.
3. To Be Silent: Whew! If you only knew me, you’d know how nearly impossible this is! But God was working and nothing is impossible for Him (Luke 1:37). I tried so many times to reason with my husband and point out what God was showing me, but it wasn’t my place and it only hardened my husband’s heart toward me. Through this, God showed me that I am nobody’s Holy Spirit. I can’t convict, and I can’t change a person’s mind. That is God’s job, but He showed me that what He does lasts forever, so I’m glad I can’t change anyone…it wouldn’t last. God told me that no man could change my husband. He was the only one who could change my husband and I needed to let Him work!
4. To Be Still: This was the hardest command. As my husband progressed in the Far Country, I saw the state of his soul. I couldn’t believe a born-again believer could believe the lies Satan was telling him. Satan takes the Word of God and twists it to fit what the flesh wants, which Charlyne taught me only leads to doing the will of Satan (2 Timothy 2:26). My husband was trying to find biblical justification for all of his actions and what his flesh wanted. Obviously, he couldn’t but he gave it his best effort. Needless to say, and he finally admitted it after he came home, he was miserable out in the Far Country, even though he told me then how “peaceful” he was! (Standers don’t believe anything your prodigal says!) There were many days I would lie on the floor in our home begging God to release me from this stand. I didn’t want my husband anymore after seeing where Satan had taken him. I didn’t want a man who would cheat on me. I didn’t want any of this! But God would let me rant and rave, then remind me of all the promises He’d given me and remind me that this path, though excruciating, was His best for me. Daily, I had to surrender my will to Him, believing He knows what is best.
My husband works offshore. He sent me an email saying he was coming home in a few weeks when he came back in town. He told me he believed God had finally answered him. He sent an email to the other woman ending their relationship. I was amazed! The Holy Spirit told me to rejoice. Ah, but Satan wasn’t done yet! A few days later, I discovered that my husband was still talking to the other woman and was beginning to doubt coming home. As the days drew closer, my husband was determined that he wasn’t coming home and told me he may never come back. I was prepared for false starts thanks to your ministry, but the Lord reminded me that He had told me to rejoice. So instead of me telling everyone that my husband wasn’t coming home after all, I would say, “He says he’s not coming home…” Our God has a bigger plan, and thankfully, He’s greater than man (Job 33:12).
I invited my husband to our house for dinner the night he came in from offshore. Although he resisted, he finally agreed to come. I had a vision to run to him when he came home, just as the father did for the prodigal. When my husband pulled in, he parked in the back of our yard. I ran across our yard in my bare feet smiling the whole way. When I got to him, I jumped into his arms and bear hugged him. He was laughing and smiling. He now says that when he saw me do that he knew he wouldn’t be able to leave! That night he kept trying to leave, but God wouldn’t let him. I told him that I understood if he couldn’t stay…I knew God would bring him home! Finally, after watching him wrestle to the point of exhaustion, he started drifting off to sleep on the couch. I told him to come to bed, but he said he had to do something first. He went out to his truck where he left his cell phone and texted the other woman that he was staying home. Now I understand the struggle; she had told him that if he ever came back home, they were over. My husband told me that was the first night of sound sleep he had through all of this!
I have to admit, the restoration of our marriage has often been more difficult than the standing. God has reminded me that He is still working on the other side of that mountain, and He’s not done yet. I want to encourage other standers that God doesn’t work the way we think or expect. His ways are higher than our ways and our thoughts are not His thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9). The Lord has been revealing His truth in doses to my husband. I’m still learning to obey those four things God commanded me. Just because my husband is home and our marriage is better than it has ever been, it doesn’t change where we’ve been and who we are to become. I will forever be a stander for my husband and our marriage.
God gave me a lot of promises while my husband was in the far country and I look forward to God fulfilling every single one of them. The first promise He answered is the return of my husband. The second promise was recently confirmed. For 10 years I have been barren. We are pregnant with our first child! Standing and restoration have been hard, but I still believe my God is greater and He knows what’s best! “Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished!” Luke 1:45(posted 10/8/2012)
“My patience and prayers have been answered. Thanks to God, the support of your group and the strength from God to remain patient, tolerant and loving toward my ex-wife, we remarried in our parish church in February, on our original wedding date. Our divorce was final in June of last year and by November my ex wanted to cut off any further contact. Then miraculously, only days later, she was moved to return and wished to put our marriage back together. Thank you for all your prayers and support. Praise the Lord our marriage has been restored.” (Michigan)(posted 4/1/2013)
"My marriage has been restored for six months. My husband used to be angry toward God. Now, he's hanging out with godly men. I never thought I would see this day, but God kept his promise to me. Thank You God." (Missouri)(posted 10/4/2007)
"My husband and I divorced after I committed adultery. The Lord later changed my heart and I became the stander, but by that time my husband had a girlfriend. My husband came back to me just long enough for me to get pregnant. When he found out about the pregnancy, he went back to his girlfriend. They were discussing marriage. While I was pregnant and standing, the Lord sent me a dream that he would be back home by Christmas. He came home in late November 2008 and we were married last week." (Texas)(posted 1/23/2009)
“Glory to God, we have a restored marriage. I have been fasting, praying and breathing the Word of God every day. And just when things felt the most hopeless and discouraging, SUDDENLY my wife called. Reconciliation was the last thing I expected. BUT GOD totally smashed the wall between us. My wife told me that she had been having dreams, sorrow and she broke into despair. She opened up a secret that shook our world and if not for the grace of God and my walk with Him, none would be prepared to embrace the news. But the response was nothing short of a miracle. Only the blood of Jesus could do such a miraculous healing. We are planning to remarry. I still pinch myself. God is true to His Word. Jeremiah 29:11-14.” (Indonesia)(posted 8/19/2013)
"My husband has been home for several months. Last week he took it upon himself to pay our household bills, something he has not done for years. What I expected to see happening in the restoration of this marriage, is not how the Lord is working things. I have been praying daily for my husband and big changes are happening all around me. Prayer does work." (Wisconsin)(posted 1/11/2007)
“Praise God, He is worthy. After standing for some time, my husband has purchased a ticket to join me and our family in my home country at the end of the month. I was given Ezekiel 36:36 early in my stand and dreams and confirmation of what my God would do and He did what seemed impossible to man. God is still working on saving my husband but I believe my rhema word throughout my stand, ‘He is Able.’ Ephesians 3:20. I also thank God for my support prayer partner and dear friend. I thank God for leading me to this site and thank you Rejoice Ministries for all your support. I have grown with my Savior and can now say He is my idol and not my husband. Our God is a jealous God!! Standers don't give up, keep praying, fasting and believing. I will still continue by God's grace to do my fasting and prayer for God is not finished. My testimony and my marriage and myself and my husband will proclaim to the people round about us that God's name will be PRAISED!!!” (Saint Lucia)(posted 9/17/2012)
“God is good! Our marriage looked deader than dead. I hadn't talked to my husband in months. Then he called out of the blue and wanted to talk about us. He missed me. We still have a long way to go, but God! Don't give up. God does answer prayers and His love restores. Don't let your circumstances consume you because they truly don't matter. Let me say that again-they don't matter. Stop looking at them! And quit believing the lies from the enemy because they are just that…lies! Just keep your eyes on Jesus. You may not understand or like where you're at, but His way is best.” (Texas)(posted 10/13/2013)
"Once the prodigal, I have been standing for my wife. My wife called me and told me she loved me and wanted to come home. It has been a hard road at times but as Charlyne and Bob have pointed out, there is power in the spoken Word of God. Thank you so much my Lord, my Rock, my Deliverer." (Florida)(posted 4/19/2007)
“I've been standing for almost a year and my suddenly happened a few weeks ago. God used a car accident to open my husband’s eyes. God is in control of all things. My husband was enraged with anger, resentment and bitterness, BUT GOD. I wanted to give up so many times, but I stayed faithful believing that God was going to keep to His promise and bring my husband back home. He has not only returned back home, but we are more in love with each other than ever before. Keep the course, don't give up, the restoration of your marriage can happen at any moment. God was faithful in the midst of my hurt, confusion and loneliness. Thank you Rejoice Ministries for keeping me encouraged and hopeful in the midst of my fear and uncertainty.” (California)(posted 11/11/2013)