Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"God has healed our broken marriage. Every prayer for my wife's heart has been answered. God has broken all contact with the other person, and has rescued us. I can testify that our marriage has gone from one of the worst to one of the best. God is faithful." (British Columbia)
"Labor Day weekend my husband threw me out of our house, saying he wanted a divorce. He had never treated me this way before. I found Rejoice Marriage Ministries and found hope and my way back to God. I have prayed and fasted, and now my husband is asking me on dates and we see each other a few times a week. Although my husband insists we live apart until he sorts through his issues, I am so thankful to God. I feel my husband and I are going to reconcile. Praise be to God." (Ohio)
"My husband and I have been restored for over two years. I cannot believe how much my husband loves me now. This must be God loving me through my husband, because I have never known this kind of love. This is such a testimony to me about how, when God does something, it is so much better than anything we try to make happen ourselves. I am so blessed." (Arizona)
"I wanted to praise the Lord for a wonderful holiday season. We had a wonderful Thanksgiving and Christmas. I know my God will finish what He has begun in my home." (Georgia)
"In a split second, my wife looks at me and sees where God is leading me and wants to be part of it. Then we were remarried. We were apart for years and now we are enjoying things with God at the center of it all." (Arkansas)
"After false starts and other circumstances, my husband and I are back together. He moved with me out of need, but last week he told me that we can move forward. I am standing on the Word of God." (Illinois)
"Praise the Lord, my husband has been home for a year now. Restoration has been slow but steady. It was worth standing in the gap. Thank You, Bob and Charlyne." (Canada)
"God really does heal marriages. I was the one who thought the grass was greener on the other side. When our marriage wasn't going according to my plan, I began to confide in another man. After divorcing my husband I was left feeling so empty inside. The other man was the one I thought would make my life complete. Thank God my husband was led to your ministry. He learned to pray the scriptures and stood for our marriage and prayed for my salvation. The Holy Spirit began to do a work in me. The Lord softened my heart and by God's grace I was saved. We have been remarried for over two years and our relationship with the Lord and one another keeps getting better. Please do not give up on your marriage or on God. What He did for us, He can do for you. Always remember that the grass is greenest where it is watered." (Michigan)
"It has been a year since my wife and I have reconciled. I thank and praise God every day for that. He is so faithful." (Florida)
"My marriage has been restored for six months. My husband used to be angry toward God. Now, he's hanging out with godly men. I never thought I would see this day, but God kept his promise to me. Thank You God." (Missouri)
“After standing for my marriage for many months, my suddenly happened yesterday. Even though my husband said repeatedly that it was over and he was going to get a divorce, the Spirit of the living God has brought him home. Like the prodigal son, he is tired and hungry. I hold on to God's promises and Ezekiel 36 where He will restore my husband. He will show His Holiness through him. He will sprinkle water on him and he will be clean, He will put His spirit in him and give him a heart of flesh for his heart of stone. Isaiah 30:7 ‘and he will rebuild them as they were before.’ God is faithful!” (Texas)
"Praise God, it has been several years since my prodigal returned and while we still struggle I continue to pray for God's guidance. I am an attorney and I often get divorce cases. I have had an opportunity to counsel many and rejoice when they withdraw their petitions. God is good. While this does not help my business, I remain happy every time a client calls and tells me they have reconciled with their spouse." (Florida)
“I am praising God for my husband's return to our home. We spent a wonderful Father's Day together and just last night we went out with friends from our church and he remarked on how nice it was to be home with our kids. I know there is still a long road ahead of us and a lot of things that God needs to work out for us. My trust is in Him for a total restoration of our marriage, a true miracle and for our marriage to be a testimony to our children of forgiveness and God's amazing power to change people. Thank you for your continued prayers.” (Florida)
A CHRISTMAS MIRACLE
By Mary in Missouri
As another Christmas is drawing near, I am filled with such excitement knowing it is the day we celebrate the greatest miracle of all, which is the birthday of our Savior, Jesus Christ! I can't even imagine how exciting it was back in time when everyone was awaiting the actual birth of Jesus!
I wanted to share with everyone my own Christmas miracle of 2010 which is that my precious prodigal came home after three years of being in the far country! Praise the Lord! It was a few hours after Christmas Day of 2010 at 2:00 A.M. I was still awake, sitting in the living room when I heard a key in the door and in walked my dear prodigal! I can't describe the overwhelming joy in my heart when I saw him walk through the door! He had listened to a sermon and the minister said, “Receive your forgiveness and go home” and that is just what my husband did!
I could write a book about everything that took place from the day he left until the day he came home but it would have to be just that, a book! Maybe someday I will write a book about my stand if God leads me in that direction. Anyway, through much prayer by myself, my prayer partner and many other people's prayers, God touched my husband's heart and my husband turned his heart back to God and back to me and our children.
The years that my husband was away were very difficult for me and our two adult children. There were many tears, trials and conflicts. In the beginning of my stand, I just wanted my husband back but later on I realized that the most important thing to me, because I loved my husband so much, was his soul and where he would spend eternity. He was a Christian but had walked away from God and in the process he was then deceived by the enemy and tempted by another woman whom he started a relationship with.
There were days when I just felt like giving up and moving on but by the grace of God I didn't. I am so thankful to God that He sustained me and gave me strength to stand even though I felt I was so weak at times but it was worth it!!! I was up against negative advice, even from my own children, to move on with my life. It got so bad that I didn't even feel like God could hear me talking or praying to Him since nothing ever seemed to change. I know now that He was there with me all the time and the Lord was working everything out for my good, my husband's good, and our children's good.
A few of the good things that came out of this attack by the enemy to destroy our family are that my daughter's faith in God and walk with Him has gotten stronger. My husband realizes how much he and I are alike in every area of our life where before he thought we had nothing in common, which was a lie from the enemy. Our family has gotten closer to God and to each other. God has blessed us so much and in so many ways since my husband turned his heart back to God and back to his family! God turned what the enemy meant for evil and destruction into so much good for us. I just can't begin to tell you all the blessings that God has bestowed on us because there are so many.
I read other people's testimonies and I would wonder if I would ever have one to share. I have to admit that sometimes when I felt so hopeless I didn't even want to read testimonies and I am ashamed that my faith became that weak.
So, I just want to say, in all humility and honesty,that no matter how hard it gets in your standing for your prodigal spouse, don't give up on them! They need your prayers and interceding on their behalf because they are blinded by the enemy and they can't see the way out without our prayers for God to remove the blinders from their eyes so they can see God's truth and find their way back to God and home to their spouse and family!
God bless you all and may He give you His strength, His peace, and His joy as you stand in the gap for your precious prodigal! Please don't give up on them! It will be worth every difficult day, hour and minute of standing and praying!
God be with you and bless you and I am praying for you all!
"I am seeing God's hand more and more every day. My returned prodigal has had to quit work because of illness. Only God knows how we are making it on just my salary. Every time the money is needed, it comes right on time from somewhere. God even worked out a legal matter from while my prodigal was in the far country. My spouse asked me to pray for this situation. This was the first time in many years he asked me to pray for something specific for him. I prayed God would go before him into the courtroom and work it out. God did, and only a small fine was required, the exact amount given to me as an extra bonus at work the day before. I even got a raise today. God never ceases to amaze me." (Georgia)
"I want to thank the Lord and praise His Name because He has restored my marriage and given back everything that the enemy has tried to steal." (Texas)
"I want to thank the Lord for bringing my husband home one year ago. In the past year, I have seen the hate walls come down, and his softer, gentle side is being returned. What a wonderful God we serve." (Alabama)
"My husband has returned home six months ago after six years away. He said that he saw the writing on the wall--just when I was about to give up. He is now going to church with us. It just amazes me that God freed my husband from what held him captive all these years practically overnight. I would have given up had it not been for your encouraging and sometimes eye-opening messages." (Florida)
My husband filed for divorce and we were suppose to be in court, but I stood and told him we were not getting a divorce. I have prayed for him ever since I started standing. I have almost given up many times, but God would not let me. Yesterday my husband called and told me he was cancelling the court case and is coming to Germany with our children. He is willing to make our marriage work. Thank you, Lord. 'For nothing is impossible with God.' (Luke 1:37) Amen. (Germany)
“After being gone many months, my husband began sleeping at the house...and then he never left. It took six weeks for me to realize he'd moved home! There was no conversation or apology, just a changed man. I had doubts and I wavered (a lot). Every morning I woke up and read the encouragement waiting for me on this site, and then I warily began my day in faith. One day at a time, the many, many months came to an end and in the midst of it all, Charlyne guided me. This woman I'd never met taught me to pray for my husband and how to find comfort in God's Word. This stranger supported me when others doubted me. My husband and I are packing for vacation. God is healing our marriage and restoring it to something more than we could have imagined. A year ago I was hurting so deeply that I couldn't even imagine a day when we would vacation again. Today my heart is full.” (Oklahoma)
"God does heal hurting marriages. My husband is not only home in our house but today he came home to our God." (California)
“My marriage is restored! After two plus years of standing and praying God sent my husband home. Don't give up. Keep praying and allow God to work and prepare you for the return of your prodigal spouse. He will do it.” (Maryland)
"My husband came home New Year's Day because he said this is where he belonged. He is with me and our children but he still has feelings for other woman. I am praying over him every chance I get thru the night. The first step is he came back, and now, I need to zip the lips and pray, pray, pray. This battle is far from over, but it is a step in the right direction. We have an awesome God and prayer has never been as real as it is right now." (Arizona)
“Praise God! I have finally heard the words that I have prayed for. My husband is coming home! After a year of separation, God has moved my mountain. Trusting in God doesn't sound easy, but with self discipline, praying on the full armor of God daily and never speaking negativity has given me the joy and patience I need. I wish I could express to the ones who are struggling to stand, just how much it works. The enemy tried to lie every minute of every day, but when I spent more time in thanking God instead of fighting the enemy, my life changed. God will do right for those who love him. He wants me to be happy, he wants my children to have a father here to comfort them. But we had to learn to love God first. God is jealous. As soon as I started feeling the need to read more scriptures, sing more praise songs, give him the praise for all the simple things, my life changed! My husband still has some legal issues to deal with, but he has spoken the words and planted the seed I will water!” (Arizona)
"I was just about ready to give up this past Summer. I had been standing for 15 months. I had the divorce papers ready to type up and the typewriter jammed and would not type! A friend of mine gave me the name of Rejoice Ministries. I called them and decided to pray for my marriage to be restored (at the time I was very angry and disappointed in God). I kept going to the meetings and praying scripture having only faith that the Word of God would not return void. I prayed Scripture for myself too. I felt a change in me."
"As Charlyne teaches, our stand should continue till the day we die. Don't give up - your miracle could be just around the corner. God will honor His Word. I nearly gave up and would have missed out on the good relationship my husband and I are now enjoying."
"Suddenly my husband turned up, 'weeping and praying' as God kept telling me he would. My husband has declared he is moving home. God has proven Himself." (United Kingdom)
"My spouse told me in May 2006 that he wanted his family back. He wanted to come home. I had been standing and praying for my marriage since March 2005 when my husband told me he wanted a divorce. He was getting ready to deploy to Iraq when he told me. He said that he woke up one morning and something told him it was time to go home. I know it was God. That is the only One it could have been. We are doing good. We have our ups and downs, but God is working it out. Keep standing and praying. God does hear your prayers–and He answers." (North Carolina)
"Praise God for He has answered my prayers. My husband returned home but still struggles with thoughts of the other woman. It's tough to hear about it, but the Lord taught me perseverance and long-suffering while my husband was away. I just continue to talk to God about it and trust that He will deliver my husband from those strongholds. Prayer and fasting do work. My husband is not a reader, but he read Bob's book, and it was such an encouragement to him. Praise God for all He has done. I have to keep reminding myself that restoration is not an event, but a process." (New York)
“A few months ago, our home was in such turmoil. I was disappointed to come to this after fighting for my marriage for 16 years. Prior to that, our middle child ran away from home. I was weak and weary from the physical and emotional pain but oftentimes, some friends would show up and pray for us when I was too tired and weary to do it myself. One day, I read about Moses and some battle he fought that lasted for 53 days. Somehow, I knew God was telling me that was also for me. Sure enough, after 53 days of intense standing in prayer, my husband called me and asked for my forgiveness with tears of repentance. We reconciled and I must say that he came home a changed man, and he is still changing to this day for the better. Meanwhile our son also came back home and we were finally reunited as a family. So I didn't have one but two prodigals coming back home!” (Canada)
"My husband has been home since May. Although we sometimes struggle with issues, I give it to God. I give him all the praise. My husband realizes how much he was deceived. I am just so happy that my family is together again." (Florida)
"After many falls into the pit, my prodigal daughter has come home suddenly. The road she was on wounded her in many ways physically but I know my God has a road of recovery for her. Next will be her father. Thank You God for Your unique plan for healing and restoration." (Washington State)
“God is not a man that he should lie, His ways and thoughts are not like ours. My husband left and never wanted to return but God, mighty God, brought him home. He will bring your spouse home. It is not a matter of if, it is a matter of when and when He does, He makes everything beautiful in its time.” (Australia)
"My prodigal came home with a lot of baggage. Through prayer that baggage is being left along the roadside as we travel our journey to complete restoration. Our God is so faithful to never give up on us no matter how many times we cling to the handle of that baggage." (Oklahoma)
“After almost two years of praying and standing, not giving up and keeping the faith, my husband has returned home. Please don’t give up on your spouses for any reason, I am a true witness. God Bless.” (North Carolina)
"My husband filed for divorce. I have been standing with the Lord for restoration and refusing to accept what I was seeing in the flesh. Things looked hopeless. Last night, my husband was at the house, gathering documents for the divorce when God turned his heart. This morning my husband has told me to cancel my attorney. He is dismissing the divorce and moving back home. God gets the glory." (Texas)
“All praises and glory to God. My husband came home. I was going to call it quits then, suddenly out of the blue, he came over. He said he waited all night to come and speak to me with flowers. He said the Lord spoke to him. He walked me to our class and I was touched. Thank You Lord. You are working on my husband.” (Texas)
"One year ago, my world came crashing down around me. I'd been a military wife and learned my husband led a secret life behind my back. His life was filled with sin. When he was home he was a devoted father, husband, and servant in the church. I was devastated and lost all hope. He never actually left the home, but emotionally he was gone. This man was stone cold towards me. I ran out of my own strength very early on, but God lifted me up and carried me through the most difficult journey of my life. My family and Christian friends told me to give up and that I was justified, but God promised me my marriage would be restored. I chose to trust in God and to this day my marriage is stronger than it has ever been and I love my husband more than I thought possible. I tried to give up almost daily, but God's Word and His promises gave me hope and increased my faith. I knew if I gave up on my husband he was a ticking time bomb and nobody else would care about his salvation and love him like I did. I see God working in his life daily and I am amazed at the man he's become." (Virginia)