Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"After a separation and divorce, the Lord answered my prayers. I am so happy to report that after 1 year of prayer, forgiveness and change, my family is getting back together and we are remarrying. Our understanding of each other is beyond what I could have ever expected and our children couldn't be happier." (Florida)
“I came across this website more than a year ago when my husband and I separated. I had no hope but somehow God never let me give up. We are now back home together and extremely happy. And it truly was suddenly. My husband and I had gone for mediation and were on the verge of divorce...but God! I wish I could share all that God has done during my stand, it was unbelievable! I always believed in God but only through this struggle have I came to really know Him. Standers, please don't give up. Keep standing, keep believing. My husband laughed when I told him before that we would end up together but now all I hear from him is how much he loves me. The road is long and there will be many tears but having your marriage restored...it's an incredible feeling. Even my relationship with my in-laws have improved tremendously. In my wildest dreams I never could have seen our story end this way but God never let me quit.” (South Africa)
"After false returns, I was embarrassed to send a testimony. Now after months of restoration I can say my Lord has changed my husband’s heart of stone and has given him a heart of flesh. There is power in the Word of God. Thanks, Charlyne and Bob, for supporting me. Praise be to God." (Sweden)
“I pray the Holy Spirit uses this testimony. My husband left me suddenly. God told me pray like never before! I drew close to God in every way. Everyone, including my husband, told me to divorce him. He rejected God. Everything (in circumstances) said that it was over. I prayed for him every day and stood firm. I knew that these difficult circumstances were not something that was out of God's control. He finally reached out to me and said he couldn't do it any longer. He confessed everything. I got him safe to treatment, he accepted Christ in his life this week, and repented and asked for my forgiveness, which I readily offered! He says he loves me and has always loved me and thanks me for standing by him. He and I feel hope for our marriage. The Lord has great plans for our lives!” (Ohio)
"I used to write you praying for God to bring my husband home and he did four years ago, but he came home a different man. He had a motorcycle accident and was in a coma for months. I never gave up on him, through his drugs, other women and a coma. God told me to hang on and I did. Now my best friend/husband is learning life all over again and he is home and I am more grateful than you will ever know. We have a long road ahead, but we will do it together, hand in hand with God in the lead. Thank you for helping me to never give up." (California) (A PS from Pompano - You need to be ready for God to bring your spouse home at any time and in any condition, as this wife was.)
"God brought my spouse home after an absence of several months." (Virginia)
“Praise the Lord. Thank You God. This has been a horrible week where I felt as though I was hitting a wall whenever I tried to pray. What I didn't know was that the Almighty Father was working on my spouse's heart. He arrived home suddenly with all of his belongings to move back in. Our son was so happy he was crying. We all went to church the next morning and our son could not stop hugging his dad. Thank You God for bringing my family all back together. I will never stop thanking the Lord or praying for my marriage and other standers’ marriages. Pray and trust. ‘Do not fear, only believe.’ Mark 5:36.” (Florida)
"Your ministry has been such an encouragement in my stand. Many times I had wanted to give up because the hurt was more than I thought I could bear, your "Charlyne Care" emails would get me through. I thought so many times that my situation was impossible to change, but you would always remind me that with God all things are possible, no matter what the circumstances are. I had told a friend that all I could do was pray and I was corrected and was told that, that is everything you can do, and that is so true. My husband returned home in December. God is faithful. 'When I am afraid I will trust in thee.' was a verse that I often quoted to myself in tough times. I still read your email everyday and they still keep encouraging me. God never fails." (New York)
"My husband and I separated for several months. I was an emotional wreck. I began praying and believing God for my miracle. I later realized I had made my stand an idol. I asked God to forgive me for not appreciating Him and the life He had blessed me with, and for carrying on as if I could not live. That same night my husband came home. Bless the Lord." (Illinois)
"My husband left in a rage threatening me and declaring he wanted a divorce. I had no idea where he was. I called for a day of prayer for him yesterday and prayed that I would hear from him. He called me this morning and told me he was with a family member and that he and God were talking and he was sorry for all he had done and said. Love never fails." (Maine)
"I have been standing for many months and my husband came home this week. There had been no sign of his return. God revealed Himself through answered prayers in a mighty way. My husband came home out of obligation more than love, just as God prepared me. The road ahead will be long as my husband mourns the break-up with the other woman but things are going exactly as God showed me they would. I know He is in control. We serve an awesome God." (Illinois)
“Praising God Almighty, my husband came home on New Year's Day! What an awesome way to start off 2014. All the testimonies I have read can never compare to actually living it. He said things that were what I was waiting to hear but the most incredible thing he said was, ‘I love you and I always have.’ I truly never thought he would say that until later into our reconciliation... but God. There were so many great moments but another one was when he thanked me for standing! Our three children are overjoyed and getting to see what a mighty God we serve. For you standers out there, stay strong, He is faithful and He will do it! All I keep thinking about is Ephesians 3:20. Don't be discouraged, stand strong to see firsthand what a mighty God we serve” (New Jersey)
"I give thanks to the Lord. My husband's attitude toward our marriage changed. He returned home a month ago and we have been very happy enjoying every minute of it. He is doing his best to make everything right again. I know I must continue looking to the Lord for help. The battle is not our, but the Lord's. God answers prayer." (Florida)
"It looked like the end when we were granted a divorce on Tuesday. My wife had a change of heart and we started talking. Two weeks later we are putting a deposit on a new apartment and making plans for the future. I cannot wait to get back under the same roof again. Praise God." (Rhode Island)
“Glory be to God, another battle has been won. My husband and I were separated for many months under impossible circumstances. I believed God that He would restore my marriage, but my fears and questions were, when God? I practiced zipping my lip a lot. Anyway, I blew it big time yesterday because my hubby was being extremely selfish. Afterward, I felt hopeless and felt I had frustrated God’s efforts. Twenty-four hours later, and I tell you, it was the least thing I was expecting, my husband returned home! Thanks be to our Father, who is working even when we don't see. He is truly, truly working." (Australia)
"My husband has suddenly come home. He apologized for how bad he treated me and the children. He says he sees a change in me and that I am glowing. I told him that is the Holy Spirit." (Florida)
"All the glory to God! After many months, my suddenly happened, and I witnessed the moment God changed her! I withdrew my divorce filing, so she was aware that I was standing and knew God told me He would restore us. She’d been staying in our home for a couple of weeks and was able to see how God has changed me. He was working in her. Last week, we spent five days on vacation as a family – her idea! When we got home, we were talking, and at one point I said, ‘That was before. I was very selfish then.’ At that very moment, I saw her eyes soften, and she walked over and hugged me tight! It was the first physical contact she’d initiated in many months! I hugged her back, and she was crying and said, ‘I want to come home. I want to come back to my house.’ Sunday, she brought some clothes back and came home with her ring on! I didn’t have to say a thing. She wanted to put it back on! Our God is so awesome! TRUST Him and never give up! Just let go and TRUST Him!” (South Carolina)
"We divorced and my husband remarried. I found your website and started my stand. We barely had contact except through authorities. God is good and after years of separation and no ontact, I got a call telling me that my prodigal was sick and almost dying. I called him and on the exact date we had separated. He told me it was time for us to get back together again. I went to see him and took care of him in the hospital. He has recovered. He and the other person have separated and now we have a new relationship. Praise God! I am going to help him move home closer to us. God is above all." (Sweden)
“It’s been many years and I am still standing. Praise God! When you step out into what He wants you to do, He is faithful. I have seen so many answers to prayer this year regarding my spouse. He is now attending church with me and the children. I am believing God that my suddenly is coming! He has erased all of our debt, provided a new home and is restoring. God is able. Do not give up!” (United Kingdom)
“Wow! I don’t even know where to start. I have been standing for my marriage for almost two years. Last month I decided to fast and pray for 20 days for a breakthrough with my prodigal. He was living with the OW so there was little communication between us. I received many signs during this time to continue my stand. Five days after my fast was complete my ex-husband called me and asked me to come home right away. When I got there he hugged me and our daughter very tight and said that he was home! We got married four days later! This was from a man who said that he would never marry again....BUT GOD! It happened ‘all of sudden’ just like RMM said it would. I'm so grateful for this ministry that gave me daily hope. Our God is awesome! Even when we don’t see it, He is working it out! Please standers, don’t give up! He will do just what He said He would do!” (Kentucky)
"God is faithful. My husband has been gone for months. Not only have I been praying for him to come home, but that he would get another job due to the stress it caused. I was hired at a new job and a week later my husband was hired by my boss. My husband asked me out to dinner the night before his job opportunity and a week later he came home. He even bought us new wedding bands yesterday. Praise God, He is working on both of us." (Kentucky)
"My husband and I divorced after I committed adultery. The Lord later changed my heart and I became the stander, but by that time my husband had a girlfriend. My husband came back to me just long enough for me to get pregnant. When he found out about the pregnancy, he went back to his girlfriend. They were discussing marriage. While I was pregnant and standing, the Lord sent me a dream that he would be back home by Christmas. He came home in late November 2008 and we were married last week." (Texas)
"God is so good. Friday my spouse told me he's ready to turn his path and work on our relationship. We have been talking daily since and spending time together. God is the center of restoration and I pray to Him more daily because this is only the beginning. Thank you for your ministry. God bless you and your family." (Indiana)
"My husband has been home for several months. Last week he took it upon himself to pay our household bills, something he has not done for years. What I expected to see happening in the restoration of this marriage, is not how the Lord is working things. I have been praying daily for my husband and big changes are happening all around me. Prayer does work." (Wisconsin)
"I had written that my husband came home after being separated. Now, a year later, my marriage grows stronger every day. We are very much in love with each other. Not only did God heal my marriage, but He also healed my womb. I am several months pregnant with our first child. Glory to God." (New Jersey)
"My husband left, but the next month moved back home. I stood on God's Word. Even though I felt broken and alone, God was with me all the time. We're now communicating and loving each other, spending time with one another and with the children. I am grateful to the Lord for restoration. (Maryland)
“I came to your site searching for help when I found out how the devil was working out plans to destroy my marriage and family. Being a Christian, I did not know how to handle this but I am grateful to the Holy Spirit who guided me as I was encouraged, taught and strengthened to face the enemy. Despite a divorce some years ago, my marriage has been restored. We were remarried in February this year according to what our Great Lord had planned. 2013 is the year for change, new start and restoration. I have seen how God accomplished what He had started. To everyone in the same situations, please I beg you, don't lose hope. It was very difficult but great victory is assured in the mighty Name of Jesus.” (Mauritius)
"God has perfect timing. After months of separation in different states from my wife and daughters, God's vision has been evident for us to see. My wife and I and our children are planning to be home again with each other in a neutral state where we can continue to grow in our commitment to Christ. Thank God for your ministry." (Georgia)
"Glory to God, my prodigal has come home after being away for years. He wants to take it slow. I am still standing for my spouse as I know the devil is prowling around like a roaring lion. Thank you, Rejoice Marriage Ministries. You have shown me how to grow in the Lord. We can't do it alone without the Lord Jesus Christ." (Kansas)
“Praise God! His promises just keep manifesting left and right! My husband and I have been separated for several months and he filed for divorce not too long ago. Another woman was involved and in the natural our situation looked so hopeless. But God! I started standing and walking in love towards my spouse and he immediately noticed a difference. No longer was I hurt and angry and defensive, but I had a peace that even my prodigal could see. He began texting me and emailing me to actually coming over and just hanging out with the kids and me. This turned into him spending the night twice because he didn’t want to be in his new house alone! Now he's telling all his friends that we are trying to work things out! PTL! There's a long way to go but God has brought us this far and He will perfect that which concerns us. Never give up, even when things look impossible!” (Texas)
“Glory and Honor to my God. My husband returned home after several months of living in sin. God fulfilled His promise. I came to Your feet, sad and with great need of You. You opened your arms and comforted me. Thank You my Lord. Forever I will worship You, because only in You I put my trust. If You are for me who can be against me?” (United States Minor Islands)
A TESTIMONY OF A RESTORED MARRIAGE
I was a Christian or so I thought. I prayed when I needed something. I praised when all went well. I pursued my career and wasn’t a biblical wife. I would never dream of making dinner for my husband or straightening the house because he was coming home. After all, I had worked all day taking care of the children. And the house, well he was the one with the problem with it, let him clean it. Blessing him? Why didn’t he bless me? I did all the work. I sat through a class one time where a woman discussed this very thing and I scoffed. “What century is she from?”
But when he said he wanted a divorce, my heart broke into a thousand pieces. My friends told me he was a bum and to get on with my life. People at the church I started to attend told me divorce was okay. Some of the pastors had been divorced. After all he had committed adultery. So, as I lay on the bedroom floor, in the fetal position, crying so hard I couldn’t even breathe effectively anymore, I cried out to the only One I thought maybe could help. That was the start of a faith walk.
First I had to believe He was real. And although throughout life I had prayed, even praised, I really had never come to the core of…is God real? I set out to find out. (More likely He set about revealing Himself.) And low and behold, one thing after another fell into place. I reconnected with an old friend who knew so much about God and His Word. I soaked it up like a sponge. I was bone thirsty for the Word of God and His promises. As I did, the chains broke off and I started to walk in that freedom that I had never understood and strange things started to happen.
I could hold my tongue in heated situations. I could be humble and even apologize. I could even apologize when I wasn’t really wrong. Just because God asked me to do it. Just to keep peace. I could be right, and lay down my right and let the other person be right. I could just shut my mouth, and let God be my justice. I started to hear God and walk in obedience.
I prayed about selling our dream house. I clearly “felt” like I should sell it and called the broker. It sold in three days and we were able to pay off many bills. I called the tenants at our rental house and told them that we needed the house back. They found a place to live in three days and we could move in right away.
But the one prayer that eluded me was, “God bring my husband home.” I begged. I pleaded. I cried. The children and I moved back to the old house and the divorce was going through. One day I was sitting in the parking lot of a Christian bookstore, crying, waiting for them to open so I could buy some self-help book someone recommended. Suddenly I wasn’t in the car anymore, I was standing before Jesus. He held me in His arms, stroked my hair. I sobbed onto HIS beautiful robe, it absorbed my tears, and yet there was no dampness on HIS robe. He told me, “This is not what I wanted for you. I will contend with your husband for you.” Now that should have been the end of the conversation. I mean I had come face to face with Jesus Christ of Nazareth. I had been given a promise from the ONE.
I continued to pray. I continued to cry out. In all of that crying out, praying, and most importantly worshiping, I learned a lot about God. God showed me HIS view of adultery, and how to stop looking at the speck in my husband’s eye and focus on the plank in my own. We had conversations about me, my self-righteous attitudes, and my view of HIM. About how I must think I am God. After all, my prayers were merely directives, telling HIM what I wanted and how He should do it. I knew He had changed my heart one day while I was thanking God for so much and out of my mouth flew, "Thank YOU for the divorce." I was shocked at what I heard my voice say, but truthfully without this situation in our lives I wouldn’t have gotten to have this very personal intimate relationship with God.
Through all of this, God was teaching me to die to self. He was teaching me to walk in obedience and be humble. Like that first Christmas I couldn’t afford a tree or anything for that matter. But God told me to go and buy one for my husband, the woman he was living with, and her son. I left work and drove toward their house. I said, “God where am I going to find a Christmas tree?” But as I approached their street, there was a Christmas tree lot directly across the street. I said, “God, what if they already have a tree?” He said, “Well then they will have two. But do you think I would send you out on a rainy night to buy a tree they already have?” Duh!!! I said, “God what if they are home? You told me to not tell them that I did it.” God said, “Since I set this up, why don’t you let Me worry about the details.” And sure enough, nobody was there. The next day someone gave the children and me a Christmas tree. My husband called to talk to the children, and asked to speak to me. He never asked to speak to me without something nasty to say. So I braced myself, and he asked if I had bought them a Christmas tree, I told him, “yes” and I saw one of the first cracks in my husband’s heart. With great pain, fear and trepidation I agreed that the children could go there Christmas Eve night and come home Christmas morning. With great pain, fear and trepidation. This softened Stephen’s heart even more towards me. I was at home Christmas Eve night, crying on the couch when he and the boys pulled in the driveway. He spent the night. We woke up Christmas morning together as a family. Apparently the woman and her son did the same at his father’s house.
There was a Christmas present under the tree for him because God had told me to buy it. Three weeks before Christmas my husband was not even speaking to me. Only cold stares, and mean comments, if he spoke to me at all. But God told me to spend every penny I had on a gift for my husband. I had doubts. What if she had bought him this item? What if he threw it back at me? But God said, “His response is not why you are obedient to me. You are obedient to me because of who I am to you.”
Much to my shock and pain, he came and went several more times over the next two years and continued to pursue hard after a divorce. The settlement was terrible. No child support and I was going to end up with all the bills. My gut ached. I knew I couldn’t swing the bills. I cried out in prayer and cried over that divorce. I said, "God what do I do about this? This is terrible. It is like he is getting everything he wants.” And then it occurred to me, “Yes, yes, he is going to get everything that he wants, like the prodigal son.”
Truly and honestly the number one thing that got me through all of this was to surrender to doing things the way Christ would have me do them. As for me, in any way a situation concerned me, I was to be at peace. If God asked me to do something He would provide a way to accomplish it. I learned to rely heavily on the HOLY SPIRIT to show me what to do in every situation. I learned that usually what I needed to do was not going to look anything like the church or others thought it should. I learned that God is a very BIG, BIG God and was almost always going to do something unexpected.
After more than two years he came home. It was another five years before we were remarried this summer on the beach. I always thought our situation was impossible. I read Charlyne’s story and I thought, well she didn’t face this detail or that detail...but the truth is it didn’t matter because the details are for God to work out. He can and will restore your family.
“I just want to praise the Lord because my marriage was restored suddenly. My husband came back home suddenly! PTL. After so many prayers and scriptures, the Lord did it suddenly. I know this could only be from God. Now my family is back together, to God be the glory for all He has done!” (North Carolina)