Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
“After several years of standing for my wife to come home, two weeks ago she texted me saying she couldn't do it anymore by herself. My suddenly has happened. We are now planning on getting remarried in February of next year. I am still in awe at God's power. I had given up towards the end and started to try to move on with another woman but God wouldn't allow it. I tried but God told me, ‘What makes you think I'm going to give you more or less than what I already promised you.’ Now we are doing great and there is blessing every step of the way. We have a long ways to go and, as she said, a lot of catching up to do. God is so wonderful and gracious. Please never give up standers. You never know when your suddenly will come. Stay faithful and wait on God. Make Him your spouse as you await the arrival of your broken spouse. God will restore if you just wait on Him. Thank you RMM for all your support and help. May God continue to use you in a mighty way like He has in my life. God bless!” (Louisiana)(posted 9/24/2012)
"After several months of standing, my husband suddenly returned home two weeks before Christmas! We serve an amazing God. And thank God for Rejoice Ministries. They kept me standing when I did not have the strength to stand. Our reconciliation has been difficult but my wonderful Savior has drawn me so close to Him that I know He will restore my marriage to more than it was before this nightmare began. Keep standing standers! God will honor your stand. Stand strong!" (Kentucky)(posted 2/18/2011)
"My prodigal husband of many weeks returned home today with such a different outlook concerning our marriage. He apologized for hurting us and said to me that marriage is for life. Praise God and thank you so much for your prayers." (Florida)(posted 1/18/2008)
"Three weeks ago my wife came back. Before that I started loving her unconditionally through God's grace and prompting. The relationship went from one where my wife refused to speak or communicate with me, to a point where she started coming by the house daily. Thursday before she came back, God sent me to I0saiah 7:7-9. Charlyne's topic that day was 'What To Do When Your Spouse Comes Back.' Friday God sent signs telling me my wife was coming back. On Saturday my wife came back. What God started He will finish." (California)(posted 10/31/2008)
"My husband wanted a divorce so I moved out. I started standing and praying. Nothing was happening and my husband was still convinced that he wanted a divorce, but I continued to believe God for the restoration of our marriage. On Mother's Day my husband took me on a date and the Monday after Mother's Day he asked me and my son to move back in so we can be a family again. Praise God." (Florida)(posted 5/19/2006)
“To Our Lord and Savior Jesus be all praise and glory. After two and a half years, another marriage, many mistakes by me, and more hours crying out to God then I could ever recall, my wife and one flesh mate is home. I cannot begin to describe the process that brought us to this glorious time except to say God kept His Word. When my wife left and God told me to wait for her I didn’t know what to make of it. He told me He had given me one wife and the only one He would give me. He told me to wait for her and be faithful to my vows. Yes it was suddenly, but it was a reunion I will praise Him for forever. I was worried when that day came that I would still be hurt and angry. But God took just enough time to take all that away and build the love and complete forgiveness I would need to welcome her home without condition or reservation. Don’t give up, not ever. He is not slow to keep His promises; He takes just the right amount of time to make us ready and complete His work and not a day more.” (Alaska)(posted 8/31/2012)
"God is good. My husband came home after being gone for months. He slowly starting coming around and started spending more time with me and the kids. He stated seeing what the Lord has done in my life. He is now home and attending church with us. I give all my praises to God." (California)(posted 8/15/2008)
"My spouse and I have been back together for several months after divorce, and I thank God. I was in a car accident and my spouse was there to support me. I realized that he still loves me. I'm still standing for my marriage." (Arizona)(posted 12/8/2007)
“My husband came back after many months of separation. On many occasions I wanted to give up, but your website encouraged me and my suddenly came one night when the Holy Spirit said to me He is coming back very soon. I asked God how long is Your soon and within an hour he was home. Never give up because God is working on the other side. I am still in awe of what God can do if you believe.” (South Africa)(posted 8/19/2013)
"Nothing compares to the promise we have in Jesus. After years of separation and divorce, my prodigal and I were remarried one month ago. A year ago, there was no indication of reconciliation. He was still trying to marry someone else. He started the journey home and a few months later was talking about our future. I never took off my wedding band during the journey and now I have a new one with rubies because my husband says I am the Proverbs woman whose price is far above rubies. I wear them both. God is faithful to perform what He what He has promised." (Illinois)(posted 8/4/2006)
"My husband is home, but we are still rebuilding the foundation of our marriage. Sometimes he is very friendly, and other times cold and distant. During one of those times, I asked him what was wrong. He didn't believe the changes in me. He said they weren't humanly possible. I told him that he was exactly right. God is amazing." (Tennessee)(posted 8/6/2010)
“Our Lord moves mountains, PTL. After a year and a half separation, my prodigal is home. The devil led him astray and he hardened his heart and ears to the Lord. The Lord promises us that His Words do not return void. The Lord finds his lost sheep and while I let go and let God, always in prayer, God also found me and rebuilt me. Then He opened my husband's ears and softened his heart and showed him the deception that Satan had blinded him with. Our God is an amazing God. Praise and glory to Him. Never give up. Allow God to move the mountain and fill your heart and your prodigal’s because what He did for me He'll do for you. Amen.” (Florida)(posted 11/14/2012)
"As soon as I was able to let go and fully let God, my marriage was restored, thanks to the Lord. It all happened just like you said it would. God's time is perfect. My husband left the other woman suddenly, checked into the hospital to detox for alcoholism and came home broken and in need of love, first to God then to a praying, standing wife and our children. No questions asked. Zipping my lips, as you say, is what is making this all a joyful restoration. It is work in progress. He is now to God's glory the lead vocalist for our church choir. Watching him praise God with tearful eyes is what fills the holes that the Enemy tried to bore in me. Praise the Lord. What a mighty God we serve. I hope I can encourage every stander to never, never lose heart. Continue to hold on because just like Charlyne and Bob said, it was all worth what we have now. Thank you for being used by God to keep people like us shining the light for our lost prodigals to find their way home." (New York)(posted 11/25/2006)
“Praising God Almighty, my husband came home on New Year's Day! What an awesome way to start off 2014. All the testimonies I have read can never compare to actually living it. He said things that were what I was waiting to hear but the most incredible thing he said was, ‘I love you and I always have.’ I truly never thought he would say that until later into our reconciliation... but God. There were so many great moments but another one was when he thanked me for standing! Our three children are overjoyed and getting to see what a mighty God we serve. For you standers out there, stay strong, He is faithful and He will do it! All I keep thinking about is Ephesians 3:20. Don't be discouraged, stand strong to see firsthand what a mighty God we serve” (New Jersey)(posted 1/27/2014)
"I have been standing for many months and my husband came home this week. There had been no sign of his return. God revealed Himself through answered prayers in a mighty way. My husband came home out of obligation more than love, just as God prepared me. The road ahead will be long as my husband mourns the break-up with the other woman but things are going exactly as God showed me they would. I know He is in control. We serve an awesome God." (Illinois)(posted 5/14/2010)
PRODIGALS DO COME HOME
“To stand. To fight on my knees in prayer. To suffer and be persecuted for the sake of Christ and my husband’s salvation.”
I never knew what these words meant before my life changed forever on November 6, 2010. Three weeks before our seventh wedding anniversary, my husband admitted to a very recent affair. Confused, thinking he was feeling emotions of real love, he left me and my children. We had a newborn baby and a three-year-old. Devastation and shock doesn’t begin to describe my feelings. I was completely blindsided, weak, lost and in despair. Thankfully, the Holy Spirit inside me told me to cling to Jesus and to trust Him. I was so scared though, worried about my small children and fearing the future. I was desperate for answers and support. I tried to regain some control in an uncontrollable situation. Talking to family and friends, people gave me advice left and right. I tried to convince my husband we were God’s plan for one another but everything seemed to push him further away. I didn’t understand how and why this happened. I knew we had weaknesses in our marriage but I thought we always had time to make it better. I never realized how many ways God made me “one” with my spouse until he was no longer there. It felt like half of me was missing and I didn’t know how to function. I ached for his return.
Crying out to God day and night, I was so weary from caring for a newborn and my three-year-old on my own. I was completely drained from my fragile emotionalstate. As time went on, my circumstances were not getting better. I had to put a stop to listening and pleasing others. God was the only one I wanted to please. He alone was my true comfort. Psalm 62:5says:Find rest, O my soul in God alone; my hope comes from him.I so appreciated the loving people God surrounded me with during that time but God alone was my Rock. Thankfully, through faith, I never lost hope.
Early on in my stand, God led me to some wonderful scriptures.
For in the day of trouble he will keep me safe in his dwelling; he will hide me in the shelter of his tabernacle and set me high upon a rock. Psalm 27:5
Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord. Psalm 27:14
On that day they will say to Jerusalem, “Do not fear, O Zion; do not let your hands hang limp. The Lord your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing.” Zephaniah 3:16-17
I needed to be patient. God would take care of me. God showed me to pray for my husband with all I had and to not give up. But my circumstances seemedto get worse and worse. I heard the words “I never loved you at all” and “the kids will be fine, this happens to people all the time.” I was so shocked and dismayed that my husband was acting like a complete stranger. He was now completely rejecting God along with me, his covenant wife. He had moved in with the other person and filed for divorce. My pain was so extreme. I would lay on the floor weeping, unable to pull myself up. I even tried a divorce recovery group at a local church. But I felt so lost and didn’t belong there. They didn’t talk about praying for our estranged spouses or standing for one covenant marriage, one spouse for a lifetime. It was all about how to make myself better instead. I left that group, crying out to God for support.
Looking online later, I discovered Rejoice Marriage Ministries. I realized with joy in my heart, that everything I felt deep inside was biblical and there was a large ministry full of people just like me. Many others were willing to love their spouse unconditionally and stand for marriage restoration even past a divorce. RMM showed me specific scriptures to pray for my spouse like Psalm 51 and Acts 26:18 which says, “‘…to open their eyesand turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan to God, so that they may receive forgiveness of sins...’”I was emboldened to pray against evil. The devil had come into my home to steal, devour, and destroy. My prodigal husband was not the enemy!
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Ephesians 6:12
I was reminded that we are called to love like Jesus, especially in the words of 1 Corinthians 13. I was to love my prodigal no matter how he treated me in return. This was my calling from the Lord! Praying these scriptures over my marriage and family gave me peace, strength, and perseverance to push forth. I clung to God’s Word like never before. Worshipmusic replaced any others. Fictional books and watching television wereno longer interesting to me. All I wanted to do was pray for my husband using God’s words and find comfort within the pages of my Bible. I knew God could do miracles.
“For nothing is impossible with God.” Luke 1:37
I had let go of fixing my marriage by my own words and hands. I had to completely surrender my husband, marriage and family to God. I felt persecuted from believers and nonbelievers. No one could understand how I could love and choose to forgive such actions. But Jesus is that ultimate example. Through deep prayer and trying to listen to His voice only, I was led to Isaiah 55. God showed me that He would provide for me and my kids (v 1-2). He showed me that my husband would turn from his ways and be reconciled to God (v 6-7). God reminded me His thoughts and ways are way above and beyond my own (v 8-9). And that His will and Word would be accomplished (v 11). Finally, the other relationship would end, and our marriage would be restored all for God’s glory! (v 13). Praise the Lord! I had this complete peace my marriage would be restored in God’s timing. A peace filled me that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). As I prayed on my knees each day, I knew I had to be patient and love my husband from afar. My prodigal assured me it would never happen, but I knew God would fulfill His promise to me.
God was moving on the other side of the mountain without me knowing it. From the world’s perspective, my marriage had no chance. I heard of my husband’s engagement and saw a new ring on his wedding finger. I thought it couldn’t get worse. But as I prayed, God showed me this was the devilpulling out all the ammunition he had left to destroy my marriage and family. Satan was trying to convince me to give up on my prodigal! But it made me pray even harder. He came to visit and I had total peace and love for him. As time had passed, by the grace of God, my love had only grown for my husband. I knew he was lost in darkness (Ephesians 4:18-19) and I trusted in God who is mighty to save on His timing not mine. My husband’s eternal destination was more important than anything else.
A coupleweeks later, things started to change. My husband shared that he listened to some Christian music again and he wanted some of his old theology books. He started to be more kind, apologizing for his hateful words and for missing the beginning of our precious baby’s life. He started to “test the waters,” asking me questions. He still thought he had gone too far to come back home. I assured him of my love and open arms and that he is always welcome back home. On April 3, 2011 my prodigal husband walked through the door! It was completely over with the other person. He wanted to be my husband again and wanted to be a full time daddy to our boys. God had saved his heart and soul, praise be to God! My husband returned humbled and completely broken. I felt broken inside myself but God is faithful to restore our marriage and family completely. The cross and the love of Christ covers all sins, redeems all, restores all.
Now a year later, I am blessed to have my husband by my side. We have come through the fire and now work on our marriage day by day that brings glory to God. We are cleaving together as one in this new place, building day by day on the solid rock of Jesus. We now know the reality of evil and what it means to pray for each other, our marriage and family. I now pray the Armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-18) daily against the devil’s attacks so he never gets a foothold again in our home.
We have victory in Jesus! I have learned to persevere, to fill my mind with God’s truth and put off lies from the devil. I have learned to fix my eyes on Jesus and run this race He has called me to (Hebrews 12:1-2). I have learned to always stand and fight this labor of love for my marriage and family. Praise be to God who has rescued us from the darkness and set us on the solid rock of Jesus that cannot be shaken. Prodigals do come home, may all the glory be His!(posted 10/1/2012)
"Praise God, my husband has returned home. Although he is not admitting that it was God who sent him home, I know that it was the Almighty. I knew my prayers would be answered, but I didn't think it would be so quick. We have a lot of work to do and I know we can do it because I refuse to stop standing and praying." (Florida)(posted 10/11/2008)
"The Lord guided me all through the time of separation and divorce. I could not have done it without Him. If I had found this web site and your tapes sooner, I may not have been divorced. My husband has been home for two years now and I can't thank you enough." (Maine)(posted 1/19/2007)
"I want to thank you and praise the Lord for my husband coming home. We still have a lot to work on. but he is back in the house. This morning he left for work and told me he loved me. Praise God for all he has done in me and my spouse. Thank you Lord for bringing him home. I pray that my husband will find God himself. Thank you again for your Charlyne Cares and the web site." (Oregon)(posted 9/22/2006)
"My husband has returned. I trusted in the Lord and the Lord was true to His word. For the first time in my life I learned the Lord was my everything and I learned to trust Him." (California)(posted 3/7/2008)
"In a split second, my wife looks at me and sees where God is leading me and wants to be part of it. Then we were remarried. We were apart for years and now we are enjoying things with God at the center of it all." (Arkansas)(posted 9/7/2007)
"My husband and I separated and he said he was never coming back. He was very strong in his decision to divorce me, and I was strong in my decision to stand for our marriage. A couple weeks ago, my husband came back. I let him know that he is loved and forgiven, by me and by God. Miracles do happen." (California)(posted 2/1/2008)
My husband filed for divorce and we were suppose to be in court, but I stood and told him we were not getting a divorce. I have prayed for him ever since I started standing. I have almost given up many times, but God would not let me. Yesterday my husband called and told me he was cancelling the court case and is coming to Germany with our children. He is willing to make our marriage work. Thank you, Lord. 'For nothing is impossible with God.' (Luke 1:37) Amen. (Germany)(posted 9/1/2006)
"My husband has suddenly come home. He apologized for how bad he treated me and the children. He says he sees a change in me and that I am glowing. I told him that is the Holy Spirit." (Florida)(posted 5/1/2009)
"I sought the Lord and He heard my cries. My husband returned to our family after being gone for months and living with the other woman. I give all the praise and glory to Jesus who does answer prayer." (Texas)(posted 9/12/2008)