Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"My husband left. After much prayer, God impressed on me to that He would heal and restore. When I felt like I couldn't go on, God would send a friend, an encouraging word, or a confirming devotion from Charlyne Cares. I knew I had to hold on and wait. Praise God, my husband has been back home for six months. What Satan intended for our harm, God is using for good. We are together as a family, and worshiping in church together after almost two years apart. When it looks completely impossible is when God comes in." (Kentucky)(posted 6/1/2007)
“My suddenly happened on Saturday. And it came totally different from what I ‘dreamt’ and ‘hoped’ for. After many months of separation and hardly any communication, the OW broke off the relationship with my husband so he had nowhere to go. She phoned me to come to her house to basically come and get him and his stuff. Oh dear, everything just went so horribly wrong when he saw me.... I just kept praying and praying for strength and to zip the lips. He eventually came home hours later, moved into the spare bedroom downstairs, and he is a ‘stranger’ to me. I will keep on praying for the divine work of the Lord in our marriage and for His breath of life and the salvation of my husband. PTL for bringing my prodigal ‘home.’ He is under the same roof now and the rest will come in God’s perfect timing.” (New Zealand)(posted 8/1/2013)
"My husband returned to our marriage suddenly days before New Year's after having been away for years. I asked the Lord not to let me have another year of sadness and He gave me Isaiah 61 five times in a week from different sources. He is the God of miracles and His promises are absolutely true and certain." (South Africa)(posted 1/8/2009)
"One year ago tonight, I thought my world had come to an end when my husband left me for the OW. I had to take off work for a couple of weeks before I could function. I fasted and prayed like never before. I was led to RMM through a friend who stood for the restoration of his marriage. My husband and the OW told me I was delusional (speaking those things which are not as though they were). But who is delusional now? Tonight, I have my husband back in my life and it was SUDDEN, but the restoration is in baby steps. I am in awe at how God honors His word, praise, prayer, and fasting. My treasure is my relationship with my Lord from my stand. I learned from Charlyne that it does not matter what anyone says about my situation other than God. Ezekiel 17:24: "'All the trees of the forest will know that I the LORD bring down the tall tree and make the low tree grow tall. I dry up the green tree and make the dry tree flourish. I the LORD have spoken, and I will do it.'" (Georgia)(posted 9/17/2012)
“My marriage was so rocky. I thought I was trying real hard, but still imagined I deserved more. I stayed away for a year. I came back in faith exactly a year later, trusting my husband's anger would subside if only I would obey the Lord, and reconcile. Your website was my friend and encouragement when I had little external encouragement. A year later, we couldn't be happier, and all has been healed ! It is true that only one spouse standing makes a difference and God still does miracles! I will never be sorry I came back home. I believe my kids are better off, and we are all happier. Thank you and Him!” (Wyoming)(posted 2/11/2014)
“God has suddenly brought my spouse home. Our daughter announced we're getting back together to her teacher. Her teacher came to tell me she heard the good news and then she shared that ever since she was four-years-old she has been wishing that her parents would reunite. Divorce impacts a child their entire life.” (Missouri)(posted 8/30/2012)
"My husband has been home since May. Although we sometimes struggle with issues, I give it to God. I give him all the praise. My husband realizes how much he was deceived. I am just so happy that my family is together again." (Florida)(posted 11/25/2006)
"My husband moved back home this past week. We have been in weekly marriage counseling. My husband made a promise to not speak of divorce again. The Lord does answer prayers." (Michigan)(posted 6/5/2009)
"I praise God for restoring my marriage. My wife was ready to leave me. I still loved her very much, but my sinful ways had caused many problems in our marriage. I finally realized that I needed God in my life and I asked Him to forgive me of my sins. Since then I have been reborn as a new man in Christ and He has helped me to overcome the worldly temptations. My wife has now started loving me once again. She can see that I am a changed man. I praise God and thank Him every day." (Ohio)(posted 7/10/2009)
“After being gone many months, my husband began sleeping at the house...and then he never left. It took six weeks for me to realize he'd moved home! There was no conversation or apology, just a changed man. I had doubts and I wavered (a lot). Every morning I woke up and read the encouragement waiting for me on this site, and then I warily began my day in faith. One day at a time, the many, many months came to an end and in the midst of it all, Charlyne guided me. This woman I'd never met taught me to pray for my husband and how to find comfort in God's Word. This stranger supported me when others doubted me. My husband and I are packing for vacation. God is healing our marriage and restoring it to something more than we could have imagined. A year ago I was hurting so deeply that I couldn't even imagine a day when we would vacation again. Today my heart is full.” (Oklahoma)(posted 8/26/2013)
God has been good. He has looked beyond my faults and has seen my needs. I was a stander. My husband and I have been separated for some years and towards the end I allowed the devil to capture me also. We were both in other relationships. I gave up…but God! I have a praying father-in-law and mother. My husband came home last week with all his stuff. He is still in the other relationship but I know God is working and I ask that you continue to pray for us. That we both fully surrender our lives and our marriage to God's will. God deserves all our praises.” (Jamaica)(posted 11/14/2012)
“My suddenly moment happened after months of praying for my husband. I prayed that morning that the Lord would surprise me somehow through my husband and that night, He did. The date was a special date to the both of us and God knew it. My husband came home changed, PTL. The Lord is continuing to restore us and renew our hearts towards Him. I will forever be thankful to RMM and all your prayers. Don't give up, God never will!” (Florida)(posted 1/13/2014)
"Last Thanksgiving my husband of 15 years came home from his job in another state to inform me that our marriage was over. It was hopeless. He was tired of the pain and wanted to be happy. I didn't know he had been unhappy; it was a shock to me. His isolation in a 'far country' allowed him to be deceived. He became the proverbial prodigal. I cried out to God and sought God's direction in His Word. I didn't know what standing was, but that is what He had me do. I travailed in prayer and fasted. I prayed that God would turn his heart toward home again. He did, but, my husband was double minded. I used spiritual warfare, rebuking and binding demonic forces, and I pleaded the Blood of Jesus over my husband. Over the past year, I have seen him change back into the sweet loving sane husband he used to be. This Thanksgiving he is eager to come home and just enjoy his family life. During that very trying time, I read "Charlyne Cares" every day. It was such a source of strength, encouragement, and direction for me. There were times when I just wanted to give up, or let him have it, or whatever. But, the daily devotionals stabilized me to stand." (New York)(posted 11/22/2006)
"Things keep improving in my marriage every week. My husband is home and is considering taking our house off the market. God is awesome." (Texas)(posted 11/24/2006)
"My prodigal returned home some time ago. He is still fighting addictions and has not accepted Christ as his Savior yet. This past week I looked in the bedroom saw my husband on his knees by the bed. When I entered the room he was crying like a baby and asked me to pray for him. He will be saved soon." (Florida)(posted 5/28/2010)
“God is more than wonderful! The OW was always writing me that my husband would divorce me and marry her. All the time God gave me Isaiah 54. After a few years of praying, fasting and waiting, God confirmed for me in many ways to go back to Mexico with my two little boys. ( We were living very alone in Germany). God opened in an awesome way all the doors in Mexico and three months later my husband left the OW and came to Mexico with us. His love for God is now greater than before and our marriage and his relationship with the kids is better than ever. God is faithful! Keep on praying, fasting and believing what God has already said. He will do it in His perfect timing.” (Mexico)(posted 3/18/2013)
"God brought my spouse home after an absence of several months." (Virginia)(posted 6/20/2008)
"My husband has been home for a few months after many false attempts. He is going to a Christian college majoring in theology. Sometimes I think that God has a sense of humor since my spouse is still not living a Christian life yet he wants to study in a Christian environment. This was also our first Thanksgiving together in many years and we went to Florida to visit family. For the first time I saw the Rejoice billboard that reads 'Forgive Them.'" (Georgia)(posted 12/4/2009)
Barren For 10 Years!
Eight days after our 10th wedding anniversary, my husband asked for a divorce. I was devastated, but it took this to utterly break me before God. That night, I didn’t go to sleep, but the Lord led me to scripture after scripture. I finally fell to my knees before my own sin. I couldn’t look away, blame, or give excuse for all the selfishness, pride, disrespect, disobedience, and rebellion that I had lived in for all 10 years of our marriage. Instead of feeling anger or betrayal toward my husband, I saw exactly the unlovable person I had been asking him to love all these years and I understood. The Lord changed me that night. I didn’t become a different person overnight, but each day God would strip away another layer. Immediately, He led me to a group of women who were standing for their marriages! They led me to Rejoice Marriage Ministries where I learned that I was a “stander,” and my husband was a “prodigal” (Luke 15). I loved that! It was so apt.
I believed my husband when he said there wasn’t another woman, but the Lord was preparing me for a different story. After a month of standing, the Lord was asking me if I would stand, even in infidelity. See, God knew the hardness of my heart. If I had initially known my husband had found someone else, I would have never been broken. I would have raged against my husband and would have felt justified as I took everything he had. But then, I would have never stood in the gap for my husband’s soul. Now, I know that everyone around me knew about the other woman, but they wouldn’t tell me. That was God. It took His work in me and gentle nudges to show me what His marriage covenant really means. As you know, the covenant made before God has no stipulations. I did not vow to love until my husband cheated. I did not accept a ring only until my husband’s love disappeared. I vowed until death, and God was holding me to that vow. It didn’t matter that it was the worst day of my life when my husband finally told me about the other woman. The next day wasn’t much better. I helped my husband move out, believing that God would bring him back. All of this, my husband knew, but he wouldn’t “come to his senses” for a while yet.
I was commanded by God to do four things:
1. To Stand: When I was so overwhelmed with how determined my husband was in pursuing this divorce, I told God that I didn’t want to fight this battle and I didn’t want to have to try and find a Christian lawyer to defend my stand. God spoke 2 Chronicles 20 to me and let me know quickly that I wouldn’t have to find a lawyer, nor would I have to fight this battle. It was HIS battle, and He was going to win it for me!
2. To Wait: I thought this meant that I would have to wait for my husband to come home, but God said I was to wait on Him and the work He was going to do in our lives.
3. To Be Silent: Whew! If you only knew me, you’d know how nearly impossible this is! But God was working and nothing is impossible for Him (Luke 1:37). I tried so many times to reason with my husband and point out what God was showing me, but it wasn’t my place and it only hardened my husband’s heart toward me. Through this, God showed me that I am nobody’s Holy Spirit. I can’t convict, and I can’t change a person’s mind. That is God’s job, but He showed me that what He does lasts forever, so I’m glad I can’t change anyone…it wouldn’t last. God told me that no man could change my husband. He was the only one who could change my husband and I needed to let Him work!
4. To Be Still: This was the hardest command. As my husband progressed in the Far Country, I saw the state of his soul. I couldn’t believe a born-again believer could believe the lies Satan was telling him. Satan takes the Word of God and twists it to fit what the flesh wants, which Charlyne taught me only leads to doing the will of Satan (2 Timothy 2:26). My husband was trying to find biblical justification for all of his actions and what his flesh wanted. Obviously, he couldn’t but he gave it his best effort. Needless to say, and he finally admitted it after he came home, he was miserable out in the Far Country, even though he told me then how “peaceful” he was! (Standers don’t believe anything your prodigal says!) There were many days I would lie on the floor in our home begging God to release me from this stand. I didn’t want my husband anymore after seeing where Satan had taken him. I didn’t want a man who would cheat on me. I didn’t want any of this! But God would let me rant and rave, then remind me of all the promises He’d given me and remind me that this path, though excruciating, was His best for me. Daily, I had to surrender my will to Him, believing He knows what is best.
My husband works offshore. He sent me an email saying he was coming home in a few weeks when he came back in town. He told me he believed God had finally answered him. He sent an email to the other woman ending their relationship. I was amazed! The Holy Spirit told me to rejoice. Ah, but Satan wasn’t done yet! A few days later, I discovered that my husband was still talking to the other woman and was beginning to doubt coming home. As the days drew closer, my husband was determined that he wasn’t coming home and told me he may never come back. I was prepared for false starts thanks to your ministry, but the Lord reminded me that He had told me to rejoice. So instead of me telling everyone that my husband wasn’t coming home after all, I would say, “He says he’s not coming home…” Our God has a bigger plan, and thankfully, He’s greater than man (Job 33:12).
I invited my husband to our house for dinner the night he came in from offshore. Although he resisted, he finally agreed to come. I had a vision to run to him when he came home, just as the father did for the prodigal. When my husband pulled in, he parked in the back of our yard. I ran across our yard in my bare feet smiling the whole way. When I got to him, I jumped into his arms and bear hugged him. He was laughing and smiling. He now says that when he saw me do that he knew he wouldn’t be able to leave! That night he kept trying to leave, but God wouldn’t let him. I told him that I understood if he couldn’t stay…I knew God would bring him home! Finally, after watching him wrestle to the point of exhaustion, he started drifting off to sleep on the couch. I told him to come to bed, but he said he had to do something first. He went out to his truck where he left his cell phone and texted the other woman that he was staying home. Now I understand the struggle; she had told him that if he ever came back home, they were over. My husband told me that was the first night of sound sleep he had through all of this!
I have to admit, the restoration of our marriage has often been more difficult than the standing. God has reminded me that He is still working on the other side of that mountain, and He’s not done yet. I want to encourage other standers that God doesn’t work the way we think or expect. His ways are higher than our ways and our thoughts are not His thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9). The Lord has been revealing His truth in doses to my husband. I’m still learning to obey those four things God commanded me. Just because my husband is home and our marriage is better than it has ever been, it doesn’t change where we’ve been and who we are to become. I will forever be a stander for my husband and our marriage.
God gave me a lot of promises while my husband was in the far country and I look forward to God fulfilling every single one of them. The first promise He answered is the return of my husband. The second promise was recently confirmed. For 10 years I have been barren. We are pregnant with our first child! Standing and restoration have been hard, but I still believe my God is greater and He knows what’s best! “Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished!” Luke 1:45(posted 10/8/2012)
“Praise God! My suddenly has happened! My husband and I have been separated for months. He told me he did not want to be married with such conviction I believed him. I was going to give up my stand but God said no. So I continued to fast and pray. Last Sunday God told me it was over. I didn't know what He meant until a couple days ago. I received a text from the OW saying my husband was miserable and we belong together. The next day my husband called and said he wanted to talk. He told me he wants his old life back and his marriage. I received a text from the OW saying I need to be with my husband and she will never see him again. My soul is overjoyed with thanks and love for God restoring my marriage. Keep the faith standers. With God ALL things are possible. Be blessed; this is only the beginning.” (Nevada)(posted 12/16/2013)
"What Satan meant for harm, God has surely used for His glory. My wife and I are currently working things out. We celebrated our homecoming by building a bonfire and destroying everything she had accumulated in the far country. We then burned all the divorce papers, which disappeared along with the lawyers. It has been a long hard struggle for three years, raising children alone, but God has strengthened me beyond measure. I love His Word. I love His promises. But most of all I have fallen in love with my Savior. He can do all things. We have a lot of work to do now, but our God is faithful and I know He is there with us. Standers, no matter what Satan throws at you, don't give in. Turn to Jesus and leave it in the hands of the One who can handle it." (Alabama)(posted 11/17/2006)
"I finally started seeking God's face for the problems in my marriage and I am so thankful to Him that last year my husband came home very suddenly. God has done an awesome work in our marriage. It has been a long road, but it has been a wonderful one. I was saved in March and my husband was just saved in October. God has done things I could not imagine and put such strong feelings between my husband and I. Never give up on your marriage. My favorite scripture, is 'The Lord will fight for you, you must be quiet.' Exodus 14:14" (Kentucky)(posted 11/17/2006)
"We just passed the one year anniversary of the remarriage to my husband. The relationship could not have been any deader, with my husband's announcement to marry the other woman. Suddenly, the Lord breathed life into the dead situation. As a stander, I would read the Saturday Testimonies and cry out to the Lord, with the hope of one day being on the other side, reconciled and restored. God kept His promise. I am grateful to Rejoice Marriage Ministries for helping me to stand through biblical based principles and encouragement." (Illinois)(posted 7/6/2007)
“My husband filed for divorce, moved out, then came back home but with little remorse. The OW moved here to be with him. At times it was harder living together like this than living separately. I would pray for God to separate that other relationship by mountains and oceans. And SUDDENLY things changed. Here we are now. He is loving and remorseful, telling me I am the best wife. We are expecting another baby due any day and moving across the ocean to live near mountains, away from the OW. Thank You God for being faithful! I am getting to know my God as Healer, Restorer, and Redeemer and it is incredible! I still look forward to my husband's salvation and surrender to Christ.” (Texas)(posted 1/28/2013)
"All glory to the Lord. My husband returned to the Lord and moved back home with us this week. We know the enemy will continue his attack against our family, but we will trust in God to carry us through and fight the battle for us." (California)(posted 6/26/2008)
"My prodigal husband came to visit over the festive season. We decided on trying to sort things out, taking things one day at a time. I just love having him home. I thank God for what He has done. Thanks for your help. You encouraged me more than you will ever know." (South Africa)(posted 1/4/2008)
"Last Sunday my husband came home. He said that he missed us and wanted to come home, if I wanted him to. I told him that he was missed and we wanted him home. I praise God that I was home when he came, because I was supposed to be out of town. Thank you for your ministry which helped me greatly with my stand." (Arizona)(posted 8/4/2006)
"I received my summons for divorce during the week, and I have prayed and prayed for my husband to return. On the weekend my husband told me that he loves me and does not want the divorce to go through. We still have a long way to go, but with God on my side I know that we can work all our problems out." (South Africa)(posted 11/23/2007)
"My husband has been home for a few months now. Praise the Lord. I cannot tell you the date he arrived home. It was such a gradual process. I know that it will take a very long time for our marriage to be what God wants it to be. But I know who my Redeemer is. I am now visiting my parents while my husband stayed at home. I trust my Lord to keep us safe from the Enemy's grip while we are separated by miles once again." (Wisconsin)(posted 11/23/2006)
"After a year and a half of struggling, trying to figure out what to do and what not to do, praying and crying, I found this ministry and started receiving the daily devotionals which helped me stand and gain my strength to listen to God. He has brought my prodigal home. We still have work to do and God has work to do in us, but praise God my husband is home." (Florida)(posted 2/19/2010)
"My husband left me and filed for divorce. The divorce will be retracted and he has now been back reunited with the family. My kids are so excited to see their prayers answered. Thank you Bob and Charlyne for giving me hope and encouragement through your devotions and radio messages. The Lord has brought my prodigal home and is beginning to heal our family and my heart from this crisis. Nothing is impossible with our God." (California)(posted 10/4/2007)