Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"Praise the Lord. After a year of separation, my prodigal has returned home. We still have much work to do, but the words of Jesus Christ rings within my heart, 'Peace be with you.' (John 20:19). Thank you Bob and Charlyne for standing for Jesus Christ not just in marriage, but in life." (Georgia)
"Even though my husband stayed in close touch with me for all the years, I never had the first clue that he was so close to coming home. One day my husband came over and we starting talking about God. My husband was having a hard time sleeping at night. He said he kept feeling like he was almost hearing voices. I sent him home with some material. A few days later, he email me and asked about moving back home. He said he knew he had a lot of issues to work through, but knew he could do it if I would give him a chance. God's timing was perfect as we were able to celebrate our anniversary together." (State withheld due to ongoing nature of this restoration.)
"Glory to God, my prodigal has come home after being away for years. He wants to take it slow. I am still standing for my spouse as I know the devil is prowling around like a roaring lion. Thank you, Rejoice Marriage Ministries. You have shown me how to grow in the Lord. We can't do it alone without the Lord Jesus Christ." (Kansas)
"Your ministry has had an impact on building my faith and standing for my husband. I am from Sri Lanka and my husband left me. My Lord took over as I called to Him in the day of trouble. I sought the Lord with all my heart and He began speaking to me through the scriptures. I journaled everything and He even told me from Psalm 81 that I could rejoice. My prodigal walked through that door and we are now working things out together in the Lord's paths." (Sri Lanka)
"My husband left in a rage threatening me and declaring he wanted a divorce. I had no idea where he was. I called for a day of prayer for him yesterday and prayed that I would hear from him. He called me this morning and told me he was with a family member and that he and God were talking and he was sorry for all he had done and said. Love never fails." (Maine)
“After many, many years of standing, my prodigal’s heart is back home. Only God can do this as you pray His will be done. We celebrated our wedding anniversary together on Valentine’s Day, after many years of not being together We are working on reconciliation now. Forgiveness is the key.” (Florida)
"I want to praise the Lord because we are going on two years of a restored marriage. The Lord has changed my husband so much and has blessed us. I praise the Lord because we had lost everything but God has restored it more abundantly. We have a bigger home and my husband has a better paying job. God has blessed me and my children and changed my husband one hundred percent." (Texas)
“I divorced my husband and listened to friends who said I deserved better. Immediately, I felt so overwhelmed with guilt. But he was very angry and didn’t want to reconcile with me. He eventually found someone else. During this time I came across this website and started praying for my husband. My husband returned to me this Christmas. We are getting remarried next month. What an awesome God we serve. So don't give up. God is in control.” (Florida)
"Suddenly my husband turned up, 'weeping and praying' as God kept telling me he would. My husband has declared he is moving home. God has proven Himself." (United Kingdom)
"Last Sunday my husband came home. He said that he missed us and wanted to come home, if I wanted him to. I told him that he was missed and we wanted him home. I praise God that I was home when he came, because I was supposed to be out of town. Thank you for your ministry which helped me greatly with my stand." (Arizona)
“Praise the Lord! My beloved husband came by our home to say that he wanted our marriage to work! Isn't the Lord faithful? Three years ago, the Lord gave me Isaiah 58 to read and led me to this website. To all my fellow standers, continue to love our Lord and walk closely with Him. He loves you, your spouse, and your children. He will get complete glory out of your story! Don't give up on God because He won't give up on you...He is able! Forever standing for marriage and families." (Georgia)
"A few years ago I was dependent on Rejoice Marriage Ministries to keep me on track while God restored my marriage. If God can soften the heart of my prodigal He can do anything. God wants your prodigal back." (Florida)
God has changed our lives and the Lord has really blessed our marriage. We just celebrated our 35th wedding anniversary. We have been back together seven years.
Charlyne has taught us to pray for what you may have done wrong in your marriage. God led me to Celebrate Recovery. I sat there and cried as I had verbally abused my wife. She could not forgive me, so she left for someone else.
I was at Cell Group and when I returned home, my wife, Vickie had returned home, suddenly with our daughter. That is when the standing really starts. Our Celebrate Recovery leader and the Assistant Pastor were over for dinner last month. When I called to invite them to dinner, I shared with them the most wonderful words my grandson had said recently. His words made standing for marriage restoration worth doing. Our six-year-old grandson said to my wife, "Grandma it's been a while, can I stay overnight?" My heart just melted. That is the best anniversary present anyone could ask for!
As your books say, "We can break the generational curse of divorce." Our grandson was born with our marriage restored and he is so cute and loves his grandma so much.
"My wife told me she wanted a divorce. I got a lot of advice from family and friends to move on and give her a divorce, but God kept telling me he would restore our marriage. Praise God, He blessed us with a miracle and brought my wife home. We are getting marriage counseling and building our relationship God's way. Thank You Jesus." (Colorado)
“At the end of the summer my husband moved us into a home near his work. He had been gone for nearly three years before restoration. Though I was reluctant to leave the area where we lived for many years, God in his goodness has supplied much Christian fellowship and many friends in a short time. Restoration is happening all through our family between four generations. Miracles do happen and God is rebuilding our family on the Rock of Jesus Christ. Praise be to God! I hope this is of encouragement to others to know that God can restore a very large and diverse family. He does more than we can think or imagine.” (Canada)
“After being gone many months, my husband began sleeping at the house...and then he never left. It took six weeks for me to realize he'd moved home! There was no conversation or apology, just a changed man. I had doubts and I wavered (a lot). Every morning I woke up and read the encouragement waiting for me on this site, and then I warily began my day in faith. One day at a time, the many, many months came to an end and in the midst of it all, Charlyne guided me. This woman I'd never met taught me to pray for my husband and how to find comfort in God's Word. This stranger supported me when others doubted me. My husband and I are packing for vacation. God is healing our marriage and restoring it to something more than we could have imagined. A year ago I was hurting so deeply that I couldn't even imagine a day when we would vacation again. Today my heart is full.” (Oklahoma)
"I was praying for an Easter miracle. On Friday night (Good Friday) when I thought all was lost, my husband suddenly called and said he needed me. He said he needed to come home. He was done with the other person and really needed me. He had packed his car and was calling me from the road. God is faithful. All in His perfect timing." (New York)
“My suddenly happened! I received a call from my hubby asking if I could have company. We began to talk and I looked up and he had his wedding ring on. I almost burst out in tears. I was so surprised and shocked! One day lead to another and Sunday we went to praise the Lord. It was awesome. Later he said he didn’t want to go back! GOD HEARS..GOD KNOWS..GOD CARES! We were separated for many months. We were separated before for a while and he came back and stayed for some months. It was a false start but this time is a NEW START for us because GOD makes all things NEW. God can and will restore your marriage. Just believe, pray, fast, and be a doer of His Word. People came against me but I stood alone with God. He rewarded and delivered His promise. I will continue to trust God and COUNT IT ALL JOY.” (Missouri)
“My suddenly happened on Saturday. And it came totally different from what I ‘dreamt’ and ‘hoped’ for. After many months of separation and hardly any communication, the OW broke off the relationship with my husband so he had nowhere to go. She phoned me to come to her house to basically come and get him and his stuff. Oh dear, everything just went so horribly wrong when he saw me.... I just kept praying and praying for strength and to zip the lips. He eventually came home hours later, moved into the spare bedroom downstairs, and he is a ‘stranger’ to me. I will keep on praying for the divine work of the Lord in our marriage and for His breath of life and the salvation of my husband. PTL for bringing my prodigal ‘home.’ He is under the same roof now and the rest will come in God’s perfect timing.” (New Zealand)
"We just passed the one year anniversary of the remarriage to my husband. The relationship could not have been any deader, with my husband's announcement to marry the other woman. Suddenly, the Lord breathed life into the dead situation. As a stander, I would read the Saturday Testimonies and cry out to the Lord, with the hope of one day being on the other side, reconciled and restored. God kept His promise. I am grateful to Rejoice Marriage Ministries for helping me to stand through biblical based principles and encouragement." (Illinois)
“I wanted to stop by and encourage someone going through difficulty. I've had a restored marriage now over two years. The circumstances seemed impossible. My husband seemed so much in love with the other person but she's been gone from his mind, heart and life completely. I almost gave up because the storm was its biggest right before it was completely calmed by my Lord and Savior JESUS CHRIST. My husband is closer to the LORD, which I never pictured happening, and the Lord has placed other men in the same situation he was in so that he may help them not make the same mistakes. Praise our Lord for not giving up on us when we try to give up, and bless Charlyne and her ministry to continue what they do best. When I was about to give up, I would remind myself… if I cannot trust God to get me out of this situation then how could I trust him in other situations?” (California)
"My husband left 18 months ago. He then came home unexpectedly thru the power of God. We are doing well with God's help and are serving in our local church together. God is good." (Florida)
"Praise be to God for bringing my husband home. I thank God for allowing me to show my husband unconditional love. I can see the Lord at work in my husband. I can, for the first time ever, go straight to my Heavenly Father for guidance in my marriage. We still have a long way to go, but praise and glory goes to God that we will be able to take this road together." (California)
"I was sitting here praying and fasting for my husband that he would return home. I resolved to pray all night. He just returned home. Praise God." (Australia)
"Praise the Lord, we just celebrated our second anniversary of a marriage restored. God is faithful. Thank you, Jesus for carrying me through and calling me to this situation. Nothing is impossible for the Lord." (Minnesota)
“My husband has been home for a few months now. I am still in awe! I remember at the beginning of my stand how he told me he had no hope for us, and now he says he'll never leave again. This is God softening his heart! While his relationship with God still isn't where it needs to be, I can tell he's trying. I know the Holy Spirit is leading and guiding him into all truth, as this is my main prayer for him right now. There are still really bad days, but I keep walking in love, standing on God's Word, and I know that God will bring this good work to completion. He did not save my marriage to let it fail at this point. Standers, never give up. My situation was as horrible as it gets, but I set my face like stone and through the rough days I praised God all the more and quoted His Word continuously and the results are manifested. My husband is home! My marriage is being healed! God is so good and will watch over His Word to perform it.” (Texas)
“Praise God! I have been standing for many long months and my ‘suddenly’ has finally happened. God is so good and faithful. From the very beginning I fought this battle ‘on my knees’ and my Lord was with me the entire time! My spouse has a few more months on his lease - but we are looking for a new home together. From the beginning, God gave me my rhema word, ‘Restoration’ and in everything I read, saw or heard He was constantly reassuring me it WOULD HAPPEN! Dear standers, don't ever give up. God is true and faithful!” (Massachusetts)
I took off from work and the two of us moved all of their belongings back to our apartment. The Lord has been healing our relationship every day. I praise God for His miracle of restoration." (Oklahoma)
“PTL! My prodigal has returned! After some months of him insisting on permanent separation and most likely divorce, I have held onto the hope and encouragement to stay standing. When I woke up sad and lonely, I prayed scripture over both of us and our marriage. My emotions subsided and I was able to have the strength of the Lord. Tonight my prodigal told me because I am allowing the Lord to work in my heart, he has to do the same for himself. He is coming home!" (Missouri)
“I have given up a few times in my stand but God has always reminded me He is faithful and to trust Him. Earlier this year I received my suddenly from my beloved, but due to me giving up and detouring it caused us to split up. For months I agonized about missing my suddenly. I attended the Dallas Rejoice on the Road conference and was encouraged by Charlyne praying for me and my beloved. After the prayer, Charlyne told me to continue praying and be prepared to write my testimony. I decided to let go and let God, stop trying to control my spouse coming back to me, seek God for His will for my life, and grow in Christ. During the process God taught me to trust Him to move on the other side of the mountain and that He is faithful. Well to God be all the Glory. My spouse has contacted me to say he is now ready to work on us and reconcile.” (Texas)
“I felt neglected and alone. I had an affair. My husband knew and two years after the fact couldn't take it anymore and began to act out himself. I was at a loss. I knew it wasn't him; it was pain and anger. I clearly heard God tell me to stand; that He would reach my husband and give me a marriage seven times better than we'd ever had before. I spent months of praying and loving him as he continued to act out. I hated what he was doing, but I knew it was Satan and I knew God had already defeated Satan. Thanksgiving Day he told me he loved me and put his wedding ring back on. Two weeks later he bought me a new ring and re-proposed. My suddenly came just in time! PTL!” (Indiana)
"Praise the Lord, my husband came home suddenly. He is being delivered from bondages. What Satan used to divide our marriage, God has used for the good." (Michigan)
I met James twenty-two years ago. “Who’s that new salesman?” I asked my co-worker. “I think his name is James, but why do you care, I thought you were done with guys?” Coming off a bad relationship at 20 years old, I had sworn I was done with guys...but he had caught my eye. “If he is from New Jersey, I’m going to marry him,” I told her. She thought I was crazy. It turned out he was from New Jersey, near where I grew up outside of Philadelphia, and we DID get married! Three years later in Florida, we became husband and wife.
After four years, we moved to South Florida, and were blessed with the birth of our precious daughter, Avery, in 1995. Like many young couples, we struggled as we grew a life together, but with the birth of Avery our whole world changed. I began asking the big questions about life. Perhaps the biggest question of all…”God, I know you exist, but who is this Jesus?” God answered that question and many more through a local Pastor. In 1996, James and I both gave our lives to Jesus Christ. We had found a new life in Christ, and a new purpose as a family. James’ purpose was found in his passion to serve others as a firefighter/paramedic and we celebrated as he was hired by a Fire Department about 60 miles away from our home.
At the same time, I accepted the call to teach at a new Christian school our church had started. The same year, Avery, started Kindergarten. It all seemed to be coming together, a new life in Christ, our careers were established and Avery flourishing in school. Then our family’s peace was shattered when I found out James was having an affair. For the next seven years, James and I went back and forth, up and down, in our relationship. We struggled with our sinful nature and what God would have us do. We both had times we wanted to just give up on our marriage, but when he wanted to quit, I would stand fast, and when I was ready to set him free, he would not leave me. From my perspective it was the most painful, but amazing season of my life. I learned the true meaning of sacrifice, faithfulness and love. On Valentine’s Day 2008, after years of pain and struggle for both of us, James planned a special night. He took me to the beach, served me dinner, and gave me a beautiful new diamond wedding ring.
God’s love never fails. God’s love toward me, even in my sin, humbled me so that I could love and forgive James during the toughest season of his life. That love, as God promises, “covers a multitude of sins.” This man not only loved me, he was finally able to accept God’s love and forgiveness…which changed his life.
From that Valentine’s Day on, James loved us and served us selflessly. My husband and Avery’s dad, was the man I always dreamed he would be, the man I prayed he would become. We renewed our wedding vows on March 26, 2008, and began what we expected to be a long and wonderful new life together. Then came that tragic, but glorious day, almost one year later on March 8, 2009, when God took James home to Heaven. Traveling on his motorcycle to the job he loved as a Firefighter/Paramedic, James was killed. The day he died, James was right with his wife, with his daughter and with his God. James stood before God that day and heard the words we all long to hear, “Well done good and faithful servant...come and share your Master’s happiness.”
The promises God gave me through this journey were fulfilled. God promised me that James would “rescue souls from the flames.” His life and death are still accomplishing this truth. I continue to cling to His promise to me that, “Blessed is she who believes what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished.” The Lord also promised that He would “complete the work he started” in James, “until the day of Christ Jesus.”
James, God’s work in you is complete, well done. I can’t wait to see you again, until then you are finally home!
"My husband and I just celebrated our 18th Thanksgiving together, including two years ago, when he was not living at home. Praise God. This morning my husband and I were talking about my praying for our daughter. He said I shouldn't worry because my prayers cause things to happen. I praise God that He does work through my prayers and that my family can see God working. I praise God for every holiday and every day that we can be together as a family." (California)
"My prodigal and I have maintained a friendship after an emotional forgiveness letter I wrote to him. I have been praying and growing weary in my stand. We have started dating and getting to know each other again. The good thing is that we are learning trust and honesty during the process. We have agreed that this new start is a good start. God is so good and I know He is working." (Texas)
"It took a while, standing on God's promise and going through a divorce that just truly sucked the life out of me, but I stood on Hebrews 11:1; 'Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.' I prayed day and night, and finally God found the perfect time. My wife is coming home this weekend to stay, and yes, a marriage will be coming soon. Praise God for all His mercy." (Louisiana)