Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"My husband has decided to return to our family. After praying and fasting, even in those times when I was about to give up because I saw no change, God has performed a miracle. We are on a journey to complete restoration. I will continue to stand for my marriage, as well as those of members in my family. To God be the Glory." (Alabama)(posted 6/6/2008)
"Praise the Lord my husband returned home a few days ago. He has left the other woman who was pregnant." (North Carolina)(posted 3/19/2010)
“Praise God for He is good. My wife and I had breakfast yesterday and she hugged me and kissed me for the first time in three years. I have been standing for our marriage reconciliation since she left. Prayer does work, God has been with me and our children. She told me as she was hugging me that I should not be worried; soon we will be back together and when we do we will have to do a wedding. She told me she still has her wedding ring. I have never had such a happy day in my life. Jesus is King. I will praise HIM all days of my life.” (South Africa)(posted 12/3/2012)
“He is home! Praise the Lord, my precious husband is home. After several months of separation and an OW, God moved in my husband’s heart and mind. His eyes were opened to see the truth. I loved him unconditionally and cried out to our Lord. This journey was unbelievably hard but it changed me and my marriage for the better and right into God’s arms. Standers don't you dare give up. I wanted to many times and I would have missed out on this beautiful blessing and testimony.” (Florida)(posted 8/3/2013)
"Praise be to God. My husband and I are remarrying soon. God has changed him completely around and he has become the man of my dreams. I am grateful to Rejoice Marriage Ministries. There were times when I felt like giving up. God has truly reconciled our hearts and lives." (California)(posted 8/24/2007)
“Hopeless is the only way I could describe my situation. My husband left, told me he loved the OW, and said he was never coming home. It was difficult to do, but I did not listen to my husband. I listened to and believed God and His Word. I blocked out the advice of friends and loved ones and only obeyed God. My husband came home and it was still a fight. I tolerated things from him that I thought I never would tolerate out of obedience to God. No matter how messed up I thought my husband was, I continued to allow God to lead, guide, and work on me. God told me to relocate with my husband. My husband was still saying he didn't think we would be together. I was so afraid, but I chose to obey God in spite of my fears. We moved and PTL so did God in such a mighty way! My husband is loving, affectionate, and apologetic for the role he played in our trial. I have grown so much spiritually and will forever stand for my marriage and yours! God is able! Pray and have faith! Victory is yours!” (Louisiana)(posted 2/26/2014)
Barren For 10 Years!
Eight days after our 10th wedding anniversary, my husband asked for a divorce. I was devastated, but it took this to utterly break me before God. That night, I didn’t go to sleep, but the Lord led me to scripture after scripture. I finally fell to my knees before my own sin. I couldn’t look away, blame, or give excuse for all the selfishness, pride, disrespect, disobedience, and rebellion that I had lived in for all 10 years of our marriage. Instead of feeling anger or betrayal toward my husband, I saw exactly the unlovable person I had been asking him to love all these years and I understood. The Lord changed me that night. I didn’t become a different person overnight, but each day God would strip away another layer. Immediately, He led me to a group of women who were standing for their marriages! They led me to Rejoice Marriage Ministries where I learned that I was a “stander,” and my husband was a “prodigal” (Luke 15). I loved that! It was so apt.
I believed my husband when he said there wasn’t another woman, but the Lord was preparing me for a different story. After a month of standing, the Lord was asking me if I would stand, even in infidelity. See, God knew the hardness of my heart. If I had initially known my husband had found someone else, I would have never been broken. I would have raged against my husband and would have felt justified as I took everything he had. But then, I would have never stood in the gap for my husband’s soul. Now, I know that everyone around me knew about the other woman, but they wouldn’t tell me. That was God. It took His work in me and gentle nudges to show me what His marriage covenant really means. As you know, the covenant made before God has no stipulations. I did not vow to love until my husband cheated. I did not accept a ring only until my husband’s love disappeared. I vowed until death, and God was holding me to that vow. It didn’t matter that it was the worst day of my life when my husband finally told me about the other woman. The next day wasn’t much better. I helped my husband move out, believing that God would bring him back. All of this, my husband knew, but he wouldn’t “come to his senses” for a while yet.
I was commanded by God to do four things:
1. To Stand: When I was so overwhelmed with how determined my husband was in pursuing this divorce, I told God that I didn’t want to fight this battle and I didn’t want to have to try and find a Christian lawyer to defend my stand. God spoke 2 Chronicles 20 to me and let me know quickly that I wouldn’t have to find a lawyer, nor would I have to fight this battle. It was HIS battle, and He was going to win it for me!
2. To Wait: I thought this meant that I would have to wait for my husband to come home, but God said I was to wait on Him and the work He was going to do in our lives.
3. To Be Silent: Whew! If you only knew me, you’d know how nearly impossible this is! But God was working and nothing is impossible for Him (Luke 1:37). I tried so many times to reason with my husband and point out what God was showing me, but it wasn’t my place and it only hardened my husband’s heart toward me. Through this, God showed me that I am nobody’s Holy Spirit. I can’t convict, and I can’t change a person’s mind. That is God’s job, but He showed me that what He does lasts forever, so I’m glad I can’t change anyone…it wouldn’t last. God told me that no man could change my husband. He was the only one who could change my husband and I needed to let Him work!
4. To Be Still: This was the hardest command. As my husband progressed in the Far Country, I saw the state of his soul. I couldn’t believe a born-again believer could believe the lies Satan was telling him. Satan takes the Word of God and twists it to fit what the flesh wants, which Charlyne taught me only leads to doing the will of Satan (2 Timothy 2:26). My husband was trying to find biblical justification for all of his actions and what his flesh wanted. Obviously, he couldn’t but he gave it his best effort. Needless to say, and he finally admitted it after he came home, he was miserable out in the Far Country, even though he told me then how “peaceful” he was! (Standers don’t believe anything your prodigal says!) There were many days I would lie on the floor in our home begging God to release me from this stand. I didn’t want my husband anymore after seeing where Satan had taken him. I didn’t want a man who would cheat on me. I didn’t want any of this! But God would let me rant and rave, then remind me of all the promises He’d given me and remind me that this path, though excruciating, was His best for me. Daily, I had to surrender my will to Him, believing He knows what is best.
My husband works offshore. He sent me an email saying he was coming home in a few weeks when he came back in town. He told me he believed God had finally answered him. He sent an email to the other woman ending their relationship. I was amazed! The Holy Spirit told me to rejoice. Ah, but Satan wasn’t done yet! A few days later, I discovered that my husband was still talking to the other woman and was beginning to doubt coming home. As the days drew closer, my husband was determined that he wasn’t coming home and told me he may never come back. I was prepared for false starts thanks to your ministry, but the Lord reminded me that He had told me to rejoice. So instead of me telling everyone that my husband wasn’t coming home after all, I would say, “He says he’s not coming home…” Our God has a bigger plan, and thankfully, He’s greater than man (Job 33:12).
I invited my husband to our house for dinner the night he came in from offshore. Although he resisted, he finally agreed to come. I had a vision to run to him when he came home, just as the father did for the prodigal. When my husband pulled in, he parked in the back of our yard. I ran across our yard in my bare feet smiling the whole way. When I got to him, I jumped into his arms and bear hugged him. He was laughing and smiling. He now says that when he saw me do that he knew he wouldn’t be able to leave! That night he kept trying to leave, but God wouldn’t let him. I told him that I understood if he couldn’t stay…I knew God would bring him home! Finally, after watching him wrestle to the point of exhaustion, he started drifting off to sleep on the couch. I told him to come to bed, but he said he had to do something first. He went out to his truck where he left his cell phone and texted the other woman that he was staying home. Now I understand the struggle; she had told him that if he ever came back home, they were over. My husband told me that was the first night of sound sleep he had through all of this!
I have to admit, the restoration of our marriage has often been more difficult than the standing. God has reminded me that He is still working on the other side of that mountain, and He’s not done yet. I want to encourage other standers that God doesn’t work the way we think or expect. His ways are higher than our ways and our thoughts are not His thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9). The Lord has been revealing His truth in doses to my husband. I’m still learning to obey those four things God commanded me. Just because my husband is home and our marriage is better than it has ever been, it doesn’t change where we’ve been and who we are to become. I will forever be a stander for my husband and our marriage.
God gave me a lot of promises while my husband was in the far country and I look forward to God fulfilling every single one of them. The first promise He answered is the return of my husband. The second promise was recently confirmed. For 10 years I have been barren. We are pregnant with our first child! Standing and restoration have been hard, but I still believe my God is greater and He knows what’s best! “Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished!” Luke 1:45(posted 10/8/2012)
"Thank you for your constant encouragement in pointing me to relevant scripture. I can't remember how many times it was exactly what I needed to hear. My husband is ready to com home and to be remarried. God amazes me with answered prayer, bit by bit. We may be married again by next month. It is so exciting to see how God is working things out." (Indiana)(posted 4/10/2008)
“Praise the Lord. My suddenly happened! My husband came home after two years. I have prayed consistently for two years after my husband left me and our son. One year ago we were divorced and he moved in with the OW but my God kept telling me that he was still my husband and to pray for him without ceasing. I want to thank Rejoice Marriage Ministries for the daily words of encouragement. I just want to tell everyone to keep praying, fasting, pay your tithes, read your Word daily, and truly put all your trust in God because He will answer. Thank You God for all Your many blessings, for letting me know that You are real and letting me be able to tell the world God is able and can truly make the impossible very possible. Amen and Amen.” (Texas)(posted 5/14/2014)
"I want to thank Rejoice Marriage Ministries for sending encouraging messages. Your words always felt as if you were speaking only to me. You helped me find my way back to the Lord, and the power to stand for my marriage through so many tough days and lonely nights. I now have a closer walk with our Lord. Tomorrow my husband is stopping our divorce. God bless you and your ministry." (Ohio)(posted 6/15/2007)
"I give thanks to the Lord. My husband's attitude toward our marriage changed. He returned home a month ago and we have been very happy enjoying every minute of it. He is doing his best to make everything right again. I know I must continue looking to the Lord for help. The battle is not our, but the Lord's. God answers prayer." (Florida)(posted 3/30/2007)
"My prodigal came back and we have been living together many months now as a family. I know that God is in control and is continually working on my husband. Even when I told God I was giving up, He would inject my prodigal into my life again, to remind me to stand firm. Thank you Bob and Charlyne. Without you, my family would still be broken." (Texas)(posted 10/11/2007)
"Praise be to God, my husband came home months ago. It has been difficult. The devil was constantly bombarding us with everything, but I stood firm and claimed God's promises over my situation. I am now seeing changes and all the glory is God's." (East Africa)(posted 5/16/2008)
"Praise the Lord, my prodigal husband has returned home through prayer. I thank the Lord for His love for me and also for giving me a new heart to unconditionally love my husband. I thank God for leading me to your ministry and for all you have done in helping me make the right choice in following God's plan and not my own fleshly desires. I love my husband and can say that going through this spiritual battle has taught me more than I could have ever imagined. Thank you Jesus and both Charlyne and Bob for all your openness in sharing your life." (California)(posted 8/24/2007)
I found your website and committed myself to God completely and trusted Him with restoring my marriage. I also allowed God to change me. My husband fell back in love with me, but didn't think I would want him if I knew what he had been doing. He called me asking if I could forgive him if I knew everything. I told him that I already knew and had forgiven him. He came home that night, confessed everything, and has rededicated his life to God and our marriage. Thank you so much for encouraging me not to give up my stand." (Idaho)(posted 1/18/2008)
"My husband and I were married for 20 years when he left for greener pastures because of sin and blindness on both our parts. After five years, the Lord got my attention, and after fully surrendering to Him, my husband came home unexpectedly after two non-covenant marriages. On the day he received a divorce from the second non-covenant at 10:00 A.M. we were remarried with our daughters as our witnesses. Seventeen years later my husband became emotionally involved with a young woman at work. He truly suffered knowing how wrong he was. The Lord restored him, and our marriage and we are more in love today than 45 years ago when we were first married. We praise God and give him all the glory for His love and for Bob and Charlyne's ministry. We are truly thankful. Things that are impossible with men are possible with God." (Oklahoma)(posted 11/20/2006)
"My wife and I were re-married in August and we are on our way to a restored marriage. Thanks for all of your help and encouragement. There have been a few bumps but I'm so positive we will make it this time. I continue to read Charlyne Cares every day. Nothing is impossible!" (Texas)(posted 8/30/2012)
“I've been coming to RMM for many months now. My husband, who many of you have prayed for, came home three months ago! This was after four sets of papers sent to me, none of which I signed. We are in the restoration process, but this has been a long, long road. For you standers out there waiting on your miracle, don't give up! As soon as you think you can't hold on any longer is just when the tide will turn! Our God has shown me so many marvelous things and I am still continuing to pray for all prodigals and standers out there! I prayed for God to bring my spouse home...but you know what? He did double! God is a God of miracles! And he doubles what the locust has eaten. Not only did he bring my husband back home, but he has now blessed us with our first baby! Praise God! Lord, I give you all the glory, and even though the devil may still be lurking, You God are the One who has already won this battle!” (Virginia)(posted 8/1/2013)
"Once the prodigal, I have been standing for my wife. My wife called me and told me she loved me and wanted to come home. It has been a hard road at times but as Charlyne and Bob have pointed out, there is power in the spoken Word of God. Thank you so much my Lord, my Rock, my Deliverer." (Florida)(posted 4/19/2007)
"Praise God, my husband came home suddenly. When it looked impossible, God moved. We are taking it one day at a time and I am fully trusting the Lord to save my husband and for our remarriage. God is good all the time." (West Virginia)(posted 4/7/2006)
“I got an anniversary card from the ministry on Sunday and then suddenly, the next week, my husband packed his bags and came home. SUDDENLY! I really want to share this testimony here because all the devotions sent to me every day have done a great job in me. Keep praying because God is faithful.” (Uganda)(posted 5/14/2014)
"The God we serve is mighty and holy. The Lord suddenly restored my marriage. I have learned a lot and have changed a lot. I am sure my husband is astounded at the changes in me. I am now standing for his salvation. God will do it for His Glory." (South Africa)(posted 3/19/2010)
“I have been standing for my marriage for some time. God kept telling me to trust, have faith, and believe. It was challenging but God gave me peace through it all. He ushered me gently into spiritual rest, resting in Him and His promises. My husband moved out months ago but yesterday, out of the blue, he texted and said that he misses me, he wants to be back with me and that he loves me! All praises to God! I spoke to that mountain and it had to move! God is faithful and His Word never returns void! Praying for all prodigal spouses and children and still standing.” (Mississippi)(posted 1/14/2013)
"My prodigal is home today. During the court session his lawyer told me, my husband wanted to see the children. Saturday we all went out to eat and he is home. We are both very emotional right now. Everything happened so fast it is still hard for me to believe. Praise God." (Oklahoma)(posted 12/8/2007)
"My husband returned to our marriage suddenly days before New Year's after having been away for years. I asked the Lord not to let me have another year of sadness and He gave me Isaiah 61 five times in a week from different sources. He is the God of miracles and His promises are absolutely true and certain." (South Africa)(posted 1/8/2009)
“WOW is all I can say about my day today! My suddenly arrived. I hadn’t heard so much as a peep out of my husband, in many months. I got up this morning and had a message from him that he wanted to come pick me up so we could talk. I spent the whole day with him and he apologized to me like five million times and told me how much he's missed me! He told me that he had been so miserable and that every TV show, song, movie and video game reminded him of me! He said he hadn’t been able to sleep and that he's been waking up every day around 4 a.m., just about the time I've been falling asleep after praying! He wants to work things out, PRAISE THE LORD! The Lord is SO AWESOME! To everyone, don't give up on what you're praying and believing for. The Lord is faithful. Continue to pray for us as we start the reconciliation of our marriage as I continue to pray for all of you! The Lord receives ALL of the praises and glory!" (Texas)(posted 7/21/2013)
"It looked like the end when we were granted a divorce on Tuesday. My wife had a change of heart and we started talking. Two weeks later we are putting a deposit on a new apartment and making plans for the future. I cannot wait to get back under the same roof again. Praise God." (Rhode Island)(posted 9/12/2008)
"After much prayer and fasting, standing, waiting, loving and forgiving, all by the grace of God, my beloved is home. We still have healing to do, but He who began a good work will continue until it is completed." (Illinois)(posted 6/20/2008)
“A few months after my wife left, I was introduced to RMM by my sister who was going through the same thing with her husband. We fasted often and prayed everyday even though she lived on the other side of the country. After a few months of praying her husband had an ‘epiphany’ as he described it and decided he wanted the marriage. When my sister told me this I was a bit jealous, unfortunately. We continued to pray for my wife and, yes, a few months later she too returned home. PTL! Please keep praying and never give up!” (Michigan)(posted 1/28/2013)
"Sunday our church had a potluck dinner after services. The menu was stew. I was serving in the kitchen, so I did not get to eat until later, and then I did not get much on my plate. The stew tasted so good to me. As I was driving home, I told the kids I wish we had more of that stew and that we should make some more. We came into the house smelling these awesome smells. Our returned prodigal had filled the crock pot with, you guessed it, stew, for supper. We serve a might God who makes us one with our spouses." (Wisconsin)(posted 2/2/2007)