Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"God has done an amazing work over the past year. I received an email from my spouse, who was deployed to Iraq, telling me he wanted a divorce. I was served with divorce papers. But God suddenly changed my husband’s heart. Without warning he decided to dismiss the divorce. We moved to a new state, he began a new job, and I am pregnant with our second child. God is faithful to keep his promises." (Georgia)
"I am praising God. My husband is wanting to come home. I thank God for this trial, for I have grown so close to Him during this time. We have a long road ahead of us, but with God as the center of our marriage, we cannot fail. I am so thankful for the many blessings God has given to me and my family." (Georgia)
"Even though we are separated, my husband agreed to go to a marriage conference with me. God answered my prayers by bringing healing and understanding to both of us. He has decided he would like to reconcile. We have obstacles to overcome as we are living in different states, but I believe God will work out all the details. Praise God my prodigal is on his way home. " (California)
“My suddenly happened last Sunday! My husband just showed up at our house and has been with us ever since! Our relationship is not where it needs to be, but we are together again. It was also our anniversary and he told me "Happy Anniversary!" God gets all the glory! I continue to pray each day that God will help me to show the fruit of the Spirit daily to my husband: love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control. I will continue to leave this all in the Lord's hands.” (Alabama)
“I am confessing that my covenant marriage is restored! God made me a promise and I believe in His Word. He is not a God that He should lie. After some years of separation and months after the divorce, my husband said he loved me too! Praise God! It is not by anything I have done or said, my Lord gets all the GLORY! We are attending a family wedding in the near future, as a family. I am in awe of the unconditional love that He has for me and my family. Forgiveness was hindering my prayers and now I have a testimony that God does heal. Blessed is she who has BELIEVED that what the Lord has told her will be accomplished! Luke 1:45.” (Pennsylvania)
"I stood for my marriage for almost six months. I called a divorce attorney and things were deader than dead. Once I let go and let God, He restored my marriage and now my wife and I have a baby girl. I hope this inspires others to follow the Lord and not to listen to the world. He will fulfill his promise." (Germany/Armed Forces)
"After months of reading Charlyne Cares, fasting and praying, God has directed my wife to stay and end her affair. We are starting the reconciliation process, and I know God is in control. Praise be to the One who can reclaim hurting marriages." (Minnesota)
"Praise the Lord. After a year of separation, my prodigal has returned home. We still have much work to do, but the words of Jesus Christ rings within my heart, 'Peace be with you.' (John 20:19). Thank you Bob and Charlyne for standing for Jesus Christ not just in marriage, but in life." (Georgia)
“I've been coming to RMM for many months now. My husband, who many of you have prayed for, came home three months ago! This was after four sets of papers sent to me, none of which I signed. We are in the restoration process, but this has been a long, long road. For you standers out there waiting on your miracle, don't give up! As soon as you think you can't hold on any longer is just when the tide will turn! Our God has shown me so many marvelous things and I am still continuing to pray for all prodigals and standers out there! I prayed for God to bring my spouse home...but you know what? He did double! God is a God of miracles! And he doubles what the locust has eaten. Not only did he bring my husband back home, but he has now blessed us with our first baby! Praise God! Lord, I give you all the glory, and even though the devil may still be lurking, You God are the One who has already won this battle!” (Virginia)
“WOW is all I can say about my day today! My suddenly arrived. I hadn’t heard so much as a peep out of my husband, in many months. I got up this morning and had a message from him that he wanted to come pick me up so we could talk. I spent the whole day with him and he apologized to me like five million times and told me how much he's missed me! He told me that he had been so miserable and that every TV show, song, movie and video game reminded him of me! He said he hadn’t been able to sleep and that he's been waking up every day around 4 a.m., just about the time I've been falling asleep after praying! He wants to work things out, PRAISE THE LORD! The Lord is SO AWESOME! To everyone, don't give up on what you're praying and believing for. The Lord is faithful. Continue to pray for us as we start the reconciliation of our marriage as I continue to pray for all of you! The Lord receives ALL of the praises and glory!" (Texas)
“Six months ago, I moved with my daughter 400 kilometers away from my husband. I wanted to start a new life after my husband moved in with the other woman. But God wanted me to pray for my marriage. I was unable to find work and couldn’t work due to my daughter’s illness but God has always provided good supernaturally. God told me to do what my husband says. He wanted us to come back to our home. Two weeks ago, we moved again, and I got three job offers, and I wasn’t even looking. Praise be to God.” (Germany)
"Thank You, Lord, for the miracle You gave to my family. My husband has been taking steps toward home and moved his remaining things home last weekend. He had even filed for divorce, but never followed through. He told me the Holy Spirit never stopped speaking to his heart and that he loves me and is so grateful for me never giving up on him. Thank you for the tapes that would suddenly appear in my mailbox at the most needed time. Praise Jesus." (New Hampshire)
“I was the prodigal when my husband and I separated. When I realized I had made a grave mistake, he no longer wanted to reconcile. By then, he had met another woman and was moving toward divorce. I began standing for my marriage for years. I committed to a prayer vigil each morning and every night before bed. In it, I thanked God for bringing my husband back. I prayed as if my prayers had already been answered. I was sustained in my faith through Charlyne Cares, despite continued advice from friends, family and church ministers to seek a speedy divorce. I refused to listen to the naysayers. I told everyone, ‘Thank you for your concern but my husband and I will be together again one day.’ That day has come! My husband and I are reunited and our marriage is stronger than ever. Stand firm all you Standers. Pray and believe without doubt. Even when our prayers are delayed, it is an opportunity to stand on God's Word in faith.” (Maryland)
"My husband has been home for several months. Last week he took it upon himself to pay our household bills, something he has not done for years. What I expected to see happening in the restoration of this marriage, is not how the Lord is working things. I have been praying daily for my husband and big changes are happening all around me. Prayer does work." (Wisconsin)
"My husband has been home since May. Although we sometimes struggle with issues, I give it to God. I give him all the praise. My husband realizes how much he was deceived. I am just so happy that my family is together again." (Florida)
“My prodigal of many years returned home in progressive stages over a few years, through which we maintained our purity. Last weekend on our original wedding anniversary, we remarried before three dozen family members and friends. The LORD provided everything, even a 'bridal canopy' to decorate the wall behind us. Today we re-enacted part of it and gave our testimony before a dozen other friends and neighbors, giving glory to Christ for our miracle. These have been the happiest days of our lives. I have watched my spouse become a believer, opening himself like a rosebud blossoming into a fragrant beautiful flower. As a woman giving birth in pain afterward forgets the labor for the joy of holding her child, I too, can barely recall the devastation and pain I had during my stand. Keep looking to the goal, to the Savior, my brothers and sisters. The reward is worth the cost we pay. I have seen that every prayer I had prayed has been answered. Wait for the appointed time!” (Pennsylvania)
“I am rejoicing! After a year of praying night and day, I finally had a breakthrough with my spouse today. Thank you, RMM for your prayers. I'm going to continue standing and praying for all of our marriages. God bless you!” (Arizona)
"I found Rejoice Marriage Ministries by searching the web for how to get your spouse to come home. My faith needed renewed and this ministry was the Lord's tool. I began praying for the Lord to change my husband’s heart and for the wisdom to deal with the situation. I continued to pray and cry out to the Lord. He did return home last week on his own and I know it was through God's work because his heart was very hardened about returning. My 'Charlyne Cares' email provides me wisdom for each day to know how to deal with him. I have seen it day after day. Thank you so much for your ministry." (Oklahoma)
"Praise God, He has healed my marriage. After my husband left, I was devastated, but I felt that I must seek God, not the world. It was hard some days, but God put so many people in my life that had gone thru this. I started believing that nothing was too hard for God. We are going to a Christian counselor. I know that God can do anything. Praise be to the Lord." (Texas)
"Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, tomorrow, and forever." Hebrews 13:8
"I am praising the Lord that my God brought my husband home this past weekend. It was very suddenly. Thank you Bob and Charlyne for your wisdom and direction on how to stand. I thank God for you both. There is much to continue to stand for, but God can do anything." (Arizona)
“My patience and prayers have been answered. Thanks to God, the support of your group and the strength from God to remain patient, tolerant and loving toward my ex-wife, we remarried in our parish church in February, on our original wedding date. Our divorce was final in June of last year and by November my ex wanted to cut off any further contact. Then miraculously, only days later, she was moved to return and wished to put our marriage back together. Thank you for all your prayers and support. Praise the Lord our marriage has been restored.” (Michigan)
“My husband is home after months of being away. PTL! He had an irregular heartbeat and had to be brought to the hospital. Our child and I were there with him at the hospital providing love, support and care. Thank God his condition normalized and he was discharged. I was planning to ask him if he could come for a few days so we could take care of him. Without prompting him, he asked first if he could come home! Oh my! Since then, he has been home and we are starting to be like a family again. I will continue to pray and ask for God's grace to keep us together and grow in love. The Lord is amazing! When I started to let go and let God, that was when God did his part. God works in mysterious ways. He is real, God is good!” (Philippines)
“PTL, my wife has returned! After some years away and many months of standing, she rededicated her life to Christ and is currently going through the fires of repentance. She has begun referring to me as her husband again and is speaking of a ministry that we need to start to help others. All standers need to know, never to give up! This came suddenly and in a period of extreme silence. BUT GOD kept bringing me back to being obedient each time I wanted to quit. There is so much to praise but I want it known that I've heard so much from her that sounded like I was listening to Bob's writings. All the times I thought things were 'perfect' on the other side of the mountain, she tells me she was never happy. She said how the Holy Spirit never left her alone and finally got so loud that she decided to have a mustard seed of faith to leave the OM and come home. Not out of love (but the rekindling by the Lord is taking place now) but out of obedience. Now the standing really begins. Never give up!” (Kansas)
"I was sitting here praying and fasting for my husband that he would return home. I resolved to pray all night. He just returned home. Praise God." (Australia)
"Praise the Lord my husband returned home a few days ago. He has left the other woman who was pregnant." (North Carolina)
"Last Saturday I felt weary after hearing my favorite television preacher speak about the conditions that allow for divorce. I cried out to the Lord telling Him that I needed a confirmation to keep me going. Five minutes later, my husband called to say that he's coming home. Praise You Jesus." (Philippines)
“Praise, glory and honor to God and my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ! I filed for divorce due to many circumstances. This weekend, I discovered the prayers here on this website and prayed them for three nights over the weekend. Last night, my husband called me, with a convicted heart, asking me to withdraw the divorce petition and to reconcile. Glory to God!” (Georgia)
“Thanks be to The Lord. My husband was planning to leave me but has since changed his mind and is staying home. He says he doesn't want to hurt me anymore. My miracle!” (Pennsylvania)
“After several years of standing for my marriage, I am so grateful to say my husband has returned home. Don't listen to the world’s way of thinking but trust and believe in the Almighty God. I'm so thankful for this site and its encouraging links. You need to be around others who know the amazing power of His Holy Word. Stand, with all your might. You will need patience and God's guidance. Jesus died for you and your spouse’s sins.” (Texas)
"My marriage is now restored after a year apart and my wife having an affair. She was saved a few months ago, six years to the day after I was saved. We have since moved back in together and are in a good church and in a Bible course together. Our children have since received the Lord also. Thank You God and thanks guys." (Ireland)
GOD STILL MOVES
Years ago, when I was standing for Andy, I came across the verse, Song of Solomon 8:7, “Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it.” It had meant so much to me, speaking of the powerful strength of love. It not only spoke to me of my new love God had given me for Andy, but also Jesus’ awesome love for him that would never fail. I asked my daughter to write the scripture out and frame it. All these years I have kept this framed scripture. Andy was not aware of it.
This year our church was selling homemade Valentine’s Day cards, with the proceeds going to the troops overseas. Andy decided to purchase one of these cards for me instead of going to the store to get one. When I opened the card he had picked for me, I was stunned at what I saw! On the front of the card was the same scripture that I had framed for myself so many years ago, Song of Solomon 8:7!
Valentine’s Day was the day after we took part in the Rejoice Marriage Ministries phone conference. I wanted to share with you what my husband wrote in my card……”My Dearest Wife, Going through the RMM phone conference yesterday made me once again realize and appreciate your great love. Thank you so much for your lifetime of devotion. I love you very much. Your Husband, Andy.”
This comes from a man who once told me, “Sondra, I don’t love you anymore, my love for you has died—it’s dead. I want to find happiness before I die, I have found someone else and I want a divorce.”
I am here to tell you that God; the Creator can create a new love where the love has dried up….never give up on our amazing God! Never believe Satan’s lies.
One day you can say like David……”Come and hear, all who fear God. And I will tell of what He has done, what awesome miracles He does for His people.” Psalm 66:5 Like David, I am doing the same.