Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"After being separated over a year, God is in the process of restoring my marriage. My husband is living at home again on the weekends and works out of town all week. God has done this, despite the fact that my husband had an affair, a non-covenant child, left me, left the ministry and our church. But God is faithful. What God has promised, He is also able to perform." (Texas)
“I am rejoicing! After a year of praying night and day, I finally had a breakthrough with my spouse today. Thank you, RMM for your prayers. I'm going to continue standing and praying for all of our marriages. God bless you!” (Arizona)
“Several months ago we parted, though we were still good friends. My heart, like many others, was broken. From day one the Father gave His word to me that He would rebuild us and reunite us. Ezekiel 36:6-12. God is faithful. My prodigal is returning. We are moving his belongings in each day. God is faithful dear standers. My refuge has been Jesus, and this website has been such a tool of blessing on how to respond to my husband while away, and zipping the lips, and totally trusting the Lord to carry us and care for us and restore us. Our restoration and rebuild journey together as husband and wife has now just begun. Praises to Him.” (New Zealand)
“After being gone for a little over two years, my husband came home! It was very sudden and unexpected just as I have seen others testify to. We had been spending weekends together for the past two months and I had resigned myself to the fact that this was the way we were going to live for the rest of our lives. BUT GOD was working behind the scenes and actually used us discussing our relationship and why things went bad to bring my husband home. He was not repentant and was actually blaming me for everything but God allowed me to hold my peace and zip my lips while he talked. When he finished I simply asked him If he would forgive me and he jumped up and hugged me and said yes! He went and got his clothes and was back at home that same night! I was in a state of shock! God is awesome! I believe fasting along with prayer was the catalyst to this sudden turn around. Please, please do not give up. I almost did but I promise you, your suddenly is coming!” (Oklahoma)
"Shortly after I left my husband and arrived in my sublet to start my new life, I heard God telling me that I would not divorce my husband but stand in the gap and pray for his salvation and that He would heal and restore our marriage. God led me to Rejoice Marriage Ministries who became our marriage counselor with hundreds of miles between us. God first began a great work in me, healing me and showing me the error of my ways. Now, praise God, I am back home after nearly a year and God is working on my husband as I continue to stand forever. Praise God." (North Carolina)
“My husband left home while I was pregnant. He vowed never to come back, but God! After the baby's birth, he came home but it turned out to be a false start. He came back home again which can only be the work of God. I believe God is working on bringing him back to the Lord. I just want to encourage all standers, as in His Word in Luke 1:37, never forget nothing is impossible with God. Be encouraged.” (Zimbabwe)
“I want to praise God that my husband has not left and we are drawing closer to each other every day. It's tiny little baby steps, then a big leap forward, then a step back. God is so awesome that the steps back are smaller and smaller as He directs my husband back to both of us. We are praying together now in the morning before each of us go to work. There are the little things that only I would notice that are suddenly back again. God is so good. I have to keep reminding myself that His timing is perfect, but I expect my miracle every day by faith. It's coming. We can't give up and we can't stop praying because our spouses’ souls are worth so much. I've been praying Psalm 51 and 32 this week over my husband and myself, and wow, Charlyne, you were right. Thank you for being a blessing to me.” (North Carolina)
"Without the guidance of this ministry, I do not believe my marriage would have been restored. When my husband turned his heart to God, he realized he and the other woman were unequally yoked. God first cleansed me and then He did the rest. It was suddenly and unexpected, but God was right on time. My husband had not made any contact with me for almost two years and my marriage was a dead corpse. When my husband came home the other woman came home with him, emotionally. I have said nothing, except to suggest that we pray for her salvation. I will always love and support this ministry." (South Carolina)
A PS from Pompano - This wise stander understood that after her husband came home he would go through a grief process in getting over the other person, as we have written and taught about. Prodigals do not come home with amensia. Many newly restored marriages fall apart all over again because the stander is not prepared for their homecoming. We have material to help you be prepared.
The days after a prodigal first comes home are like walking through a mine field for both spouses. We have a package of material to help both you and your mate when your miracle comes true - http://rejoiceministries.org/r.php?num=30h6n
Hallelujah! Praise God! What He had promised to me in the beginning of this year has come to be fulfilled. My husband is home! After a dramatic and very painful time apart we are now in our new home together. There are still battles in the heavenlies and the restoration is just getting started, but God has shown His faithfulness. God confirmed what He had done by leading me to two different verses from His Word, Jeremiah 29:10-12 and 2 Samuel 7:21-23! All Glory to God! Jesus is the bright Morning Star who has brought my beloved home. God still performs His miracles.” (Malaysia)
“All glory and honor to God. He has restored and renewed our marriage. Not only do I see God’s hand working in our marriage but there are times when my husband has asked me to share our story with someone else who is hurting. God can and will move the mountain if we would just believe. The Lord gave me Amos 9:11 to hold onto and He has been faithful to His Word. Hold on standers, your breakthrough is on its way. He's going to come through.” (Connecticut)
"I walked out of my marriage in 2003 and quickly realized that I had made a mistake. After many mistakes that Charlyne warns against- seeking man's methods of restoration. I found myself lost and alone or so I thought. Then I discovered God's views on life, love, marriage and salvation. The road to restoration was frightening at first, but as I grew in the Lord and the more I focused on Him, the more I understood unconditional love and forgiveness. After being humbled and forgiven. My marriage was restored two years later. Now, I have the life and marriage that is founded in the Lord. In December, we celebrate our one year anniversary again. Praise the Lord. Rejoice Ministries was a lighthouse in my storm of martial problems." (Pennsylvania)
"My wife and I were re-married in August and we are on our way to a restored marriage. Thanks for all of your help and encouragement. There have been a few bumps but I'm so positive we will make it this time. I continue to read Charlyne Cares every day. Nothing is impossible!" (Texas)
“God has suddenly brought my spouse home. Our daughter announced we're getting back together to her teacher. Her teacher came to tell me she heard the good news and then she shared that ever since she was four-years-old she has been wishing that her parents would reunite. Divorce impacts a child their entire life.” (Missouri)
"When Bob and Charlyne shared that our prodigals may come home messy, I had no idea. But God held my tongue and continued to complete the work He started. He is faithful. My husband no longer drinks alcohol, has nothing to do with the other woman, is working regularly, and gives me money toward household expenses. All this without me saying a word. God is good." (Oregon)
My husband Joe and I were married for five years before he decided on a family vacation to Disneyland that he "just couldn't do this anymore." That was Halloween week and he had moved out of the house by Thanksgiving weekend.
My two-year-old daughter and I were devastated and shocked. Both of us claimed to be "Christians" and had a relationship with the Lord, attending church frequently, but never centered our lives and marriage around Jesus. I panicked at the prospect of being a single parent and immediately began searching Christian internet dating sites for a new partner. I met and began a long distance relationship with a man in a different state, seeking to fill the void in my life with this new relationship. I wandered as deep into the far country as my husband did until I was convicted one night by the Holy Spirit about being double-minded. How could I be actively praying for God to save my marriage when I was having an affair with a man "just in case" I actually ended up divorced?
My mother-in-law gave me a book shortly after that called "Can My Marriage Be Saved?" which is a compilation of stories of saved/reconciled marriages. One story referenced Covenant Keepers and when I looked them up online in a Google search, I came upon Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc.
Your materials captivated me; I had heard of covenant marriage but never this concept of "standing." Once I got a hold of it I couldn't get enough of the Bible and what it teaches about the covenant and God’s design for marriage. I started acting on these principles praying God’s truths over my marriage and family and I began to notice a change in myself so quickly that it was actually shocking. I prayed for the Lord to break me and mold me into the wife He wanted me to be. I didn't want to have an adulterous relationship any longer and became content having Jesus fill that space in my life. I made a commitment to honor the covenant even if Joe wasn't at the moment, and I took God at his Word that he is a God of healing and restoration.
Joe and I spent the holidays together and the further I got into my studies about standing, the easier it became for me to treat him with such God-given kindness and grace that my co-workers actually used to joke with me that we had a better relationship while going through a divorce than several of them did married. I took these little opportunities to witness to them about what I was standing for and what I knew God could do, and they would snicker at me and tell me to move on. I truly didn't believe that our divorce would go through...but it did. On April 20, 2010 a judge ruled our marriage "dissolved." I loved your teachings about praying over the divorce decree and that it is just a piece of paper, but does nothing to break the covenant if you keep standing (quite a concept for me to regard a court ruling as "just a piece of paper, since I'm a lawyer!!).
My little girl and I used to pray together at night and thank God for restoring our family and for the brothers and sisters that were yet to be born to Joe and me. She would ask when will Daddy come home and I would talk to her about God’s promises and tell her that we'd wait for him as long as it took. Thankfully, my story of reconciliation didn't take long. Literally two weeks after our divorce decree, there was Joe, who was on my front porch weeping over the mistake he had made and asking if we could "date.” Because of where my relationship was at with Jesus, I found it so easy to forgive him and confess my own earlier affair. God had given me a love for Joe that I had never experienced during our marriage.
We began an awesome time of courtship, healing, and inviting Jesus to be Lord over our relationship. I drafted a motion to the Court asking them to vacate our divorce decree and Joe moved back home last October. Our son was born on August 4 and is nicknamed "the miracle baby" by the same friends and co-workers who snickered at me when I told them God would heal and rebuild our family. As crazy as it sounds, I'm actually glad the divorce was final. I think it makes our reconciliation an even greater testimony to God’s powerful awesomeness than if it were just a divorce "close call!” Praise Jesus!!
“Praise God, my marriage is reconciled. Thank you for your ministry, it has kept me going! I wouldn't have made it otherwise!” (Texas)
"Even though we are separated, my husband agreed to go to a marriage conference with me. God answered my prayers by bringing healing and understanding to both of us. He has decided he would like to reconcile. We have obstacles to overcome as we are living in different states, but I believe God will work out all the details. Praise God my prodigal is on his way home. " (California)
“My prodigal of many years returned home in progressive stages over a few years, through which we maintained our purity. Last weekend on our original wedding anniversary, we remarried before three dozen family members and friends. The LORD provided everything, even a 'bridal canopy' to decorate the wall behind us. Today we re-enacted part of it and gave our testimony before a dozen other friends and neighbors, giving glory to Christ for our miracle. These have been the happiest days of our lives. I have watched my spouse become a believer, opening himself like a rosebud blossoming into a fragrant beautiful flower. As a woman giving birth in pain afterward forgets the labor for the joy of holding her child, I too, can barely recall the devastation and pain I had during my stand. Keep looking to the goal, to the Savior, my brothers and sisters. The reward is worth the cost we pay. I have seen that every prayer I had prayed has been answered. Wait for the appointed time!” (Pennsylvania)
“My wife and I were divorced. But only months later she began to come and see me and tell me she was sorry and she loved me. She got pregnant with the other man and pulled away for a time, but several months later she came home. A year after she left she suddenly came home a new person in Christ. We were remarried this year and just had a little baby boy whom I adopted. God has blessed us more than we deserve. Our marriage is so much better and more wonderful than words can express.” (Maryland)
“There is hope, don't give up on your prodigal. Praise God, He has sent my husband home. We were angry and I was ready to file for divorce; there was no hope. By the grace of God, He sent a relative and a friend to convince me to pray for marriage restoration. I also found Rejoice Marriage Ministries that same week. My hardened heart took God in and soon I was praying for my prodigal husband's return to God and return to us. He returned suddenly! He repented and recommitted to our family. I am still praying for my husband to completely return to God, and for the other person to return to God as well.” (Pennsylvania)
“When I began my stand, my prodigal cut off all communication with me at that point after moving to live with his parents. I began daily prayers and I quit my ‘works of the flesh’ to bring him home. Yesterday I asked God if my stand is real. This morning I found a 3,000 word email from my husband. Praise Jesus! My husband wants to come home but he's scared. He was able to share with me why he left. Now I know what I need to work on.” (Idaho)
"Praise be to our Almighty Lord. My spouse asked if he could come home. He will be moving in this week. He has shared that he is coming home out of obedience to the Lord. Our children are thrilled at the return of their father." (California)
"My husband has been home for a few months. God has blessed my family and bringing my husband and I into unity. We have been working on our marriage. He was home for Christmas. I am thankful to God for not letting me give up on my marriage." (Oklahoma)
“God did it again. I was away on business and left Mom and our daughter at home with a part-time caregiver. My beloved and I had several false starts over the past years of my standing. But God... Jesus touched his heart and he started hanging around the house more while I was gone. Suddenly, the Lord impressed it upon him that he needed to be home even if it meant quitting a job that has kept him from home for a long time now. The next thing I knew my family and husband were on their way to stay with me near my job. They have been here for almost a week now. My husband went to church with us for mid-week Bible study and we are going to church again today. God is faithful! We are restored for good in Jesus Name.” (Florida)
"My spouse and I have been back together for several months after divorce, and I thank God. I was in a car accident and my spouse was there to support me. I realized that he still loves me. I'm still standing for my marriage." (Arizona)
“God is an awesome God! I thank the Lord for this miracle as he brought my husband home, out of the far country. My husband was gone for months, and it seemed like all hope was lost, but then God connected me to RMM, and my life has changed. I began my stand, and even though it was not easy, God never left or forsook me during this time. I knew that the enemy wanted to destroy my marriage, but my mighty God said, ‘Not so, I will do a new work,’ and that is exactly what He has done.” (North Carolina)
“After being separated for several months, my husband moved home suddenly this weekend. Praise God!!! He does answer prayer. My husband said that the reason he came home was: 1.He saw changes in me that he wanted to be around. 2.He said he had heard the voice of God the last two months telling him to GO HOME. Praise God! The struggle has not stopped because my husband is home. If anything, I must keep up the intensity of my prayer time! Hold on; keep praying and fasting, and believing!” (Louisiana)
“After many months in the far country, my husband came home suddenly! Praise God! We are very happy! He is very loving and we are enjoying spending time together and with the children. All God's promises are Yes and Amen. His Word does not come back to Him void. I pray that God continues to draw my husband and my children to himself with cords of love. He is restoring a very close relationship with our brothers and sisters and restoring our home. We are working together as a team on our property and exercising and doing things together. Our God is a God of restoration! "Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things will be added unto you" Matthew 6:33. Thank you so much to Charlyne and all the team for giving me the assurance to stand in the gap for our marriage in the face of skepticism by others.” (Australia)
"God really does heal marriages. I was the one who thought the grass was greener on the other side. When our marriage wasn't going according to my plan, I began to confide in another man. After divorcing my husband I was left feeling so empty inside. The other man was the one I thought would make my life complete. Thank God my husband was led to your ministry. He learned to pray the scriptures and stood for our marriage and prayed for my salvation. The Holy Spirit began to do a work in me. The Lord softened my heart and by God's grace I was saved. We have been remarried for over two years and our relationship with the Lord and one another keeps getting better. Please do not give up on your marriage or on God. What He did for us, He can do for you. Always remember that the grass is greenest where it is watered." (Michigan)
"A week ago I was in Florida. God told me it's time to come home from my trip and go to my wife. I called her to tell her and she told me first that she'd like to try working on us. I have learned to hear God’s voice and it's a beautiful sound." (Canada)