Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"Even though my husband stayed in close touch with me for all the years, I never had the first clue that he was so close to coming home. One day my husband came over and we starting talking about God. My husband was having a hard time sleeping at night. He said he kept feeling like he was almost hearing voices. I sent him home with some material. A few days later, he email me and asked about moving back home. He said he knew he had a lot of issues to work through, but knew he could do it if I would give him a chance. God's timing was perfect as we were able to celebrate our anniversary together." (State withheld due to ongoing nature of this restoration.)(posted 11/10/2006)
“Praise God my marriage is restored. My husband texted me out of the blue, telling me he wants his family back, that he loves me very much and our children, and has learned to value me.” (Nevada)(posted 2/12/2013)
"My prodigal is home. He is on the couch after years apart. I have been looking at houses and my prodigal is seeing us as a family. He calls me his wife even though the divorce is final." (California)(posted 4/10/2009)
“PRAISE THE LORD! My husband has left the counterfeit and has come home to his family. He said he felt much turmoil with her and knew he belonged with his family. I know that it was the Holy Spirit telling him to go home. We have a lot to work on, but with prayer I know we will be stronger than before. We are doing things much differently. I know the Holy Spirit will restore my husband's love again. We will continue our journey of restoration knowing the Lord is in control. I hope and pray that the standers out there will continue to keep their faith and believe that the Lord will move their mountain..... just as he did mine.” (Illinois)(posted 6/5/2013)
"Praise God. Here I am again! This time with an even greater testimony. I submitted a testimony of thanksgiving a few days ago, even though my marriage had not been restored. I was encouraged to do that by reading another stander's testimony. I have been standing for some months and the day after my last submission to RMM, God came in with a mighty wind of restoration and divine intervention! I now know that my marriage will be completely restored and be better than ever. We walk by faith and not by sight. A thankful heart says God I trust You even though I don't understand it all. I know You love me and will carry me through. Be encouraged standers - the best is yet to come. Believe. Ephesians 3:20.” (Connecticut)(posted 12/3/2012)
"We just passed the one year anniversary of the remarriage to my husband. The relationship could not have been any deader, with my husband's announcement to marry the other woman. Suddenly, the Lord breathed life into the dead situation. As a stander, I would read the Saturday Testimonies and cry out to the Lord, with the hope of one day being on the other side, reconciled and restored. God kept His promise. I am grateful to Rejoice Marriage Ministries for helping me to stand through biblical based principles and encouragement." (Illinois)(posted 7/6/2007)
My husband Joe and I were married for five years before he decided on a family vacation to Disneyland that he "just couldn't do this anymore." That was Halloween week and he had moved out of the house by Thanksgiving weekend.
My two-year-old daughter and I were devastated and shocked. Both of us claimed to be "Christians" and had a relationship with the Lord, attending church frequently, but never centered our lives and marriage around Jesus. I panicked at the prospect of being a single parent and immediately began searching Christian internet dating sites for a new partner. I met and began a long distance relationship with a man in a different state, seeking to fill the void in my life with this new relationship. I wandered as deep into the far country as my husband did until I was convicted one night by the Holy Spirit about being double-minded. How could I be actively praying for God to save my marriage when I was having an affair with a man "just in case" I actually ended up divorced?
My mother-in-law gave me a book shortly after that called "Can My Marriage Be Saved?" which is a compilation of stories of saved/reconciled marriages. One story referenced Covenant Keepers and when I looked them up online in a Google search, I came upon Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc.
Your materials captivated me; I had heard of covenant marriage but never this concept of "standing." Once I got a hold of it I couldn't get enough of the Bible and what it teaches about the covenant and God’s design for marriage. I started acting on these principles praying God’s truths over my marriage and family and I began to notice a change in myself so quickly that it was actually shocking. I prayed for the Lord to break me and mold me into the wife He wanted me to be. I didn't want to have an adulterous relationship any longer and became content having Jesus fill that space in my life. I made a commitment to honor the covenant even if Joe wasn't at the moment, and I took God at his Word that he is a God of healing and restoration.
Joe and I spent the holidays together and the further I got into my studies about standing, the easier it became for me to treat him with such God-given kindness and grace that my co-workers actually used to joke with me that we had a better relationship while going through a divorce than several of them did married. I took these little opportunities to witness to them about what I was standing for and what I knew God could do, and they would snicker at me and tell me to move on. I truly didn't believe that our divorce would go through...but it did. On April 20, 2010 a judge ruled our marriage "dissolved." I loved your teachings about praying over the divorce decree and that it is just a piece of paper, but does nothing to break the covenant if you keep standing (quite a concept for me to regard a court ruling as "just a piece of paper, since I'm a lawyer!!).
My little girl and I used to pray together at night and thank God for restoring our family and for the brothers and sisters that were yet to be born to Joe and me. She would ask when will Daddy come home and I would talk to her about God’s promises and tell her that we'd wait for him as long as it took. Thankfully, my story of reconciliation didn't take long. Literally two weeks after our divorce decree, there was Joe, who was on my front porch weeping over the mistake he had made and asking if we could "date.” Because of where my relationship was at with Jesus, I found it so easy to forgive him and confess my own earlier affair. God had given me a love for Joe that I had never experienced during our marriage.
We began an awesome time of courtship, healing, and inviting Jesus to be Lord over our relationship. I drafted a motion to the Court asking them to vacate our divorce decree and Joe moved back home last October. Our son was born on August 4 and is nicknamed "the miracle baby" by the same friends and co-workers who snickered at me when I told them God would heal and rebuild our family. As crazy as it sounds, I'm actually glad the divorce was final. I think it makes our reconciliation an even greater testimony to God’s powerful awesomeness than if it were just a divorce "close call!” Praise Jesus!!(posted 10/1/2012)
“PTL! Fellow Standers, never give up. My spouse recently returned home. Psalm 147:15 (AMP) He sends forth His commandment to the earth; His word runs very swiftly. We are so happy that he is home and I know that God heals all wounds in His time. I pray my spouse will become saved. Keep praying and fasting, the Lord will deliver your prodigal home. Just keep the faith and know that it's not over ‘til God says it’s over. Please be encouraged by my testimony, God delivers.” (Alabama)(posted 1/14/2013)
"Tomorrow I am leaving this place to begin the journey to reach my husband who is working far away. I told the Lord that if He would turn my husband’s heart to want his family together, I would go wherever that meant. Little did I know it would be on the other side of the world. Praise God for what He is doing and His great love towards us." (Virginia)(posted 8/14/2009)
"My husband left and filed for divorce. The Lord led me to Rejoice Marriage Ministries and I started standing for my marriage, fasting and praying. God led my entire household into a breakthrough. My kids all rededicated their lives to Jesus and joined in praying for their prodigal dad. All of a sudden, my husband called me and asked to come back. He is now a changed man. The divorce was retracted and we are planning a wedding renewal ceremony with our family and friends. God is so faithful. Thanks to Bob and Charlyne for the ministry God has given them." (Washington State)(posted 2/1/2008)
"God moved me to get my heart and my house ready. Days later, my prodigal returned home. This was the best Christmas. We renewed our marriage vows at church as a symbol of our new beginning with God as our foundation. Prodigals are coming home." (Georgia)(posted 1/4/2008)
"After several months of standing, my husband suddenly returned home two weeks before Christmas! We serve an amazing God. And thank God for Rejoice Ministries. They kept me standing when I did not have the strength to stand. Our reconciliation has been difficult but my wonderful Savior has drawn me so close to Him that I know He will restore my marriage to more than it was before this nightmare began. Keep standing standers! God will honor your stand. Stand strong!" (Kentucky)(posted 2/18/2011)
"My husband came home, thanks to many prayers. I, as well as others, had prayed for the Lord to send someone to speak with my husband and the Lord used several. One of my prayers has been for us to worship together again. When he returned to church with me, the front of the bulletin had a picture of a married couple with a scripture from Psalms." (Georgia)(posted 7/10/2009)
"In recent weeks both Charlyne Cares and broadcast program talked about 'The Suddenlies'. I read that email and listened to that message and wondered what I would do if there was a 'Suddenly' event in my life. This past week my husband called 'Suddenly' wanting to move things back in our house. He woke up and is leaving the other person because he misses his life, his kids, and his wife. Praise God for His answers to my prayers." (Ohio)(posted 8/4/2006)
"God has once again moved in a mighty and powerful way and He did it suddenly. God, in His great Mercy and Grace, brought my husband back home to us and everyday I get to see the miracle and work of God being done in my family and I. Although my spouse is an unbeliever, I am standing on the promises of God's Word and He will do just what He says. My returned prodigal is proof of God's Word not returning to Him void." (Georgia)(posted 12/8/2007)
"I want to praise God. He is so faithful. My husband asked me to come back home. I have been home several weeks now, and feel closer to my husband than in the past. Our restoration is still in its infancy, but I know God is with us, and I can let things blow over that would have set me off before. Not only has He softened my husband's heart, but mine as well. God is so faithful." (North Carolina)(posted 10/3/2008)
“PTL, my wife came home yesterday. She left me and our children some months ago. Having her call me yesterday to get a U-Haul so she can come back home was the greatest gift I ever received. The last few weeks have been the worst we ever had since the separation. As a stander I did my best to keep the faith; it was hard. So many times my faith wavered and I feared that I was going to lose my wife. After listening to Charlyne’s CD about faith as small as a mustard seed, I went to the store to buy a bottle of mustard seeds. I put them by my kitchen window the night before my wife called to come home. Just know that through God anything is possible. Never give up, no matter what your mind or your feelings tell you. God is working on your spouse as soon as you asked Him too. It would have been so easy for me to give up on my wife, but my love and trust through Jesus and the Holy Spirit saved my marriage. We still have a long road to go, but we just started our journey for the rest of our lives.” (Virginia)(posted 2/11/2014)
"I was prepared to divorce my husband. Someone told me about your ministry. I seriously prayed and fasted for both my husband and the other woman. He returned with a repentant heart for God. Now my husband is thanking God and leading us in prayer." (Florida)(posted 11/9/2007)
"Our awesome God has kept yet another promise and my spouse has come home. Now we begin a new journey together. I praise God that He has given me this mission and led me gently down a very difficult, but right, path." (Ohio)(posted 4/25/2008)
“God has done a series of miracles in my life, from converting me, to removing all that was keeping me from obeying Him, including my husband temporarily. But He is merciful and our promises will be fulfilled. After my husband had left us I didn't understand it at first. I was mad at God and I told Him what was on my mind. In these many months, God showed me who He really was, taught me faith in Him that I never knew before, reverence and peace through Him. I learned to be grateful for the little (that was more than enough) He gracefully provided. He humbled me and taught me patience that I desperately needed and didn't know how to get. Just this past week my husband asked to move back home but to the kids’ room and instead of fighting back I said YES and trusted in God. It has been a lot more difficult than when he wasn't home but God is giving me peace and wisdom as I pray and plead every day. His plan is the best plan.” (Florida)(posted 1/27/2014)
“It has been some weeks now since the Lord sent my prodigal back. Our reunion happened ‘suddenly.’ There is no secret what God can do! I thank you again for the prayers that were prayed for us as well as Charlyne Cares that I read every day to stand and keep my lips zipped.” (North Carolina)(posted 8/31/2012)
“After being separated for several months, God brought my wife back, only after I myself reconciled with the Lord first and finally gave my marriage into His hands. God drew me closer to Him and not only did my wife come back home, but came back with the desire to seek God and put me as her head and leader where God wants me to be. Remember, God comes first and He'll take care of everything else, EVERYTHING! Never give up standers, God does have perfect timing. Don't believe in the devil's lies. Prodigals do come home when lead by God! I can’t stop thanking my Savior Jesus Christ! Pray and seek God” (Texas)(posted 2/12/2013)
"It's been months since my husband came home and recommitted his life back to our marriage and back to our Lord Jesus Christ. Our marriage not only survived, but has flourished and is better than ever. Our son sees the changes and teases us because we are more affectionate and closer than ever. My husband still thanks me for not giving up on him and for loving him unconditionally. Our God does move mountains." (Idaho)(posted 9/26/2008)
“In May, the Lord revealed to me through a dream that my husband would be back in my life after nine months. There was a false start in June, which was very painful, but it was not God's timing. Now, nine months later, our restoration is happening. There are still strongholds of lust, pride, idolatry, fear, and addiction, but God has brought us this far and I know He will continue to deliver us, according to His good purpose. To Christ be all the glory, we are nothing without Him.” (Florida)(posted 9/30/2013)
“I am really grateful I found this site. I was truly encouraged in faith to pray for my prodigal husband. He left and now he has returned home. It wasn't easy and it still takes a lot of faith and prayers, but daily I remind myself that my strength lies in the Lord. And for all the standers out there I would like to say, Many are the plans in a man's heart, but it is the LORD's purpose that prevails. Proverbs 19:21 Regardless of what your spouse, friends, even family say, only one voice matters and that is God. So let go and let God take control.” (Guyana)(posted 3/3/2014)
"My husband left home. Our son had cancer and was in treatment at the time. I moved away with my son. I was not going to let my husband keep doing this to me, I thought. The Lord really began working on my heart and my commitment to the covenant I made with Him and my husband. I moved back, repented, forgave, and prayed. I found Rejoice Ministries on the Internet and thought this was crazy, but soon realized very biblical. Many discouraged my stand. Our son was healed and encouraged me to keep praying for Daddy. My husband broke off the other relationship. He went to church earlier this year and began coming back to the Lord. I asked him out on a date. We were separated four years. He moved home in September. He is going to Promise Keepers tomorrow. God has restored our marriage and family. It is wonderful when a Prodigal comes home. They are thankful and you understand and are grateful. God gave us the privilege to stand. Thank you for your ministry." (Canada)(posted 11/19/2006)
"I was invited back home after a long separation. My spouse and children need to heal. I know God is working. I only need to keep my eyes on Him." (Ohio)(posted 4/3/2009)
"My husband and I separated for several months. I was an emotional wreck. I began praying and believing God for my miracle. I later realized I had made my stand an idol. I asked God to forgive me for not appreciating Him and the life He had blessed me with, and for carrying on as if I could not live. That same night my husband came home. Bless the Lord." (Illinois)(posted 5/25/2007)
“A few months ago my husband decided he was leaving us. I was desperate and as I was searching on the internet, I come across RMM. I started standing. God is good! My husband has not left and he is taking the whole family on vacation. We still have a long way to go but Jesus is with us. Standers, don't give up. What He did for me He will do for you.” (Belgium)(posted 8/15/2013)
“God has suddenly brought my spouse home. Our daughter announced we're getting back together to her teacher. Her teacher came to tell me she heard the good news and then she shared that ever since she was four-years-old she has been wishing that her parents would reunite. Divorce impacts a child their entire life.” (Missouri)(posted 8/31/2012)
“PTL - my husband is home! The other person kicked him out and he and all his stuff have been home for over six weeks now. It has been just like Charlyne said- totally, suddenly and unexpected. Although my precious husband is grieving the broken soul tie and relationship, I see signs every day that God is doing a new thing in his heart! And even though we are divorced on paper and he is sleeping on the couch- he is HOME! He and I are talking more than we did our first years of marriage. He even mentioned getting married (jokingly- but I claimed it in Jesus name!) We have been out on dates together and are pretty much getting to know each other again. It's been many years of him being gone and it looked so completely hopeless. Even though the other has been ‘brought’ home with my husband in his grief - I know to keep praying for her, her family and mine. God is no respecter of persons - if He did it for me, He WILL do it for you! Ephesians 3:20.” (Minnesota)(posted 6/10/2013)
"My wife and I have been reunited for two years and God is truly blessing our marriage. Years ago my wife asked me to forgive her for something. I could not, and I became angry and verbally abusive and she left. God led me to a group at church and with God's love, He helped me forgive and overcome my anger. Then I found your ministry and started standing for my marriage. I too had become a prodigal. It is such a blessing to be able to love my wife unconditionally again, just as Christ loves us." (Pennsylvania)(posted 6/9/2006)
“My dear sisters and brothers in Christ, I was once were you are at, waiting on the Lord to bring your spouse back home, first to HIM and then to our family. It's now been 17 months since my spouse returned after 8 years away and i t was when I least expected it. Keep praying faithfully for your spouse. Do not give up stay firm in the gap in prayer for your spouse. God hates divorce and you must trust HIM. I am a living testimony of God's great miracles. Our marriage was dead but now He has made it alive. My spouse came knocking at our door asking God for forgiveness and then each of the family members. Trust HIM!” (Illinois)(posted 11/14/2012)