Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
“PTL! My Father is in the restoring business...He brought my prodigal home after almost a year of very little communication and my husband saying, I'm not coming back. I have to admit I gave up after a conversation I had with him and He told me he was happy where he was. The next day I went online and filled out divorce papers. When I handed him the papers he said he needed time to read through them, but never signed them. Instead he told me He was going to stand for our marriage just the way I had. A few months later we are together working things through, but putting God first. I continue to pray for a full restoration and for God to give all standers His peace and strength! Please don't give up on your marriage, it is worth fighting for. Thanks RRM for helping me through this.” (Texas)(posted 2/17/2014)
"After years away in the far away country and numerous false starts home, the Lord has brought my husband back. My circumstances seemed so hopeless but God prevailed, even if there is no home for him to come home to because my kids and I moved back to my parents' house. We now literally have to start from scratch, yet he still opted to leave the comfortable life he had in the far country. The spiritual warfare is even more real to me now, but I choose to rest upon the Lord." (Philippines)(posted 10/3/2008)
"I attended one of your meetings where I was able to pray for my spouse along with others who are believing for the return of their spouses. My spouse returned this Thanksgiving, free from all bitterness and a new sense of peace after they surrendered their life to Jesus. It is truly a miracle. I prayed that God would do what ever was needed to bring my spouse back home while at the same time protecting them from permanent harm. That is exactly what happened through a set of circumstances, God finally got my spouse’s attention and led them back to God and then to the family." (North Carolina)(posted 1/4/2008)
“God has done a series of miracles in my life, from converting me, to removing all that was keeping me from obeying Him, including my husband temporarily. But He is merciful and our promises will be fulfilled. After my husband had left us I didn't understand it at first. I was mad at God and I told Him what was on my mind. In these many months, God showed me who He really was, taught me faith in Him that I never knew before, reverence and peace through Him. I learned to be grateful for the little (that was more than enough) He gracefully provided. He humbled me and taught me patience that I desperately needed and didn't know how to get. Just this past week my husband asked to move back home but to the kids’ room and instead of fighting back I said YES and trusted in God. It has been a lot more difficult than when he wasn't home but God is giving me peace and wisdom as I pray and plead every day. His plan is the best plan.” (Florida)(posted 1/27/2014)
“This past summer, there has been more friendly contact with my wife than ever before. She has asked my boys and me to move in with her and even though she says it's for financial purposes only, I strongly feel that it's the hand of God moving toward my marriage being restored.” (Texas)(posted 12/3/2012)
“A season ago I was being handed divorce papers. I had been a born again believer for over 30 years and found as I went through this trial clinging to the Lord, that I had been saved by His death at the cross, but I had never grown beyond that and really developed a deep relationship and walk with the Lord. God used my time of separation with my husband to work in me, walk with me, and reveal Himself to me. I had never been able to say I am truly in love with the Lord before. I fought my divorce, trusted and obeyed the Lord, and He was faithful. Just in His time, my husband was moved by the Lord to seek reconciliation with me. He dismissed the divorce, and today he is living at home and I am watching in awe as God rebuilds our marriage stronger than ever, with Him at the center. I consider it a unique blessing to have gone through a trial of this magnitude and seen a small glimpse of the power, love, faithfulness, forgiveness, peace, and joy that our Savior is and has for us.” (Missouri)(posted 9/16/2013)
“Praise God, my husband has returned. It has been a year since he left and now he is back home. I praise God for this journey, it brought me closer to our Lord and changed me. My journey began with a fast where the Lord convicted me of my sin of divorcing my husband. Once I repented the changes began. Change began to take place in me and our God Jehovah is faithful to His Word. What an awesome God we serve. We are starting a new chapter in our lives.” (Texas)(posted 10/28/2013)
"After nearly two years of separation, my husband came home in 2003. He did not come home a changed man. I continued to stand and believe that with God, all things are possible. It wasn't until the Holy Spirit really got hold of him one summer afternoon in 2005 that things began to change. I began to really see answers to prayers. In September, 2006 my husband asked the court to void the divorce dissolution. It was granted. It was only the second one known to happen in this State. Praise God from whom all blessing flow." (Washington State)(posted 11/25/2006)
“After being separated for several months, my husband moved home suddenly this weekend. Praise God!!! He does answer prayer. My husband said that the reason he came home was: 1.He saw changes in me that he wanted to be around. 2.He said he had heard the voice of God the last two months telling him to GO HOME. Praise God! The struggle has not stopped because my husband is home. If anything, I must keep up the intensity of my prayer time! Hold on; keep praying and fasting, and believing!” (Louisiana)(posted 8/30/2012)
“I got a call from my husband after a long wait of not hearing from him, telling me he missed me and he was coming home. He wanted to spend the rest of his life with me as we always planned. He has been home now for a short time and our marriage is stronger than it was before. There is work that needs to be done but this I know, God does come through and restores marriages as He is doing with mine. I will praise Him daily as he works on both of us as we are one again.” (Florida)(posted 8/1/2013)
"After almost six months of separation, my wife and I are getting back together. We have found that acceptance of each other and faith in our Lord is much more powerful than trying to go it alone. I was for sure our marriage was done when she filed the papers, but God changed our hearts, and pointed us in the direction we needed to go to reconcile our differences and to show us true compassion and forgiveness. Thank you Bob and Charlyne for the daily reminders to not give up on our marriage." (Tennessee)(posted 11/22/2006)
GOD IS A RESTORER
Finally, brothers and sisters, rejoice! Strive for full restoration, encourage one another, be of one mind, live in peace. And the God of love and peace will be with you. 2 Corinthians 13:11
In 2009 when my husband was expressing thoughts of suddenly not wanting to be married, I did not know to turn to the greatest healer there is, our Lord Jesus Christ. I believed in God and knew I wanted to go to Heaven when I died but that was the extent of my relationship with Him. Instead of leaning on God and turning to His Word, I turned to friends and took into account their perspective on my marriage, my husband and how to handle things going forward.
Some people said, “Kick him out, he needs tough love” others said, “give him a taste of his own medicine, make him jealous” and some said, “Whatever you do, don’t let him think you’ll wait while he figures this out or he’ll just use you.”
I spent months trying all the above while my husband fell further into sin. I did not get on my knees and ask the only true and living God what He wanted me to do. As a result things got worse until I discovered there was another person and that is when I really showed the enemy at work within me as I lashed out and verbally abused and physically attacked the man God called me to love unconditionally.
But God! God has a perfect plan even through the storm. Just as David had to literally run for his life for seven years even though he had been appointed king, God used that time to strengthen his character and mature him naturally and spiritually until he arrived at his appointed position! God did the same for me as my husband took up residentce a mile away from home and continued the non-covenant relationship. All the well-intentioned advice had gotten me nowhere so I finally surrendered to the Lord, fell onto the floor prostrate and cried out about what to do.
Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know. Jeremiah 33:3
It was then that God began to speak to me through His Word, supernaturally with signs and prophetic messages and it was only then when I received peace about my situation. No, my fellow standers, it did not remove the excruciating pain I felt and things did not immediately turn around in the natural but I had huge hope in my heart and I had a mustard-seed size of faith that God would do what His Word promises He will do. My husband would say things in the natural that sounded bleak, but I’d smile and nod my head and give it over to Christ knowing full well that this was only a season and despite what the words were that came out of his mouth, God was still going to tear down the veil of deception from my husband’s eyes.
He replied, “If you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mulberry tree, ‘Be uprooted and planted in the sea,’ and it will obey you. Luke 17:6
I put my wedding ring back on and went to everyone who I had spoken an ill word about my husband and our circumstances and proclaimed what God would do. I immersed myself in God’s Word and the lessons from RMM. I went to church and weekly Bible studies, prayed, fasted, travailed and began to show my husband unconditional love, always seeking God on how to handle certain situations like holidays and our anniversary. So many days when my husband was around me, I had to restrain myself from reaching out and touching his arm or saying, “I love you.” In the midst of my husband’s sin, God put a love in my heart so deep for my husband it was staggering even to myself that I could love him while he was doing so many things to hurt me.
My brothers and sisters in Christ, listen to me. God will always do what He says He will do. His Word will NEVER return void. Never! Do you hear that? He will restore your marriage and family. He will turn your spouse from darkness back to light. He will soften the hearts of your spouse and children and family members that may not be seeking God’s will for your life, marriage and family but rather is looking at what your spouse is doing and judging the sinner instead of the sin.
Stand in the gap for your spouse while they are in the far country having fall prey to the enemy’s trap of lies and deceit. It doesn’t matter if your spouse is still at home, a mile away or 10,000 miles away. The details are not important. Yes, I know your heart is wounded and every day that passes you feel as though you don’t know how much more pain you can take but go to the greatest healer, Jehova Rapha, Our Lord, and allow Him to heal your heart and wounds. Sekk God on what He wants you to do while He is your spouse this season. Yes, even the men that are standing, God will be your spouse. He will provide everything you need because He is the only one who can meet your needs. The awesome thing about this season you are in is, God will go to work on you too. While my spouse was gone and I cried out to Him to bring my husband home and remove him from sin, God did something wonderful and that was to bring to mind all the things I had done that were sinful and did not line up with His will for me as a wife and Christian. I was ashamed and felt so guilty but God allowed me to repent and ask for forgiveness and then showed me in the Bible how I was to be for my husband and how I was to be as one of His children. I’d search the internet for various things about marriage and found so many teachings that spoke to me on how God designed marriage. I wasn’t the wife God called me to be before but I am now.
Months after my husband moved out, suddenly, just as Bob and Charlyne have proclaimed in so many of their teachings, my husband asked me out to the movies. By the end of the day a simple movie turned to dinner before the movie and an invite to his apartment that I had never been inside before. Three weeks later he was back home and he had ended things with the other person. No one can tell me that God is not in the restoration business. He designed marriage and hates divorce. While He works on you and softens your heart and gives you time to turn away from bitterness, resentment, anger, malice and discontent, He is working on your spouse, gently nudging them, tugging at them and even giving them dreams. My husband said he had no peace and had constant chatter in his head to go home.
God has a plan. He will turn what was meant for your harm for your good and possibly for the first time, your marriage will finally be built the way it should have started out when we took our marriage vows in front of God inviting Him into our marriage but ignoring His will instead. He will restore what the locusts tried to eat and instead give it all back to you double and in ways you can never imagine.
What God is doing in our marriage is beautiful. There is a deeper love, a greater connection. Passion is back that had been lost among years of marriage, complacency, children and life. It is mind boggling because my husband has always been my best friend and I thought we had a great relationship before but it’s nothing compared to what we have now. I remember crying out to God and saying, “Give me back my marriage.” And Him replying with, “I will give you a new one.” I didn’t understand that and then thought, “I’d be fine with my old one, thank you very much.” But now I see. God doesn’t want to give you back your old anything. When He makes a way in something, it will be new.
I am now respecting my husband and submitting to him as the man of the house and my husband is praying over his family and leading our home in Christ. We would have never arrived here without Christ’s intervention. In the midst of the pain, God had a purpose, to bring us back to Him. God knows what He is doing and His will is perfect.(posted 10/1/2012)
"My husband and I are restored and this past weekend we moved into the home we purchased together. Without God and your ministry encouraging me I don’t think I would have made it. God Bless you." (Oklahoma)(posted 5/16/2008)
"All glory to the Lord. My husband returned to the Lord and moved back home with us this week. We know the enemy will continue his attack against our family, but we will trust in God to carry us through and fight the battle for us." (California)(posted 6/26/2008)
"My husband has been home for nine months. All the praise goes to the Lord. I continue to stand on the promises of Jesus to rebuild our marriage on the solid rock of Jesus Christ and restore the love in our marriage. I give glory to the Lord who answers prayers." (New York)(posted 9/19/2008)
"I sought the Lord and He heard my cries. My husband returned to our family after being gone for months and living with the other woman. I give all the praise and glory to Jesus who does answer prayer." (Texas)(posted 9/12/2008)
“My wife returned home after a three and a half year stand. My entire stand I could sense the Lord reminding me to trust Him. I can honestly say the greatest joy in my stand was the deeper relationship I gained with the Lord. I consider all that was lost in the past three and a half years as gain. My message to all standers is to completely trust in the Lord Jesus. He will never leave you nor forsake you. No matter what your circumstance may be, never, ever give up on the Lord to restore your marriage.” (Pennsylvania)(posted 12/23/2012)
“My testimony has been a life changing moment. God has blessed my marriage with total restoration and now my wife loves me and she wants to marry me. In the Bible, Mark 9:23 (KJV) says, ‘All things are possible to him that believeth.’ This has been my year of great grace and I am happy to share what the Lord has done for me.” (Georgia)(posted 12/16/2013)
“After being separated for an entire year, my prodigal spouse made an announcement to my family at Christmas dinner, that he is coming back home to his family!! I was speechless and relieved after confirming what GOD said about not being ashamed. I placed my faith in His Word regarding the things of this world which are to fade away, but His Word and promises are forever! Amen, praise to the almighty Prince of Peace. I know we have a long road ahead of us, but I will continue to put GOD first in everything and I know we'll be fine. We've also begun to look for a new house to move into with our five children. I still hear Him talking to me daily, and I'm overjoyed that this is only the beginning of what He has in store for me and my family. So from now on, when things 'look' bad, I’ll count on my Father to bring me through, He knows what's best for us...GOD is awesome.” (Georgia)(posted 1/4/2013)
"Please praise God with me. My husband told me that he will be moving home in two weeks. We have been separated for a little over a year and struggling before that. God has dramatically changedhis thinking and softened his heart. From the day I began praying scriptures for him, I could see that God was making a difference. Please continue to keep us in your prayers as we work on restoration. We both need more healing, but God is so good, I know itwill come. Thank you, thank you for your ministry. God led me to your web site at a very low point in my stand (I didn't even have aname for my conviction until then). Your tapes and daily e-mail messages have helped immensely. God bless you." (posted 11/20/2004)
"My husband left and was out of control. I got clean and found this ministry. I lived by it daily. I knew God would bring him. Two years ago, my husband hit a tree on his motorcycle was in a coma for months, but with God’s grace and help, I foght for his life. I knew if he died he would not go to Heaven. I held on with God and my husband is alive. He is home learning to walk and talk and love. I wasn’t expecting God to bring him home like this. I have faith that my husband will continue to get better as will our marriage. God has promised, if I just hold on and never give up. I didn’t and I won’t." (California)(posted 6/7/2007)
"Praise The Lord, my wife dropped the action for divorce and now is ready for me to come home. Only He can work this type of miracle. My spouse has been going to church with me and the reconciliation and restoration happened quickly. How great God is and how wonderful to let Him lead me." (New York)(posted 9/25/2009)
"I have been standing for many months and my husband came home this week. There had been no sign of his return. God revealed Himself through answered prayers in a mighty way. My husband came home out of obligation more than love, just as God prepared me. The road ahead will be long as my husband mourns the break-up with the other woman but things are going exactly as God showed me they would. I know He is in control. We serve an awesome God." (Illinois)(posted 5/14/2010)
"Praise the Lord. After a year of separation, my prodigal has returned home. We still have much work to do, but the words of Jesus Christ rings within my heart, 'Peace be with you.' (John 20:19). Thank you Bob and Charlyne for standing for Jesus Christ not just in marriage, but in life." (Georgia)(posted 9/14/2007)
"My husband has been home for a few months after many false attempts. He is going to a Christian college majoring in theology. Sometimes I think that God has a sense of humor since my spouse is still not living a Christian life yet he wants to study in a Christian environment. This was also our first Thanksgiving together in many years and we went to Florida to visit family. For the first time I saw the Rejoice billboard that reads 'Forgive Them.'" (Georgia)(posted 12/4/2009)
'Praise God for His faithfulness. I put before the Lord a request that my husband would be home in time to celebrate Thanksgiving with our family. My husband told me about a week ago that he was thinking of coming home the first week of December. I was grateful for that news but felt God calling me to continue to pray for a Thanksgiving homecoming. Today at church my husband came to me and told me he would be moving home on Tuesday. Two full days before Thanksgiving. God is faithful in keeping His promises. Our Lord does give exceedingly and abundantly more than we could ever hope or imagine. He did it for me. He will do it for you. Glory be to God." (State withheld due to nature of testimony.)(posted 11/20/2006)
"Praise be to our Almighty Lord. My spouse asked if he could come home. He will be moving in this week. He has shared that he is coming home out of obedience to the Lord. Our children are thrilled at the return of their father." (California)(posted 2/9/2007)
"The God we serve is mighty and holy. The Lord suddenly restored my marriage. I have learned a lot and have changed a lot. I am sure my husband is astounded at the changes in me. I am now standing for his salvation. God will do it for His Glory." (South Africa)(posted 3/19/2010)