Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
“Glory to God, we have a restored marriage. I have been fasting, praying and breathing the Word of God every day. And just when things felt the most hopeless and discouraging, SUDDENLY my wife called. Reconciliation was the last thing I expected. BUT GOD totally smashed the wall between us. My wife told me that she had been having dreams, sorrow and she broke into despair. She opened up a secret that shook our world and if not for the grace of God and my walk with Him, none would be prepared to embrace the news. But the response was nothing short of a miracle. Only the blood of Jesus could do such a miraculous healing. We are planning to remarry. I still pinch myself. God is true to His Word. Jeremiah 29:11-14.” (Indonesia)
"Praise God, my husband has returned home. Although he is not admitting that it was God who sent him home, I know that it was the Almighty. I knew my prayers would be answered, but I didn't think it would be so quick. We have a lot of work to do and I know we can do it because I refuse to stop standing and praying." (Florida)
“My marriage was so rocky. I thought I was trying real hard, but still imagined I deserved more. I stayed away for a year. I came back in faith exactly a year later, trusting my husband's anger would subside if only I would obey the Lord, and reconcile. Your website was my friend and encouragement when I had little external encouragement. A year later, we couldn't be happier, and all has been healed ! It is true that only one spouse standing makes a difference and God still does miracles! I will never be sorry I came back home. I believe my kids are better off, and we are all happier. Thank you and Him!” (Wyoming)
“A season ago I was being handed divorce papers. I had been a born again believer for over 30 years and found as I went through this trial clinging to the Lord, that I had been saved by His death at the cross, but I had never grown beyond that and really developed a deep relationship and walk with the Lord. God used my time of separation with my husband to work in me, walk with me, and reveal Himself to me. I had never been able to say I am truly in love with the Lord before. I fought my divorce, trusted and obeyed the Lord, and He was faithful. Just in His time, my husband was moved by the Lord to seek reconciliation with me. He dismissed the divorce, and today he is living at home and I am watching in awe as God rebuilds our marriage stronger than ever, with Him at the center. I consider it a unique blessing to have gone through a trial of this magnitude and seen a small glimpse of the power, love, faithfulness, forgiveness, peace, and joy that our Savior is and has for us.” (Missouri)
"My husband came home suddenly two weeks ago. I am so grateful to God. I stood on the promise of that little mustard seed and miracles started happening everywhere in my life, not only my marriage is healed, but also my family is healing." (New York)
“Praise the Lord! I got my miracle. My spouse is coming home and the divorce dismissed! I had several years of crying out to the Lord day and night. I am so happy! I was in anguish crying out to the Lord God and heard a still small voice tell me to wait. After reading everything I could on God and marriage and studying scriptures about marriage. I told God I would wait as long as it took. Every time I experienced another obstacle I'd pray and remember what God said and my promise to Him. It looked hopeless. Finally after being forced to sign a court appearance paper I turned it completely over to God. This is when I saw the hand of God at work! Now when I look back, I see He's been working the whole time. Amazing! He is faithful. Never give up. God will do what He has promised! He is love. Learn to trust! My journey has only begun… But God! A scripture which really helped in the last month was Psalm 91:4.” (Nebraska)
"Even though my husband stayed in close touch with me for all the years, I never had the first clue that he was so close to coming home. One day my husband came over and we starting talking about God. My husband was having a hard time sleeping at night. He said he kept feeling like he was almost hearing voices. I sent him home with some material. A few days later, he email me and asked about moving back home. He said he knew he had a lot of issues to work through, but knew he could do it if I would give him a chance. God's timing was perfect as we were able to celebrate our anniversary together." (State withheld due to ongoing nature of this restoration.)
“After being separated from my husband for some years, I didn't want to pray him back and I felt terribly sad when I heard of the OW. But the Holy Spirit instructed me to pray for marital restoration. I was reluctant at first but I stumbled on this site the following day and I was encouraged. I decided to stand for my marriage. Shortly after, my husband sent me a message praying and thanking me for being a good mother to our kids. I felt it was one of the numerous false starts but to God be the glory, our story has changed because my husband is home and the other woman has finally decided to leave him. Praise the Lord!” (Nigeria)
"My husband and I been through so many trials with family deaths and his illness, that changed both of us. I became an unhappy and unappreciative wife. My husband left. My relationship with the Lord was suffering. Him leaving was the best thing that ever happened to me. It woke me up. I started praying as a stander. But little did I realize that the Lord was going to reveal all the things in me that needed to change. 1 Peter 3 and Proverbs 31 are Chapters that helped me see the kind of wife I'm supposed to be. I repented and started seeking the Lord to change my heart and my husband's. I had to accept that I could not change my husband, only the Lord can do that. I went to my husband and asked for his forgiveness for all my shortcomings as a wife. I asked him to give me another chance. He is now home." (California)
"My husband decided the marriage was over when I was pregnant. The devotional about having the faith to move mountains inspired me to pray. When the baby was a few weeks old, he asked if we could give it another go and broke contact with the other person. Last Sunday I asked my husband to renew the marriage vows. He said yes. I had written and recorded a song for him as a surprise, and gave it to him at a restaurant, where it was played loudly. Then I 'proposed' to him. I cannot express how much of a miracle this is. God told me that we would be renewing our vows, at the same time as our baby's dedication. It seemed impossible, but now it is happening. If it weren't for Charlyne Cares I couldn't have held on. I nearly gave up, but thank God I didn't." (Wales)
"God is faithful. My husband has been gone for months. Not only have I been praying for him to come home, but that he would get another job due to the stress it caused. I was hired at a new job and a week later my husband was hired by my boss. My husband asked me out to dinner the night before his job opportunity and a week later he came home. He even bought us new wedding bands yesterday. Praise God, He is working on both of us." (Kentucky)
"Praise The Lord. God saw fit to bring my prodigal home suddenly. Thank You Jesus." (Indiana)
"Thank you for your constant encouragement in pointing me to relevant scripture. I can't remember how many times it was exactly what I needed to hear. My husband is ready to com home and to be remarried. God amazes me with answered prayer, bit by bit. We may be married again by next month. It is so exciting to see how God is working things out." (Indiana)
"My husband apologized for all the hurt he caused. This week he called his attorney and is dismissing the divorce. The next day he drove hours to my home. We talked and then went over to our pastor and talked for another hour. My husband is making the restoration to his Lord. Before he left I gave him Bob's book 'Finding The Way Home.' I had it ready here for him for just that perfect time." (California)
“I left my spouse years ago. I was the prodigal but many months ago I became the stander. My situation seemed hopeless. My husband’s life was out of control. I was devastated. I prayed unceasingly. I gave up many times and just when I started to think there was no hope, my suddenly came completely unexpected. My husband came to me and told me he loved me and wanted to reconcile our marriage. I see now that if I had just been still and let God be in control it could have happened much sooner. PTL! God is faithful.” (Canada)
"There was no love or respect between me and my husband. He moved out in anger. I started standing many months ago, praying for him and loving him unconditionally. This week my husband moved everything back home and we are working on restoring our marriage, but with a new light in it thanks to God and His grace." (Maryland)
“At the end of the summer my husband moved us into a home near his work. He had been gone for nearly three years before restoration. Though I was reluctant to leave the area where we lived for many years, God in his goodness has supplied much Christian fellowship and many friends in a short time. Restoration is happening all through our family between four generations. Miracles do happen and God is rebuilding our family on the Rock of Jesus Christ. Praise be to God! I hope this is of encouragement to others to know that God can restore a very large and diverse family. He does more than we can think or imagine.” (Canada)
“Hallelujah! My spouse has been home for over a year now and it has been challenging at times, BUT God...He has been so good, faithful and direct. What I needed to learn was living out Philippians 4:8-9 and be very, very thankful, spending time praising Him and resting at His feet. Though sometimes I get weary, God answers prayers at His perfect time. One of those is to hear my spouse say thank you and I love you. I got all this recently, quick to praise God! As I was reading the Word, I felt led to Psalm 15 and share this with you, beloved standers. Read verses 4b and 5b, and be encouraged and strengthened once again! All glory to Jesus Christ.” (Malaysia)
“Praise God for He has restored our marriage. My husband demanded a divorce. I was devastated. I was a new believer and I couldn't grasp what was happening to my life. God was telling me to let my husband go. He also told me that the generations of divorce would end now. I was confused and cried out to God. God led me here, to RMM, and I never looked back. I submitted everything to the Lord. He worked on me and showed me things that I needed to change. God softened my heart towards my husband and cleansed my heart of unforgiveness. God continued His work in me and a few months later, my husband returned home. I encourage all standers to listen to the Lord and concentrate on fixing themselves and allow the Lord to fix our prodigals. He is so very faithful, even when our spouses are not. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. James 4:8.” (Ohio)
“Praise, glory and honor to God and my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ! I filed for divorce due to many circumstances. This weekend, I discovered the prayers here on this website and prayed them for three nights over the weekend. Last night, my husband called me, with a convicted heart, asking me to withdraw the divorce petition and to reconcile. Glory to God!” (Georgia)
"My prodigal returned home some time ago. He is still fighting addictions and has not accepted Christ as his Savior yet. This past week I looked in the bedroom saw my husband on his knees by the bed. When I entered the room he was crying like a baby and asked me to pray for him. He will be saved soon." (Florida)
"Even after our divorce, my prodigal husband has come home. The Easter time of fasting and prayer was the answer for our family. He went to church with us on Easter and the next night came to visit. Two weeks later, he moved home, praise God. Thanks to the Steinkamps for their wisdom from the Lord to teach us how to keep them home after they return. It is not an easy road, but there is so much laughter and joy in our home again." (Oklahoma)
"My husband and I are under the restoration process, I had the pressure of family, but our Lord led me each step. My parents are old and suffering and Dad urged me to divorce my husband. I told him that even if my husband is not worthy, Jesus is the only one "to undo the evil" (1 John 3:8). The love I have received in this trial has drawn me closer to God. I am still waiting for my prodigal, who is with me, but has not opened his heart with His Savior. God will open his eyes and heart." (Mexico)
"Praise God for He has answered my prayers. My husband returned home but still struggles with thoughts of the other woman. It's tough to hear about it, but the Lord taught me perseverance and long-suffering while my husband was away. I just continue to talk to God about it and trust that He will deliver my husband from those strongholds. Prayer and fasting do work. My husband is not a reader, but he read Bob's book, and it was such an encouragement to him. Praise God for all He has done. I have to keep reminding myself that restoration is not an event, but a process." (New York)
"Thank you for your prayers. My wife and I have been back together for ten months. We have areas that still need healing but we are both trusting in God and are in the scripture every day. Your ministry is such a blessing. When everyone else said to get over it and move on, you encouraged me and led me to the trust in the Lord." (Washington State)
“Praise God for bringing my wife back after over seven years of separation. We have now been back together for many months and going strong. I thank God for giving me the strength to stand and wait and bringing me to Rejoice Marriage Ministries. I pray for everyone out there waiting for their time to come. Just remember it is God's timing.” (Minnesota)
"God really does heal marriages. I was the one who thought the grass was greener on the other side. When our marriage wasn't going according to my plan, I began to confide in another man. After divorcing my husband I was left feeling so empty inside. The other man was the one I thought would make my life complete. Thank God my husband was led to your ministry. He learned to pray the scriptures and stood for our marriage and prayed for my salvation. The Holy Spirit began to do a work in me. The Lord softened my heart and by God's grace I was saved. We have been remarried for over two years and our relationship with the Lord and one another keeps getting better. Please do not give up on your marriage or on God. What He did for us, He can do for you. Always remember that the grass is greenest where it is watered." (Michigan)
“I asked my husband for forgiveness in my part of the decay of our marriage by letter in October. Since then we have had several dates a week, daily texts and an anniversary present the day after our anniversary that he called an early Christmas present and another present the Sunday before Christmas. He asked me out to lunch as a surprise. God is softening his heart and moving my husband’s feet toward home. I have already received many wonderful gifts from our Lord that are greater than any worldly ones I could receive.” (Georgia)
"I give God all the praise. My husband came home on Monday. I give God all the praise. Miracles do happen." (Ohio).
“I got a call from my husband after a long wait of not hearing from him, telling me he missed me and he was coming home. He wanted to spend the rest of his life with me as we always planned. He has been home now for a short time and our marriage is stronger than it was before. There is work that needs to be done but this I know, God does come through and restores marriages as He is doing with mine. I will praise Him daily as he works on both of us as we are one again.” (Florida)