Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"My husband has been talking about divorcing me. I have been pursuing God relentlessly. Now we are back under the same roof and sleeping in the same bed. I would not have thought this possible. God is showing me that He is in control. Praise God." (Virginia)
"I kicked my husband out in a dramatic scene. That was my big mistake. I should never have taken things into my own hands. I should have gone to God first. After months of separation and waging a truly spiritual war against Satan, my husband came home for the Glory of God. I have turned my life to God and am grateful for what happened because it brought me to Him. Thank You, Father." (Florida)
“My marriage has been restored after some years of separation. God answered in His time. He is so faithful. Please don’t give up even if circumstances look impossible. I believe in the promises written in the Bible…say it, repeat it, believe it! God is awesome! " (California)
"My husband and I woke early this morning. We held hands in front of a warm fire. It's Christmas morning and our teenagers are still in bed. This scene should not be happening. We almost let satan steal our precious family. My husband came home a few years ago after filing for divorce. God has healed and restored our marriage. He taught me how to stand and pray for my marriage. He showed me how to change my bad attitudes and let Him change my husband. All that we went through has made us closer and now I stand in prayer for marriages." (Arizona)
"Thank you for your prayers. My wife and I have been back together for ten months. We have areas that still need healing but we are both trusting in God and are in the scripture every day. Your ministry is such a blessing. When everyone else said to get over it and move on, you encouraged me and led me to the trust in the Lord." (Washington State)
"I stumbled across your web site years ago when my marriage was falling apart and I was desperately seeking some sort of answer to my pain. You pointed me back to God. Thank you. My husband and I are now enjoying the beginnings of a newly restored marriage. God brought us back together just in time to be a united front against the devil's attack on my health. The day after I got my diagnosis, I received the email from you about the new healing newsletter. God has already promised to heal me and the beautiful thing is that now I know how to trust Him for it. I learned how to rely on and truly trust God when standing for my marriage. Isn't it wonderful how God prepares us for every step in our journey with Him?" (Missouri)
“My husband has been home for a few months now. I am still in awe! I remember at the beginning of my stand how he told me he had no hope for us, and now he says he'll never leave again. This is God softening his heart! While his relationship with God still isn't where it needs to be, I can tell he's trying. I know the Holy Spirit is leading and guiding him into all truth, as this is my main prayer for him right now. There are still really bad days, but I keep walking in love, standing on God's Word, and I know that God will bring this good work to completion. He did not save my marriage to let it fail at this point. Standers, never give up. My situation was as horrible as it gets, but I set my face like stone and through the rough days I praised God all the more and quoted His Word continuously and the results are manifested. My husband is home! My marriage is being healed! God is so good and will watch over His Word to perform it.” (Texas)
"When Bob and Charlyne shared that our prodigals may come home messy, I had no idea. But God held my tongue and continued to complete the work He started. He is faithful. My husband no longer drinks alcohol, has nothing to do with the other woman, is working regularly, and gives me money toward household expenses. All this without me saying a word. God is good." (Oregon)
"I am praising the Lord that my God brought my husband home this past weekend. It was very suddenly. Thank you Bob and Charlyne for your wisdom and direction on how to stand. I thank God for you both. There is much to continue to stand for, but God can do anything." (Arizona)
"God does heal hurting marriages. My husband is not only home in our house but today he came home to our God." (California)
"I wanted to give a praise report that my prodigal came home. Praise God. You were right, Bob and Charlyne, it was when I least expected. I just can't describe the joy in my heart after the long storm, but for the work God did in me and in my husband I would not trade for anything. When going through the storm I never thought I would be saying I wouldn't trade it for anthing." (Missouri)
“I got a call from my husband after a long wait of not hearing from him, telling me he missed me and he was coming home. He wanted to spend the rest of his life with me as we always planned. He has been home now for a short time and our marriage is stronger than it was before. There is work that needs to be done but this I know, God does come through and restores marriages as He is doing with mine. I will praise Him daily as he works on both of us as we are one again.” (Florida)
“Praising God Almighty, my husband came home on New Year's Day! What an awesome way to start off 2014. All the testimonies I have read can never compare to actually living it. He said things that were what I was waiting to hear but the most incredible thing he said was, ‘I love you and I always have.’ I truly never thought he would say that until later into our reconciliation... but God. There were so many great moments but another one was when he thanked me for standing! Our three children are overjoyed and getting to see what a mighty God we serve. For you standers out there, stay strong, He is faithful and He will do it! All I keep thinking about is Ephesians 3:20. Don't be discouraged, stand strong to see firsthand what a mighty God we serve” (New Jersey)
"My husband had an affair. For months I fought in my own strength and rules, eventually landing in the hospital. My husband asked for a separation. The situation appeared hopeless. It went from bad to worse. But the Lord has restored our marriage, gave us a fresh start, renewed love and renewed marriage vows. I thank the Lord for the grace He gave me to not give up. My faith, the size of a mustard seed, was enough for Him to move mountains. All Glory to our Mighty Heavenly Father." (South Africa)
"I thank God for deliverance, healing, love restored, joy, respect, peace and God in my marriage in Jesus name. I thank God for bringing my husband back home. The only person who is mad is Satan." (New York)
"My husband walked out on me. I felt helpless and frustrated. I turned to God for His help. At first, it was difficult to do. There was such turbulence going on inside me that I was angry with God. However, I kept on praying and asking God for help. Then one day I was desperate and searching the Internet for answers when I stumbled onto your web site. Since then things started to take shape in my life. It didn't happen all at once. I was determined to stand firm. Today, one year later, my husband and I have a marriage that is restored and even more beautiful than before. We are now expecting our first baby. Thank You, God, and thank you, Rejoice Marriage Ministries." (Canada)
"Although my husband never left our home physically, he left emotionally and spiritually. He left the church. He talked badly about Christians. He had started pursuing other woman and told me he no longer had feelings for me. He was looking for somewhere to go. Since he wasn't able to leave, I was able to stand with him still under our roof. God has taught me where I was wrong as well as shown me how to be patient and trust Him to restore my marriage. A few days ago my husband told me I am the love of his life and that he needs me in his life. He has returned to church and is allowing God to work in him. He acknowledged that he knows our marriage was saved because of my prayers. Every day God gives us something new. There are still battles, but we are winning the war. The love we now share is a new one and a growing one." (California)
"I left my husband and later divorced. I was in a state of depression and everything else the enemy could bring against me. I met someone else, and despite the devastation to my husband and child, I remarried. I was very unhappy and started to seek the Lord for His truth and light. He started to work in my life. Even though I had grown up in church, I never had a personal relationship with Jesus. I was led to your website. I started to pray for God's help. God helped me to leave that marriage and stand for my marriage. My husband met someone else and did not want to be with me. He saw no future for us. For two years I prayed, even though times were tough and circumstances impossible. I saw God start to work on my behalf as I sought Him for my life and my family. My husband and I were remarried a week ago. God is faithful. Thanks and praise to God for all He has done." (South Africa)
“Thank You Lord, Thank You Jesus. My husband has stopped the divorce. If it were not for RMM, teaching me about standing and praying for my marriage and my husband; sending me emails constantly, helping me believe and have faith in God that He will restore my marriage, I would have given up months ago. With God anything is possible. My situation was so hopeless, I didn't foresee this happy day. God is the creator of all miracles, Praise His name. Don't despair fellow standers, keep praying. Listen, God speaks to us all the time. God does answer. My faith is renewed. Amen.” (South Africa)
"Everything looked hopeless. Court proceedings were underway and complex. I hadn’t spoken to my wife for months. The day before we were again due in court, my wife came to my office and handed me a court notice of discontinuance. I was speechless. We spent Saturday at a Christian bookshop buying resources to rebuild our marriage. God is absolutely amazing." (Australia)
"God is good. My husband came home yesterday and desires to restore our covenant relationship. I praise God for reaching down and touching him, and that God gave me the strength to endure during these hard times." (New York)
"My prodigal returned home some time ago. He is still fighting addictions and has not accepted Christ as his Savior yet. This past week I looked in the bedroom saw my husband on his knees by the bed. When I entered the room he was crying like a baby and asked me to pray for him. He will be saved soon." (Florida)
"After years of separation, my husband moving in with the other woman, many postponed divorce court dates and even a final divorce court hearing, my husband is back home. Praise God. My family and friends kept telling me to get on with my life, but God had told me in so many ways to hold on and wait for Him and my family would be rebuilt. When I finally got out of God's way and stopped trying to manipulate things He gave me my blessing. I will pray as long as it takes for salvation for my husband and my family. Thank you for your support." (California)
"God has brought my husband and I back together. I can see God making improvements in my husband and also in me. Thank You Father for all that You do." (Oklahoma)
“PTL! Fellow Standers, never give up. My spouse recently returned home. Psalm 147:15 (AMP) He sends forth His commandment to the earth; His word runs very swiftly. We are so happy that he is home and I know that God heals all wounds in His time. I pray my spouse will become saved. Keep praying and fasting, the Lord will deliver your prodigal home. Just keep the faith and know that it's not over ‘til God says it’s over. Please be encouraged by my testimony, God delivers.” (Alabama)
"Praise be to our Almighty Lord. My spouse asked if he could come home. He will be moving in this week. He has shared that he is coming home out of obedience to the Lord. Our children are thrilled at the return of their father." (California)
"My husband is home. He had only moved into our basement, but had left our marriage. I am so thankful that a friend told me about this Ministry. My husband and I are both reading 'After The Prodigal Returns.' We went to a weekend military marriage seminar and renewed our wedding vows. Praise the Lord." (Colorado)
“My husband and I were separated for a number of months. The situation appeared hopeless. One day I stumbled upon this ministry and felt the Lord leading me to stand for my marriage. I wasn't even sure what that meant, but I surrendered my life completely to the Lord. He led me and embraced me through every tearful, lonely night. My husband told me when he left that he wasn't coming back, but I knew the Lord would restore what we had lost. He did that and more. It has been nearly two years since my husband has come back home. Our marriage is stronger than ever. Believe what the Lord has promised, and consider that He is moving even when our eyes fail to see it. The separation was awful, but God used it for our good, to fix what we couldn't. What He did for us, He will do for you. Bless the Lord!” (Texas)
"My husband and I been through so many trials with family deaths and his illness, that changed both of us. I became an unhappy and unappreciative wife. My husband left. My relationship with the Lord was suffering. Him leaving was the best thing that ever happened to me. It woke me up. I started praying as a stander. But little did I realize that the Lord was going to reveal all the things in me that needed to change. 1 Peter 3 and Proverbs 31 are Chapters that helped me see the kind of wife I'm supposed to be. I repented and started seeking the Lord to change my heart and my husband's. I had to accept that I could not change my husband, only the Lord can do that. I went to my husband and asked for his forgiveness for all my shortcomings as a wife. I asked him to give me another chance. He is now home." (California)
PRODIGALS DO COME HOME
“To stand. To fight on my knees in prayer. To suffer and be persecuted for the sake of Christ and my husband’s salvation.”
I never knew what these words meant before my life changed forever on November 6, 2010. Three weeks before our seventh wedding anniversary, my husband admitted to a very recent affair. Confused, thinking he was feeling emotions of real love, he left me and my children. We had a newborn baby and a three-year-old. Devastation and shock doesn’t begin to describe my feelings. I was completely blindsided, weak, lost and in despair. Thankfully, the Holy Spirit inside me told me to cling to Jesus and to trust Him. I was so scared though, worried about my small children and fearing the future. I was desperate for answers and support. I tried to regain some control in an uncontrollable situation. Talking to family and friends, people gave me advice left and right. I tried to convince my husband we were God’s plan for one another but everything seemed to push him further away. I didn’t understand how and why this happened. I knew we had weaknesses in our marriage but I thought we always had time to make it better. I never realized how many ways God made me “one” with my spouse until he was no longer there. It felt like half of me was missing and I didn’t know how to function. I ached for his return.
Crying out to God day and night, I was so weary from caring for a newborn and my three-year-old on my own. I was completely drained from my fragile emotionalstate. As time went on, my circumstances were not getting better. I had to put a stop to listening and pleasing others. God was the only one I wanted to please. He alone was my true comfort. Psalm 62:5says:Find rest, O my soul in God alone; my hope comes from him.I so appreciated the loving people God surrounded me with during that time but God alone was my Rock. Thankfully, through faith, I never lost hope.
Early on in my stand, God led me to some wonderful scriptures.
For in the day of trouble he will keep me safe in his dwelling; he will hide me in the shelter of his tabernacle and set me high upon a rock. Psalm 27:5
Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord. Psalm 27:14
On that day they will say to Jerusalem, “Do not fear, O Zion; do not let your hands hang limp. The Lord your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing.” Zephaniah 3:16-17
I needed to be patient. God would take care of me. God showed me to pray for my husband with all I had and to not give up. But my circumstances seemedto get worse and worse. I heard the words “I never loved you at all” and “the kids will be fine, this happens to people all the time.” I was so shocked and dismayed that my husband was acting like a complete stranger. He was now completely rejecting God along with me, his covenant wife. He had moved in with the other person and filed for divorce. My pain was so extreme. I would lay on the floor weeping, unable to pull myself up. I even tried a divorce recovery group at a local church. But I felt so lost and didn’t belong there. They didn’t talk about praying for our estranged spouses or standing for one covenant marriage, one spouse for a lifetime. It was all about how to make myself better instead. I left that group, crying out to God for support.
Looking online later, I discovered Rejoice Marriage Ministries. I realized with joy in my heart, that everything I felt deep inside was biblical and there was a large ministry full of people just like me. Many others were willing to love their spouse unconditionally and stand for marriage restoration even past a divorce. RMM showed me specific scriptures to pray for my spouse like Psalm 51 and Acts 26:18 which says, “‘…to open their eyesand turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan to God, so that they may receive forgiveness of sins...’”I was emboldened to pray against evil. The devil had come into my home to steal, devour, and destroy. My prodigal husband was not the enemy!
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Ephesians 6:12
I was reminded that we are called to love like Jesus, especially in the words of 1 Corinthians 13. I was to love my prodigal no matter how he treated me in return. This was my calling from the Lord! Praying these scriptures over my marriage and family gave me peace, strength, and perseverance to push forth. I clung to God’s Word like never before. Worshipmusic replaced any others. Fictional books and watching television wereno longer interesting to me. All I wanted to do was pray for my husband using God’s words and find comfort within the pages of my Bible. I knew God could do miracles.
“For nothing is impossible with God.” Luke 1:37
I had let go of fixing my marriage by my own words and hands. I had to completely surrender my husband, marriage and family to God. I felt persecuted from believers and nonbelievers. No one could understand how I could love and choose to forgive such actions. But Jesus is that ultimate example. Through deep prayer and trying to listen to His voice only, I was led to Isaiah 55. God showed me that He would provide for me and my kids (v 1-2). He showed me that my husband would turn from his ways and be reconciled to God (v 6-7). God reminded me His thoughts and ways are way above and beyond my own (v 8-9). And that His will and Word would be accomplished (v 11). Finally, the other relationship would end, and our marriage would be restored all for God’s glory! (v 13). Praise the Lord! I had this complete peace my marriage would be restored in God’s timing. A peace filled me that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). As I prayed on my knees each day, I knew I had to be patient and love my husband from afar. My prodigal assured me it would never happen, but I knew God would fulfill His promise to me.
God was moving on the other side of the mountain without me knowing it. From the world’s perspective, my marriage had no chance. I heard of my husband’s engagement and saw a new ring on his wedding finger. I thought it couldn’t get worse. But as I prayed, God showed me this was the devilpulling out all the ammunition he had left to destroy my marriage and family. Satan was trying to convince me to give up on my prodigal! But it made me pray even harder. He came to visit and I had total peace and love for him. As time had passed, by the grace of God, my love had only grown for my husband. I knew he was lost in darkness (Ephesians 4:18-19) and I trusted in God who is mighty to save on His timing not mine. My husband’s eternal destination was more important than anything else.
A coupleweeks later, things started to change. My husband shared that he listened to some Christian music again and he wanted some of his old theology books. He started to be more kind, apologizing for his hateful words and for missing the beginning of our precious baby’s life. He started to “test the waters,” asking me questions. He still thought he had gone too far to come back home. I assured him of my love and open arms and that he is always welcome back home. On April 3, 2011 my prodigal husband walked through the door! It was completely over with the other person. He wanted to be my husband again and wanted to be a full time daddy to our boys. God had saved his heart and soul, praise be to God! My husband returned humbled and completely broken. I felt broken inside myself but God is faithful to restore our marriage and family completely. The cross and the love of Christ covers all sins, redeems all, restores all.
Now a year later, I am blessed to have my husband by my side. We have come through the fire and now work on our marriage day by day that brings glory to God. We are cleaving together as one in this new place, building day by day on the solid rock of Jesus. We now know the reality of evil and what it means to pray for each other, our marriage and family. I now pray the Armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-18) daily against the devil’s attacks so he never gets a foothold again in our home.
We have victory in Jesus! I have learned to persevere, to fill my mind with God’s truth and put off lies from the devil. I have learned to fix my eyes on Jesus and run this race He has called me to (Hebrews 12:1-2). I have learned to always stand and fight this labor of love for my marriage and family. Praise be to God who has rescued us from the darkness and set us on the solid rock of Jesus that cannot be shaken. Prodigals do come home, may all the glory be His!
"I want to give God the glory for restoring my family. It has been a long journey, but after being separated and planning on divorcing, my husband came home last month. My children are so happy and although we still have a lot of work to do, God is working it all out." (California)
"I want to praise God. He is so faithful. My husband asked me to come back home. I have been home several weeks now, and feel closer to my husband than in the past. Our restoration is still in its infancy, but I know God is with us, and I can let things blow over that would have set me off before. Not only has He softened my husband's heart, but mine as well. God is so faithful." (North Carolina)
“I cannot thank you enough for your website! My husband has decided to reconcile and come home. Thank You Jesus! Keep the faith and keep praying and reading. Each time I questioned my stand I would get a sign to continue even though family/friends were not supportive.” (Virginia)