Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"Last Friday, my (ex)wife asked me, 'Will you marry me again?' She has been in the far country for years. Our grown children had been devastated by Satan's attack, but my 'ex' will be my wife again in ten days. Our children are going to give her away." (Virginia)
"Just a thank you for being there, and to let you know that my husband and I are now reconciled. We separated a couple years ago, and God has worked in mighty ways in both of our lives. We just moved back together. God does indeed restore hurting marriages." (Wisconsin)
"I am praising Jesus. My husband and I are spending time together. We are now on the way to a restored marriage. He still needs to surrender to Jesus. I am confident that He who began a good work in my husband will complete it. We plan to buy a new home with Jesus leading and directing our steps. God has begun to restore relationships with our children and our grandchildren are thrilled to have grandpa back in their lives. We celebrated our granddaughter's birthday. It’s amazing just as God promised me. I keep looking to the Lord who will bring my husband back to Him. Thanks, Bob and Charlyne for your help." (Arizona)
"My husband and I are together again. God said to me through His Word and to my heart that He would do it, and now God has been faithful to me. My marriage is better than ever." (Barbados)
“All praise and thanks to God. My prodigal spouse has come home after many months of being away in the far country. I thank God for bringing me to your website to help me through the pain and loneliness. While standing, praying and fasting for my prodigal spouse, God increased my faith and showed me that He truly does answers prayers.” (South Africa)
“Praise the Lord! My beloved husband came by our home to say that he wanted our marriage to work! Isn't the Lord faithful? Three years ago, the Lord gave me Isaiah 58 to read and led me to this website. To all my fellow standers, continue to love our Lord and walk closely with Him. He loves you, your spouse, and your children. He will get complete glory out of your story! Don't give up on God because He won't give up on you...He is able! Forever standing for marriage and families." (Georgia)
"God does heal hurting marriages. My husband is not only home in our house but today he came home to our God." (California)
“I want to praise God for my suddenly. My husband and I have been separated for a few months. It was devastating but I knew from the moment he left this was not God's will. God clearly reassured me He was in control and He would restore. My husband began texting me ‘I love you’ and other encouraging things. He sent me an email to tell me he wanted to work on our marriage. Last week he told me his landlord was letting him out of his lease (PTL) and when I asked where he was going he said that was not up to him. I told him he could come home. PTL he agreed to this and will be moving home soon. I am so blessed! GOD is so good! I could just praise Him all day long.” (Illinois)
"I am back home with my husband after being separated for several months. We are open and honest with the past and I will continue to be prayerful. Thank you so much for your support while I was going through my storm. I know we have to continue to work on our marriage for the devil is busy, but I will continue to fight." (Illinois)
“Four years ago my marriage was coming to an end. It was a wilderness time for sure. Rejoice Marriage Ministries was such as blessing. Praise God my prodigal came home. During the last four years we have had so many blessings and miracles and have survived a failed business, job loss, financial devastation and illness, even while rebuilding our marriage. God's hand has been on our marriage this entire time. I just needed to open my arms and surrender and trust His plan. Next Sunday my church will air my testimony of God restoring our marriage. It will be broadcast online and over 2,000 parishioners will see it as well. God has arranged for the airing of this testimony exactly four years later, TO THE DATE, from when my husband left. I am so honored to share that "GOD HEALS HURTING MARRIAGES!!" I praise God that he rescued us and our testimony will be used to glorify Him. Please pray that it will inspire forgiveness and trust in the Lord. Thank you!” (Maryland)
"My husband’s been home for a month. God gave me Psalm 107:28-31, revealing that our storm has been stilled, that our marriage is being restored. I know it's because God has finally gotten through to me and I am putting Him first. This past weekend we attended a marriage conference. My husband told me he is committed to me and mostly to our Lord. We've had some great moments. I thank God for this season. I know He needed to straighten me out, and now I know how to be a better companion. I give God the glory." (Texas)
"Without the guidance of this ministry, I do not believe my marriage would have been restored. When my husband turned his heart to God, he realized he and the other woman were unequally yoked. God first cleansed me and then He did the rest. It was suddenly and unexpected, but God was right on time. My husband had not made any contact with me for almost two years and my marriage was a dead corpse. When my husband came home the other woman came home with him, emotionally. I have said nothing, except to suggest that we pray for her salvation. I will always love and support this ministry." (South Carolina)
A PS from Pompano - This wise stander understood that after her husband came home he would go through a grief process in getting over the other person, as we have written and taught about. Prodigals do not come home with amensia. Many newly restored marriages fall apart all over again because the stander is not prepared for their homecoming. We have material to help you be prepared.
The days after a prodigal first comes home are like walking through a mine field for both spouses. We have a package of material to help both you and your mate when your miracle comes true - http://rejoiceministries.org/r.php?num=30h6n
“My prodigal of many years returned home in progressive stages over a few years, through which we maintained our purity. Last weekend on our original wedding anniversary, we remarried before three dozen family members and friends. The LORD provided everything, even a 'bridal canopy' to decorate the wall behind us. Today we re-enacted part of it and gave our testimony before a dozen other friends and neighbors, giving glory to Christ for our miracle. These have been the happiest days of our lives. I have watched my spouse become a believer, opening himself like a rosebud blossoming into a fragrant beautiful flower. As a woman giving birth in pain afterward forgets the labor for the joy of holding her child, I too, can barely recall the devastation and pain I had during my stand. Keep looking to the goal, to the Savior, my brothers and sisters. The reward is worth the cost we pay. I have seen that every prayer I had prayed has been answered. Wait for the appointed time!” (Pennsylvania)
"My husband has been home for almost two months. I thank God for the work he has done in me. My husband says that I have changed. He treats me with love. I have been reading the book 'Standing After The Prodigal Returns' and it has been a great support. I know that God, not my actions, restored our marriage. I know that He wants my husband saved. I have learned that God is not far away from me, but very close each and every moment of my day." (Arizona)
"My husband filed for divorce and moved out. I decided to stand for my marriage, I made changes in my life to develop my spiritual walk with God while I waited with faith that God would put us together and better than ever. During this time, I also prayed for his salvation. Not only is my husband back home and divorce cancelled, but he now has a spiritual mentor. We have prayed together for the first time." (Texas)
“I want to praise God that my husband has not left and we are drawing closer to each other every day. It's tiny little baby steps, then a big leap forward, then a step back. God is so awesome that the steps back are smaller and smaller as He directs my husband back to both of us. We are praying together now in the morning before each of us go to work. There are the little things that only I would notice that are suddenly back again. God is so good. I have to keep reminding myself that His timing is perfect, but I expect my miracle every day by faith. It's coming. We can't give up and we can't stop praying because our spouses’ souls are worth so much. I've been praying Psalm 51 and 32 this week over my husband and myself, and wow, Charlyne, you were right. Thank you for being a blessing to me.” (North Carolina)
"My husband has been home for nine months. All the praise goes to the Lord. I continue to stand on the promises of Jesus to rebuild our marriage on the solid rock of Jesus Christ and restore the love in our marriage. I give glory to the Lord who answers prayers." (New York)
"Praise to our Father God, prodigals do come home. I prayed, scared and hopeful at the same time. I am happy to say God changed my husband's heart and mine. We are like newlyweds all over. He is going to church again and reading his Bible. We are praying together, and planning to attend a marriage conference. My prayer is that we would boldly proclaim the gospel of Christ with our lives and win others to Him. Your daily devotions were full of scripture and encouraged me in my stand. I thank God for you." (North Carolina)
“My husband came home a few months ago, but he did not come home clean. At first he wouldn't accept my love or God's love, but now he is letting me love him and coming to church with me and starting to get involved there. It has been a struggle and many times I wanted to give up. It actually seemed harder having him home not loving me and the kids than when he was gone, because my circumstance was right in front of me when he came home. I have cried out to the Lord so many times in desperation, and He has given me the strength to continue to do what is right in His eyes. I am trusting the Lord to finish the good work He started in my marriage, and I continue to cling to Him and His promises. He gave me this verse: Exodus 14:13,14. I just want to encourage everyone to NEVER GIVE UP and wait for God's perfect timing. He will NEVER fail you! I love You Lord!” (Canada)
"My husband left home for someone else. He broke it off with her after a month, but even with counseling he said he was finished. The Tuesday before Thanksgiving he told me he made an appointment with another counselor and he wanted us to go together in order to start over. Praise God that I never stopped loving him or believing in our marriage." (State Removed)
"I would like to give God the Glory for restoring my marriage. My husband has been home for many months. At one point, it looked like he was on his way out again, but God is faithful. When He gives us a promise, we can count on it. It has been a long and painful journey, but I would not have it any other way. The relationship I share with the Lord was worth it all. I know that there is still a lot of work to be done, but God is in control." (New Jersey)
“It’s been many years and I am still standing. Praise God! When you step out into what He wants you to do, He is faithful. I have seen so many answers to prayer this year regarding my spouse. He is now attending church with me and the children. I am believing God that my suddenly is coming! He has erased all of our debt, provided a new home and is restoring. God is able. Do not give up!” (United Kingdom)
"One year ago, my world came crashing down around me. I'd been a military wife and learned my husband led a secret life behind my back. His life was filled with sin. When he was home he was a devoted father, husband, and servant in the church. I was devastated and lost all hope. He never actually left the home, but emotionally he was gone. This man was stone cold towards me. I ran out of my own strength very early on, but God lifted me up and carried me through the most difficult journey of my life. My family and Christian friends told me to give up and that I was justified, but God promised me my marriage would be restored. I chose to trust in God and to this day my marriage is stronger than it has ever been and I love my husband more than I thought possible. I tried to give up almost daily, but God's Word and His promises gave me hope and increased my faith. I knew if I gave up on my husband he was a ticking time bomb and nobody else would care about his salvation and love him like I did. I see God working in his life daily and I am amazed at the man he's become." (Virginia)
“I have been reading your daily devotions and standing, waiting for my wife to stop the divorce for some years . We are three weeks from the final court date. My wife came by tonight and said she wants to call off the divorce. Praise God!” (Maryland)
"My husband and I are back together. The greatest part of our reunion is that I am now pregnant with our child, surely is a gift from God showing my husband that he is my covenant partner until death do as part. My husband is more loving and caring than ever." (India)
"Last Sunday my husband came home. He said that he missed us and wanted to come home, if I wanted him to. I told him that he was missed and we wanted him home. I praise God that I was home when he came, because I was supposed to be out of town. Thank you for your ministry which helped me greatly with my stand." (Arizona)
“A few months after my wife left, I was introduced to RMM by my sister who was going through the same thing with her husband. We fasted often and prayed everyday even though she lived on the other side of the country. After a few months of praying her husband had an ‘epiphany’ as he described it and decided he wanted the marriage. When my sister told me this I was a bit jealous, unfortunately. We continued to pray for my wife and, yes, a few months later she too returned home. PTL! Please keep praying and never give up!” (Michigan)
"God is so faithful. My prodigal husband has returned home after six months of living with the other woman." (Michigan)
“PTL God is good! My husband and I got remarried last Saturday. Don't give up, pray, cry, say, ‘Lord help me to keep the faith.’ God is on time. If He gave you what you wanted right now, you or your spouse might not be ready for it, so keep praying and let God do it in His timing. I love the Lord and thank Him for my restored marriage. This has been a long journey but with God it was all worth the wait. We are like one together. Thank You God, I owe You all the glory. Just know that God loves each of you and I will continue to pray for restored marriages. Amen.” (North Carolina)
I GOT MY MIRACLE
My husband left in March 2010 right after I had lost my mother to cancer in December 2009. I begged him not to leave me at this time but he was blindsided by Satan’s lies. The road was very hard. I filed for divorce in June 2010 and he didn’t like the fact that I filed the papers. I was so angry with him that it didn’t matter what he said or did, I was not ever going to take him back. We were trying to come to an agreement about the divorce decree. He never would sign the papers. He would make up excuses as to why he couldn’t sign them. I then realized he didn’t want the divorce, but I didn’t care; I was going through with it anyway.
I know God was giving me every sign in the world about me stopping my divorce. By September, I clearly heard the Lord say to stop the divorce and that Marcus was going to come back home. The Lord gave me Isaiah 54 to stand on. I called my lawyer and he asked me if I wanted to put a hold on the divorce. I told him I wanted it stopped. He was very confused but I shared my stand with him.
The next months I began my journey to work on myself and get my relationship back on track with God. I told people that I was not going to give up on Marcus and he was going to come back home. They just shook their heads like I was crazy, but I knew God spoke to me. God changed my heart and He really started blessing me for obeying Him. My husband began to see the change in me also. He started communicating with me again.
2011 was the year that I really began to cry out for my husband’s soul, at that point it wasn’t about him coming home. I knew that if he died he was going to Hell and I had to fight for his soul. I began fasting and really doing spiritual warfare for my husband. By October 2011, I really began to see a change in him like he was tired and ready to come home. I would ask him to come to family functions and he would show up. Marcus would still refer to me as his wife. I knew God was working on him. The enemy knew his time was about up so he would try to bring out some big guns. I prayed and pressed on.
My miracle came in April 2012! Marcus suggested we renew our wedding vows in a little ceremony with family and friends who helped me pray for my marriage. God did just like He said He would. He brought my husband home and we celebrated our wedding anniversary on a cruise. I am the happiest I have ever been. To God be the glory for all He has done. I would like to thank Charlyne and Rejoice Marriage Ministries for all the encouraging emails sent daily. I am still reading them and praying for all the standers and prodigals. I will forever be a stander.
"My husband is back home after an affair. He strayed from the Lord and now is back. The devil had hold of my husband but God's pull was stronger. Praise God for healing our marriage. We are going to renew our wedding vows this Sunday. It feels so good to sit in church with my husband next to me. We pray together every day, something we never did before. Without your daily Charlyne Cares giving me hope, I probably wouldn't be typing this. Thank you Bob and Charlyne. I know I am one of the luckiest women on earth. My husband just told me he loved me second only to God." (Tennessee)
"My husband left our home after 35 years of marriage and said he would never be back. I was devastated and sought the Lord for answers. He told me to stand for my marriage and although it was one of the most difficult periods of my life, I grew in leaps and bounds spiritually and otherwise. One year later, the Lord brought him home and he has been home for three years now. The Lord's grace has been sufficient and this last May we renewed our vows. Today we will celebrate an early Thanksgiving with our grown children and 12 beautiful grandchildren. Our job was to make the pumpkin pies and turkey for the dinner and just listening to him whistling as he cooked and the excitement of a family gathering that could only be possible with the Lord, filled me with such joy. There has been such healing in our family and we now will leave a legacy for our children and grandchildren that wouldn't have been possible four or five years ago. My husband will do a solo for our church at Christmas called "Come Home." It is about the journey of the prodigal son and the Father's love for him. God is able to do all things. Nothing is too hard for him!" (Pennsylvania)
GOD STILL MOVES
Years ago, when I was standing for Andy, I came across the verse, Song of Solomon 8:7, “Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it.” It had meant so much to me, speaking of the powerful strength of love. It not only spoke to me of my new love God had given me for Andy, but also Jesus’ awesome love for him that would never fail. I asked my daughter to write the scripture out and frame it. All these years I have kept this framed scripture. Andy was not aware of it.
This year our church was selling homemade Valentine’s Day cards, with the proceeds going to the troops overseas. Andy decided to purchase one of these cards for me instead of going to the store to get one. When I opened the card he had picked for me, I was stunned at what I saw! On the front of the card was the same scripture that I had framed for myself so many years ago, Song of Solomon 8:7!
Valentine’s Day was the day after we took part in the Rejoice Marriage Ministries phone conference. I wanted to share with you what my husband wrote in my card……”My Dearest Wife, Going through the RMM phone conference yesterday made me once again realize and appreciate your great love. Thank you so much for your lifetime of devotion. I love you very much. Your Husband, Andy.”
This comes from a man who once told me, “Sondra, I don’t love you anymore, my love for you has died—it’s dead. I want to find happiness before I die, I have found someone else and I want a divorce.”
I am here to tell you that God; the Creator can create a new love where the love has dried up….never give up on our amazing God! Never believe Satan’s lies.
One day you can say like David……”Come and hear, all who fear God. And I will tell of what He has done, what awesome miracles He does for His people.” Psalm 66:5 Like David, I am doing the same.
"God is so good. Friday my spouse told me he's ready to turn his path and work on our relationship. We have been talking daily since and spending time together. God is the center of restoration and I pray to Him more daily because this is only the beginning. Thank you for your ministry. God bless you and your family." (Indiana)
"God has restored my marriage. He has been faithful even in those moments when I thought I could not take it any longer My husband has been home since June and our marriage is stronger than it has ever been. There is still work to be done, but God is in control. Since it was not my effort that restored our marriage, but God Himself, I am trusting Him. I pray, pray and pray. I read the devotionals Charlyne sends us every day. Thank you Charlyne and thank You God for sending her to me when You did." (Arizona)
"I want to thank you and praise the Lord for my husband coming home. We still have a lot to work on. but he is back in the house. This morning he left for work and told me he loved me. Praise God for all he has done in me and my spouse. Thank you Lord for bringing him home. I pray that my husband will find God himself. Thank you again for your Charlyne Cares and the web site." (Oregon)
“Praise be to God! After several years of being separated and standing all this time believing God for a miracle, glory to God, my miracle is done. He wants to come home. Thank you, Holy Spirit for speaking through this ministry. I open my arms in praise because I know this was a miracle.” (Dominican Republic)
“Hallelujah! My spouse has been home for over a year now and it has been challenging at times, BUT God...He has been so good, faithful and direct. What I needed to learn was living out Philippians 4:8-9 and be very, very thankful, spending time praising Him and resting at His feet. Though sometimes I get weary, God answers prayers at His perfect time. One of those is to hear my spouse say thank you and I love you. I got all this recently, quick to praise God! As I was reading the Word, I felt led to Psalm 15 and share this with you, beloved standers. Read verses 4b and 5b, and be encouraged and strengthened once again! All glory to Jesus Christ.” (Malaysia)