Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
“I wanted to stop by and encourage someone going through difficulty. I've had a restored marriage now over two years. The circumstances seemed impossible. My husband seemed so much in love with the other person but she's been gone from his mind, heart and life completely. I almost gave up because the storm was its biggest right before it was completely calmed by my Lord and Savior JESUS CHRIST. My husband is closer to the LORD, which I never pictured happening, and the Lord has placed other men in the same situation he was in so that he may help them not make the same mistakes. Praise our Lord for not giving up on us when we try to give up, and bless Charlyne and her ministry to continue what they do best. When I was about to give up, I would remind myself… if I cannot trust God to get me out of this situation then how could I trust him in other situations?” (California)
"My husband is home. He had only moved into our basement, but had left our marriage. I am so thankful that a friend told me about this Ministry. My husband and I are both reading 'After The Prodigal Returns.' We went to a weekend military marriage seminar and renewed our wedding vows. Praise the Lord." (Colorado)
“WOW is all I can say about my day today! My suddenly arrived. I hadn’t heard so much as a peep out of my husband, in many months. I got up this morning and had a message from him that he wanted to come pick me up so we could talk. I spent the whole day with him and he apologized to me like five million times and told me how much he's missed me! He told me that he had been so miserable and that every TV show, song, movie and video game reminded him of me! He said he hadn’t been able to sleep and that he's been waking up every day around 4 a.m., just about the time I've been falling asleep after praying! He wants to work things out, PRAISE THE LORD! The Lord is SO AWESOME! To everyone, don't give up on what you're praying and believing for. The Lord is faithful. Continue to pray for us as we start the reconciliation of our marriage as I continue to pray for all of you! The Lord receives ALL of the praises and glory!" (Texas)
“PTL! My husband had filed for a divorce. The day of our hearing, the judge asked my husband’s attorney to make his statement and my husband stood up and said ‘I DO NOT WANT THIS DIVORCE, I WANT MY WIFE BACK.’ That was definitely my suddenly. I went alone and prayed for the Almighty God to carry me through this hard day and soften my husband’s heart, that today would be the time to do it Lord. PTL, He came through just when I needed Him. Always have faith in the Almighty Lord, He is working in your favor even when it doesn’t seem like it. Never give up, God will never disappoint you. I was very weary at first, but God showed me He is always there. He loves you and your spouse. God bless and I will be praying for all prodigals and standers forever. Believe in His Word and have faith. It’s so powerful.” (New York)
"God has brought my husband and I back together. I can see God making improvements in my husband and also in me. Thank You Father for all that You do." (Oklahoma)
“God has suddenly brought my spouse home. Our daughter announced we're getting back together to her teacher. Her teacher came to tell me she heard the good news and then she shared that ever since she was four-years-old she has been wishing that her parents would reunite. Divorce impacts a child their entire life.” (Missouri)
"My wife and I decided to give it another shot after being apart for months. When we went to church together, the pastor hit home with his sermon. Thanks to your using God's Word, it has changed me, and my outlook on life. My faith is stronger, and I won't stop now." (North Carolina)
"It looked like the end when we were granted a divorce on Tuesday. My wife had a change of heart and we started talking. Two weeks later we are putting a deposit on a new apartment and making plans for the future. I cannot wait to get back under the same roof again. Praise God." (Rhode Island)
"I first give honor to God, my Lord and my Savior. My husband and I are living together under one roof. This is a big step considering we both had separate places and separate lives. We were separated for nine months. My husband called me one Sunday after church and we have been together ever since. The Enemy found a way into our marriage through our separation and I am dealing with some things. I know God works everything out for our good and I have to leave that to Him. God knows he is "at home" with my marriage." (North Carolina)
"After months of being separated and being at the point of waiting for the judge’s decree in our divorce, my husband wants for us to be together. I was directed to Rejoice Marriage Ministries by God the night I was served with divorce papers. Even our pastor told me if my husband wants to leave the marriage there is nothing I could do. I thought that was so wrong. At that time I did not know what 'standing' was, yet, everything in me fought against those words. Then God led me to your ministries. I was desperate. I have been standing since then. We have been to counseling and are on our way to restoring our marriage. God is an awesome God." (Florida)
"My husband moved back home this past week. We have been in weekly marriage counseling. My husband made a promise to not speak of divorce again. The Lord does answer prayers." (Michigan)
"My husband left and filed for divorce. The Lord led me to Rejoice Marriage Ministries and I started standing for my marriage, fasting and praying. God led my entire household into a breakthrough. My kids all rededicated their lives to Jesus and joined in praying for their prodigal dad. All of a sudden, my husband called me and asked to come back. He is now a changed man. The divorce was retracted and we are planning a wedding renewal ceremony with our family and friends. God is so faithful. Thanks to Bob and Charlyne for the ministry God has given them." (Washington State)
"I give thanks to the Lord. My husband's attitude toward our marriage changed. He returned home a month ago and we have been very happy enjoying every minute of it. He is doing his best to make everything right again. I know I must continue looking to the Lord for help. The battle is not our, but the Lord's. God answers prayer." (Florida)
"Praise the Lord, my hubby came back two weeks ago after many months of standing. As I did my stand with the help of God, prayer partners and Charlyne Cares things got worse. I tried not to lose hope. I kept believing God's promises and kept praying and fasting even harder. Now my hubby is back and we're getting along just like when we first met. God is restoring our family and things are completely different now. To God be the honor and glory." (Panama)
"One year ago tonight, I thought my world had come to an end when my husband left me for the OW. I had to take off work for a couple of weeks before I could function. I fasted and prayed like never before. I was led to RMM through a friend who stood for the restoration of his marriage. My husband and the OW told me I was delusional (speaking those things which are not as though they were). But who is delusional now? Tonight, I have my husband back in my life and it was SUDDEN, but the restoration is in baby steps. I am in awe at how God honors His word, praise, prayer, and fasting. My treasure is my relationship with my Lord from my stand. I learned from Charlyne that it does not matter what anyone says about my situation other than God. Ezekiel 17:24: "'All the trees of the forest will know that I the LORD bring down the tall tree and make the low tree grow tall. I dry up the green tree and make the dry tree flourish. I the LORD have spoken, and I will do it.'" (Georgia)
"Praise the Lord my husband came home for Christmas. It was a complete surprise. God has been so good and faithful during this trial. He has given me many promises and scriptures. The Lord gently and patiently directed my steps. He has changed my heart for my husband and allowed me to love him unconditionally and deeper than ever. I am so to excited be on the path of restoration." (New Hampshire)
"Three years ago my husband left me and young child to pursue his dreams and plans. I secured a lawyer and knew the exact date that I would file for divorce. But God stepped in. God began to speak to me like I had never heard before. He told me that he did not want this divorce and that He would do a new thing in my life. I cried out to the Lord and grew stronger in Him and His might. During that time, God put three things on my heart that He would do: provide me with a new job, give me a house for my family, and save my marriage. I am blessed to say that God has done all three. My husband returned home in March. Today I reached one of the lowest points since the restoration. I cried and prayed all the way to the train this morning, calling out to God to save my marriage and send me a word. God put many scriptures on my heart which were all confirmed by reading Charlyne Cares today. My God is with me and He will fully restore this marriage. What an awesome God we serve." (New York)
"I praise and thank the Lord as He brought my husband home to us last night. I am so thankful for my deepened relationship with my Lord and for being made a new creature in Christ. May I never forget this experience or become lazy, but worship and grow with our Lord every day. For it was Him alone that brought my beloved husband home." (Maryland)
“Praise God and thank you for sharing Cari and Ryan's video. I can't wait to watch it again with my daughter. I've been standing for my marriage for many years now and my prodigal entered into a non-covenant marriage. Our daughter is about Cari and Ryan's daughter's age, too, and she has given up hope. Nothing is impossible with our God! Praise Him, praise Him, praise Him. I love You Lord!” (Pennsylvania)
“Praise God! My wife left almost a year ago. After many nights of prayer, tears and walking with God, my wife has returned! Thank you so much for all the prayers from all you standers. Keep standing and God will bless you! There were times I wavered but God stayed faithful to His Word!” (Maryland)
“Praise be to God! After several years of being separated and standing all this time believing God for a miracle, glory to God, my miracle is done. He wants to come home. Thank you, Holy Spirit for speaking through this ministry. I open my arms in praise because I know this was a miracle.” (Dominican Republic)
"God spoke clearly to me and told me to stand, and He brought healing to my spirit. My husband watched these changes in me, but his hurt kept him isolated and angry. But God was working in his heart too. Five months ago, my husband confessed that he still loved me. Since that time, God has restored all aspects of our marriage. There is a trust and an intimacy that was never there before. God's peace reigns in our home and we continue to experience His blessing and provision." (North Carolina)
"I want to thank Rejoice Marriage Ministries for sending encouraging messages. Your words always felt as if you were speaking only to me. You helped me find my way back to the Lord, and the power to stand for my marriage through so many tough days and lonely nights. I now have a closer walk with our Lord. Tomorrow my husband is stopping our divorce. God bless you and your ministry." (Ohio)
"After years of standing, the Lord has won this battle for me. My wife said that she thought I might like to take her out for a meal as she thought I might have a question to ask her. She wanted me to propose. We went ring shopping the next morning, found the perfect ring for her, and went out for a meal. I got down on one knee and proposed and she said yes. Praise the Lord. A wedding invitation will be in the post! All glory to God." (United Kingdom)
"After several months of standing, my husband suddenly returned home two weeks before Christmas! We serve an amazing God. And thank God for Rejoice Ministries. They kept me standing when I did not have the strength to stand. Our reconciliation has been difficult but my wonderful Savior has drawn me so close to Him that I know He will restore my marriage to more than it was before this nightmare began. Keep standing standers! God will honor your stand. Stand strong!" (Kentucky)
"Through following God's Word, and staying in faith, this weekend was a breakthrough. We are now talking of re-marriage and doing it right this time, with Christ as the center of our marriage. Praise be to God." (Louisiana)
"My husband and I just celebrated our 18th Thanksgiving together, including two years ago, when he was not living at home. Praise God. This morning my husband and I were talking about my praying for our daughter. He said I shouldn't worry because my prayers cause things to happen. I praise God that He does work through my prayers and that my family can see God working. I praise God for every holiday and every day that we can be together as a family." (California)
“My marriage is restored! After two plus years of standing and praying God sent my husband home. Don't give up. Keep praying and allow God to work and prepare you for the return of your prodigal spouse. He will do it.” (Maryland)
"After years of separation, my husband moving in with the other woman, many postponed divorce court dates and even a final divorce court hearing, my husband is back home. Praise God. My family and friends kept telling me to get on with my life, but God had told me in so many ways to hold on and wait for Him and my family would be rebuilt. When I finally got out of God's way and stopped trying to manipulate things He gave me my blessing. I will pray as long as it takes for salvation for my husband and my family. Thank you for your support." (California)
My husband Joe and I were married for five years before he decided on a family vacation to Disneyland that he "just couldn't do this anymore." That was Halloween week and he had moved out of the house by Thanksgiving weekend.
My two-year-old daughter and I were devastated and shocked. Both of us claimed to be "Christians" and had a relationship with the Lord, attending church frequently, but never centered our lives and marriage around Jesus. I panicked at the prospect of being a single parent and immediately began searching Christian internet dating sites for a new partner. I met and began a long distance relationship with a man in a different state, seeking to fill the void in my life with this new relationship. I wandered as deep into the far country as my husband did until I was convicted one night by the Holy Spirit about being double-minded. How could I be actively praying for God to save my marriage when I was having an affair with a man "just in case" I actually ended up divorced?
My mother-in-law gave me a book shortly after that called "Can My Marriage Be Saved?" which is a compilation of stories of saved/reconciled marriages. One story referenced Covenant Keepers and when I looked them up online in a Google search, I came upon Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc.
Your materials captivated me; I had heard of covenant marriage but never this concept of "standing." Once I got a hold of it I couldn't get enough of the Bible and what it teaches about the covenant and God’s design for marriage. I started acting on these principles praying God’s truths over my marriage and family and I began to notice a change in myself so quickly that it was actually shocking. I prayed for the Lord to break me and mold me into the wife He wanted me to be. I didn't want to have an adulterous relationship any longer and became content having Jesus fill that space in my life. I made a commitment to honor the covenant even if Joe wasn't at the moment, and I took God at his Word that he is a God of healing and restoration.
Joe and I spent the holidays together and the further I got into my studies about standing, the easier it became for me to treat him with such God-given kindness and grace that my co-workers actually used to joke with me that we had a better relationship while going through a divorce than several of them did married. I took these little opportunities to witness to them about what I was standing for and what I knew God could do, and they would snicker at me and tell me to move on. I truly didn't believe that our divorce would go through...but it did. On April 20, 2010 a judge ruled our marriage "dissolved." I loved your teachings about praying over the divorce decree and that it is just a piece of paper, but does nothing to break the covenant if you keep standing (quite a concept for me to regard a court ruling as "just a piece of paper, since I'm a lawyer!!).
My little girl and I used to pray together at night and thank God for restoring our family and for the brothers and sisters that were yet to be born to Joe and me. She would ask when will Daddy come home and I would talk to her about God’s promises and tell her that we'd wait for him as long as it took. Thankfully, my story of reconciliation didn't take long. Literally two weeks after our divorce decree, there was Joe, who was on my front porch weeping over the mistake he had made and asking if we could "date.” Because of where my relationship was at with Jesus, I found it so easy to forgive him and confess my own earlier affair. God had given me a love for Joe that I had never experienced during our marriage.
We began an awesome time of courtship, healing, and inviting Jesus to be Lord over our relationship. I drafted a motion to the Court asking them to vacate our divorce decree and Joe moved back home last October. Our son was born on August 4 and is nicknamed "the miracle baby" by the same friends and co-workers who snickered at me when I told them God would heal and rebuild our family. As crazy as it sounds, I'm actually glad the divorce was final. I think it makes our reconciliation an even greater testimony to God’s powerful awesomeness than if it were just a divorce "close call!” Praise Jesus!!