Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"After being separated over a year, God is in the process of restoring my marriage. My husband is living at home again on the weekends and works out of town all week. God has done this, despite the fact that my husband had an affair, a non-covenant child, left me, left the ministry and our church. But God is faithful. What God has promised, He is also able to perform." (Texas)
“God is so good! I was out today and received a call from my spouse who was out of the country. He asked me where I was, I thought it was because he'd called the house phone and did not get an answer. I was on my way home so I told him I'd be at home in about 15 minutes and I would call him back. He said OK. To my surprise when I rounded the corner and was walking towards my house, I saw a man sitting on my doorstep with a BIG grin on his face! He was actually on my door step waiting for me. What a surprise I had! Suddenly there he was. He has his own place but he came straight from the airport to my door and waited - bags and all. God is totally in control. I was beginning to get weary, seeing the testimonies and wondering, ‘Lord, what about me?’ Fellow standers, God has not forgotten you. Keep on praying and praising him. God is in control!” (United Kingdom)
“God is so, so good! My husband has been home since before Thanksgiving. He stopped the divorce a few days after that. It has been a homecoming not of party hats and loud cheers- but gentle smiles and unconditional love. Charlyne you gave me the best advice ever when you said to ‘zip your lips!’ I have become a listener instead of a talker. I have learned to trust completely in God that He will restore this marriage slowly brick by brick on the solid rock of Jesus. I know that God will make this marriage better than ever in His perfect timing! I believe with all my heart that my husband is home to stay. To all the other standers out there- never give up! This happened suddenly- just like Charlyne said!” (Minnesota)
“After being gone for a little over two years, my husband came home! It was very sudden and unexpected just as I have seen others testify to. We had been spending weekends together for the past two months and I had resigned myself to the fact that this was the way we were going to live for the rest of our lives. BUT GOD was working behind the scenes and actually used us discussing our relationship and why things went bad to bring my husband home. He was not repentant and was actually blaming me for everything but God allowed me to hold my peace and zip my lips while he talked. When he finished I simply asked him If he would forgive me and he jumped up and hugged me and said yes! He went and got his clothes and was back at home that same night! I was in a state of shock! God is awesome! I believe fasting along with prayer was the catalyst to this sudden turn around. Please, please do not give up. I almost did but I promise you, your suddenly is coming!” (Oklahoma)
"The Lord unfolded a series of events which led to our restoration. We didn't plan on marrying in December this year, but God did. It was not by coincidence that we wore green and white just days before Christmas. Just as white symbolizes the grace and forgiveness of God, so green symbolizes new life, new beginnings, and growth. During our years apart, I attended Christmas Eve services. Each year their candlelight service had a theme. This year the theme was 'Promise Fulfilled.'" (California)
“Hallelujah! My spouse has been home for over a year now and it has been challenging at times, BUT God...He has been so good, faithful and direct. What I needed to learn was living out Philippians 4:8-9 and be very, very thankful, spending time praising Him and resting at His feet. Though sometimes I get weary, God answers prayers at His perfect time. One of those is to hear my spouse say thank you and I love you. I got all this recently, quick to praise God! As I was reading the Word, I felt led to Psalm 15 and share this with you, beloved standers. Read verses 4b and 5b, and be encouraged and strengthened once again! All glory to Jesus Christ.” (Malaysia)
"After being separated for several months, my husband broke up with the other woman and is back home. God does bring prodigals back home suddenly. Praise God. He rescued me and my spouse and has brought us to the path of restoration and reconciliation. Thank you, Charlyne and Bob for all your guidance and support." (New York)
“Praise God! My husband is home. Suddenly. He just up and left the OW. Don't give up. My situation looked hopeless. (Numbers 23:19) God told me my marriage would not end. I went before the judge in May and the divorce was granted. It looked hopeless and final. Praise God, I'm still married; my husband’s attorney never drew up the final paperwork. No papers even exist. My husband said he didn't love me and was never coming home. But my suddenly came. I am rejoicing and praising God. No matter how long it takes, God will do exactly what He said He will do. When God told Noah to build the ark he didn't tell his family or friends. When God tells you your marriage will be restored, believe Him, no matter what anyone says or what it looks like. It will come to pass.” (Texas)
“I just want to praise the Lord because my marriage was restored suddenly. My husband came back home suddenly! PTL. After so many prayers and scriptures, the Lord did it suddenly. I know this could only be from God. Now my family is back together, to God be the glory for all He has done!” (North Carolina)
"I had written that my husband came home after being separated. Now, a year later, my marriage grows stronger every day. We are very much in love with each other. Not only did God heal my marriage, but He also healed my womb. I am several months pregnant with our first child. Glory to God." (New Jersey)
"God is answering my prayers. My husband is back home and now my children can have the joy of having mom and dad together. Thank you Jesus." (California)
"God has healed our broken marriage. Every prayer for my wife's heart has been answered. God has broken all contact with the other person, and has rescued us. I can testify that our marriage has gone from one of the worst to one of the best. God is faithful." (British Columbia)
“There are no words to say how important never giving up is. I have heard it said so many times by those who write in, and praise God it is true! I know there are those out there who walk in hope but still have doubts. I was one and then my suddenly came. Restoration is happening. Isaiah 61 and 62 are so encouraging. It says that He will make righteousness. It is not up to our spouse as I have witnessed. I have said during the entire time of my stand that there would be only one man in my life...my beloved. This man I have met...my renewed spouse, is the only one I would have walked away from my stand for. God did truly use my old husband as the material for the one He was building for me. Be faithful. Hold on. God loves you all very much and is making a way in the wilderness.” (Virginia)
"I must praise my Lord, as a stander for twenty-two years. There is hope! God does heal sick, hurting and dead marriages. Nothing is too hard for our Lord God. The Lord does see your tears and hears your cries for your marriage to be restored. I cannot tell you how many times I thought Bob would never come home. I thank the Lord for allowing Bob and I to encourage others to believe in the power of our awesome mighty God. I thank Bob for being obedient to the Lord's voice, coming home to his Lord, to me and to our precious three children. Our three children are married and we have seven beautiful grandchildren. Yes, it is worth all the praying and fighting the heavenlies for your spouse to come home. Never give up! Happy 20th anniversary, Bob, of our remarriage." (Charlyne)
“I just wanted to drop a line to thank you once again for your prayers for the return of my unsaved husband several years ago. We just had our 27th anniversary. Our marriage is going great. He is a Christian man and we are closer and stronger than we ever were. I believe him leaving me was for the best, but at the time I didn't understand. God was preparing us both for a better walk in life. My new saying now is...Our God is stronger than Satan, Amen!” (Florida)
“I've been coming to RMM for many months now. My husband, who many of you have prayed for, came home three months ago! This was after four sets of papers sent to me, none of which I signed. We are in the restoration process, but this has been a long, long road. For you standers out there waiting on your miracle, don't give up! As soon as you think you can't hold on any longer is just when the tide will turn! Our God has shown me so many marvelous things and I am still continuing to pray for all prodigals and standers out there! I prayed for God to bring my spouse home...but you know what? He did double! God is a God of miracles! And he doubles what the locust has eaten. Not only did he bring my husband back home, but he has now blessed us with our first baby! Praise God! Lord, I give you all the glory, and even though the devil may still be lurking, You God are the One who has already won this battle!” (Virginia)
“Luke 1:45. I am in awe of what God is doing in both me and my beloved. My precious spouse returned home five months ago after a two year absence in the far country with the OP. Although I was praising God for what He did, I was in my own ‘hurry’ to move the marriage along to full restoration. But God had other plans! He is taking His sweet time in rebuilding our marriage slowly and with such care it takes my breath away to watch the changes. Last night I heard, ‘I love you, I’ve always loved you,’ for the first time in two years! God continues to speak to me in spite of my own selfish desires to hurry up. He gently reminds me that He is in control. In His time He will fully restore what the locusts came to destroy! He has and He is and He will! And yes, dear standers, in the natural things looked bleaker than bleak. No contact for months, my husband was so cold - but God! He did it for me, He will do it for you! Glory to God!” (Minnesota)
"Praise God, after moving out a few months ago, my prodigal husband moved back home with me last weekend. God is working in our marriage to restore what was lost. I know God is faithful and will continue to have His hand in our marriage to restore it to what it was originally intended to be." (Georgia)
"Praise God, He has healed my marriage. After my husband left, I was devastated, but I felt that I must seek God, not the world. It was hard some days, but God put so many people in my life that had gone thru this. I started believing that nothing was too hard for God. We are going to a Christian counselor. I know that God can do anything. Praise be to the Lord." (Texas)
“Out of obedience, I made fudge and delivered it to my prodigal. He thanked me but stated that he was ‘moving on’ and the court date in six weeks would be the final end. I cried out to God in tears: ‘Do WHATEVER it takes, Lord. I am willing!’ The very next night our dogs got into a fight (very odd). I ended up with a terrible bite and a broken hand. My son called our prodigal for help while I was at the hospital. While in the ER I prayed that he would see this as a picture of how life had been since he left us - chaotic, unprotected, and terribly injured. When he saw my stitches and cast, God broke him. He literally came to his senses. He has now ended all legal action, put all finances back together and we've reconciled. My ‘WHATEVER’ prayer initiated a wild scenario I could never have dreamt, but through it God brought my husband back to his covenant with God and me. I am so grateful and give all the praise to our God!” (Tennessee)
"Once I understood that I had to let go and let God, my marriage was restored. My prodigal is home, attending church, going to counseling, and has established a new circle of godly friends. Thank You Lord for letting me see Your light through all the darkness." (California)
“PTL! My prodigal has returned! After some months of him insisting on permanent separation and most likely divorce, I have held onto the hope and encouragement to stay standing. When I woke up sad and lonely, I prayed scripture over both of us and our marriage. My emotions subsided and I was able to have the strength of the Lord. Tonight my prodigal told me because I am allowing the Lord to work in my heart, he has to do the same for himself. He is coming home!" (Missouri)
"Praise the Lord. After a year of separation, my prodigal has returned home. We still have much work to do, but the words of Jesus Christ rings within my heart, 'Peace be with you.' (John 20:19). Thank you Bob and Charlyne for standing for Jesus Christ not just in marriage, but in life." (Georgia)
I met James twenty-two years ago. “Who’s that new salesman?” I asked my co-worker. “I think his name is James, but why do you care, I thought you were done with guys?” Coming off a bad relationship at 20 years old, I had sworn I was done with guys...but he had caught my eye. “If he is from New Jersey, I’m going to marry him,” I told her. She thought I was crazy. It turned out he was from New Jersey, near where I grew up outside of Philadelphia, and we DID get married! Three years later in Florida, we became husband and wife.
After four years, we moved to South Florida, and were blessed with the birth of our precious daughter, Avery, in 1995. Like many young couples, we struggled as we grew a life together, but with the birth of Avery our whole world changed. I began asking the big questions about life. Perhaps the biggest question of all…”God, I know you exist, but who is this Jesus?” God answered that question and many more through a local Pastor. In 1996, James and I both gave our lives to Jesus Christ. We had found a new life in Christ, and a new purpose as a family. James’ purpose was found in his passion to serve others as a firefighter/paramedic and we celebrated as he was hired by a Fire Department about 60 miles away from our home.
At the same time, I accepted the call to teach at a new Christian school our church had started. The same year, Avery, started Kindergarten. It all seemed to be coming together, a new life in Christ, our careers were established and Avery flourishing in school. Then our family’s peace was shattered when I found out James was having an affair. For the next seven years, James and I went back and forth, up and down, in our relationship. We struggled with our sinful nature and what God would have us do. We both had times we wanted to just give up on our marriage, but when he wanted to quit, I would stand fast, and when I was ready to set him free, he would not leave me. From my perspective it was the most painful, but amazing season of my life. I learned the true meaning of sacrifice, faithfulness and love. On Valentine’s Day 2008, after years of pain and struggle for both of us, James planned a special night. He took me to the beach, served me dinner, and gave me a beautiful new diamond wedding ring.
God’s love never fails. God’s love toward me, even in my sin, humbled me so that I could love and forgive James during the toughest season of his life. That love, as God promises, “covers a multitude of sins.” This man not only loved me, he was finally able to accept God’s love and forgiveness…which changed his life.
From that Valentine’s Day on, James loved us and served us selflessly. My husband and Avery’s dad, was the man I always dreamed he would be, the man I prayed he would become. We renewed our wedding vows on March 26, 2008, and began what we expected to be a long and wonderful new life together. Then came that tragic, but glorious day, almost one year later on March 8, 2009, when God took James home to Heaven. Traveling on his motorcycle to the job he loved as a Firefighter/Paramedic, James was killed. The day he died, James was right with his wife, with his daughter and with his God. James stood before God that day and heard the words we all long to hear, “Well done good and faithful servant...come and share your Master’s happiness.”
The promises God gave me through this journey were fulfilled. God promised me that James would “rescue souls from the flames.” His life and death are still accomplishing this truth. I continue to cling to His promise to me that, “Blessed is she who believes what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished.” The Lord also promised that He would “complete the work he started” in James, “until the day of Christ Jesus.”
James, God’s work in you is complete, well done. I can’t wait to see you again, until then you are finally home!
"Praise be to God, we are together as a family again after several months of separation. My husband said he wasn't willing to come back, but he knows it is God's plan so he is obeying and expecting the Lord to do the rest. Thank you, Charlyne and Bob for your help." (Mexico)
"I used to write you praying for God to bring my husband home and he did four years ago, but he came home a different man. He had a motorcycle accident and was in a coma for months. I never gave up on him, through his drugs, other women and a coma. God told me to hang on and I did. Now my best friend/husband is learning life all over again and he is home and I am more grateful than you will ever know. We have a long road ahead, but we will do it together, hand in hand with God in the lead. Thank you for helping me to never give up." (California) (A PS from Pompano - You need to be ready for God to bring your spouse home at any time and in any condition, as this wife was.)
"My wife and I have started talking and seeing each other again. She stays in another state with the kids, but God used the kids to keep telling her to come home. We are now working on our marriage and we even went to her reunion last weekend together and enjoyed ourselves. Praise the Lord." (North Carolina)
"My prodigal spouse left to live in the far country with the other woman. He called me at work yesterday and asked if I still wanted him to come home. He was outside our apartment building with his car packed. Months ago I had tied a yellow ribbon around the door knob, which he noticed immediately. I believe that knowledge, prayer and thanks to God brought him home. I also kept my lips zipped sharing the information only with my prayers partners. I know this will be a long road, but we agree the Lord has to be our center. Praise God." (California)
“My husband was gone for a few years, but God brought him home almost a year ago and is healing and restoring. He is awesome! My van broke down in the middle of the road and it is an expensive repair. I have been praying that God would give my husband and me wisdom as to what to do. Today's 5 minute daily devotional from Charlyne was about math. In my spirit, God confirmed to me that the problem was already taken care of. We serve the most amazing, awesome God! God hears and answers all prayers. He brought my husband home and has already taken care of my vehicle. I love You Lord and praise You! Keep praying; keep believing! Revelation 12:11.” (Oklahoma)
"Just a note to let you know that my husband and I were remarried after being divorced for 14 years. Our marriage is still very much a work in progress. I know 'He who began a good work in me will bring it to completion.' Thank you both for all of your encouragement and help. More people need to know that God DOES heal hurting marriages!" (Ohio)
"After years of divorce, my husband and I were remarried last night with our two children as witnesses. Your ministry was a gift from God during this walk of faith." (Ohio)
"The Lord has restored my broken marriage. I thank God for the day he led me through the Internet to Rejoice Ministries. Their ministry has been a great help to me during my stand for my marriage. The Lord has been good to me in so many ways. My husband has come back to the Lord through the power of prayer. I prayed every day and every night for the Lord to move over my husband's life, and I pray that every stander will never give up. The battle may seem long and hard, but in the end you will realize, as I did, that all you are going through right now will strengthen your relationship with the Lord and restore all that is broken in your life. God heals hurting marriages." (Florida)
"God is indeed awesome. Not only did He bring my prodigal home, but He is also working in bringing restoration to his whole family. Right before this happened, I was close to giving up. I was weary after the long stand and the back and forth. As I was driving home from work, crying out to the Lord, a car pulled in front of me, and there on her bumper was a Rejoice Marriage Ministry bumper sticker telling me that God does heal hurting marriages and there was hope. I cried all the way home thanking the Lord. Days later my miracle happened. Praise God that He never gives up on us." (Colorado)