Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"I am happy to let you know that my husband has told me he is home to restore our marriage completely. Just to prove that God can do immeasurably more than we can ask or hope for, my precious husband has now told me he loves me and that he thinks the world of me. Thank You Lord Jesus, for Your blessings. I give You all the praise and glory." (Canada)(posted 7/13/2006)
“After many months in the far country, my husband came home suddenly! Praise God! We are very happy! He is very loving and we are enjoying spending time together and with the children. All God's promises are Yes and Amen. His Word does not come back to Him void. I pray that God continues to draw my husband and my children to himself with cords of love. He is restoring a very close relationship with our brothers and sisters and restoring our home. We are working together as a team on our property and exercising and doing things together. Our God is a God of restoration! "Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things will be added unto you" Matthew 6:33. Thank you so much to Charlyne and all the team for giving me the assurance to stand in the gap for our marriage in the face of skepticism by others.” (Australia)(posted 7/21/2013)
"God does heal hurting marriages. My husband is not only home in our house but today he came home to our God." (California)(posted 10/4/2007)
"I am so blessed. My husband has been home for several months. Our children and I stood on God's Word and His promises. We didn't listen to well meaning opinions, but only what God was saying. His Word is true." (Oklahoma)(posted 5/30/2008)
Hallelujah! Praise God! What He had promised to me in the beginning of this year has come to be fulfilled. My husband is home! After a dramatic and very painful time apart we are now in our new home together. There are still battles in the heavenlies and the restoration is just getting started, but God has shown His faithfulness. God confirmed what He had done by leading me to two different verses from His Word, Jeremiah 29:10-12 and 2 Samuel 7:21-23! All Glory to God! Jesus is the bright Morning Star who has brought my beloved home. God still performs His miracles.” (Malaysia)(posted 10/29/2012)
"My husband and I got back together after months of separation. I stood for my marriage the whole time, and thanks to God and "Charlyne Cares," I got through. We celebrated our anniversary last week. On that day, God tested my husband. He saw the other woman unexpectedly even though she lives miles away. He decided not to talk to her because there was no point. He didn't feel anything for her and felt happy with me. He told me he is where he wants to be and in the anniversary card he thanked me for not giving up on us, even though when we were apart he thought I was crazy for waiting for him to come back. God is amazing." (United Kingdom)(posted 12/8/2006)
“A few months ago my husband decided he was leaving us. I was desperate and as I was searching on the internet, I come across RMM. I started standing. God is good! My husband has not left and he is taking the whole family on vacation. We still have a long way to go but Jesus is with us. Standers, don't give up. What He did for me He will do for you.” (Belgium)(posted 8/15/2013)
"I must praise my Lord, as a stander for twenty-two years. There is hope! God does heal sick, hurting and dead marriages. Nothing is too hard for our Lord God. The Lord does see your tears and hears your cries for your marriage to be restored. I cannot tell you how many times I thought Bob would never come home. I thank the Lord for allowing Bob and I to encourage others to believe in the power of our awesome mighty God. I thank Bob for being obedient to the Lord's voice, coming home to his Lord, to me and to our precious three children. Our three children are married and we have seven beautiful grandchildren. Yes, it is worth all the praying and fighting the heavenlies for your spouse to come home. Never give up! Happy 20th anniversary, Bob, of our remarriage." (Charlyne)(posted 7/6/2007)
“I have been standing for my marriage for some time. God kept telling me to trust, have faith, and believe. It was challenging but God gave me peace through it all. He ushered me gently into spiritual rest, resting in Him and His promises. My husband moved out months ago but yesterday, out of the blue, he texted and said that he misses me, he wants to be back with me and that he loves me! All praises to God! I spoke to that mountain and it had to move! God is faithful and His Word never returns void! Praying for all prodigal spouses and children and still standing.” (Mississippi)(posted 1/14/2013)
“It’s been many years and I am still standing. Praise God! When you step out into what He wants you to do, He is faithful. I have seen so many answers to prayer this year regarding my spouse. He is now attending church with me and the children. I am believing God that my suddenly is coming! He has erased all of our debt, provided a new home and is restoring. God is able. Do not give up!” (United Kingdom)(posted 1/28/2013)
“My husband came back after many months of separation. On many occasions I wanted to give up, but your website encouraged me and my suddenly came one night when the Holy Spirit said to me He is coming back very soon. I asked God how long is Your soon and within an hour he was home. Never give up because God is working on the other side. I am still in awe of what God can do if you believe.” (South Africa)(posted 8/19/2013)
(From a stander whose testimony of a restored marriage was taped for distribution.) "When I received the tape this month I was so taken. All these years looking forward to the tapes you end, and then to see our names with 'Restored Marriage' printed on the tapes and CD’s was almost too much to take in for me. All those years, filled with so many tears and heartache. God probably wanted to shout at me, 'Dry your tears, I’m coming through for you,' but then my faith wouldn’t have grown so much." (Washington State) You can order a tape of this testimony from http://stopdivorce.org/Index.php?viewItem=9819&viewCat=4,%2010 )(posted 9/22/2006)
“God is faithful! My husband came back home. Only God could do it. It was an impossible situation, but God turned my husband's heart back to his family. There was an OW and he said he would never come back. Don’t look at the circumstances, but trust Jesus. Pray, fast, study the Word daily! Make God your husband and He will be faithful to your family. He did it for me and He will do it for you. To Him goes all the honor and glory and praise. Hallelujah.” (Florida)(posted 3/3/2014)
"After many years of marriage, my husband walked away and we lost everything we had worked so hard for, including our new home. Now, after 5 years of restoration, we are building a home in the same subdivision. I realized that God has restored what Satan had taken from our family. We have grown children and a child my husband brought home with him that is the apple of our eyes. We also have grandchildren and we all are so blessed to be a family. Thank you for all you've done for us over the past few years." (Virginia)(posted 3/14/2008)
“Wow! After several long months of being apart, my family is whole once again! And it was just like you said, Charlyne, suddenly! My situation looked bleak, but God! I am in awe at His wondrous power and His unfailing promises. He restored and is rebuilding, and I am just giddy with joy. Thank you for being a lighthouse for others in a time where the world says ‘give up.’ The best words ever were hearing my husband thank me for loving him and never giving up. All glory and praise to our Lord because it was certainly His strength in my weakness that pulled me through. Thank you Lord Jesus for loving me and for never letting me down!” (Georgia)(posted 5/14/2014)
"My husband and I divorced after I committed adultery. The Lord later changed my heart and I became the stander, but by that time my husband had a girlfriend. My husband came back to me just long enough for me to get pregnant. When he found out about the pregnancy, he went back to his girlfriend. They were discussing marriage. While I was pregnant and standing, the Lord sent me a dream that he would be back home by Christmas. He came home in late November 2008 and we were married last week." (Texas)(posted 1/23/2009)
"After being separated for several months, my husband broke up with the other woman and is back home. God does bring prodigals back home suddenly. Praise God. He rescued me and my spouse and has brought us to the path of restoration and reconciliation. Thank you, Charlyne and Bob for all your guidance and support." (New York)(posted 2/7/2009)
I GOT MY MIRACLE
My husband left in March 2010 right after I had lost my mother to cancer in December 2009. I begged him not to leave me at this time but he was blindsided by Satan’s lies. The road was very hard. I filed for divorce in June 2010 and he didn’t like the fact that I filed the papers. I was so angry with him that it didn’t matter what he said or did, I was not ever going to take him back. We were trying to come to an agreement about the divorce decree. He never would sign the papers. He would make up excuses as to why he couldn’t sign them. I then realized he didn’t want the divorce, but I didn’t care; I was going through with it anyway.
I know God was giving me every sign in the world about me stopping my divorce. By September, I clearly heard the Lord say to stop the divorce and that Marcus was going to come back home. The Lord gave me Isaiah 54 to stand on. I called my lawyer and he asked me if I wanted to put a hold on the divorce. I told him I wanted it stopped. He was very confused but I shared my stand with him.
The next months I began my journey to work on myself and get my relationship back on track with God. I told people that I was not going to give up on Marcus and he was going to come back home. They just shook their heads like I was crazy, but I knew God spoke to me. God changed my heart and He really started blessing me for obeying Him. My husband began to see the change in me also. He started communicating with me again.
2011 was the year that I really began to cry out for my husband’s soul, at that point it wasn’t about him coming home. I knew that if he died he was going to Hell and I had to fight for his soul. I began fasting and really doing spiritual warfare for my husband. By October 2011, I really began to see a change in him like he was tired and ready to come home. I would ask him to come to family functions and he would show up. Marcus would still refer to me as his wife. I knew God was working on him. The enemy knew his time was about up so he would try to bring out some big guns. I prayed and pressed on.
My miracle came in April 2012! Marcus suggested we renew our wedding vows in a little ceremony with family and friends who helped me pray for my marriage. God did just like He said He would. He brought my husband home and we celebrated our wedding anniversary on a cruise. I am the happiest I have ever been. To God be the glory for all He has done. I would like to thank Charlyne and Rejoice Marriage Ministries for all the encouraging emails sent daily. I am still reading them and praying for all the standers and prodigals. I will forever be a stander.(posted 9/25/2012)
“Praise the Lord my husband is home. This was my word to the Lord that he will receive all the praise and Glory for my husband coming home, I will make my Lord’s name known to the world. The Lord has thought of me so much and I am just glad I can write my testimony so many others will learn to love and serve the Lord, Thank you very much for your prayers; please continue to pray for us. May my Lord receive all the Praise and Glory.” (Dubai)(posted 8/30/2012)
“My husband left home while I was pregnant. He vowed never to come back, but God! After the baby's birth, he came home but it turned out to be a false start. He came back home again which can only be the work of God. I believe God is working on bringing him back to the Lord. I just want to encourage all standers, as in His Word in Luke 1:37, never forget nothing is impossible with God. Be encouraged.” (Zimbabwe)(posted 8/15/2013)
"Just a thank you for being there, and to let you know that my husband and I are now reconciled. We separated a couple years ago, and God has worked in mighty ways in both of our lives. We just moved back together. God does indeed restore hurting marriages." (Wisconsin)(posted 7/6/2007)
"Tomorrow I am leaving this place to begin the journey to reach my husband who is working far away. I told the Lord that if He would turn my husband’s heart to want his family together, I would go wherever that meant. Little did I know it would be on the other side of the world. Praise God for what He is doing and His great love towards us." (Virginia)(posted 8/14/2009)
"After nearly two years of separation, my husband came home in 2003. He did not come home a changed man. I continued to stand and believe that with God, all things are possible. It wasn't until the Holy Spirit really got hold of him one summer afternoon in 2005 that things began to change. I began to really see answers to prayers. In September, 2006 my husband asked the court to void the divorce dissolution. It was granted. It was only the second one known to happen in this State. Praise God from whom all blessing flow." (Washington State)(posted 11/25/2006)
"My husband came home suddenly two weeks ago. I am so grateful to God. I stood on the promise of that little mustard seed and miracles started happening everywhere in my life, not only my marriage is healed, but also my family is healing." (New York)(posted 12/15/2006)
"My wife and I were in divorce court the first of this year. Through your support and encouragement, we are back together and doing better than ever. God has made a way where there was no way. Thank you for all you have done for me in the last year. You may never know just how many times Charlyne Cares spoke to my heart." (Washington State)(posted 11/2/2007)
“Eight months ago our God restored my marriage just before the divorce could be finalized. What I tried to do in four months, God did in four weeks! As a man in this world it was a challenge to forgive and accept my wife's return. But the Lord has taken my hand and guided me through. The more I let go and let God, the more God does. I’ve learned to be dependent on God and not myself. God has not just restored my marriage to its past way, but I see Him working and revealing to me and her what He wants to do in our marriage. Standers, God is with you. He will not delay. He loves you and will bless you in so many ways. As my wife and I draw nearer to God, the more Satan’s attacks become defeated by God. Bad memories have less impact and days have become more fulfilling and abundant with joy.” (Texas)(posted 9/3/2013)
"My husband and I have been restored for over two years. I cannot believe how much my husband loves me now. This must be God loving me through my husband, because I have never known this kind of love. This is such a testimony to me about how, when God does something, it is so much better than anything we try to make happen ourselves. I am so blessed." (Arizona)(posted 9/5/2008)
Barren For 10 Years!
Eight days after our 10th wedding anniversary, my husband asked for a divorce. I was devastated, but it took this to utterly break me before God. That night, I didn’t go to sleep, but the Lord led me to scripture after scripture. I finally fell to my knees before my own sin. I couldn’t look away, blame, or give excuse for all the selfishness, pride, disrespect, disobedience, and rebellion that I had lived in for all 10 years of our marriage. Instead of feeling anger or betrayal toward my husband, I saw exactly the unlovable person I had been asking him to love all these years and I understood. The Lord changed me that night. I didn’t become a different person overnight, but each day God would strip away another layer. Immediately, He led me to a group of women who were standing for their marriages! They led me to Rejoice Marriage Ministries where I learned that I was a “stander,” and my husband was a “prodigal” (Luke 15). I loved that! It was so apt.
I believed my husband when he said there wasn’t another woman, but the Lord was preparing me for a different story. After a month of standing, the Lord was asking me if I would stand, even in infidelity. See, God knew the hardness of my heart. If I had initially known my husband had found someone else, I would have never been broken. I would have raged against my husband and would have felt justified as I took everything he had. But then, I would have never stood in the gap for my husband’s soul. Now, I know that everyone around me knew about the other woman, but they wouldn’t tell me. That was God. It took His work in me and gentle nudges to show me what His marriage covenant really means. As you know, the covenant made before God has no stipulations. I did not vow to love until my husband cheated. I did not accept a ring only until my husband’s love disappeared. I vowed until death, and God was holding me to that vow. It didn’t matter that it was the worst day of my life when my husband finally told me about the other woman. The next day wasn’t much better. I helped my husband move out, believing that God would bring him back. All of this, my husband knew, but he wouldn’t “come to his senses” for a while yet.
I was commanded by God to do four things:
1. To Stand: When I was so overwhelmed with how determined my husband was in pursuing this divorce, I told God that I didn’t want to fight this battle and I didn’t want to have to try and find a Christian lawyer to defend my stand. God spoke 2 Chronicles 20 to me and let me know quickly that I wouldn’t have to find a lawyer, nor would I have to fight this battle. It was HIS battle, and He was going to win it for me!
2. To Wait: I thought this meant that I would have to wait for my husband to come home, but God said I was to wait on Him and the work He was going to do in our lives.
3. To Be Silent: Whew! If you only knew me, you’d know how nearly impossible this is! But God was working and nothing is impossible for Him (Luke 1:37). I tried so many times to reason with my husband and point out what God was showing me, but it wasn’t my place and it only hardened my husband’s heart toward me. Through this, God showed me that I am nobody’s Holy Spirit. I can’t convict, and I can’t change a person’s mind. That is God’s job, but He showed me that what He does lasts forever, so I’m glad I can’t change anyone…it wouldn’t last. God told me that no man could change my husband. He was the only one who could change my husband and I needed to let Him work!
4. To Be Still: This was the hardest command. As my husband progressed in the Far Country, I saw the state of his soul. I couldn’t believe a born-again believer could believe the lies Satan was telling him. Satan takes the Word of God and twists it to fit what the flesh wants, which Charlyne taught me only leads to doing the will of Satan (2 Timothy 2:26). My husband was trying to find biblical justification for all of his actions and what his flesh wanted. Obviously, he couldn’t but he gave it his best effort. Needless to say, and he finally admitted it after he came home, he was miserable out in the Far Country, even though he told me then how “peaceful” he was! (Standers don’t believe anything your prodigal says!) There were many days I would lie on the floor in our home begging God to release me from this stand. I didn’t want my husband anymore after seeing where Satan had taken him. I didn’t want a man who would cheat on me. I didn’t want any of this! But God would let me rant and rave, then remind me of all the promises He’d given me and remind me that this path, though excruciating, was His best for me. Daily, I had to surrender my will to Him, believing He knows what is best.
My husband works offshore. He sent me an email saying he was coming home in a few weeks when he came back in town. He told me he believed God had finally answered him. He sent an email to the other woman ending their relationship. I was amazed! The Holy Spirit told me to rejoice. Ah, but Satan wasn’t done yet! A few days later, I discovered that my husband was still talking to the other woman and was beginning to doubt coming home. As the days drew closer, my husband was determined that he wasn’t coming home and told me he may never come back. I was prepared for false starts thanks to your ministry, but the Lord reminded me that He had told me to rejoice. So instead of me telling everyone that my husband wasn’t coming home after all, I would say, “He says he’s not coming home…” Our God has a bigger plan, and thankfully, He’s greater than man (Job 33:12).
I invited my husband to our house for dinner the night he came in from offshore. Although he resisted, he finally agreed to come. I had a vision to run to him when he came home, just as the father did for the prodigal. When my husband pulled in, he parked in the back of our yard. I ran across our yard in my bare feet smiling the whole way. When I got to him, I jumped into his arms and bear hugged him. He was laughing and smiling. He now says that when he saw me do that he knew he wouldn’t be able to leave! That night he kept trying to leave, but God wouldn’t let him. I told him that I understood if he couldn’t stay…I knew God would bring him home! Finally, after watching him wrestle to the point of exhaustion, he started drifting off to sleep on the couch. I told him to come to bed, but he said he had to do something first. He went out to his truck where he left his cell phone and texted the other woman that he was staying home. Now I understand the struggle; she had told him that if he ever came back home, they were over. My husband told me that was the first night of sound sleep he had through all of this!
I have to admit, the restoration of our marriage has often been more difficult than the standing. God has reminded me that He is still working on the other side of that mountain, and He’s not done yet. I want to encourage other standers that God doesn’t work the way we think or expect. His ways are higher than our ways and our thoughts are not His thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9). The Lord has been revealing His truth in doses to my husband. I’m still learning to obey those four things God commanded me. Just because my husband is home and our marriage is better than it has ever been, it doesn’t change where we’ve been and who we are to become. I will forever be a stander for my husband and our marriage.
God gave me a lot of promises while my husband was in the far country and I look forward to God fulfilling every single one of them. The first promise He answered is the return of my husband. The second promise was recently confirmed. For 10 years I have been barren. We are pregnant with our first child! Standing and restoration have been hard, but I still believe my God is greater and He knows what’s best! “Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished!” Luke 1:45(posted 10/8/2012)
A CHRISTMAS MIRACLE
By Mary in Missouri
As another Christmas is drawing near, I am filled with such excitement knowing it is the day we celebrate the greatest miracle of all, which is the birthday of our Savior, Jesus Christ! I can't even imagine how exciting it was back in time when everyone was awaiting the actual birth of Jesus!
I wanted to share with everyone my own Christmas miracle of 2010 which is that my precious prodigal came home after three years of being in the far country! Praise the Lord! It was a few hours after Christmas Day of 2010 at 2:00 A.M. I was still awake, sitting in the living room when I heard a key in the door and in walked my dear prodigal! I can't describe the overwhelming joy in my heart when I saw him walk through the door! He had listened to a sermon and the minister said, “Receive your forgiveness and go home” and that is just what my husband did!
I could write a book about everything that took place from the day he left until the day he came home but it would have to be just that, a book! Maybe someday I will write a book about my stand if God leads me in that direction. Anyway, through much prayer by myself, my prayer partner and many other people's prayers, God touched my husband's heart and my husband turned his heart back to God and back to me and our children.
The years that my husband was away were very difficult for me and our two adult children. There were many tears, trials and conflicts. In the beginning of my stand, I just wanted my husband back but later on I realized that the most important thing to me, because I loved my husband so much, was his soul and where he would spend eternity. He was a Christian but had walked away from God and in the process he was then deceived by the enemy and tempted by another woman whom he started a relationship with.
There were days when I just felt like giving up and moving on but by the grace of God I didn't. I am so thankful to God that He sustained me and gave me strength to stand even though I felt I was so weak at times but it was worth it!!! I was up against negative advice, even from my own children, to move on with my life. It got so bad that I didn't even feel like God could hear me talking or praying to Him since nothing ever seemed to change. I know now that He was there with me all the time and the Lord was working everything out for my good, my husband's good, and our children's good.
A few of the good things that came out of this attack by the enemy to destroy our family are that my daughter's faith in God and walk with Him has gotten stronger. My husband realizes how much he and I are alike in every area of our life where before he thought we had nothing in common, which was a lie from the enemy. Our family has gotten closer to God and to each other. God has blessed us so much and in so many ways since my husband turned his heart back to God and back to his family! God turned what the enemy meant for evil and destruction into so much good for us. I just can't begin to tell you all the blessings that God has bestowed on us because there are so many.
I read other people's testimonies and I would wonder if I would ever have one to share. I have to admit that sometimes when I felt so hopeless I didn't even want to read testimonies and I am ashamed that my faith became that weak.
So, I just want to say, in all humility and honesty,that no matter how hard it gets in your standing for your prodigal spouse, don't give up on them! They need your prayers and interceding on their behalf because they are blinded by the enemy and they can't see the way out without our prayers for God to remove the blinders from their eyes so they can see God's truth and find their way back to God and home to their spouse and family!
God bless you all and may He give you His strength, His peace, and His joy as you stand in the gap for your precious prodigal! Please don't give up on them! It will be worth every difficult day, hour and minute of standing and praying!
God be with you and bless you and I am praying for you all!(posted 10/1/2012)