Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
“What a sad time in my family's life when my husband decided to leave. I'd become so overwhelmed with grief. I called my husband repeatedly to no avail. Only when I made the decision to "let go and let God" did things begin to change. My prayers turned from ‘Change him Lord’ to ‘Lord, please do a work in me.’ Taking responsibility for my part in our separation and asking for the Lord's forgiveness was the key to transformation in my marriage. During our separation, I learned to turn my ear only to the voice of God. My husband returned home. I quickly learned that the real work began during our reconciliation. It's been a few years since we've reconciled but the first year was filled with learning how to forgive. In the end, I found out that forgiveness is simply a decision away. Thank You Lord! My husband and I will never be the same.” (Texas)
"Praise God, after moving out a few months ago, my prodigal husband moved back home with me last weekend. God is working in our marriage to restore what was lost. I know God is faithful and will continue to have His hand in our marriage to restore it to what it was originally intended to be." (Georgia)
"My husband has been home since May. Although we sometimes struggle with issues, I give it to God. I give him all the praise. My husband realizes how much he was deceived. I am just so happy that my family is together again." (Florida)
"My husband and I just celebrated our 18th Thanksgiving together, including two years ago, when he was not living at home. Praise God. This morning my husband and I were talking about my praying for our daughter. He said I shouldn't worry because my prayers cause things to happen. I praise God that He does work through my prayers and that my family can see God working. I praise God for every holiday and every day that we can be together as a family." (California)
“After many months in the far country, my husband came home suddenly! Praise God! We are very happy! He is very loving and we are enjoying spending time together and with the children. All God's promises are Yes and Amen. His Word does not come back to Him void. I pray that God continues to draw my husband and my children to himself with cords of love. He is restoring a very close relationship with our brothers and sisters and restoring our home. We are working together as a team on our property and exercising and doing things together. Our God is a God of restoration! "Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things will be added unto you" Matthew 6:33. Thank you so much to Charlyne and all the team for giving me the assurance to stand in the gap for our marriage in the face of skepticism by others.” (Australia)
"After divorce and remarriage on my husband’s part, and me giving up my faith, God showed me He had other plans and I was to stand. My husband is now divorcing the non-covenant and we have been spending time together. Praise God that He showed me my prayers were working even though I could not see or did not know anything was happening. God is faiithful." (Oklahoma)
“My marriage was so rocky. I thought I was trying real hard, but still imagined I deserved more. I stayed away for a year. I came back in faith exactly a year later, trusting my husband's anger would subside if only I would obey the Lord, and reconcile. Your website was my friend and encouragement when I had little external encouragement. A year later, we couldn't be happier, and all has been healed ! It is true that only one spouse standing makes a difference and God still does miracles! I will never be sorry I came back home. I believe my kids are better off, and we are all happier. Thank you and Him!” (Wyoming)
“Praise God! I have been standing for many long months and my ‘suddenly’ has finally happened. God is so good and faithful. From the very beginning I fought this battle ‘on my knees’ and my Lord was with me the entire time! My spouse has a few more months on his lease - but we are looking for a new home together. From the beginning, God gave me my rhema word, ‘Restoration’ and in everything I read, saw or heard He was constantly reassuring me it WOULD HAPPEN! Dear standers, don't ever give up. God is true and faithful!” (Massachusetts)
"My husband and I are together again. God said to me through His Word and to my heart that He would do it, and now God has been faithful to me. My marriage is better than ever." (Barbados)
"Praise the Lord, my husband has been home for several months. He has told me he will love me forever and would miss me if I wasn't around him. That's a big change from wanting a divorce just a few months earlier. More importantly he is spending more time around our children and that is a blessing. Thank You God." (Kentucky)
“A marriage restored many wonderful years now, Praise God! Our marriage is better than when we first fell in love, and each year God has been faithful to deepen our love and intimacy. He transformed not only our marriage, but our Christian walk as well. This is what the LORD says: ‘I will go before you, Cyrus, and level the mountains. I will smash down gates of bronze and cut through bars of iron.’ Isaiah 45:2 (NLT) The battle is God’s. All we have to do is stand faithfully, waiting for Him to act. Even now, when I see a rainbow, I am moved; it reminds me that God heard my prayers and answered them. Thank you, Jesus for Your love and mercies and restoring our marriage.” (North Carolina)
"I am happy to let you know that my husband has told me he is home to restore our marriage completely. Just to prove that God can do immeasurably more than we can ask or hope for, my precious husband has now told me he loves me and that he thinks the world of me. Thank You Lord Jesus, for Your blessings. I give You all the praise and glory." (Canada)
“I just wanted to drop a line to thank you once again for your prayers for the return of my unsaved husband several years ago. We just had our 27th anniversary. Our marriage is going great. He is a Christian man and we are closer and stronger than we ever were. I believe him leaving me was for the best, but at the time I didn't understand. God was preparing us both for a better walk in life. My new saying now is...Our God is stronger than Satan, Amen!” (Florida)
"We divorced and my husband remarried. I found your website and started my stand. We barely had contact except through authorities. God is good and after years of separation and no ontact, I got a call telling me that my prodigal was sick and almost dying. I called him and on the exact date we had separated. He told me it was time for us to get back together again. I went to see him and took care of him in the hospital. He has recovered. He and the other person have separated and now we have a new relationship. Praise God! I am going to help him move home closer to us. God is above all." (Sweden)
“Thank you RMM for encouraging me for three years. April of this year my husband came home...suddenly! He came home the week after our wedding anniversary. We are waiting for vow renewal now. I began to thank God for not letting me sleep through those early morning hours so I could be the one to intercede for my family. The attitude of thanksgiving planted joy in my life and I purposed that no matter what, I would honor the covenant I made before God to show Him I understand His covenant with me is forever, unbreakable. When I was faced with telling someone that my children and I were standing for restoration, I thought maybe this is the one who needs to see that we can trust Christ. People say, ‘You never gave up, you knew he d come back.’ I tell them I didn't know the outcome but God doesn't lie and we can pray His words and claim them. He is faithful!” (Louisiana)
“Praise God my husband is home! When my husband left me I was devastated and lost. Everyone told me I needed to move on and I was crazy for holding on. Every Saturday I would read the testimonies and I would pray that one day I would be able to write one myself. You have to believe, have faith, and trust God, He holds true to His Word. Everything Bob says about what the prodigal is thinking is true. My husband is happy to be home and has wanted to come home, but was scared and ashamed. We are now expecting our second child and we couldn't be happier. He even told me that every time I told him I refused to let go he would smile inside, even though he said I needed to move on and it was pointless to hold on. Please, never give up. Galatians 6:9. You will all be in my prayers.” (Florida)
"Praise God, it has been several years since my prodigal returned and while we still struggle I continue to pray for God's guidance. I am an attorney and I often get divorce cases. I have had an opportunity to counsel many and rejoice when they withdraw their petitions. God is good. While this does not help my business, I remain happy every time a client calls and tells me they have reconciled with their spouse." (Florida)
“God did it again. I was away on business and left Mom and our daughter at home with a part-time caregiver. My beloved and I had several false starts over the past years of my standing. But God... Jesus touched his heart and he started hanging around the house more while I was gone. Suddenly, the Lord impressed it upon him that he needed to be home even if it meant quitting a job that has kept him from home for a long time now. The next thing I knew my family and husband were on their way to stay with me near my job. They have been here for almost a week now. My husband went to church with us for mid-week Bible study and we are going to church again today. God is faithful! We are restored for good in Jesus Name.” (Florida)
“Let me start off by saying that God is good! My marriage has been broken for many months. It has seemed like an eternity and a hopeless situation. I felt we were knocking on the door of divorce several times. I wondered at times if I could even continue to love someone who was being so cruel. I met with God daily and through His Spirit I made the commitment to love my wife unconditionally and stand for my marriage. Praise the Lord, my wife and I are trying to rebuild our marriage. There is pain on both sides and I am trusting God to do the healing. We recently spent the weekend together away and I am so grateful to God for what He is doing in our lives. My best advice is to trust God, constantly go to Him in prayer with all your pain. He loves you and your spouse. He will restore! Mark 10:9.” (Indiana)
“Praise the Lord, for God is good and faithful. For the past two nights my husband has come home as God is answering prayers and the Holy Spirit is convicting and directing my husband's path. Standers, keep praying and looking to our Lord. For with God there is nothing impossible! Thank you for your prayers and keep praying for all standers, children and prodigals. Glory be to the Father, Son and Holy Ghost.” (Florida)
"My husband and I are under the restoration process, I had the pressure of family, but our Lord led me each step. My parents are old and suffering and Dad urged me to divorce my husband. I told him that even if my husband is not worthy, Jesus is the only one "to undo the evil" (1 John 3:8). The love I have received in this trial has drawn me closer to God. I am still waiting for my prodigal, who is with me, but has not opened his heart with His Savior. God will open his eyes and heart." (Mexico)
"I left my husband and later divorced. I was in a state of depression and everything else the enemy could bring against me. I met someone else, and despite the devastation to my husband and child, I remarried. I was very unhappy and started to seek the Lord for His truth and light. He started to work in my life. Even though I had grown up in church, I never had a personal relationship with Jesus. I was led to your website. I started to pray for God's help. God helped me to leave that marriage and stand for my marriage. My husband met someone else and did not want to be with me. He saw no future for us. For two years I prayed, even though times were tough and circumstances impossible. I saw God start to work on my behalf as I sought Him for my life and my family. My husband and I were remarried a week ago. God is faithful. Thanks and praise to God for all He has done." (South Africa)
"The Lord has restored my broken marriage. I thank God for the day he led me through the Internet to Rejoice Ministries. Their ministry has been a great help to me during my stand for my marriage. The Lord has been good to me in so many ways. My husband has come back to the Lord through the power of prayer. I prayed every day and every night for the Lord to move over my husband's life, and I pray that every stander will never give up. The battle may seem long and hard, but in the end you will realize, as I did, that all you are going through right now will strengthen your relationship with the Lord and restore all that is broken in your life. God heals hurting marriages." (Florida)
"After months of standing strong and firm in the Lord for my marriage and my family, my husband has returned home. God moves mountains. Praise be to Him. The first step has been taken, we now have hundreds more to take. I know by putting God first He will guide us through." (Iowa)
"I am praising Jesus. My husband and I are spending time together. We are now on the way to a restored marriage. He still needs to surrender to Jesus. I am confident that He who began a good work in my husband will complete it. We plan to buy a new home with Jesus leading and directing our steps. God has begun to restore relationships with our children and our grandchildren are thrilled to have grandpa back in their lives. We celebrated our granddaughter's birthday. It’s amazing just as God promised me. I keep looking to the Lord who will bring my husband back to Him. Thanks, Bob and Charlyne for your help." (Arizona)
"My husband and I are restored and this past weekend we moved into the home we purchased together. Without God and your ministry encouraging me I don’t think I would have made it. God Bless you." (Oklahoma)
“Glory be to God! My husband has returned home. God has really transformed his heart. I got a call at five in the morning saying he never meant for things to get so bad and he wanted to come home for good. Although I had prayed and fasted with the other stander teams last week, the day before he called I was ready to quit but I said I would keep praying for other standers and their prodigals regardless of my choice. God knew I was tired and weary. I had already gone and got divorce papers and almost told him no out of my own selfish fears. I’m glad I didn’t. He apologized for everything in tears and even prayed before bed. God is great!” (Illinois)
"Praise God my marriage has been restored. Over the past several months Jesus has revealed his heart to me and we have moved mountains together. I went from a believer to a follower. The key to this resurrection was being immersed in the Word and countless hours in prayer. God has been so faithful. Thank you Bob and Charlyne for this ministry." (Minnesota)
“A few months ago I was ready to give up on my marriage. The divorce hearings were proceeding and everything just seemed hopeless. I was directed to this site and I found out that I was not wrong in thinking that God did not want me to move on. I told my husband this and it didn't have an immediate effect. But I just knew that I could not give up. I submitted my court date in December, which was supposed to be my final one, and it was rescheduled to January. The last week of December my husband called me to come talk. Last week he moved back in and today he filed papers to cancel the divorce. Praise God! Although there's work to be done, I know without a doubt that we will make it.” (Wisconsin)
"Tomorrow I am leaving this place to begin the journey to reach my husband who is working far away. I told the Lord that if He would turn my husband’s heart to want his family together, I would go wherever that meant. Little did I know it would be on the other side of the world. Praise God for what He is doing and His great love towards us." (Virginia)
"My prodigal returned home some time ago. He is still fighting addictions and has not accepted Christ as his Savior yet. This past week I looked in the bedroom saw my husband on his knees by the bed. When I entered the room he was crying like a baby and asked me to pray for him. He will be saved soon." (Florida)
"Everything looked hopeless. Court proceedings were underway and complex. I hadn’t spoken to my wife for months. The day before we were again due in court, my wife came to my office and handed me a court notice of discontinuance. I was speechless. We spent Saturday at a Christian bookshop buying resources to rebuild our marriage. God is absolutely amazing." (Australia)
“Months ago my spouse told me he didn´t love me anymore. After his request to separate, I moved to his home overseas. I started to pray to Jesus for a miracle for my marriage. After months of praying and crying to my Lord, my husband stopped his other relationship. He has started being loving to me and speaking about us or our family. We just started healing our hearts and still need a lot of prayers, but for Jesus, all is possible.” (Chile)
"My husband left me and was going to file for divorce. Several months ago he began staying at home, but did not want to re-commit to our marriage. I felt like I was going crazy and I questioned if I was doing the right thing by continuing to stand. Every time I asked God, I got the same answer, so stand I did. My husband wants to renew our vows and move away and start over together. God is faithful and what He promises He will perform." (Texas)
"My husband filed for divorce and left me. It seemed impossible but God never quit working behind the scenes. Just before the divorce was final, my husband confessed and asked to come home. God is healing our family. Thank You, Jesus." (Kansas)
I met James twenty-two years ago. “Who’s that new salesman?” I asked my co-worker. “I think his name is James, but why do you care, I thought you were done with guys?” Coming off a bad relationship at 20 years old, I had sworn I was done with guys...but he had caught my eye. “If he is from New Jersey, I’m going to marry him,” I told her. She thought I was crazy. It turned out he was from New Jersey, near where I grew up outside of Philadelphia, and we DID get married! Three years later in Florida, we became husband and wife.
After four years, we moved to South Florida, and were blessed with the birth of our precious daughter, Avery, in 1995. Like many young couples, we struggled as we grew a life together, but with the birth of Avery our whole world changed. I began asking the big questions about life. Perhaps the biggest question of all…”God, I know you exist, but who is this Jesus?” God answered that question and many more through a local Pastor. In 1996, James and I both gave our lives to Jesus Christ. We had found a new life in Christ, and a new purpose as a family. James’ purpose was found in his passion to serve others as a firefighter/paramedic and we celebrated as he was hired by a Fire Department about 60 miles away from our home.
At the same time, I accepted the call to teach at a new Christian school our church had started. The same year, Avery, started Kindergarten. It all seemed to be coming together, a new life in Christ, our careers were established and Avery flourishing in school. Then our family’s peace was shattered when I found out James was having an affair. For the next seven years, James and I went back and forth, up and down, in our relationship. We struggled with our sinful nature and what God would have us do. We both had times we wanted to just give up on our marriage, but when he wanted to quit, I would stand fast, and when I was ready to set him free, he would not leave me. From my perspective it was the most painful, but amazing season of my life. I learned the true meaning of sacrifice, faithfulness and love. On Valentine’s Day 2008, after years of pain and struggle for both of us, James planned a special night. He took me to the beach, served me dinner, and gave me a beautiful new diamond wedding ring.
God’s love never fails. God’s love toward me, even in my sin, humbled me so that I could love and forgive James during the toughest season of his life. That love, as God promises, “covers a multitude of sins.” This man not only loved me, he was finally able to accept God’s love and forgiveness…which changed his life.
From that Valentine’s Day on, James loved us and served us selflessly. My husband and Avery’s dad, was the man I always dreamed he would be, the man I prayed he would become. We renewed our wedding vows on March 26, 2008, and began what we expected to be a long and wonderful new life together. Then came that tragic, but glorious day, almost one year later on March 8, 2009, when God took James home to Heaven. Traveling on his motorcycle to the job he loved as a Firefighter/Paramedic, James was killed. The day he died, James was right with his wife, with his daughter and with his God. James stood before God that day and heard the words we all long to hear, “Well done good and faithful servant...come and share your Master’s happiness.”
The promises God gave me through this journey were fulfilled. God promised me that James would “rescue souls from the flames.” His life and death are still accomplishing this truth. I continue to cling to His promise to me that, “Blessed is she who believes what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished.” The Lord also promised that He would “complete the work he started” in James, “until the day of Christ Jesus.”
James, God’s work in you is complete, well done. I can’t wait to see you again, until then you are finally home!