Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
“I want to share my restoration story. God is AMAZING! I was unfaithful, selfish, unappreciative, and worst of all, not following God as I should. During my time separated from what meant the most to me, I had time ALONE to realize how bad of a person I had been to my wife. I attended a church while away where every message seemed to be directed at me. It was God correcting my heart. I have been back for almost a year now and pray with her every day.” (New Mexico)
“I was hard-hearted and pushed my spouse out and filed for divorce. God dealt with me and made a way for the divorce to be dismissed two months later. After over a year of my spouse telling me he was not coming home ever, he called on a Sunday morning and asked if I was going to church and if the gate was unlocked. He said he was going to start bringing his things home. Suddenly, just like you say. Praise God, He is working and I have zipped it. God Bless RMM.” (Washington)
“My suddenly happened last Sunday. My prodigal called and asked me to pick him up. The OW packed all her things and moved away. My husband has asked me and the kids to move in with him. Glory to God for His awesomeness. We still have some ways to go but praise God he is home with us. Trusting God for His promises of complete restoration and New Beginnings. God is always in control and on the throne making a way from no way. Thank You Lord for everything. Thank You Lord for bringing me through and I thank You for my husband and family too.” (Georgia)
"My husband moved out of our home. He said he was never coming back. I saw the hand of God nudge my husband back home slowly but surely. My prodigal came back home unannounced a month ago. God is faithful to complete what He started." (Kenya)
"Last Friday, my (ex)wife asked me, 'Will you marry me again?' She has been in the far country for years. Our grown children had been devastated by Satan's attack, but my 'ex' will be my wife again in ten days. Our children are going to give her away." (Virginia)
"My husband has been home for nine months. All the praise goes to the Lord. I continue to stand on the promises of Jesus to rebuild our marriage on the solid rock of Jesus Christ and restore the love in our marriage. I give glory to the Lord who answers prayers." (New York)
"After several months of standing, my husband suddenly returned home two weeks before Christmas! We serve an amazing God. And thank God for Rejoice Ministries. They kept me standing when I did not have the strength to stand. Our reconciliation has been difficult but my wonderful Savior has drawn me so close to Him that I know He will restore my marriage to more than it was before this nightmare began. Keep standing standers! God will honor your stand. Stand strong!" (Kentucky)
“After almost two years of praying and standing, not giving up and keeping the faith, my husband has returned home. Please don’t give up on your spouses for any reason, I am a true witness. God Bless.” (North Carolina)
“Recently God has been doing great things. Despite divorce, my prodigal and I are staying under the same roof. I have had some bad times but the Father always brought me joy. Throughout this entire trial I have been trusting in Jesus and He has not failed me yet. I am encouraged to see this through to total restoration.” (Florida)
“Only God! Several months ago my wife moved out and filed for divorce. Today, thanks to God and the prayers of others, I can say we are now back together with a restored marriage in our new home and a new beginning that only God can do. The past months allowed me to see the hand of God turning a heart of stone to a heart of flesh. I encourage you who may think your marriage is dead, remember God hates divorce. Put all of your trust in Him and He can do for you what He did for me. Our marriage is stronger than ever before and I encourage you to be strong in your stand knowing that God is able to do what seems impossible to man.” (Florida)
"My husband has been home for the last two months. As you often say, he returned home suddenly. Only four days before he returned home, he was trying to get me to answer some questions so he could complete divorce paperwork. I repeatedly refused telling him I would not and could not talk to him about divorce. We have been in marriage counseling since the day he came home. Each day I see the manifestation of the work God is doing in my marriage. I believe that he is now seeing the truth, God's plan is and has always been to restore our marriage. He has decided to finalize the adoption of our daughter, go on the family trip to Disney and to combine our finances again, all of which seemed impossible only a short time ago. I know my husband will soon be turning his life completely over to the Lord. All the praise and glory goes to our Lord, Jesus Christ." (Georgia)
"Our divorce is gone. Thursday morning the same judge who pronounced our marriage dead years ago, signed papers to vacate the divorce. She happily announced it is as if the divorce never happened. All glory to our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ who gives us the victory. Thank You Lord for the grace to stand. Thank You Lord for restoring our family. Thank You Lord for the plans You have for us. Thank You Lord for creating Rejoice Marriage Ministries, providing Bob and Charlyne as Your hands, heart, and voice to care for us, love us, and mentor us as we stand for our marriages. May my husband and I be faithful and moldable in Your Hands as our marriage is restored." (Oklahoma)
"After almost six months of separation, my wife and I are getting back together. We have found that acceptance of each other and faith in our Lord is much more powerful than trying to go it alone. I was for sure our marriage was done when she filed the papers, but God changed our hearts, and pointed us in the direction we needed to go to reconcile our differences and to show us true compassion and forgiveness. Thank you Bob and Charlyne for the daily reminders to not give up on our marriage." (Tennessee)
"I want to give God the glory for restoring my family. It has been a long journey, but after being separated and planning on divorcing, my husband came home last month. My children are so happy and although we still have a lot of work to do, God is working it all out." (California)
“At the end of the summer my husband moved us into a home near his work. He had been gone for nearly three years before restoration. Though I was reluctant to leave the area where we lived for many years, God in his goodness has supplied much Christian fellowship and many friends in a short time. Restoration is happening all through our family between four generations. Miracles do happen and God is rebuilding our family on the Rock of Jesus Christ. Praise be to God! I hope this is of encouragement to others to know that God can restore a very large and diverse family. He does more than we can think or imagine.” (Canada)
"My husband and I are under the restoration process, I had the pressure of family, but our Lord led me each step. My parents are old and suffering and Dad urged me to divorce my husband. I told him that even if my husband is not worthy, Jesus is the only one "to undo the evil" (1 John 3:8). The love I have received in this trial has drawn me closer to God. I am still waiting for my prodigal, who is with me, but has not opened his heart with His Savior. God will open his eyes and heart." (Mexico)
"I thank Almighty God for leading the way to restoration. My husband and I are dating again. He has invited me to church many times. God is faithful to His Word." (California)
"After three years of separation, the Lord brought my spouse back home. He left me to raise our daughter alone while he pursued his selfish dreams and desires. He was truly blinded by the rulers of this dark world. But God! After having almost no contact for the first year, through many tears and prayers, God changed his heart. We began to communicate and even began dating. It often gets hard on this road to restoration, and often I want to give up, but God continues to push me forward through His words and encouragement. I know that God's hand is still at work. I thank God and praise Him as this Thanksgiving is my birthday and I will be able to celebrate it with my husband, daughter and our extended family in our home." (New York)
My wife filed for divorce. One year later, after court dates and mediation, she asked if I would have dinner with her and the kids. I accepted. I had not heard anything from her except business concerning the kids and the divorce. She called and asked me to lunch at a local park. I ccepted. As of today, my wife has dismissed the divorce and we start marriage counseling this Saturday morning. Thank You Lord. We have a long way to go, but I know He is right beside us through this new journey." (Missouri)
“PTL! After many months of separation, ignorance, and threats of divorce from my husband, out of the blue, he came to spend New Year’s Eve with me! We had an amazing conversation and I was pleased to hear that he had taken a look at and has begun to own up to his own wrongs through our marriage and was no longer solely blaming me! He told me that this was a positive move in the right direction for us and was very loving. My walk with Our Lord through this time has been life changing! Being an advocate of standing for my marriage had many looking at me as though I were crazy, but I followed exactly what the Lord has told me to do - to keep standing with love and kindness. My husband mentioned this great change in me and I can see how my walk with the Lord is inspiring him. The Lord kept asking me if I was ready this whole holiday season and I said "YES!" Now we are taking it slow and on the mend. I am giving the Lord all of His due glory!” (Pennsylvania)
“My husband and I were remarried last month. He thought I was the enemy but it was just the opposite. He was tricked like the prodigal by his ‘so called friends’ and I prayed and heard from the Lord for 11 years that he would return. He divorced me and I never heard a word from him. I got many attacks from the devil and so did my children while I was standing for our marriage. God got us through them all, but it was extremely difficult. I never dated, and was faithful to the call. Finally, on the date of our first wedding, I saw him on Facebook, and he clicked me as a friend. He admitted that all the messages from the Holy Spirit, and all the scriptures were true that God gave me. He was in awe that I had prayed for him all these years. His journey was not easy either, and he suffered as well as we did. We are all so happy to be reunited as a family, and it was worth all the praying. God is Faithful and HE DOES KEEP HIS PROMISES!” (Florida)
“Praise God! His promises just keep manifesting left and right! My husband and I have been separated for several months and he filed for divorce not too long ago. Another woman was involved and in the natural our situation looked so hopeless. But God! I started standing and walking in love towards my spouse and he immediately noticed a difference. No longer was I hurt and angry and defensive, but I had a peace that even my prodigal could see. He began texting me and emailing me to actually coming over and just hanging out with the kids and me. This turned into him spending the night twice because he didn’t want to be in his new house alone! Now he's telling all his friends that we are trying to work things out! PTL! There's a long way to go but God has brought us this far and He will perfect that which concerns us. Never give up, even when things look impossible!” (Texas)
"Nothing compares to the promise we have in Jesus. After years of separation and divorce, my prodigal and I were remarried one month ago. A year ago, there was no indication of reconciliation. He was still trying to marry someone else. He started the journey home and a few months later was talking about our future. I never took off my wedding band during the journey and now I have a new one with rubies because my husband says I am the Proverbs woman whose price is far above rubies. I wear them both. God is faithful to perform what He what He has promised." (Illinois)
"I thank God for deliverance, healing, love restored, joy, respect, peace and God in my marriage in Jesus name. I thank God for bringing my husband back home. The only person who is mad is Satan." (New York)
"Praise to God, my prodigal has come home. On his first Sunday home we went to church and he rededicated his life to Christ." (Texas)
“I have given up a few times in my stand but God has always reminded me He is faithful and to trust Him. Earlier this year I received my suddenly from my beloved, but due to me giving up and detouring it caused us to split up. For months I agonized about missing my suddenly. I attended the Dallas Rejoice on the Road conference and was encouraged by Charlyne praying for me and my beloved. After the prayer, Charlyne told me to continue praying and be prepared to write my testimony. I decided to let go and let God, stop trying to control my spouse coming back to me, seek God for His will for my life, and grow in Christ. During the process God taught me to trust Him to move on the other side of the mountain and that He is faithful. Well to God be all the Glory. My spouse has contacted me to say he is now ready to work on us and reconcile.” (Texas)
"Nothing is too difficult for our God. I had the privilege of having a restored marriage, but I stopped standing soon after and my prodigal left home again. I kept looking at the circumstances, but God was working behind the scenes. I thank the Lord that I am seeing my prodigal’s heart
"My husband’s been home for a month. God gave me Psalm 107:28-31, revealing that our storm has been stilled, that our marriage is being restored. I know it's because God has finally gotten through to me and I am putting Him first. This past weekend we attended a marriage conference. My husband told me he is committed to me and mostly to our Lord. We've had some great moments. I thank God for this season. I know He needed to straighten me out, and now I know how to be a better companion. I give God the glory." (Texas)
My husband Joe and I were married for five years before he decided on a family vacation to Disneyland that he "just couldn't do this anymore." That was Halloween week and he had moved out of the house by Thanksgiving weekend.
My two-year-old daughter and I were devastated and shocked. Both of us claimed to be "Christians" and had a relationship with the Lord, attending church frequently, but never centered our lives and marriage around Jesus. I panicked at the prospect of being a single parent and immediately began searching Christian internet dating sites for a new partner. I met and began a long distance relationship with a man in a different state, seeking to fill the void in my life with this new relationship. I wandered as deep into the far country as my husband did until I was convicted one night by the Holy Spirit about being double-minded. How could I be actively praying for God to save my marriage when I was having an affair with a man "just in case" I actually ended up divorced?
My mother-in-law gave me a book shortly after that called "Can My Marriage Be Saved?" which is a compilation of stories of saved/reconciled marriages. One story referenced Covenant Keepers and when I looked them up online in a Google search, I came upon Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc.
Your materials captivated me; I had heard of covenant marriage but never this concept of "standing." Once I got a hold of it I couldn't get enough of the Bible and what it teaches about the covenant and God’s design for marriage. I started acting on these principles praying God’s truths over my marriage and family and I began to notice a change in myself so quickly that it was actually shocking. I prayed for the Lord to break me and mold me into the wife He wanted me to be. I didn't want to have an adulterous relationship any longer and became content having Jesus fill that space in my life. I made a commitment to honor the covenant even if Joe wasn't at the moment, and I took God at his Word that he is a God of healing and restoration.
Joe and I spent the holidays together and the further I got into my studies about standing, the easier it became for me to treat him with such God-given kindness and grace that my co-workers actually used to joke with me that we had a better relationship while going through a divorce than several of them did married. I took these little opportunities to witness to them about what I was standing for and what I knew God could do, and they would snicker at me and tell me to move on. I truly didn't believe that our divorce would go through...but it did. On April 20, 2010 a judge ruled our marriage "dissolved." I loved your teachings about praying over the divorce decree and that it is just a piece of paper, but does nothing to break the covenant if you keep standing (quite a concept for me to regard a court ruling as "just a piece of paper, since I'm a lawyer!!).
My little girl and I used to pray together at night and thank God for restoring our family and for the brothers and sisters that were yet to be born to Joe and me. She would ask when will Daddy come home and I would talk to her about God’s promises and tell her that we'd wait for him as long as it took. Thankfully, my story of reconciliation didn't take long. Literally two weeks after our divorce decree, there was Joe, who was on my front porch weeping over the mistake he had made and asking if we could "date.” Because of where my relationship was at with Jesus, I found it so easy to forgive him and confess my own earlier affair. God had given me a love for Joe that I had never experienced during our marriage.
We began an awesome time of courtship, healing, and inviting Jesus to be Lord over our relationship. I drafted a motion to the Court asking them to vacate our divorce decree and Joe moved back home last October. Our son was born on August 4 and is nicknamed "the miracle baby" by the same friends and co-workers who snickered at me when I told them God would heal and rebuild our family. As crazy as it sounds, I'm actually glad the divorce was final. I think it makes our reconciliation an even greater testimony to God’s powerful awesomeness than if it were just a divorce "close call!” Praise Jesus!!
"I walked out of my marriage in 2003 and quickly realized that I had made a mistake. After many mistakes that Charlyne warns against- seeking man's methods of restoration. I found myself lost and alone or so I thought. Then I discovered God's views on life, love, marriage and salvation. The road to restoration was frightening at first, but as I grew in the Lord and the more I focused on Him, the more I understood unconditional love and forgiveness. After being humbled and forgiven. My marriage was restored two years later. Now, I have the life and marriage that is founded in the Lord. In December, we celebrate our one year anniversary again. Praise the Lord. Rejoice Ministries was a lighthouse in my storm of martial problems." (Pennsylvania)
"Praise God, after moving out a few months ago, my prodigal husband moved back home with me last weekend. God is working in our marriage to restore what was lost. I know God is faithful and will continue to have His hand in our marriage to restore it to what it was originally intended to be." (Georgia)
“After 13 years away from the church and family, my spouse stood in an appeal to re-commit her life back to Jesus in church last Sunday. It’s only in our conversations after all these years do I realize that God never for one moment let her go. At times when it seemed that nothing was happening, God was constantly speaking to her heart. Although at this time she is happy for us to be friends I pray for a full restoration of our marriage.” (United Kingdom)
"Even though my husband stayed in close touch with me for all the years, I never had the first clue that he was so close to coming home. One day my husband came over and we starting talking about God. My husband was having a hard time sleeping at night. He said he kept feeling like he was almost hearing voices. I sent him home with some material. A few days later, he email me and asked about moving back home. He said he knew he had a lot of issues to work through, but knew he could do it if I would give him a chance. God's timing was perfect as we were able to celebrate our anniversary together." (State withheld due to ongoing nature of this restoration.)
"My husband apologized for all the hurt he caused. This week he called his attorney and is dismissing the divorce. The next day he drove hours to my home. We talked and then went over to our pastor and talked for another hour. My husband is making the restoration to his Lord. Before he left I gave him Bob's book 'Finding The Way Home.' I had it ready here for him for just that perfect time." (California)