Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"We were separated for two years and have been back together for over a year. It has not always been easy, but the Lord never promised easy. He has allowed both of us to share what God has done in our marriage." (Indiana)(posted 6/9/2006)
“All glory and honor to God. He has restored and renewed our marriage. Not only do I see God’s hand working in our marriage but there are times when my husband has asked me to share our story with someone else who is hurting. God can and will move the mountain if we would just believe. The Lord gave me Amos 9:11 to hold onto and He has been faithful to His Word. Hold on standers, your breakthrough is on its way. He's going to come through.” (Connecticut)(posted 1/14/2013)
"The day the Lord became visible in our relationship was the day my husband asked me to do a particularly painful thing. Although he knew it hurt me, he also knew I prayed and did it because the Lord told me to. I honored and reverenced my husband and as he saw that in me, he turned slowly and is now back at home. The trials and struggles are still with us, but I know that doing God's will day by day works." (Ohio)(posted 6/22/2007)
"I must praise my Lord, as a stander for twenty-two years. There is hope! God does heal sick, hurting and dead marriages. Nothing is too hard for our Lord God. The Lord does see your tears and hears your cries for your marriage to be restored. I cannot tell you how many times I thought Bob would never come home. I thank the Lord for allowing Bob and I to encourage others to believe in the power of our awesome mighty God. I thank Bob for being obedient to the Lord's voice, coming home to his Lord, to me and to our precious three children. Our three children are married and we have seven beautiful grandchildren. Yes, it is worth all the praying and fighting the heavenlies for your spouse to come home. Never give up! Happy 20th anniversary, Bob, of our remarriage." (Charlyne)(posted 7/6/2007)
"My husband moved back home this past week. We have been in weekly marriage counseling. My husband made a promise to not speak of divorce again. The Lord does answer prayers." (Michigan)(posted 6/5/2009)
"I praise and thank the Lord as He brought my husband home to us last night. I am so thankful for my deepened relationship with my Lord and for being made a new creature in Christ. May I never forget this experience or become lazy, but worship and grow with our Lord every day. For it was Him alone that brought my beloved husband home." (Maryland)(posted 9/26/2008)
“I want to praise God for my suddenly. My husband and I have been separated for a few months. It was devastating but I knew from the moment he left this was not God's will. God clearly reassured me He was in control and He would restore. My husband began texting me ‘I love you’ and other encouraging things. He sent me an email to tell me he wanted to work on our marriage. Last week he told me his landlord was letting him out of his lease (PTL) and when I asked where he was going he said that was not up to him. I told him he could come home. PTL he agreed to this and will be moving home soon. I am so blessed! GOD is so good! I could just praise Him all day long.” (Illinois)(posted 5/6/2013)
"After years of standing, the Lord has won this battle for me. My wife said that she thought I might like to take her out for a meal as she thought I might have a question to ask her. She wanted me to propose. We went ring shopping the next morning, found the perfect ring for her, and went out for a meal. I got down on one knee and proposed and she said yes. Praise the Lord. A wedding invitation will be in the post! All glory to God." (United Kingdom)(posted 4/4/2008)
"My husband is back home after an affair. He strayed from the Lord and now is back. The devil had hold of my husband but God's pull was stronger. Praise God for healing our marriage. We are going to renew our wedding vows this Sunday. It feels so good to sit in church with my husband next to me. We pray together every day, something we never did before. Without your daily Charlyne Cares giving me hope, I probably wouldn't be typing this. Thank you Bob and Charlyne. I know I am one of the luckiest women on earth. My husband just told me he loved me second only to God." (Tennessee)(posted 1/16/2009)
"After almost six months of separation, my wife and I are getting back together. We have found that acceptance of each other and faith in our Lord is much more powerful than trying to go it alone. I was for sure our marriage was done when she filed the papers, but God changed our hearts, and pointed us in the direction we needed to go to reconcile our differences and to show us true compassion and forgiveness. Thank you Bob and Charlyne for the daily reminders to not give up on our marriage." (Tennessee)(posted 11/22/2006)
“PTL! After months of prayer my marriage is being restored! I am so thankful to God for the changes that I am seeing in my husband, our family, and myself. With God anything is possible no matter how hopeless a situation may seem. Let God take control of all areas of your life and you will receive blessings that are better than what you could imagine in His perfect timing!” (Georgia)(posted 5/22/2013)
“After over 12 years of separation, my wife came to the church BBQ. It’s been 13 years since she came to church. There were many tears that day before she even arrived. Just when I was trying to understand what was happening, she asked if she could come to the house for the day when I was out as her relationship with her partner is over and she needed some time alone. I gave her a key for my house for her birthday. God is on the move. PTL!” (United Kingdom)(posted 9/9/2013)
“After standing for my marriage for many months, my suddenly happened yesterday. Even though my husband said repeatedly that it was over and he was going to get a divorce, the Spirit of the living God has brought him home. Like the prodigal son, he is tired and hungry. I hold on to God's promises and Ezekiel 36 where He will restore my husband. He will show His Holiness through him. He will sprinkle water on him and he will be clean, He will put His spirit in him and give him a heart of flesh for his heart of stone. Isaiah 30:7 ‘and he will rebuild them as they were before.’ God is faithful!” (Texas)(posted 9/26/2013)
“Praise God, my marriage is reconciled. Thank you for your ministry, it has kept me going! I wouldn't have made it otherwise!” (Texas)(posted 8/30/2012)
"Last Friday, my (ex)wife asked me, 'Will you marry me again?' She has been in the far country for years. Our grown children had been devastated by Satan's attack, but my 'ex' will be my wife again in ten days. Our children are going to give her away." (Virginia)(posted 6/9/2006)
“I got your website from a friend and since that day it has provided inspiration and hope for my tomorrow. After struggling for 18 months, my husband has decided that our marriage of 16 years is worth fighting for. I bless God that he has left the other woman and returned both to God and his family. I realize that it is not always easy, but I thank God for restoration has come to my household. I want to encourage anyone else going through this, remember God honors covenant. As he was with Abraham, He will be with you, but you have to trust Him. Praying for marriages worldwide and ask that you keep us in your prayers, that God will strengthen us.” (Bahamas)(posted 10/7/2013)
As soon as I was able to let go and let God fully, my marriage was restored, thanks to the Lord. It all happened just like you said it would. God's time is perfect. My husband left the other woman suddenly, checked into the hospital to detox for alcoholism and came home broken and in need of love first to God, then to a praying, standing wife and four children. No questions asked. Zipping my lips as you said is what is making this all a joyful restoration. It is work in progress. He is now to God's glory the lead vocalist for our church choir. Watching him praise God with tearful eyes is what fills the holes that the enemy tried to bore in me. But God, Praise the Lord. What a mighty God we serve. I hope I can encourage every stander to never, never lose heart. Continue to hold on because just like Charlyne and Bob said it was all worth what we have now. Thank you for being used by God to keep people like us shining the light for our lost prodigals to find their way home. I love you Bob and Charlyne." (New York)(posted 11/24/2006)
"I am praising God. My husband is wanting to come home. I thank God for this trial, for I have grown so close to Him during this time. We have a long road ahead of us, but with God as the center of our marriage, we cannot fail. I am so thankful for the many blessings God has given to me and my family." (Georgia)(posted 12/8/2007)
"After a year and a half of struggling, trying to figure out what to do and what not to do, praying and crying, I found this ministry and started receiving the daily devotionals which helped me stand and gain my strength to listen to God. He has brought my prodigal home. We still have work to do and God has work to do in us, but praise God my husband is home." (Florida)(posted 2/19/2010)
"To God be the glory. My husband came home suddenly a few days ago. God is good." (Texas)(posted 3/27/2009)
"My husband has finally come home for good. He has been home for a few months and I know that God is going to finish the work He started." (Georgia)(posted 6/26/2009)
"After a year of turning his back on his Lord, my husband returned to the Father and to our family. We are in a new town, away from where all the pain happened and able to start a new life. We still need much prayer. However, the blessings have been great and I know God will continue to heal our marriage." (California)(posted 6/7/2007)
"After months of separation, my husband is back home. He told me that he went to see a lawyer around Christmas to divorce me, but he realized that he didn't want to go through it. I had been praying and fasting during December and received a second promise from God that my husband would be back. A month ago, my husband was still telling me that he would never come home. If it wasn't for finding Rejoice Marriage Ministries, my husband and I would be divorced by now. Charlyne taught me how to stand and Bob's books helped me understand my husband's point of view. They both taught me to not look at circumstances, even when things seems impossible. I give all the praises and glory to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ for this miracle. My husband says he wants to forget the past and start over. Prodigals do come home, and they come home when we don't expect it." (Texas)(posted 1/26/2007)
"Without the guidance of this ministry, I do not believe my marriage would have been restored. When my husband turned his heart to God, he realized he and the other woman were unequally yoked. God first cleansed me and then He did the rest. It was suddenly and unexpected, but God was right on time. My husband had not made any contact with me for almost two years and my marriage was a dead corpse. When my husband came home the other woman came home with him, emotionally. I have said nothing, except to suggest that we pray for her salvation. I will always love and support this ministry." (South Carolina)
A PS from Pompano - This wise stander understood that after her husband came home he would go through a grief process in getting over the other person, as we have written and taught about. Prodigals do not come home with amensia. Many newly restored marriages fall apart all over again because the stander is not prepared for their homecoming. We have material to help you be prepared.
The days after a prodigal first comes home are like walking through a mine field for both spouses. We have a package of material to help both you and your mate when your miracle comes true - http://rejoiceministries.org/r.php?num=30h6n(posted 8/30/2012)
“Praise the Lord! My beloved husband came by our home to say that he wanted our marriage to work! Isn't the Lord faithful? Three years ago, the Lord gave me Isaiah 58 to read and led me to this website. To all my fellow standers, continue to love our Lord and walk closely with Him. He loves you, your spouse, and your children. He will get complete glory out of your story! Don't give up on God because He won't give up on you...He is able! Forever standing for marriage and families." (Georgia)(posted 8/15/2013)
"My prodigal is home. He is on the couch after years apart. I have been looking at houses and my prodigal is seeing us as a family. He calls me his wife even though the divorce is final." (California)(posted 4/10/2009)
"In a split second, my wife looks at me and sees where God is leading me and wants to be part of it. Then we were remarried. We were apart for years and now we are enjoying things with God at the center of it all." (Arkansas)(posted 9/7/2007)
“All praise and glory to the King of Kings and Lord of Lords! My husband suddenly came home yesterday after months of not hearing anything from him. During that time I prayed and declared daily, submitting my life, my marriage and all things to my Heavenly Father. God is faithful to His promises! This impossible thing was not accomplished by anything I did; in fact the only thing the Lord asked of me in regard to my marriage was to not give up and stand in agreement with Him and He did everything else. I have full faith and trust in Him that He will be with us as we now begin the healing process. I will continue in my prayers and declarations for all my fellow standers. I pray that God gives you all strength and endurance as you stand in agreement with our Lord for your precious marriages.” (Canada)(posted 11/18/2013)
My husband Joe and I were married for five years before he decided on a family vacation to Disneyland that he "just couldn't do this anymore." That was Halloween week and he had moved out of the house by Thanksgiving weekend.
My two-year-old daughter and I were devastated and shocked. Both of us claimed to be "Christians" and had a relationship with the Lord, attending church frequently, but never centered our lives and marriage around Jesus. I panicked at the prospect of being a single parent and immediately began searching Christian internet dating sites for a new partner. I met and began a long distance relationship with a man in a different state, seeking to fill the void in my life with this new relationship. I wandered as deep into the far country as my husband did until I was convicted one night by the Holy Spirit about being double-minded. How could I be actively praying for God to save my marriage when I was having an affair with a man "just in case" I actually ended up divorced?
My mother-in-law gave me a book shortly after that called "Can My Marriage Be Saved?" which is a compilation of stories of saved/reconciled marriages. One story referenced Covenant Keepers and when I looked them up online in a Google search, I came upon Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc.
Your materials captivated me; I had heard of covenant marriage but never this concept of "standing." Once I got a hold of it I couldn't get enough of the Bible and what it teaches about the covenant and God’s design for marriage. I started acting on these principles praying God’s truths over my marriage and family and I began to notice a change in myself so quickly that it was actually shocking. I prayed for the Lord to break me and mold me into the wife He wanted me to be. I didn't want to have an adulterous relationship any longer and became content having Jesus fill that space in my life. I made a commitment to honor the covenant even if Joe wasn't at the moment, and I took God at his Word that he is a God of healing and restoration.
Joe and I spent the holidays together and the further I got into my studies about standing, the easier it became for me to treat him with such God-given kindness and grace that my co-workers actually used to joke with me that we had a better relationship while going through a divorce than several of them did married. I took these little opportunities to witness to them about what I was standing for and what I knew God could do, and they would snicker at me and tell me to move on. I truly didn't believe that our divorce would go through...but it did. On April 20, 2010 a judge ruled our marriage "dissolved." I loved your teachings about praying over the divorce decree and that it is just a piece of paper, but does nothing to break the covenant if you keep standing (quite a concept for me to regard a court ruling as "just a piece of paper, since I'm a lawyer!!).
My little girl and I used to pray together at night and thank God for restoring our family and for the brothers and sisters that were yet to be born to Joe and me. She would ask when will Daddy come home and I would talk to her about God’s promises and tell her that we'd wait for him as long as it took. Thankfully, my story of reconciliation didn't take long. Literally two weeks after our divorce decree, there was Joe, who was on my front porch weeping over the mistake he had made and asking if we could "date.” Because of where my relationship was at with Jesus, I found it so easy to forgive him and confess my own earlier affair. God had given me a love for Joe that I had never experienced during our marriage.
We began an awesome time of courtship, healing, and inviting Jesus to be Lord over our relationship. I drafted a motion to the Court asking them to vacate our divorce decree and Joe moved back home last October. Our son was born on August 4 and is nicknamed "the miracle baby" by the same friends and co-workers who snickered at me when I told them God would heal and rebuild our family. As crazy as it sounds, I'm actually glad the divorce was final. I think it makes our reconciliation an even greater testimony to God’s powerful awesomeness than if it were just a divorce "close call!” Praise Jesus!!(posted 10/1/2012)
“I have been receiving encouragement from RMM for many years and it's been such a blessing. I received a pamphlet that talked about the covenant of marriage when we were going through our divorce and I decided to stand for my marriage. I lived through five years of silence without hearing from my spouse, but God continued to encourage me to keep standing. I did ‘suddenly’ hear from my spouse and thought I had my restoration, but things don't always go the way we think. It's been three years since that suddenly, and we are now getting remarried! It's been slower than I thought, but God's timing is perfect. I am so thankful for the scriptures, prayers and encouragement. No matter how things look to us, God CAN and WILL do the impossible, if we keep believing. He is a great God!” (Pennsylvania)(posted 8/31/2012)
"After months of being separated and being at the point of waiting for the judge’s decree in our divorce, my husband wants for us to be together. I was directed to Rejoice Marriage Ministries by God the night I was served with divorce papers. Even our pastor told me if my husband wants to leave the marriage there is nothing I could do. I thought that was so wrong. At that time I did not know what 'standing' was, yet, everything in me fought against those words. Then God led me to your ministries. I was desperate. I have been standing since then. We have been to counseling and are on our way to restoring our marriage. God is an awesome God." (Florida)(posted 6/1/2007)