Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
“After several years of standing for my wife to come home, two weeks ago she texted me saying she couldn't do it anymore by herself. My suddenly has happened. We are now planning on getting remarried in February of next year. I am still in awe at God's power. I had given up towards the end and started to try to move on with another woman but God wouldn't allow it. I tried but God told me, ‘What makes you think I'm going to give you more or less than what I already promised you.’ Now we are doing great and there is blessing every step of the way. We have a long ways to go and, as she said, a lot of catching up to do. God is so wonderful and gracious. Please never give up standers. You never know when your suddenly will come. Stay faithful and wait on God. Make Him your spouse as you await the arrival of your broken spouse. God will restore if you just wait on Him. Thank you RMM for all your support and help. May God continue to use you in a mighty way like He has in my life. God bless!” (Louisiana)(posted 9/24/2012)
"To God be the glory. My husband came home suddenly a few days ago. God is good." (Texas)(posted 3/27/2009)
"My husband who had been gone over a year has returned home. To God be the glory, for only He could have brought my husband home." (Washington State)(posted 12/21/2007)
"I give God all the praise. My husband came home on Monday. I give God all the praise. Miracles do happen." (Ohio).(posted 12/1/2006)
“I pray the Holy Spirit uses this testimony. My husband left me suddenly. God told me pray like never before! I drew close to God in every way. Everyone, including my husband, told me to divorce him. He rejected God. Everything (in circumstances) said that it was over. I prayed for him every day and stood firm. I knew that these difficult circumstances were not something that was out of God's control. He finally reached out to me and said he couldn't do it any longer. He confessed everything. I got him safe to treatment, he accepted Christ in his life this week, and repented and asked for my forgiveness, which I readily offered! He says he loves me and has always loved me and thanks me for standing by him. He and I feel hope for our marriage. The Lord has great plans for our lives!” (Ohio)(posted 10/22/2012)
"The Lord brought my husband home. The experience changed me. The Lord guided me and encouraged me every step of the way. There were many times I felt like the loneliest person on earth, but The Lord pulled me through. There were so many things I am grateful that I didn't see or know about. I followed the advice to keep my eyes on the Lord. Satan distorts everything so I just believed what the Lord told me." (Arizona)(posted 3/22/2007)
“I am in awe of what God has done for my family in this past few weeks. Not only did my precious husband come home suddenly, before Thanksgiving, but as of yesterday our divorce was canceled! God totally spoke through my husband on a phone conference we had with the judge. When asked if we were in process of reconciliation- my husband said yes! I was led by the Holy Spirit to just keep quiet, pray and let my husband do all the talking! Today I received a text from a friend who said she had a vision of my unsaved husband playing guitar in church. How awesome is our God! I know I will be standing forever and this journey is far from over- but ‘Nothing is impossible with God!’ Throughout my stand I have and will continue to claim that and Luke 1:45 every single day! And yes, to the world my marriage was dead and buried... but God! I pray every day God continues to work in me as much or more as He works in my husband. PTL and thanks RMM.” (Minnesota)(posted 8/31/2012)
"Praise God, it has been several years since my prodigal returned and while we still struggle I continue to pray for God's guidance. I am an attorney and I often get divorce cases. I have had an opportunity to counsel many and rejoice when they withdraw their petitions. God is good. While this does not help my business, I remain happy every time a client calls and tells me they have reconciled with their spouse." (Florida)(posted 6/26/2009)
“Praise the Lord! I got my miracle. My spouse is coming home and the divorce dismissed! I had several years of crying out to the Lord day and night. I am so happy! I was in anguish crying out to the Lord God and heard a still small voice tell me to wait. After reading everything I could on God and marriage and studying scriptures about marriage. I told God I would wait as long as it took. Every time I experienced another obstacle I'd pray and remember what God said and my promise to Him. It looked hopeless. Finally after being forced to sign a court appearance paper I turned it completely over to God. This is when I saw the hand of God at work! Now when I look back, I see He's been working the whole time. Amazing! He is faithful. Never give up. God will do what He has promised! He is love. Learn to trust! My journey has only begun… But God! A scripture which really helped in the last month was Psalm 91:4.” (Nebraska)(posted 9/16/2013)
"Easter morning my husband called and wanted to go to church with me and the kids. At the end of the service, my husband and my son stood to rededicate their lives to Jesus. Later my husband invited us over to eat. When we got there he had his wedding ring on, and he said he wants to reconcile and come home! Glory to God, the answers to my prayers are manifesting." (Texas)(posted 4/4/2008)
"I want to praise God. We are celebrating our one year restored anniversary. My husband is better than ever. He has totally given up alcohol and has rededicated his life to our family and the Lord." (Colorado)(posted 7/18/2008)
"When Bob and Charlyne shared that our prodigals may come home messy, I had no idea. But God held my tongue and continued to complete the work He started. He is faithful. My husband no longer drinks alcohol, has nothing to do with the other woman, is working regularly, and gives me money toward household expenses. All this without me saying a word. God is good." (Oregon)(posted 4/28/2006)
"Praise The Lord. God saw fit to bring my prodigal home suddenly. Thank You Jesus." (Indiana)(posted 2/9/2007)
“At the county courthouse, with our children holding the rings, tears in their eyes, we remarried. Thank You God for restoring our marriage and our family. I urge you to stand firm regardless of what others say. Please listen to God; He is the One true lawgiver who is able to save.” (Missouri)(posted 2/24/2013)
"My husband and I met in junior high school and married after high school. We had been married 14 years when I realized he was pulling out of the marriage. I refused to give in. I found Rejoice Marriage Ministries and I was standing on the rock of Jesus and His Word and promises. My husband got an apartment and we struggled. Even though family members, a pastor, and my counselor all told me to give up and go on with my life, I knew in my heart of hearts that was not what I was supposed to do. Eventually my husband announced he was moving home. When he got there, he was not totally recovered or healed, but now, after three years of healing, we are closer than we ever were. He attends our church with me every Sunday, and we are in Bible studies together. Our Lord keeps his promises, even when we are not faithful. Be encouraged, be ready, stay strong, and stay in the Word. Satan will not win your marriage unless you let him. Our Lord will do so much more than we can ever hope for or imagine. Trust your Lord." (Indiana)(posted 11/22/2006)
“PTL - my husband is home! The other person kicked him out and he and all his stuff have been home for over six weeks now. It has been just like Charlyne said- totally, suddenly and unexpected. Although my precious husband is grieving the broken soul tie and relationship, I see signs every day that God is doing a new thing in his heart! And even though we are divorced on paper and he is sleeping on the couch- he is HOME! He and I are talking more than we did our first years of marriage. He even mentioned getting married (jokingly- but I claimed it in Jesus name!) We have been out on dates together and are pretty much getting to know each other again. It's been many years of him being gone and it looked so completely hopeless. Even though the other has been ‘brought’ home with my husband in his grief - I know to keep praying for her, her family and mine. God is no respecter of persons - if He did it for me, He WILL do it for you! Ephesians 3:20.” (Minnesota)(posted 6/10/2013)
“Praise God for our marriage restoration. My husband is home some months now after being gone for a couple of years. He had an affair and was never coming home as he had meet the woman of his dreams. But God had other plans. My husband called me on New Year’s Day out of the blue wanting to try again. Our awesome God had spoken to him powerfully that day and turned my husband homeward. My husband has repented and is slowly turning his life around. Jesus, I trust in You.” (Ireland)(posted 4/14/2014)
"My husband walked out on me, I got evicted from my apartment, and my car was repossessed. I could not work because I was pregnant and had complications. I had to move in with my mom in her apartment. Now my marriage has been restored. I have a car paid in full, and a job making more money then I have ever made. My medical problems have been healed by prayer. The best part of my testimony is that through it people came to the Lord. I would not take back one thing I had to go through. God taught me intimacy with Him." (Florida)(posted 12/8/2006)
"Praise God, my husband has returned home. Although he is not admitting that it was God who sent him home, I know that it was the Almighty. I knew my prayers would be answered, but I didn't think it would be so quick. We have a lot of work to do and I know we can do it because I refuse to stop standing and praying." (Florida)(posted 10/11/2008)
“I am confessing that my covenant marriage is restored! God made me a promise and I believe in His Word. He is not a God that He should lie. After some years of separation and months after the divorce, my husband said he loved me too! Praise God! It is not by anything I have done or said, my Lord gets all the GLORY! We are attending a family wedding in the near future, as a family. I am in awe of the unconditional love that He has for me and my family. Forgiveness was hindering my prayers and now I have a testimony that God does heal. Blessed is she who has BELIEVED that what the Lord has told her will be accomplished! Luke 1:45.” (Pennsylvania)(posted 9/24/2012)
"Praise God! My husband moved back home! We were separated for several months and God told me immediately to fight for my marriage. I have been praying and standing for my husband since the day after he left. I had seen God moving, but my husband still said he was going to get a divorce. We even went through the pretrial. About that time, I started asking my husband to slow things down. He asked me to dinner so we could talk and he surprised me by saying he still loves me and would like to make things work, but he still had some reservations. We talked for the next few days, and it became clear he wanted to make things work. He moved home right before Christmas. The best Christmas present that our boys and I could have asked for! Never give up on God! He is faithful! We still have work to do, but God is faithful.” (Ohio)(posted 1/27/2014)
“Jesus is ALIVE! My husband and I have been married to each other twice. We had been separated for over two years and were heading for divorce again when the Lord appeared to me in a vision and asked me to fight for my marriage. At this time my husband had moved on and we were not communicating so it looked impossible. I prayed and fasted and cried and almost gave up a few times when I would hear stories from the other side. God surrounded me with His love and taught me to love unconditionally. I developed an intimate relationship with Christ that would never have occurred were it not for this situation. He encouraged me with dreams and more visions and I stood my ground. The more I prayed, the worse things seemed to get; my husband got engaged to the OW. But I trusted God and laughed at the enemy. I knew I was on the winning team with Christ. Six months after I started standing, my husband called me and said he was coming home. God's Words are the surest prophecies. Trust in God always!” (Arkansas)(posted 5/18/2014)
“My husband is finally home! It was a long, hard journey but God answered my prayers. We were separated for about a year and during that time God led me to this web site. I studied His Word like never before, prayed, and cried out to Him and He comforted me. He showed me that He could/would be my guide, strength, provider, friend, healer, and my all in all. There were many days that I wanted to give up; things seemed hopeless but He never left me. I want to tell anyone who may be going through a separation or divorce to hang in there and God is faithful. He hears all your cries and is able and willing to answer your prayers. Put your trust in Him. Draw close to Him and build your relationship with Him and He will take care of your spouse. But I caution you, He may show you some things about yourself first. Open yourself up to God and He will do the impossible. I will forever stand and pray for marriages everywhere.” (Missouri)(posted 3/17/2014)
“In 2004 I was separated from my husband and had decided to get a divorce. God stepped in with an invitation for me to trust Him to restore my marriage. My husband wanted no part of it, so I began my stand, alone. I came upon this website, and every day I received much needed encouragement here. Three months into my stand, my husband asked me to move back home. It took another couple of years before I could see tangible change. Now, at the beginning of 2013, I can say that God did such a miraculous work in both of our hearts, and our marriage looks nothing like it did for the first 20 years! Standing was difficult, but I wouldn't trade one moment of it. I discovered God's heart in a way I had never known before! Letting Him deal with my own heart and my own issues, while at the same time learning to pray for my husband from the Word of God, and with God's heart for him, changed everything for me, especially my prayer life! And God was ever faithful!” (Texas)(posted 1/7/2013)
My husband Joe and I were married for five years before he decided on a family vacation to Disneyland that he "just couldn't do this anymore." That was Halloween week and he had moved out of the house by Thanksgiving weekend.
My two-year-old daughter and I were devastated and shocked. Both of us claimed to be "Christians" and had a relationship with the Lord, attending church frequently, but never centered our lives and marriage around Jesus. I panicked at the prospect of being a single parent and immediately began searching Christian internet dating sites for a new partner. I met and began a long distance relationship with a man in a different state, seeking to fill the void in my life with this new relationship. I wandered as deep into the far country as my husband did until I was convicted one night by the Holy Spirit about being double-minded. How could I be actively praying for God to save my marriage when I was having an affair with a man "just in case" I actually ended up divorced?
My mother-in-law gave me a book shortly after that called "Can My Marriage Be Saved?" which is a compilation of stories of saved/reconciled marriages. One story referenced Covenant Keepers and when I looked them up online in a Google search, I came upon Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc.
Your materials captivated me; I had heard of covenant marriage but never this concept of "standing." Once I got a hold of it I couldn't get enough of the Bible and what it teaches about the covenant and God’s design for marriage. I started acting on these principles praying God’s truths over my marriage and family and I began to notice a change in myself so quickly that it was actually shocking. I prayed for the Lord to break me and mold me into the wife He wanted me to be. I didn't want to have an adulterous relationship any longer and became content having Jesus fill that space in my life. I made a commitment to honor the covenant even if Joe wasn't at the moment, and I took God at his Word that he is a God of healing and restoration.
Joe and I spent the holidays together and the further I got into my studies about standing, the easier it became for me to treat him with such God-given kindness and grace that my co-workers actually used to joke with me that we had a better relationship while going through a divorce than several of them did married. I took these little opportunities to witness to them about what I was standing for and what I knew God could do, and they would snicker at me and tell me to move on. I truly didn't believe that our divorce would go through...but it did. On April 20, 2010 a judge ruled our marriage "dissolved." I loved your teachings about praying over the divorce decree and that it is just a piece of paper, but does nothing to break the covenant if you keep standing (quite a concept for me to regard a court ruling as "just a piece of paper, since I'm a lawyer!!).
My little girl and I used to pray together at night and thank God for restoring our family and for the brothers and sisters that were yet to be born to Joe and me. She would ask when will Daddy come home and I would talk to her about God’s promises and tell her that we'd wait for him as long as it took. Thankfully, my story of reconciliation didn't take long. Literally two weeks after our divorce decree, there was Joe, who was on my front porch weeping over the mistake he had made and asking if we could "date.” Because of where my relationship was at with Jesus, I found it so easy to forgive him and confess my own earlier affair. God had given me a love for Joe that I had never experienced during our marriage.
We began an awesome time of courtship, healing, and inviting Jesus to be Lord over our relationship. I drafted a motion to the Court asking them to vacate our divorce decree and Joe moved back home last October. Our son was born on August 4 and is nicknamed "the miracle baby" by the same friends and co-workers who snickered at me when I told them God would heal and rebuild our family. As crazy as it sounds, I'm actually glad the divorce was final. I think it makes our reconciliation an even greater testimony to God’s powerful awesomeness than if it were just a divorce "close call!” Praise Jesus!!(posted 10/1/2012)
"After several months of standing, my husband suddenly returned home two weeks before Christmas! We serve an amazing God. And thank God for Rejoice Ministries. They kept me standing when I did not have the strength to stand. Our reconciliation has been difficult but my wonderful Savior has drawn me so close to Him that I know He will restore my marriage to more than it was before this nightmare began. Keep standing standers! God will honor your stand. Stand strong!" (Kentucky)(posted 8/31/2012)
“My husband moved back home several months ago. I have to pick him up from work once a month and as soon as I picked him up a Covenant Transport truck was there on the highway. Oh how far He has brought us since this time last year. I have no words for how thankful I am that with Him ALL things are possible. PRAISE THE LORD!” (Tennessee)(posted 3/17/2014)
"My prodigal has been moving back home since Christmas. Around Valentine's weekend we attended a marriage seminar. I can hardly believe my eyes, after standing for 15 years. Thank you for today's message about waiting for the LORD's timing. It's hard to wait, but we can't hasten it any more than one can 'help' a butterfly come forth from its cocoon without doing harm to it." (Pennsylvania)(posted 8/30/2012)
"My husband of 25 years and I were separated for eight months, including the holidays last year. People, including my pastor, told me to file for divorce. I was devastated and asked God what he wanted me to do. I kept receiving the word "stay." I drew closer to God than I've ever been. My husband came home eight months ago. It hasn't been easy, but I thank God every day that my husband is home and that he will stay home. I stand on Hebrews 6:15; 'Then Abraham waited patiently, and received what God had promised." (California)(posted 11/20/2006)
"While doing my Bible study homework, the Holy Spirit made it clear to me that Satan was the cause of our marriage separation. I was surprised because I thought that my husband’s problems from his childhood were the cause. Through prayer and perseverance, we now have a blessed restored marriage, have both accepted Jesus as our Savior, and grow stronger in our marriage and in Christ each day." (New Mexico)(posted 8/30/2012)
“I had an affair of three months, got pregnant and my husband divorced me. At first he wanted to work things out with me and even raise the baby. I was selfish and made bad choices and chose the wrong path for a short time. We were apart for some time and I was getting my life back on track with God. The Lord has healed and forgiven my sins. Thanks to Him, my husband and I are remarried. He is amazing and I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me! Never give up!” (USA)(posted 12/7/2012)