Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"After a long separation and many false attempts, my husband has finally come home. Though many encouraged me to go on with my life, I stood and prayed that my husband would love me. The Lord began to put love in my husband’s heart months ago. The more I prayed, the worse it was getting, then the Lord stepped in. My husband returned suddenly. We have a long road ahead, but God will do what He said He will do. Prayer changes things. I realized that no matter what others may say, God has the last say." (Maryland)
It has been ten days since my husband returned home suddenly. I thank God and your Ministry for helping me through such a trying time. This is definitely a joyous occasion, but I admit that I have to go not just daily but every couple of hours to the Lord for reassurance that all will be well. I'm thankful that I'm able to see how God is fighting on my behalf. (New York)
"I spoke with Charlyne on the phone in 2003 after my husband left home. Charlyne spent time with me and taught me about 'free will' and how to stand. My husband finally returned home on Good Friday, 2004. My son and I were thrilled at what the Lord had done." (Georgia)
“Praise God! I have finally heard the words that I have prayed for. My husband is coming home! After a year of separation, God has moved my mountain. Trusting in God doesn't sound easy, but with self discipline, praying on the full armor of God daily and never speaking negativity has given me the joy and patience I need. I wish I could express to the ones who are struggling to stand, just how much it works. The enemy tried to lie every minute of every day, but when I spent more time in thanking God instead of fighting the enemy, my life changed. God will do right for those who love him. He wants me to be happy, he wants my children to have a father here to comfort them. But we had to learn to love God first. God is jealous. As soon as I started feeling the need to read more scriptures, sing more praise songs, give him the praise for all the simple things, my life changed! My husband still has some legal issues to deal with, but he has spoken the words and planted the seed I will water!” (Arizona)
“All praises and glory to God. My husband came home. I was going to call it quits then, suddenly out of the blue, he came over. He said he waited all night to come and speak to me with flowers. He said the Lord spoke to him. He walked me to our class and I was touched. Thank You Lord. You are working on my husband.” (Texas)
“All praise and glory to the King of Kings and Lord of Lords! My husband suddenly came home yesterday after months of not hearing anything from him. During that time I prayed and declared daily, submitting my life, my marriage and all things to my Heavenly Father. God is faithful to His promises! This impossible thing was not accomplished by anything I did; in fact the only thing the Lord asked of me in regard to my marriage was to not give up and stand in agreement with Him and He did everything else. I have full faith and trust in Him that He will be with us as we now begin the healing process. I will continue in my prayers and declarations for all my fellow standers. I pray that God gives you all strength and endurance as you stand in agreement with our Lord for your precious marriages.” (Canada)
"I am praising Jesus. My husband and I are spending time together. We are now on the way to a restored marriage. He still needs to surrender to Jesus. I am confident that He who began a good work in my husband will complete it. We plan to buy a new home with Jesus leading and directing our steps. God has begun to restore relationships with our children and our grandchildren are thrilled to have grandpa back in their lives. We celebrated our granddaughter's birthday. It’s amazing just as God promised me. I keep looking to the Lord who will bring my husband back to Him. Thanks, Bob and Charlyne for your help." (Arizona)
“My wife left me years ago. We reconciled after a few months only to separate again and eventually divorce. Although I was led to RMM through a friend's bumper-sticker and began to stand, it seemed that each month we were more and more alienated from each other. When things were at their worst, communication sad and hurtful, the kids aching and life very hard, God quite suddenly reversed the downward spiral. He (and He alone!) began to soften first my heart, then my wife's. He allowed opportunities for me to show my love to her again. And He started a process where each month we began to fall in love more and more all over again. Praise to His precious Name and Glory, we were remarried this past summer and are still growing in His love. HE is doing this restoration, and it is clearly HIS plan. In fact, He has used these past years to teach me so much and open His Word to my heart. I can thank Him for these trials, even though the hard times are so hard, His love and plan never failed.” (Oregon)
"My husband came home almost one year to the day of our separation. I know I have been greatly blessed and not just because of his homecoming, but because God has transformed and humbled me. Life is still a struggle and many times I have to remember all that the Lord has done and promised to do and that He has not taken us this far just to let us fall down. I have weeks of being so spiritually attacked but thank the Lord Charlyne and Bob's devotionals are always right on for getting me out of my pity party. This ministry is such a life line to me. God's finger prints are all over it. God amazes me so much. I'm so glad He chose me to know Him more. Stand firm no matter where in the restoration process you are, God is so faithful to give faith, peace and comfort especially when you think your situation has reached impossible. The most important thing I can share with a stander is this: 'Make sure God is first, in time reading His word, in chatting with Him privately, in His will. Does He want you to fast, clean, read or love more? You'll see miracle after miracle when God is first. Praise the Lord. He is so good.'" (Florida)
"After much prayer and fasting, standing, waiting, loving and forgiving, all by the grace of God, my beloved is home. We still have healing to do, but He who began a good work will continue until it is completed." (Illinois)
“I thought my husband’s leaving was all my fault. After a week of separation I found out about the other woman. I stood for my marriage; I never gave up. I tried and tried to speak to him but he refused. One day he decided to talk to me and we had a good talk. The week after that he called me for lunch. After several months of separation, he moved back home after breaking off the relationship. We just celebrated the best Thanksgiving ever. We are still working on restoring our marriage but we know it will be better than ever before. My husband has thanked me for not giving up on him. I am thankful for God's faithfulness and mercy!” (Oklahoma)
“I got an anniversary card from the ministry on Sunday and then suddenly, the next week, my husband packed his bags and came home. SUDDENLY! I really want to share this testimony here because all the devotions sent to me every day have done a great job in me. Keep praying because God is faithful.” (Uganda)
I met James twenty-two years ago. “Who’s that new salesman?” I asked my co-worker. “I think his name is James, but why do you care, I thought you were done with guys?” Coming off a bad relationship at 20 years old, I had sworn I was done with guys...but he had caught my eye. “If he is from New Jersey, I’m going to marry him,” I told her. She thought I was crazy. It turned out he was from New Jersey, near where I grew up outside of Philadelphia, and we DID get married! Three years later in Florida, we became husband and wife.
After four years, we moved to South Florida, and were blessed with the birth of our precious daughter, Avery, in 1995. Like many young couples, we struggled as we grew a life together, but with the birth of Avery our whole world changed. I began asking the big questions about life. Perhaps the biggest question of all…”God, I know you exist, but who is this Jesus?” God answered that question and many more through a local Pastor. In 1996, James and I both gave our lives to Jesus Christ. We had found a new life in Christ, and a new purpose as a family. James’ purpose was found in his passion to serve others as a firefighter/paramedic and we celebrated as he was hired by a Fire Department about 60 miles away from our home.
At the same time, I accepted the call to teach at a new Christian school our church had started. The same year, Avery, started Kindergarten. It all seemed to be coming together, a new life in Christ, our careers were established and Avery flourishing in school. Then our family’s peace was shattered when I found out James was having an affair. For the next seven years, James and I went back and forth, up and down, in our relationship. We struggled with our sinful nature and what God would have us do. We both had times we wanted to just give up on our marriage, but when he wanted to quit, I would stand fast, and when I was ready to set him free, he would not leave me. From my perspective it was the most painful, but amazing season of my life. I learned the true meaning of sacrifice, faithfulness and love. On Valentine’s Day 2008, after years of pain and struggle for both of us, James planned a special night. He took me to the beach, served me dinner, and gave me a beautiful new diamond wedding ring.
God’s love never fails. God’s love toward me, even in my sin, humbled me so that I could love and forgive James during the toughest season of his life. That love, as God promises, “covers a multitude of sins.” This man not only loved me, he was finally able to accept God’s love and forgiveness…which changed his life.
From that Valentine’s Day on, James loved us and served us selflessly. My husband and Avery’s dad, was the man I always dreamed he would be, the man I prayed he would become. We renewed our wedding vows on March 26, 2008, and began what we expected to be a long and wonderful new life together. Then came that tragic, but glorious day, almost one year later on March 8, 2009, when God took James home to Heaven. Traveling on his motorcycle to the job he loved as a Firefighter/Paramedic, James was killed. The day he died, James was right with his wife, with his daughter and with his God. James stood before God that day and heard the words we all long to hear, “Well done good and faithful servant...come and share your Master’s happiness.”
The promises God gave me through this journey were fulfilled. God promised me that James would “rescue souls from the flames.” His life and death are still accomplishing this truth. I continue to cling to His promise to me that, “Blessed is she who believes what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished.” The Lord also promised that He would “complete the work he started” in James, “until the day of Christ Jesus.”
James, God’s work in you is complete, well done. I can’t wait to see you again, until then you are finally home!
“My husband came home a few months ago, but he did not come home clean. At first he wouldn't accept my love or God's love, but now he is letting me love him and coming to church with me and starting to get involved there. It has been a struggle and many times I wanted to give up. It actually seemed harder having him home not loving me and the kids than when he was gone, because my circumstance was right in front of me when he came home. I have cried out to the Lord so many times in desperation, and He has given me the strength to continue to do what is right in His eyes. I am trusting the Lord to finish the good work He started in my marriage, and I continue to cling to Him and His promises. He gave me this verse: Exodus 14:13,14. I just want to encourage everyone to NEVER GIVE UP and wait for God's perfect timing. He will NEVER fail you! I love You Lord!” (Canada)
"I prayed for my husband to be changed, but I forgot to pray for change in myself. I was still so hurt and angry. Our divorce became final last summer and I finally let go of my anger and pain. When I changed God worked His miracle and my husband came home a few months after our divorce. We are so much happier than before." (New York)
“At first I was the prodigal. I left home believing that because I had suffered my husband’s infidelity I was free to leave my marriage. One night I prayed that I would be able to see my husband the way the Lord sees him. I wanted to be friends because we have two children and many years together. One day I suddenly woke up understanding that my place was to be home with my family. I decided through the help of friends and God pulling at my heart to take a stand for my marriage. My husband did not accept my stand right away and had already entered into another relationship. He expressed many times that he no longer desired the marriage or a relationship with me. I zipped the lips and prayed scripture over my family every day. I separated myself in prayer and began to announce by faith the restoration of our marriage. To God be the glory, my marriage is restored! Thank you RMM, you played a big role in my testimony.” (New Jersey)
“PTL! My Father is in the restoring business...He brought my prodigal home after almost a year of very little communication and my husband saying, I'm not coming back. I have to admit I gave up after a conversation I had with him and He told me he was happy where he was. The next day I went online and filled out divorce papers. When I handed him the papers he said he needed time to read through them, but never signed them. Instead he told me He was going to stand for our marriage just the way I had. A few months later we are together working things through, but putting God first. I continue to pray for a full restoration and for God to give all standers His peace and strength! Please don't give up on your marriage, it is worth fighting for. Thanks RRM for helping me through this.” (Texas)
“My wife left me, divorced me, hated me, and married another man. I was about to quit my stand but the Holy Spirit reminded me that all things are possible for he who believes. God did not want me to just stand; He wanted me to jump into action with aggressive Bible faith and force Satan to let go of my wife. God did speak to my wife and led her from a fake worldly marriage to our heavenly covenant marriage. After over seven years of failed standing, of bad going to worse, God told me to do what I told you to do and it won't take as long. In less than 40 days she was back. Knowing and obeying.” (Canada)
"My wife and I were re-married in August and we are on our way to a restored marriage. Thanks for all of your help and encouragement. There have been a few bumps but I'm so positive we will make it this time. I continue to read Charlyne Cares every day. Nothing is impossible!" (Texas)
"My husband and I are entering our ninth month of restoration. Three years ago he began an affair. Thus began my schooling from the Lord of how and why to stand for our marriage. At one point we were within hours of being divorced. All the while the Lord kept encouraging me that this was only the shadow of death not the real death of our marriage. At times the grief was almost unbearable, but the Lord faithfully walked me through each hard day and always provided everything me and our three children needed. Three years and two false starts for home later, I can say the Lord has healed, strengthened, and set our 19 year marriage on a strong foundation. He used Rejoice Marriage Ministries so powerfully to help us. Thank you forever." (Arizona)
“Praise the Lord. My suddenly happened! My husband came home after two years. I have prayed consistently for two years after my husband left me and our son. One year ago we were divorced and he moved in with the OW but my God kept telling me that he was still my husband and to pray for him without ceasing. I want to thank Rejoice Marriage Ministries for the daily words of encouragement. I just want to tell everyone to keep praying, fasting, pay your tithes, read your Word daily, and truly put all your trust in God because He will answer. Thank You God for all Your many blessings, for letting me know that You are real and letting me be able to tell the world God is able and can truly make the impossible very possible. Amen and Amen.” (Texas)
“My husband is home after months of being away. PTL! He had an irregular heartbeat and had to be brought to the hospital. Our child and I were there with him at the hospital providing love, support and care. Thank God his condition normalized and he was discharged. I was planning to ask him if he could come for a few days so we could take care of him. Without prompting him, he asked first if he could come home! Oh my! Since then, he has been home and we are starting to be like a family again. I will continue to pray and ask for God's grace to keep us together and grow in love. The Lord is amazing! When I started to let go and let God, that was when God did his part. God works in mysterious ways. He is real, God is good!” (Philippines)
"After a year of turning his back on his Lord, my husband returned to the Father and to our family. We are in a new town, away from where all the pain happened and able to start a new life. We still need much prayer. However, the blessings have been great and I know God will continue to heal our marriage." (California)
"Praise the Lord, my husband has been home for a year now. Restoration has been slow but steady. It was worth standing in the gap. Thank You, Bob and Charlyne." (Canada)
“I'm very thankful to this ministry for helping me to really find our Lord God. I went to Bible studies because I thought it was the right thing to do, but now the Holy Spirit lives within me and God saved our family. My husband was living with another woman, but after months of standing and praying he returned home and we now have two miracle babies that doctors said we wouldn't ever have! Nothing is impossible with God! Whenever I doubted my stand, you guys were always there for encouragement and seemed to have the best scripture verses for me at that moment!” (California)
"Praise God, my husband returned home after being gone for three months. I felt like giving up at first, but the more I started reading God's Word I knew his promises. I went through some ups and downs, but I learned to trust and depend in the Lord. I started speaking positive about my husband and my marriage. Know that God's Word is true. If He did it for me, He'll do it for you." (North Carolina)
“My husband went into the far country and was involved with another woman. I felt lost but knew in my heart the Lord was calling me to stand. The Lord got me through. He gave me so many promises and so many people saw His miracles including me moving back home. I am truly blessed and know the Lord is still working in our hearts. Today my husband asked if we were going to do the ‘Love Dare.’ Victory is won. Praise the Lord.” (Washington)
“I just want to praise the Lord because my marriage was restored suddenly. My husband came back home suddenly! PTL. After so many prayers and scriptures, the Lord did it suddenly. I know this could only be from God. Now my family is back together, to God be the glory for all He has done!” (North Carolina)
“After many months my husband came home. In my heart I knew God would prevail. I stood on His Word and remembered the scripture of forgiving others so that He may also forgive me. The Lord blessed me and my family and has brought us closer to Him. Our marriage is still not perfectly restored, but I know God is in control and He will work things out in his time. Miracles do happen when you put your faith in the Lord and live by His Word.” (Texas)