Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"God used my surgery/hospitalization to bring my husband and I closer. After spending lots of time together during my recovery, we started dating again, and he has moved my things back into our house. What an awesome God we serve." (North Carolina)
"My husband decided the marriage was over when I was pregnant. The devotional about having the faith to move mountains inspired me to pray. When the baby was a few weeks old, he asked if we could give it another go and broke contact with the other person. Last Sunday I asked my husband to renew the marriage vows. He said yes. I had written and recorded a song for him as a surprise, and gave it to him at a restaurant, where it was played loudly. Then I 'proposed' to him. I cannot express how much of a miracle this is. God told me that we would be renewing our vows, at the same time as our baby's dedication. It seemed impossible, but now it is happening. If it weren't for Charlyne Cares I couldn't have held on. I nearly gave up, but thank God I didn't." (Wales)
"To God be the glory. My husband came home suddenly a few days ago. God is good." (Texas)
“Praise the Lord. Thank You God. This has been a horrible week where I felt as though I was hitting a wall whenever I tried to pray. What I didn't know was that the Almighty Father was working on my spouse's heart. He arrived home suddenly with all of his belongings to move back in. Our son was so happy he was crying. We all went to church the next morning and our son could not stop hugging his dad. Thank You God for bringing my family all back together. I will never stop thanking the Lord or praying for my marriage and other standers’ marriages. Pray and trust. ‘Do not fear, only believe.’ Mark 5:36.” (Florida)
“I want to send hope to standers and remind them that you never really stop standing. It’s now a way of living; I believe God’s way of living. I had someone come out to fix some things in my apartment. We talked for awhile and somehow got on the subject of marriage. She started to tell me of her first marriage and how it ended in divorce. I asked her if she would ever marry again. She told me that not too long ago she was dating a man and they even moved in together. She felt they were soul mates. I asked her what happened to them. She told me one day he up and left. She said he went home to his wife...after three years I might add. Because I'm a stander (even though my spouse is home) I felt different when she said he went home to his wife. I thought in my mind that maybe his wife is a stander too. Keep the faith!” (California)
"My husband was done with our marriage and had moved on. I changed my ways, and I prayed and cried out to God. He held my hand and brought my husband home. God has healed our relationship over time, and we are very happily married. It has been two years since my husband returned. I praise God that I have had the opportunity to get close to Him and see His power and grace." (Washington State)
“Hallelujah! My spouse has been home for over a year now and it has been challenging at times, BUT God...He has been so good, faithful and direct. What I needed to learn was living out Philippians 4:8-9 and be very, very thankful, spending time praising Him and resting at His feet. Though sometimes I get weary, God answers prayers at His perfect time. One of those is to hear my spouse say thank you and I love you. I got all this recently, quick to praise God! As I was reading the Word, I felt led to Psalm 15 and share this with you, beloved standers. Read verses 4b and 5b, and be encouraged and strengthened once again! All glory to Jesus Christ.” (Malaysia)
"After being separated over a year, God is in the process of restoring my marriage. My husband is living at home again on the weekends and works out of town all week. God has done this, despite the fact that my husband had an affair, a non-covenant child, left me, left the ministry and our church. But God is faithful. What God has promised, He is also able to perform." (Texas)
"Glory to God, my prodigal has come home after being away for years. He wants to take it slow. I am still standing for my spouse as I know the devil is prowling around like a roaring lion. Thank you, Rejoice Marriage Ministries. You have shown me how to grow in the Lord. We can't do it alone without the Lord Jesus Christ." (Kansas)
“To Our Lord and Savior Jesus be all praise and glory. After two and a half years, another marriage, many mistakes by me, and more hours crying out to God then I could ever recall, my wife and one flesh mate is home. I cannot begin to describe the process that brought us to this glorious time except to say God kept His Word. When my wife left and God told me to wait for her I didn’t know what to make of it. He told me He had given me one wife and the only one He would give me. He told me to wait for her and be faithful to my vows. Yes it was suddenly, but it was a reunion I will praise Him for forever. I was worried when that day came that I would still be hurt and angry. But God took just enough time to take all that away and build the love and complete forgiveness I would need to welcome her home without condition or reservation. Don’t give up, not ever. He is not slow to keep His promises; He takes just the right amount of time to make us ready and complete His work and not a day more.” (Alaska)
“Glory to God! My husband came home after being gone some months. He told me he kept feeling like something was pulling him back home. He has taken the initiative to get Christian counseling and is asking others to pray for us as we work through this. We have a lot to work through, but I trust in Him to help us create an even stronger marriage. I am rejoicing and want to tell everyone that God is in the miracle business!” (Arkansas)
"My husband moved back home recently after nearly three years gone and we are celebrating our twenty fifth anniversary this week. To God be all the glory, honor and praise." (Maryland)
"My husband has decided to return to our family. After praying and fasting, even in those times when I was about to give up because I saw no change, God has performed a miracle. We are on a journey to complete restoration. I will continue to stand for my marriage, as well as those of members in my family. To God be the Glory." (Alabama)
“I pray the Holy Spirit uses this testimony. My husband left me suddenly. God told me pray like never before! I drew close to God in every way. Everyone, including my husband, told me to divorce him. He rejected God. Everything (in circumstances) said that it was over. I prayed for him every day and stood firm. I knew that these difficult circumstances were not something that was out of God's control. He finally reached out to me and said he couldn't do it any longer. He confessed everything. I got him safe to treatment, he accepted Christ in his life this week, and repented and asked for my forgiveness, which I readily offered! He says he loves me and has always loved me and thanks me for standing by him. He and I feel hope for our marriage. The Lord has great plans for our lives!” (Ohio)
“My suddenly happened on Saturday. And it came totally different from what I ‘dreamt’ and ‘hoped’ for. After many months of separation and hardly any communication, the OW broke off the relationship with my husband so he had nowhere to go. She phoned me to come to her house to basically come and get him and his stuff. Oh dear, everything just went so horribly wrong when he saw me.... I just kept praying and praying for strength and to zip the lips. He eventually came home hours later, moved into the spare bedroom downstairs, and he is a ‘stranger’ to me. I will keep on praying for the divine work of the Lord in our marriage and for His breath of life and the salvation of my husband. PTL for bringing my prodigal ‘home.’ He is under the same roof now and the rest will come in God’s perfect timing.” (New Zealand)
“My dear sisters and brothers in Christ, I was once were you are at, waiting on the Lord to bring your spouse back home, first to HIM and then to our family. It's now been 17 months since my spouse returned after 8 years away and i t was when I least expected it. Keep praying faithfully for your spouse. Do not give up stay firm in the gap in prayer for your spouse. God hates divorce and you must trust HIM. I am a living testimony of God's great miracles. Our marriage was dead but now He has made it alive. My spouse came knocking at our door asking God for forgiveness and then each of the family members. Trust HIM!” (Illinois)
"My husband has been home since May. Although we sometimes struggle with issues, I give it to God. I give him all the praise. My husband realizes how much he was deceived. I am just so happy that my family is together again." (Florida)
I GOT MY MIRACLE
My husband left in March 2010 right after I had lost my mother to cancer in December 2009. I begged him not to leave me at this time but he was blindsided by Satan’s lies. The road was very hard. I filed for divorce in June 2010 and he didn’t like the fact that I filed the papers. I was so angry with him that it didn’t matter what he said or did, I was not ever going to take him back. We were trying to come to an agreement about the divorce decree. He never would sign the papers. He would make up excuses as to why he couldn’t sign them. I then realized he didn’t want the divorce, but I didn’t care; I was going through with it anyway.
I know God was giving me every sign in the world about me stopping my divorce. By September, I clearly heard the Lord say to stop the divorce and that Marcus was going to come back home. The Lord gave me Isaiah 54 to stand on. I called my lawyer and he asked me if I wanted to put a hold on the divorce. I told him I wanted it stopped. He was very confused but I shared my stand with him.
The next months I began my journey to work on myself and get my relationship back on track with God. I told people that I was not going to give up on Marcus and he was going to come back home. They just shook their heads like I was crazy, but I knew God spoke to me. God changed my heart and He really started blessing me for obeying Him. My husband began to see the change in me also. He started communicating with me again.
2011 was the year that I really began to cry out for my husband’s soul, at that point it wasn’t about him coming home. I knew that if he died he was going to Hell and I had to fight for his soul. I began fasting and really doing spiritual warfare for my husband. By October 2011, I really began to see a change in him like he was tired and ready to come home. I would ask him to come to family functions and he would show up. Marcus would still refer to me as his wife. I knew God was working on him. The enemy knew his time was about up so he would try to bring out some big guns. I prayed and pressed on.
My miracle came in April 2012! Marcus suggested we renew our wedding vows in a little ceremony with family and friends who helped me pray for my marriage. God did just like He said He would. He brought my husband home and we celebrated our wedding anniversary on a cruise. I am the happiest I have ever been. To God be the glory for all He has done. I would like to thank Charlyne and Rejoice Marriage Ministries for all the encouraging emails sent daily. I am still reading them and praying for all the standers and prodigals. I will forever be a stander.
We just received an update letter from Sondra and Andy, from Washington State, who now have a restored marriage after a non-covenant marriage of ten years. Sondra writes:
“We both are doing very well. God is growing Andy so fast. He continues to meet with our pastor and he is reading 'Fresh Wind, Fresh Fire' By Jim Cymbala. Today I was reading 2 Chronicles 15, in my Bible and verse 7 was underlined - 'But as for you, be strong and do not give up, for your work will be rewarded.' In the margin I had written; 'I was discouraged and felt God speak to me,' dated 3-11-96.
“It is so neat to read through my Bible and come across the prayers of a hurting heart and see how God has been so faithful--prayers that were prayed for Andy, scriptures verses with his name in them and dated and now all these years later, I see before my very eyes them coming to pass. Those were such hard, hard days, but God was there so close, always speaking. Many times I will have flash backs of different things I went through and then to look over and see my husband and the ring on his finger--when all looked just so impossible--I am humbled and awe-struck.
“Sometimes, years back, I would think to myself when I would get doubtful that if marriage restoration were not in God's heart to do; why would He be blessing and growing this ministry and then I would be encouraged.”
"Yesterday my husband returned home and repented. God is changing our lives. It was a special moment in my life, surprised and without words on how to thank the Lord for the victory. The Glory is all for my Lord. It was long months of waiting, but my God is so great and so faithful. To my Jesus be the glory and honor." (Guatemala)
"I attended one of your meetings where I was able to pray for my spouse along with others who are believing for the return of their spouses. My spouse returned this Thanksgiving, free from all bitterness and a new sense of peace after they surrendered their life to Jesus. It is truly a miracle. I prayed that God would do what ever was needed to bring my spouse back home while at the same time protecting them from permanent harm. That is exactly what happened through a set of circumstances, God finally got my spouse’s attention and led them back to God and then to the family." (North Carolina)
“I am praising God today and every day. My husband and I were remarried Tuesday after five years of separation and divorce. Though my stand was very hard, God never let me give up even when I begged Him. I thank Him that He didn't allow it. Thank you also Bob and Charlyne for your support and prayers.” (Mississippi)
"Years ago my husband walked out. It was devastating. I prayed and fasted and found Rejoice Marriage Ministries. Charlyne and Bob helped me to stand. Today, on our anniversary we are not divorced and are able to say that we survived being a statistic." (New York)
"Once I understood that I had to let go and let God, my marriage was restored. My prodigal is home, attending church, going to counseling, and has established a new circle of godly friends. Thank You Lord for letting me see Your light through all the darkness." (California)
"I am thanking God daily for His faithfulness and for moving in my husband's heart. I found out about his affair and by God's grace alone, have been able to lovingly walk alongside him as he's struggled to end his relationship, which he was finally able to do. We began counseling with a pastor from our church. There's a long road ahead, but God has placed a promise in my heart that He's going to restore my husband to Himself, to me, our marriage, and our family. To God be the glory." (China)
"My husband has been home for almost two months. I thank God for the work he has done in me. My husband says that I have changed. He treats me with love. I have been reading the book 'Standing After The Prodigal Returns' and it has been a great support. I know that God, not my actions, restored our marriage. I know that He wants my husband saved. I have learned that God is not far away from me, but very close each and every moment of my day." (Arizona)
“It was only a year ago when my husband delivered his speech, ‘I love you, but I'm not in love with you.’ It was eight months ago when he gathered our children to tell them he was moving out. It was five months ago, he filed for divorce. However, with God ALL things are possible. I found this ministry and began praying for my prodigal and our marriage. God showed me what my part in the destruction of our marriage was. In February, my husband came home suddenly! Now, with Christ as our center, we are moving forward, and will be celebrating 18 years this summer! Thanks be to God!" (Texas)
“Wow! After several long months of being apart, my family is whole once again! And it was just like you said, Charlyne, suddenly! My situation looked bleak, but God! I am in awe at His wondrous power and His unfailing promises. He restored and is rebuilding, and I am just giddy with joy. Thank you for being a lighthouse for others in a time where the world says ‘give up.’ The best words ever were hearing my husband thank me for loving him and never giving up. All glory and praise to our Lord because it was certainly His strength in my weakness that pulled me through. Thank you Lord Jesus for loving me and for never letting me down!” (Georgia)
"After a separation and divorce, the Lord answered my prayers. I am so happy to report that after 1 year of prayer, forgiveness and change, my family is getting back together and we are remarrying. Our understanding of each other is beyond what I could have ever expected and our children couldn't be happier." (Florida)
“My suddenly happened last Sunday! My husband just showed up at our house and has been with us ever since! Our relationship is not where it needs to be, but we are together again. It was also our anniversary and he told me "Happy Anniversary!" God gets all the glory! I continue to pray each day that God will help me to show the fruit of the Spirit daily to my husband: love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control. I will continue to leave this all in the Lord's hands.” (Alabama)
“I felt neglected and alone. I had an affair. My husband knew and two years after the fact couldn't take it anymore and began to act out himself. I was at a loss. I knew it wasn't him; it was pain and anger. I clearly heard God tell me to stand; that He would reach my husband and give me a marriage seven times better than we'd ever had before. I spent months of praying and loving him as he continued to act out. I hated what he was doing, but I knew it was Satan and I knew God had already defeated Satan. Thanksgiving Day he told me he loved me and put his wedding ring back on. Two weeks later he bought me a new ring and re-proposed. My suddenly came just in time! PTL!” (Indiana)
"My husband called and asked if we could talk about getting back together. God is so great. He continues to work on both myself and my husband everyday. My husband got his Bible out for the first time in months and asked others to pray for him. 'Thank You, Precious God, that You never fail and that You can do anything.'" (Texas)
"God spoke clearly to me and told me to stand, and He brought healing to my spirit. My husband watched these changes in me, but his hurt kept him isolated and angry. But God was working in his heart too. Five months ago, my husband confessed that he still loved me. Since that time, God has restored all aspects of our marriage. There is a trust and an intimacy that was never there before. God's peace reigns in our home and we continue to experience His blessing and provision." (North Carolina)
“PTL my spouse told me he wants to move home! I'm still in shock because I've had such a bad week, and have been attacked by the enemy over and over. I was really down, but I did feel down in my spirit something good was coming, and I told myself that it made sense, because I wouldn't be having so much opposition if I weren't doing things God's way. Well, my husband came and spent today with the kids and me. I told him I missed him and his response was, 'I want to move home.' Thank You Jesus! This must have been what I felt coming up in my spirit! While he did admit it wouldn't be tomorrow, and he still isn't saved, God has been doing a mighty work in my husband's heart. Don't ever give up standers! Thank you RMM for your encouragement!” (Texas)
“I was a stander for several years. My husband came home. He has a son from this time in the wilderness. The child has become the apple of my eye through the strength and guidance of my Lord Jesus Christ. If it weren't for this separation, I would have never given my life to Jesus Christ. My husband and the world were my first priorities; not my Savoir Jesus Christ.” (Texas)