Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"After months of separation, praise God, I've been back in the house for several weeks now, though my wife says it is still month-to-month. My posting this testimony is for the purpose of claiming Christ's victory in my wife's heart over the enemy's deceit in general. God will open her eyes fully, and quickly with persistent prayer." (North Carolina)(posted 9/14/2007)
“My husband has been back in our home living for over a year but we are still not officially back together. On Christmas Eve he said Merry Christmas to me and also said he loved me. We had a meal together with our four sons. Before dinner each of us said a prayer of thanks and asked God to help us as a family in the new year. My sons were very moved as they each read a special card their dad picked out for them. After we opened our gifts my husband had tears in his eyes. He told us this was the best Christmas Eve he has ever had. In God’s time I know my marriage will be fully restored. Please keep the faith.” (Pennsylvania)(posted 1/4/2013)
"One year ago tonight, I thought my world had come to an end when my husband left me for the OW. I had to take off work for a couple of weeks before I could function. I fasted and prayed like never before. I was led to RMM through a friend who stood for the restoration of his marriage. My husband and the OW told me I was delusional (speaking those things which are not as though they were). But who is delusional now? Tonight, I have my husband back in my life and it was SUDDEN, but the restoration is in baby steps. I am in awe at how God honors His word, praise, prayer, and fasting. My treasure is my relationship with my Lord from my stand. I learned from Charlyne that it does not matter what anyone says about my situation other than God. Ezekiel 17:24: "'All the trees of the forest will know that I the LORD bring down the tall tree and make the low tree grow tall. I dry up the green tree and make the dry tree flourish. I the LORD have spoken, and I will do it.'" (Georgia)(posted 9/17/2012)
"Even though we are separated, my husband agreed to go to a marriage conference with me. God answered my prayers by bringing healing and understanding to both of us. He has decided he would like to reconcile. We have obstacles to overcome as we are living in different states, but I believe God will work out all the details. Praise God my prodigal is on his way home. " (California)(posted 3/24/2006)
A CHRISTMAS MIRACLE
By Mary in Missouri
As another Christmas is drawing near, I am filled with such excitement knowing it is the day we celebrate the greatest miracle of all, which is the birthday of our Savior, Jesus Christ! I can't even imagine how exciting it was back in time when everyone was awaiting the actual birth of Jesus!
I wanted to share with everyone my own Christmas miracle of 2010 which is that my precious prodigal came home after three years of being in the far country! Praise the Lord! It was a few hours after Christmas Day of 2010 at 2:00 A.M. I was still awake, sitting in the living room when I heard a key in the door and in walked my dear prodigal! I can't describe the overwhelming joy in my heart when I saw him walk through the door! He had listened to a sermon and the minister said, “Receive your forgiveness and go home” and that is just what my husband did!
I could write a book about everything that took place from the day he left until the day he came home but it would have to be just that, a book! Maybe someday I will write a book about my stand if God leads me in that direction. Anyway, through much prayer by myself, my prayer partner and many other people's prayers, God touched my husband's heart and my husband turned his heart back to God and back to me and our children.
The years that my husband was away were very difficult for me and our two adult children. There were many tears, trials and conflicts. In the beginning of my stand, I just wanted my husband back but later on I realized that the most important thing to me, because I loved my husband so much, was his soul and where he would spend eternity. He was a Christian but had walked away from God and in the process he was then deceived by the enemy and tempted by another woman whom he started a relationship with.
There were days when I just felt like giving up and moving on but by the grace of God I didn't. I am so thankful to God that He sustained me and gave me strength to stand even though I felt I was so weak at times but it was worth it!!! I was up against negative advice, even from my own children, to move on with my life. It got so bad that I didn't even feel like God could hear me talking or praying to Him since nothing ever seemed to change. I know now that He was there with me all the time and the Lord was working everything out for my good, my husband's good, and our children's good.
A few of the good things that came out of this attack by the enemy to destroy our family are that my daughter's faith in God and walk with Him has gotten stronger. My husband realizes how much he and I are alike in every area of our life where before he thought we had nothing in common, which was a lie from the enemy. Our family has gotten closer to God and to each other. God has blessed us so much and in so many ways since my husband turned his heart back to God and back to his family! God turned what the enemy meant for evil and destruction into so much good for us. I just can't begin to tell you all the blessings that God has bestowed on us because there are so many.
I read other people's testimonies and I would wonder if I would ever have one to share. I have to admit that sometimes when I felt so hopeless I didn't even want to read testimonies and I am ashamed that my faith became that weak.
So, I just want to say, in all humility and honesty,that no matter how hard it gets in your standing for your prodigal spouse, don't give up on them! They need your prayers and interceding on their behalf because they are blinded by the enemy and they can't see the way out without our prayers for God to remove the blinders from their eyes so they can see God's truth and find their way back to God and home to their spouse and family!
God bless you all and may He give you His strength, His peace, and His joy as you stand in the gap for your precious prodigal! Please don't give up on them! It will be worth every difficult day, hour and minute of standing and praying!
God be with you and bless you and I am praying for you all!(posted 10/1/2012)
"I spoke with Charlyne on the phone in 2003 after my husband left home. Charlyne spent time with me and taught me about 'free will' and how to stand. My husband finally returned home on Good Friday, 2004. My son and I were thrilled at what the Lord had done." (Georgia)(posted 11/25/2006)
"I stood for my marriage for almost six months. I called a divorce attorney and things were deader than dead. Once I let go and let God, He restored my marriage and now my wife and I have a baby girl. I hope this inspires others to follow the Lord and not to listen to the world. He will fulfill his promise." (Germany/Armed Forces)(posted 11/25/2006)
"Thank you Steinkamps for being with me all those midnight hours when I cried all night. Listening to your encouraging tapes that told me to never give up and keep praying. After years my husband is home." (Ohio)(posted 4/18/2008)
“Glory be to God! My husband has returned home. God has really transformed his heart. I got a call at five in the morning saying he never meant for things to get so bad and he wanted to come home for good. Although I had prayed and fasted with the other stander teams last week, the day before he called I was ready to quit but I said I would keep praying for other standers and their prodigals regardless of my choice. God knew I was tired and weary. I had already gone and got divorce papers and almost told him no out of my own selfish fears. I’m glad I didn’t. He apologized for everything in tears and even prayed before bed. God is great!” (Illinois)(posted 9/9/2013)
"Last Saturday I felt weary after hearing my favorite television preacher speak about the conditions that allow for divorce. I cried out to the Lord telling Him that I needed a confirmation to keep me going. Five minutes later, my husband called to say that he's coming home. Praise You Jesus." (Philippines)(posted 5/16/2008)
"My husband and I were married for 20 years when he left for greener pastures because of sin and blindness on both our parts. After five years, the Lord got my attention, and after fully surrendering to Him, my husband came home unexpectedly after two non-covenant marriages. On the day he received a divorce from the second non-covenant at 10:00 A.M. we were remarried with our daughters as our witnesses. Seventeen years later my husband became emotionally involved with a young woman at work. He truly suffered knowing how wrong he was. The Lord restored him, and our marriage and we are more in love today than 45 years ago when we were first married. We praise God and give him all the glory for His love and for Bob and Charlyne's ministry. We are truly thankful. Things that are impossible with men are possible with God." (Oklahoma)(posted 11/20/2006)
“Praise God my marriage is restored. My husband texted me out of the blue, telling me he wants his family back, that he loves me very much and our children, and has learned to value me.” (Nevada)(posted 2/12/2013)
"My husband has been talking about divorcing me. I have been pursuing God relentlessly. Now we are back under the same roof and sleeping in the same bed. I would not have thought this possible. God is showing me that He is in control. Praise God." (Virginia)(posted 1/4/2008)
“Wow! After several long months of being apart, my family is whole once again! And it was just like you said, Charlyne, suddenly! My situation looked bleak, but God! I am in awe at His wondrous power and His unfailing promises. He restored and is rebuilding, and I am just giddy with joy. Thank you for being a lighthouse for others in a time where the world says ‘give up.’ The best words ever were hearing my husband thank me for loving him and never giving up. All glory and praise to our Lord because it was certainly His strength in my weakness that pulled me through. Thank you Lord Jesus for loving me and for never letting me down!” (Georgia)(posted 5/14/2014)
"After a year and a half of struggling, trying to figure out what to do and what not to do, praying and crying, I found this ministry and started receiving the daily devotionals which helped me stand and gain my strength to listen to God. He has brought my prodigal home. We still have work to do and God has work to do in us, but praise God my husband is home." (Florida)(posted 2/19/2010)
"My husband told me he didn't love me and didn't think he had ever loved me. He left me for another person and soon was asking for a divorce. I was still reeling from these circumstances when my father was diagnosed with cancer. I began to cry out to Jesus and was led to your ministry. I read about the sightings of Covenant Transport trucks as signs with some amusement. Later though, when I was at my lowest point, I was at an intersection with a long light and I bowed my head for a few seconds and asked my Lord to please show me for certain I must continue to stand. I looked up and there making a long, slow turn in front of me was a Covenant Transport Truck. It must have come from around the corner while I prayed. I startled my daughter laughing and praising God. My husband suddenly asked me to take him back a few weeks after that. My husband now says he never stopped loving me and is committed to restoring our marriage. My father's recent tests show no sign of cancer and a rib that was involved shows signs of healing." (Louisiana)(posted 11/20/2006)
"My husband and I were having problems. He met someone and decided to move to another state with her. I was devastated and did not want our marriage to end but divorced him after pressure from him and others. I was online one night and came across Rejoice Marriage Ministries. I really felt inspired and started praying for my husband and our marriage. I had some doubt because I had never heard of standing before, but every time I looked at the site, I knew to keep going. After months with no contact we started talking again and I am thrilled to say we are now getting remarried next week." (California)(posted 7/3/2009)
"My husband and I have been restored for over two years. I cannot believe how much my husband loves me now. This must be God loving me through my husband, because I have never known this kind of love. This is such a testimony to me about how, when God does something, it is so much better than anything we try to make happen ourselves. I am so blessed." (Arizona)(posted 9/5/2008)
“All the glory goes to God. My husband came back after several grueling months. I read these testimonies, wishing and, at times, doubting that I would get the privilege to write one. But God! Throughout the storm, when my husband's heart was hardened, God found a way to bring him back to me with a soft heart. I'm so thankful, and these testimonies gave me strength when I had felt like giving up. Please don't give up, God hears your cries and will not hold back when the time is right. The Lord gave me Jeremiah 33:3 (KJV). Call onto me and I will answer thee, and show thee great and mighty things that thou knowest not as well as Matthew 7:7 (KJV) Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you. I will keep praying for restored marriages all around the world. Don't give up, He is faithful.” (California)(posted 11/18/2013)
"My husband has returned. I trusted in the Lord and the Lord was true to His word. For the first time in my life I learned the Lord was my everything and I learned to trust Him." (California)(posted 3/7/2008)
“When my husband left is when I found God again. I pray just about all day, every day for the restoration of this marriage. I begged my husband to come back, but I knew I had to be still and trust God and His timing. Two days ago, my husband came by to see our daughter. He told me he wanted to be a family and wants God in his life and our marriage! I was so excited! There is still pain and I know that if God can forgive him, I will too! I'm erasing all negativity from my heart and mind so it will not hinder the restoration process. God works miracles! Praise His Holy and Precious Name! Amen!” (Louisiana)(posted 11/25/2013)
“After being separated for several months, God brought my wife back, only after I myself reconciled with the Lord first and finally gave my marriage into His hands. God drew me closer to Him and not only did my wife come back home, but came back with the desire to seek God and put me as her head and leader where God wants me to be. Remember, God comes first and He'll take care of everything else, EVERYTHING! Never give up standers, God does have perfect timing. Don't believe in the devil's lies. Prodigals do come home when lead by God! I can’t stop thanking my Savior Jesus Christ! Pray and seek God” (Texas)(posted 2/12/2013)
"It has now been several months since our marriage was restored. My husband had moved thousands of miles away. Through much prayer our family will be celebrating our first Thanksgiving together in years. I have so much to be thankful for." (New Hampshire)(posted 11/23/2007)