Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
“God has done a series of miracles in my life, from converting me, to removing all that was keeping me from obeying Him, including my husband temporarily. But He is merciful and our promises will be fulfilled. After my husband had left us I didn't understand it at first. I was mad at God and I told Him what was on my mind. In these many months, God showed me who He really was, taught me faith in Him that I never knew before, reverence and peace through Him. I learned to be grateful for the little (that was more than enough) He gracefully provided. He humbled me and taught me patience that I desperately needed and didn't know how to get. Just this past week my husband asked to move back home but to the kids’ room and instead of fighting back I said YES and trusted in God. It has been a lot more difficult than when he wasn't home but God is giving me peace and wisdom as I pray and plead every day. His plan is the best plan.” (Florida)
“My husband has been home for a few months now. I am still in awe! I remember at the beginning of my stand how he told me he had no hope for us, and now he says he'll never leave again. This is God softening his heart! While his relationship with God still isn't where it needs to be, I can tell he's trying. I know the Holy Spirit is leading and guiding him into all truth, as this is my main prayer for him right now. There are still really bad days, but I keep walking in love, standing on God's Word, and I know that God will bring this good work to completion. He did not save my marriage to let it fail at this point. Standers, never give up. My situation was as horrible as it gets, but I set my face like stone and through the rough days I praised God all the more and quoted His Word continuously and the results are manifested. My husband is home! My marriage is being healed! God is so good and will watch over His Word to perform it.” (Texas)
“Just a few weeks ago I submitted a testimony that was shared with other standers explaining that my ex-husband told me he loved me, was in love with me, always had been, and always would be. The timing of his message was amazing...just minutes after praying to God asking Him to please send me a huge and clear sign He was working in my ex-husband's heart...that I was struggling in my faith and needed that. Now I am beyond thankful and thrilled to share that my ex-husband and I are together and will be stronger in our faith and our relationship because of our struggle. I better understand God, love, and forgiveness.” (Kentucky)
"Last December I remarried my husband after being divorced for years. God is so good. He even blessed us with our first new home that we moved into in December as well. Our marriage has been wonderful, but the bumps we've experienced along the way are reminders that we can never stop praying for our marriages because we have an enemy that seeks to steal, kill and destroy. Praise the Lord." (Florida)
“My wife left me years ago. We reconciled after a few months only to separate again and eventually divorce. Although I was led to RMM through a friend's bumper-sticker and began to stand, it seemed that each month we were more and more alienated from each other. When things were at their worst, communication sad and hurtful, the kids aching and life very hard, God quite suddenly reversed the downward spiral. He (and He alone!) began to soften first my heart, then my wife's. He allowed opportunities for me to show my love to her again. And He started a process where each month we began to fall in love more and more all over again. Praise to His precious Name and Glory, we were remarried this past summer and are still growing in His love. HE is doing this restoration, and it is clearly HIS plan. In fact, He has used these past years to teach me so much and open His Word to my heart. I can thank Him for these trials, even though the hard times are so hard, His love and plan never failed.” (Oregon)
“All glory and honor to God. He has restored and renewed our marriage. Not only do I see God’s hand working in our marriage but there are times when my husband has asked me to share our story with someone else who is hurting. God can and will move the mountain if we would just believe. The Lord gave me Amos 9:11 to hold onto and He has been faithful to His Word. Hold on standers, your breakthrough is on its way. He's going to come through.” (Connecticut)
“Thank You almighty powerful Lord, My husband came home a month ago. We had been separated with not much contact. Through RMM, I learned about the spiritual battle we are in and how our spouses are not the enemy. My husband said that the Lord had been weighing on his mind. Praise the Lord! I am so blessed that the Lord continues to guide us through our spiritual journey of marriage restoration. I know that our battle with the enemy is not over, so please do not stop praying for your spouse's salvation and your marriage even after they come home. I forgave my husband, but I learned to forgive the OW and pray for her salvation also. We must be careful not to give a foothold to the enemy. Pray for the armor of God, a hedge of protection around your spouse and to send warrior angels to protect you and your spouse. I pray your miracles and restorations come soon.” (Alabama)
“PTL!! My Father is the God of restoration and love. My husband had a false start home last year, left and returned for good six months ago, completely wanting God to change everything we have done wrong. I see God changing him every day. It’s not always easy once God brings the prodigal home, but with God standing by your side He makes it easy. I see my husband’s craving for the love of God, how he wants God to change me. And He has changed me. God makes everything new. Please pass on to all standers that prodigals do return home when we are firm in our stand with God. Also, to standers with restored marriages, it’s not always a cake walk but pray unceasingly even after the return of your spouse as God has begun something great in our marriages. Thank You Jesus, I will serve You and love You all my life.” (Sri Lanka)
To God be The Glory. My husband and I were remarried on Wednesday, June 19. We were divorced in 1998. The Holy Spirit spoke to my heart in 2000 that my husband and I would be remarried. I said to myself how can this be since he does not know the Lord, but I carried that promise in my heart. My husband then became a believer. We were then in each other’s lives, however I did not officially start standing until November 2003 when I received deep conviction in the middle of the night from The Holy Spirit as to my mistakes in not treating my husband properly from my heart. In the summer of 2004, I was led to Rejoice Marriage Ministries where I first heard the word “standing” and understood what I was already doing. He came home in February 2011, after two other relationships, and he came home very broken. Here we are, husband and wife, again after 13 years. My husband had no intentions of ever coming home, but God! (Florida)
“Praise the Lord, for God is good and faithful. For the past two nights my husband has come home as God is answering prayers and the Holy Spirit is convicting and directing my husband's path. Standers, keep praying and looking to our Lord. For with God there is nothing impossible! Thank you for your prayers and keep praying for all standers, children and prodigals. Glory be to the Father, Son and Holy Ghost.” (Florida)
“Only God! Several months ago my wife moved out and filed for divorce. Today, thanks to God and the prayers of others, I can say we are now back together with a restored marriage in our new home and a new beginning that only God can do. The past months allowed me to see the hand of God turning a heart of stone to a heart of flesh. I encourage you who may think your marriage is dead, remember God hates divorce. Put all of your trust in Him and He can do for you what He did for me. Our marriage is stronger than ever before and I encourage you to be strong in your stand knowing that God is able to do what seems impossible to man.” (Florida)
"After a year of turning his back on his Lord, my husband returned to the Father and to our family. We are in a new town, away from where all the pain happened and able to start a new life. We still need much prayer. However, the blessings have been great and I know God will continue to heal our marriage." (California)
“Praise God! My husband and I have been separated for many months and he has returned this week. God is restoring our marriage. Thank You Jesus and thank you Charlyne for your ministry.” (Texas)
"Praise the Lord, my prodigal husband has returned home through prayer. I thank the Lord for His love for me and also for giving me a new heart to unconditionally love my husband. I thank God for leading me to your ministry and for all you have done in helping me make the right choice in following God's plan and not my own fleshly desires. I love my husband and can say that going through this spiritual battle has taught me more than I could have ever imagined. Thank you Jesus and both Charlyne and Bob for all your openness in sharing your life." (California)
"My husband and I just celebrated our 18th Thanksgiving together, including two years ago, when he was not living at home. Praise God. This morning my husband and I were talking about my praying for our daughter. He said I shouldn't worry because my prayers cause things to happen. I praise God that He does work through my prayers and that my family can see God working. I praise God for every holiday and every day that we can be together as a family." (California)
"PLT! After being separated for many months, my husband texted me and asked if he could come home. I said yes. He arrived with all of his items packed in his car. I stepped into my suddenly season and received my long awaited breakthrough. God does hear and answers our prayers. His word will not return to him void. Thank you Charlyne and RMM for teaching me to be patient and trust in the Lord with all my heart. Your daily devotionals have been a blessing to me. I will continue to pray for all standers and prodigals to come home suddenly as mine did. To God Be The Glory." (Michigan)
“We want to share our family's joyful testimony and encourage all standers to never give up on God and know there is no mountain He can't move. This week we celebrated the anniversary of our marriage which God restored years ago and the next day the high school graduation of our daughter who had been diagnosed with severe autism as a young child. She will start college soon. Praise God ALL things work together for good for those who love the Lord.” (Louisiana)
“Praise the Lord my husband is home. This was my word to the Lord that he will receive all the praise and Glory for my husband coming home, I will make my Lord’s name known to the world. The Lord has thought of me so much and I am just glad I can write my testimony so many others will learn to love and serve the Lord, Thank you very much for your prayers; please continue to pray for us. May my Lord receive all the Praise and Glory.” (Dubai)
"My husband left home. Our son had cancer and was in treatment at the time. I moved away with my son. I was not going to let my husband keep doing this to me, I thought. The Lord really began working on my heart and my commitment to the covenant I made with Him and my husband. I moved back, repented, forgave, and prayed. I found Rejoice Ministries on the Internet and thought this was crazy, but soon realized very biblical. Many discouraged my stand. Our son was healed and encouraged me to keep praying for Daddy. My husband broke off the other relationship. He went to church earlier this year and began coming back to the Lord. I asked him out on a date. We were separated four years. He moved home in September. He is going to Promise Keepers tomorrow. God has restored our marriage and family. It is wonderful when a Prodigal comes home. They are thankful and you understand and are grateful. God gave us the privilege to stand. Thank you for your ministry." (Canada)
“At the end of the summer my husband moved us into a home near his work. He had been gone for nearly three years before restoration. Though I was reluctant to leave the area where we lived for many years, God in his goodness has supplied much Christian fellowship and many friends in a short time. Restoration is happening all through our family between four generations. Miracles do happen and God is rebuilding our family on the Rock of Jesus Christ. Praise be to God! I hope this is of encouragement to others to know that God can restore a very large and diverse family. He does more than we can think or imagine.” (Canada)
“I can only give our Heavenly Father and our Lord Jesus Christ all glory, thanks, and praise. My husband and I have been through so much. I could not take the arguing and fighting anymore so I left our home, instead of bringing it to the Lord. Then my husband filed for divorce. I regretted that decision so many times, but at the time all I could do was pray and believe in God and see our marriage, family, and home being restored. Now after many struggles, tears shed, fasting, and praying and putting all my faith and trust in God, my husband and I are reconciling. He is dismissing the divorce and proclaimed that he would always love me. Just trust and believe in God and give Him all thanks and glory. When He does restore your marriage, continue to give your marriage to God and continue to pray for your family. PTL” (Georgia)
"I have been standing for several months and God healed my hurting marriage. Thank the Lord. My prodigal heard the Lord speaking to him in a vision/dreams at night. I couldn't believe the God touched his heart and gave him a heart transplant. I prayed and God moved. I know we still have work to do. I want to tell you thank you and the enemy has been defeated once again." (Texas)
"My beloved husband has asked me to move in with him in his new house. He said he has been happy with me these last few months since we started seeing each other. Praise The Lord." (Florida)
"My husband is back home after an affair. He strayed from the Lord and now is back. The devil had hold of my husband but God's pull was stronger. Praise God for healing our marriage. We are going to renew our wedding vows this Sunday. It feels so good to sit in church with my husband next to me. We pray together every day, something we never did before. Without your daily Charlyne Cares giving me hope, I probably wouldn't be typing this. Thank you Bob and Charlyne. I know I am one of the luckiest women on earth. My husband just told me he loved me second only to God." (Tennessee)
"My husband and I divorced after I committed adultery. The Lord later changed my heart and I became the stander, but by that time my husband had a girlfriend. My husband came back to me just long enough for me to get pregnant. When he found out about the pregnancy, he went back to his girlfriend. They were discussing marriage. While I was pregnant and standing, the Lord sent me a dream that he would be back home by Christmas. He came home in late November 2008 and we were married last week." (Texas)
"My husband was adamant about getting a divorce with a hardened heart. God heard my prayers, changed me and then changed my husband's heart. We now have a marriage better than ever before. I am thankful and grateful for His blessings - miracles do happen." (Arizona)
Barren For 10 Years!
Eight days after our 10th wedding anniversary, my husband asked for a divorce. I was devastated, but it took this to utterly break me before God. That night, I didn’t go to sleep, but the Lord led me to scripture after scripture. I finally fell to my knees before my own sin. I couldn’t look away, blame, or give excuse for all the selfishness, pride, disrespect, disobedience, and rebellion that I had lived in for all 10 years of our marriage. Instead of feeling anger or betrayal toward my husband, I saw exactly the unlovable person I had been asking him to love all these years and I understood. The Lord changed me that night. I didn’t become a different person overnight, but each day God would strip away another layer. Immediately, He led me to a group of women who were standing for their marriages! They led me to Rejoice Marriage Ministries where I learned that I was a “stander,” and my husband was a “prodigal” (Luke 15). I loved that! It was so apt.
I believed my husband when he said there wasn’t another woman, but the Lord was preparing me for a different story. After a month of standing, the Lord was asking me if I would stand, even in infidelity. See, God knew the hardness of my heart. If I had initially known my husband had found someone else, I would have never been broken. I would have raged against my husband and would have felt justified as I took everything he had. But then, I would have never stood in the gap for my husband’s soul. Now, I know that everyone around me knew about the other woman, but they wouldn’t tell me. That was God. It took His work in me and gentle nudges to show me what His marriage covenant really means. As you know, the covenant made before God has no stipulations. I did not vow to love until my husband cheated. I did not accept a ring only until my husband’s love disappeared. I vowed until death, and God was holding me to that vow. It didn’t matter that it was the worst day of my life when my husband finally told me about the other woman. The next day wasn’t much better. I helped my husband move out, believing that God would bring him back. All of this, my husband knew, but he wouldn’t “come to his senses” for a while yet.
I was commanded by God to do four things:
1. To Stand: When I was so overwhelmed with how determined my husband was in pursuing this divorce, I told God that I didn’t want to fight this battle and I didn’t want to have to try and find a Christian lawyer to defend my stand. God spoke 2 Chronicles 20 to me and let me know quickly that I wouldn’t have to find a lawyer, nor would I have to fight this battle. It was HIS battle, and He was going to win it for me!
2. To Wait: I thought this meant that I would have to wait for my husband to come home, but God said I was to wait on Him and the work He was going to do in our lives.
3. To Be Silent: Whew! If you only knew me, you’d know how nearly impossible this is! But God was working and nothing is impossible for Him (Luke 1:37). I tried so many times to reason with my husband and point out what God was showing me, but it wasn’t my place and it only hardened my husband’s heart toward me. Through this, God showed me that I am nobody’s Holy Spirit. I can’t convict, and I can’t change a person’s mind. That is God’s job, but He showed me that what He does lasts forever, so I’m glad I can’t change anyone…it wouldn’t last. God told me that no man could change my husband. He was the only one who could change my husband and I needed to let Him work!
4. To Be Still: This was the hardest command. As my husband progressed in the Far Country, I saw the state of his soul. I couldn’t believe a born-again believer could believe the lies Satan was telling him. Satan takes the Word of God and twists it to fit what the flesh wants, which Charlyne taught me only leads to doing the will of Satan (2 Timothy 2:26). My husband was trying to find biblical justification for all of his actions and what his flesh wanted. Obviously, he couldn’t but he gave it his best effort. Needless to say, and he finally admitted it after he came home, he was miserable out in the Far Country, even though he told me then how “peaceful” he was! (Standers don’t believe anything your prodigal says!) There were many days I would lie on the floor in our home begging God to release me from this stand. I didn’t want my husband anymore after seeing where Satan had taken him. I didn’t want a man who would cheat on me. I didn’t want any of this! But God would let me rant and rave, then remind me of all the promises He’d given me and remind me that this path, though excruciating, was His best for me. Daily, I had to surrender my will to Him, believing He knows what is best.
My husband works offshore. He sent me an email saying he was coming home in a few weeks when he came back in town. He told me he believed God had finally answered him. He sent an email to the other woman ending their relationship. I was amazed! The Holy Spirit told me to rejoice. Ah, but Satan wasn’t done yet! A few days later, I discovered that my husband was still talking to the other woman and was beginning to doubt coming home. As the days drew closer, my husband was determined that he wasn’t coming home and told me he may never come back. I was prepared for false starts thanks to your ministry, but the Lord reminded me that He had told me to rejoice. So instead of me telling everyone that my husband wasn’t coming home after all, I would say, “He says he’s not coming home…” Our God has a bigger plan, and thankfully, He’s greater than man (Job 33:12).
I invited my husband to our house for dinner the night he came in from offshore. Although he resisted, he finally agreed to come. I had a vision to run to him when he came home, just as the father did for the prodigal. When my husband pulled in, he parked in the back of our yard. I ran across our yard in my bare feet smiling the whole way. When I got to him, I jumped into his arms and bear hugged him. He was laughing and smiling. He now says that when he saw me do that he knew he wouldn’t be able to leave! That night he kept trying to leave, but God wouldn’t let him. I told him that I understood if he couldn’t stay…I knew God would bring him home! Finally, after watching him wrestle to the point of exhaustion, he started drifting off to sleep on the couch. I told him to come to bed, but he said he had to do something first. He went out to his truck where he left his cell phone and texted the other woman that he was staying home. Now I understand the struggle; she had told him that if he ever came back home, they were over. My husband told me that was the first night of sound sleep he had through all of this!
I have to admit, the restoration of our marriage has often been more difficult than the standing. God has reminded me that He is still working on the other side of that mountain, and He’s not done yet. I want to encourage other standers that God doesn’t work the way we think or expect. His ways are higher than our ways and our thoughts are not His thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9). The Lord has been revealing His truth in doses to my husband. I’m still learning to obey those four things God commanded me. Just because my husband is home and our marriage is better than it has ever been, it doesn’t change where we’ve been and who we are to become. I will forever be a stander for my husband and our marriage.
God gave me a lot of promises while my husband was in the far country and I look forward to God fulfilling every single one of them. The first promise He answered is the return of my husband. The second promise was recently confirmed. For 10 years I have been barren. We are pregnant with our first child! Standing and restoration have been hard, but I still believe my God is greater and He knows what’s best! “Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished!” Luke 1:45
“Hopeless is the only way I could describe my situation. My husband left, told me he loved the OW, and said he was never coming home. It was difficult to do, but I did not listen to my husband. I listened to and believed God and His Word. I blocked out the advice of friends and loved ones and only obeyed God. My husband came home and it was still a fight. I tolerated things from him that I thought I never would tolerate out of obedience to God. No matter how messed up I thought my husband was, I continued to allow God to lead, guide, and work on me. God told me to relocate with my husband. My husband was still saying he didn't think we would be together. I was so afraid, but I chose to obey God in spite of my fears. We moved and PTL so did God in such a mighty way! My husband is loving, affectionate, and apologetic for the role he played in our trial. I have grown so much spiritually and will forever stand for my marriage and yours! God is able! Pray and have faith! Victory is yours!” (Louisiana)
"I thank God for blessing in my home. After leaving home saying he wanted a divorce, my husband physically came home this year, but mentally was still in the far land. It has not been easy, but after much prayer and fasting, God has performed a miracle in my home. By Thanksgiving my husband was excited about spending Thanksgiving with me, our children and my family. I give all praise to God for restoring our marriage. Every day is better than the day before." (Kentucky)
“My wife returned home after a three and a half year stand. My entire stand I could sense the Lord reminding me to trust Him. I can honestly say the greatest joy in my stand was the deeper relationship I gained with the Lord. I consider all that was lost in the past three and a half years as gain. My message to all standers is to completely trust in the Lord Jesus. He will never leave you nor forsake you. No matter what your circumstance may be, never, ever give up on the Lord to restore your marriage.” (Pennsylvania)
“I am confessing that my covenant marriage is restored! God made me a promise and I believe in His Word. He is not a God that He should lie. After some years of separation and months after the divorce, my husband said he loved me too! Praise God! It is not by anything I have done or said, my Lord gets all the GLORY! We are attending a family wedding in the near future, as a family. I am in awe of the unconditional love that He has for me and my family. Forgiveness was hindering my prayers and now I have a testimony that God does heal. Blessed is she who has BELIEVED that what the Lord has told her will be accomplished! Luke 1:45.” (Pennsylvania)
"My husband and I remarried. We were divorced six weeks when we remarried. Our separation was horrific. I lost my job and had major health problems, but God provided. Hearing some of the turmoil and struggles that my husband went through, I knew each one was God's piercing of his heart. Don't give up. Stand firm. God is our Healer." (South Carolina)
"I want to praise God. We are celebrating our one year restored anniversary. My husband is better than ever. He has totally given up alcohol and has rededicated his life to our family and the Lord." (Colorado)
“Praise The Lord. The Holy Spirit told me to call my husband and, despite my self-doubt, I did. My husband told me he is coming home tomorrow. All I can do is continuously praise God. I feel like a heavy weight has been lifted. Despite my negative thoughts and emotions, I kept on reading the Word and my daily devotionals. We are not perfect but look to God. He will make the impossible possible. Keep your faith and keep praying.” (Maryland)
"The Lord unfolded a series of events which led to our restoration. We didn't plan on marrying in December this year, but God did. It was not by coincidence that we wore green and white just days before Christmas. Just as white symbolizes the grace and forgiveness of God, so green symbolizes new life, new beginnings, and growth. During our years apart, I attended Christmas Eve services. Each year their candlelight service had a theme. This year the theme was 'Promise Fulfilled.'" (California)
"God is good. I was feeling depressed and lonely and I prayed those feelings away. I knew something big was going to happen and praised God in anticipation. The next day my husband showed up with his belongings, asking to come home. I am so grateful and aware that I am now standing firmer than ever because the enemy will attack more now than ever." (Texas)