Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
“Praise God! After several months of absolute breakdown, ups and downs of standing and pressing through, God's divine interventions from both our sides started taking place. I believe as I read testimonies and prayed for others’ restoration as well, God was working behind the scenes on our family's behalf. Last weekend we decided before our loving Abba Father that we will give our over 30 years of marriage the very best the rest of our lives. Thank You Father! For those standers out there feeling low and helpless, remember - worship and trust God no matter what. He will bring you through and you will be reconciled at a time least expected.” (South Africa)
“I came across this website more than a year ago when my husband and I separated. I had no hope but somehow God never let me give up. We are now back home together and extremely happy. And it truly was suddenly. My husband and I had gone for mediation and were on the verge of divorce...but God! I wish I could share all that God has done during my stand, it was unbelievable! I always believed in God but only through this struggle have I came to really know Him. Standers, please don't give up. Keep standing, keep believing. My husband laughed when I told him before that we would end up together but now all I hear from him is how much he loves me. The road is long and there will be many tears but having your marriage restored...it's an incredible feeling. Even my relationship with my in-laws have improved tremendously. In my wildest dreams I never could have seen our story end this way but God never let me quit.” (South Africa)
“I want to praise God for my suddenly. My husband and I have been separated for a few months. It was devastating but I knew from the moment he left this was not God's will. God clearly reassured me He was in control and He would restore. My husband began texting me ‘I love you’ and other encouraging things. He sent me an email to tell me he wanted to work on our marriage. Last week he told me his landlord was letting him out of his lease (PTL) and when I asked where he was going he said that was not up to him. I told him he could come home. PTL he agreed to this and will be moving home soon. I am so blessed! GOD is so good! I could just praise Him all day long.” (Illinois)
"Praise God, it has been several years since my prodigal returned and while we still struggle I continue to pray for God's guidance. I am an attorney and I often get divorce cases. I have had an opportunity to counsel many and rejoice when they withdraw their petitions. God is good. While this does not help my business, I remain happy every time a client calls and tells me they have reconciled with their spouse." (Florida)
“After being separated for several months, my husband moved home suddenly this weekend. Praise God!!! He does answer prayer. My husband said that the reason he came home was: 1.He saw changes in me that he wanted to be around. 2.He said he had heard the voice of God the last two months telling him to GO HOME. Praise God! The struggle has not stopped because my husband is home. If anything, I must keep up the intensity of my prayer time! Hold on; keep praying and fasting, and believing!” (Louisiana)
“My husband and I just renewed our marriage vows at our church last week. Four years ago it seemed impossible, but through God all things are possible. I asked the Lord to be the architect of our marriage and He is rebuilding us every day. Our marriage is stronger now because there are three - God, my husband and me. May I also add the real work starts when the Holy Spirit brings them home. Don’t give up your spiritual warfare; it's a battle and you must stand. God will do the fighting for you, because the battle is ultimately His. He only requires your diligence to keep standing because that's when the devil steps up his attacks. Stay strong in the Lord and He will make you a loving couple again. Be blessed.” (Pennsylvania)
"I thank God for answering my prayers. He renewed my marriage with a fresh start and new way in which to communicate." (Missouri)
"Nothing compares to the promise we have in Jesus. After years of separation and divorce, my prodigal and I were remarried one month ago. A year ago, there was no indication of reconciliation. He was still trying to marry someone else. He started the journey home and a few months later was talking about our future. I never took off my wedding band during the journey and now I have a new one with rubies because my husband says I am the Proverbs woman whose price is far above rubies. I wear them both. God is faithful to perform what He what He has promised." (Illinois)
"God has healed our broken marriage. Every prayer for my wife's heart has been answered. God has broken all contact with the other person, and has rescued us. I can testify that our marriage has gone from one of the worst to one of the best. God is faithful." (British Columbia)
GOD IS A RESTORER
Finally, brothers and sisters, rejoice! Strive for full restoration, encourage one another, be of one mind, live in peace. And the God of love and peace will be with you. 2 Corinthians 13:11
In 2009 when my husband was expressing thoughts of suddenly not wanting to be married, I did not know to turn to the greatest healer there is, our Lord Jesus Christ. I believed in God and knew I wanted to go to Heaven when I died but that was the extent of my relationship with Him. Instead of leaning on God and turning to His Word, I turned to friends and took into account their perspective on my marriage, my husband and how to handle things going forward.
Some people said, “Kick him out, he needs tough love” others said, “give him a taste of his own medicine, make him jealous” and some said, “Whatever you do, don’t let him think you’ll wait while he figures this out or he’ll just use you.”
I spent months trying all the above while my husband fell further into sin. I did not get on my knees and ask the only true and living God what He wanted me to do. As a result things got worse until I discovered there was another person and that is when I really showed the enemy at work within me as I lashed out and verbally abused and physically attacked the man God called me to love unconditionally.
But God! God has a perfect plan even through the storm. Just as David had to literally run for his life for seven years even though he had been appointed king, God used that time to strengthen his character and mature him naturally and spiritually until he arrived at his appointed position! God did the same for me as my husband took up residentce a mile away from home and continued the non-covenant relationship. All the well-intentioned advice had gotten me nowhere so I finally surrendered to the Lord, fell onto the floor prostrate and cried out about what to do.
Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know. Jeremiah 33:3
It was then that God began to speak to me through His Word, supernaturally with signs and prophetic messages and it was only then when I received peace about my situation. No, my fellow standers, it did not remove the excruciating pain I felt and things did not immediately turn around in the natural but I had huge hope in my heart and I had a mustard-seed size of faith that God would do what His Word promises He will do. My husband would say things in the natural that sounded bleak, but I’d smile and nod my head and give it over to Christ knowing full well that this was only a season and despite what the words were that came out of his mouth, God was still going to tear down the veil of deception from my husband’s eyes.
He replied, “If you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mulberry tree, ‘Be uprooted and planted in the sea,’ and it will obey you. Luke 17:6
I put my wedding ring back on and went to everyone who I had spoken an ill word about my husband and our circumstances and proclaimed what God would do. I immersed myself in God’s Word and the lessons from RMM. I went to church and weekly Bible studies, prayed, fasted, travailed and began to show my husband unconditional love, always seeking God on how to handle certain situations like holidays and our anniversary. So many days when my husband was around me, I had to restrain myself from reaching out and touching his arm or saying, “I love you.” In the midst of my husband’s sin, God put a love in my heart so deep for my husband it was staggering even to myself that I could love him while he was doing so many things to hurt me.
My brothers and sisters in Christ, listen to me. God will always do what He says He will do. His Word will NEVER return void. Never! Do you hear that? He will restore your marriage and family. He will turn your spouse from darkness back to light. He will soften the hearts of your spouse and children and family members that may not be seeking God’s will for your life, marriage and family but rather is looking at what your spouse is doing and judging the sinner instead of the sin.
Stand in the gap for your spouse while they are in the far country having fall prey to the enemy’s trap of lies and deceit. It doesn’t matter if your spouse is still at home, a mile away or 10,000 miles away. The details are not important. Yes, I know your heart is wounded and every day that passes you feel as though you don’t know how much more pain you can take but go to the greatest healer, Jehova Rapha, Our Lord, and allow Him to heal your heart and wounds. Sekk God on what He wants you to do while He is your spouse this season. Yes, even the men that are standing, God will be your spouse. He will provide everything you need because He is the only one who can meet your needs. The awesome thing about this season you are in is, God will go to work on you too. While my spouse was gone and I cried out to Him to bring my husband home and remove him from sin, God did something wonderful and that was to bring to mind all the things I had done that were sinful and did not line up with His will for me as a wife and Christian. I was ashamed and felt so guilty but God allowed me to repent and ask for forgiveness and then showed me in the Bible how I was to be for my husband and how I was to be as one of His children. I’d search the internet for various things about marriage and found so many teachings that spoke to me on how God designed marriage. I wasn’t the wife God called me to be before but I am now.
Months after my husband moved out, suddenly, just as Bob and Charlyne have proclaimed in so many of their teachings, my husband asked me out to the movies. By the end of the day a simple movie turned to dinner before the movie and an invite to his apartment that I had never been inside before. Three weeks later he was back home and he had ended things with the other person. No one can tell me that God is not in the restoration business. He designed marriage and hates divorce. While He works on you and softens your heart and gives you time to turn away from bitterness, resentment, anger, malice and discontent, He is working on your spouse, gently nudging them, tugging at them and even giving them dreams. My husband said he had no peace and had constant chatter in his head to go home.
God has a plan. He will turn what was meant for your harm for your good and possibly for the first time, your marriage will finally be built the way it should have started out when we took our marriage vows in front of God inviting Him into our marriage but ignoring His will instead. He will restore what the locusts tried to eat and instead give it all back to you double and in ways you can never imagine.
What God is doing in our marriage is beautiful. There is a deeper love, a greater connection. Passion is back that had been lost among years of marriage, complacency, children and life. It is mind boggling because my husband has always been my best friend and I thought we had a great relationship before but it’s nothing compared to what we have now. I remember crying out to God and saying, “Give me back my marriage.” And Him replying with, “I will give you a new one.” I didn’t understand that and then thought, “I’d be fine with my old one, thank you very much.” But now I see. God doesn’t want to give you back your old anything. When He makes a way in something, it will be new.
I am now respecting my husband and submitting to him as the man of the house and my husband is praying over his family and leading our home in Christ. We would have never arrived here without Christ’s intervention. In the midst of the pain, God had a purpose, to bring us back to Him. God knows what He is doing and His will is perfect.
"My prodigal came back and we have been living together many months now as a family. I know that God is in control and is continually working on my husband. Even when I told God I was giving up, He would inject my prodigal into my life again, to remind me to stand firm. Thank you Bob and Charlyne. Without you, my family would still be broken." (Texas)
"I am praising Jesus. My husband and I are spending time together. We are now on the way to a restored marriage. He still needs to surrender to Jesus. I am confident that He who began a good work in my husband will complete it. We plan to buy a new home with Jesus leading and directing our steps. God has begun to restore relationships with our children and our grandchildren are thrilled to have grandpa back in their lives. We celebrated our granddaughter's birthday. It’s amazing just as God promised me. I keep looking to the Lord who will bring my husband back to Him. Thanks, Bob and Charlyne for your help." (Arizona)
“Out of obedience, I made fudge and delivered it to my prodigal. He thanked me but stated that he was ‘moving on’ and the court date in six weeks would be the final end. I cried out to God in tears: ‘Do WHATEVER it takes, Lord. I am willing!’ The very next night our dogs got into a fight (very odd). I ended up with a terrible bite and a broken hand. My son called our prodigal for help while I was at the hospital. While in the ER I prayed that he would see this as a picture of how life had been since he left us - chaotic, unprotected, and terribly injured. When he saw my stitches and cast, God broke him. He literally came to his senses. He has now ended all legal action, put all finances back together and we've reconciled. My ‘WHATEVER’ prayer initiated a wild scenario I could never have dreamt, but through it God brought my husband back to his covenant with God and me. I am so grateful and give all the praise to our God!” (Tennessee)
“God is not a man that he should lie, His ways and thoughts are not like ours. My husband left and never wanted to return but God, mighty God, brought him home. He will bring your spouse home. It is not a matter of if, it is a matter of when and when He does, He makes everything beautiful in its time.” (Australia)
Praise God for His faithfulness. My husband left to start a new life and filed for divorce. Suddenly he called, wanting to start again. Papers were filed to stop the divorce and he is moving back home in a week. I know that God has a lot of work to do in both of us, but I know He will complete the work He has begun to resurrect our dead marriage. This ministry has been such an encouragement to me all this time. On days I thought I couldn't go on or thought I was crazy to believe my husband would come back, I gained new hope." (California)
“Praise God! my husband came home! God kept speaking to me for months telling me He would bring him home. a couple weeks ago a verse I never read before jumped off the page. Ezekiel 36:8 - ‘but you, O mountains of Israel, shall shoot forth your branches, and yield your fruit to my people Israel; for they will soon come home.’ And a few days later he was here with all his belongings. The only thing I want to do right now is give all the glory to my Lord. He truly did it!” (Illinois)
“My suddenly happened last Sunday! My husband just showed up at our house and has been with us ever since! Our relationship is not where it needs to be, but we are together again. It was also our anniversary and he told me "Happy Anniversary!" God gets all the glory! I continue to pray each day that God will help me to show the fruit of the Spirit daily to my husband: love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control. I will continue to leave this all in the Lord's hands.” (Alabama)
“Hopeless is the only way I could describe my situation. My husband left, told me he loved the OW, and said he was never coming home. It was difficult to do, but I did not listen to my husband. I listened to and believed God and His Word. I blocked out the advice of friends and loved ones and only obeyed God. My husband came home and it was still a fight. I tolerated things from him that I thought I never would tolerate out of obedience to God. No matter how messed up I thought my husband was, I continued to allow God to lead, guide, and work on me. God told me to relocate with my husband. My husband was still saying he didn't think we would be together. I was so afraid, but I chose to obey God in spite of my fears. We moved and PTL so did God in such a mighty way! My husband is loving, affectionate, and apologetic for the role he played in our trial. I have grown so much spiritually and will forever stand for my marriage and yours! God is able! Pray and have faith! Victory is yours!” (Louisiana)
“Praise God for He has restored our marriage. My husband demanded a divorce. I was devastated. I was a new believer and I couldn't grasp what was happening to my life. God was telling me to let my husband go. He also told me that the generations of divorce would end now. I was confused and cried out to God. God led me here, to RMM, and I never looked back. I submitted everything to the Lord. He worked on me and showed me things that I needed to change. God softened my heart towards my husband and cleansed my heart of unforgiveness. God continued His work in me and a few months later, my husband returned home. I encourage all standers to listen to the Lord and concentrate on fixing themselves and allow the Lord to fix our prodigals. He is so very faithful, even when our spouses are not. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. James 4:8.” (Ohio)
“My wife returned home after a three and a half year stand. My entire stand I could sense the Lord reminding me to trust Him. I can honestly say the greatest joy in my stand was the deeper relationship I gained with the Lord. I consider all that was lost in the past three and a half years as gain. My message to all standers is to completely trust in the Lord Jesus. He will never leave you nor forsake you. No matter what your circumstance may be, never, ever give up on the Lord to restore your marriage.” (Pennsylvania)
"It has now been several months since our marriage was restored. My husband had moved thousands of miles away. Through much prayer our family will be celebrating our first Thanksgiving together in years. I have so much to be thankful for." (New Hampshire)
“After being separated for an entire year, my prodigal spouse made an announcement to my family at Christmas dinner, that he is coming back home to his family!! I was speechless and relieved after confirming what GOD said about not being ashamed. I placed my faith in His Word regarding the things of this world which are to fade away, but His Word and promises are forever! Amen, praise to the almighty Prince of Peace. I know we have a long road ahead of us, but I will continue to put GOD first in everything and I know we'll be fine. We've also begun to look for a new house to move into with our five children. I still hear Him talking to me daily, and I'm overjoyed that this is only the beginning of what He has in store for me and my family. So from now on, when things 'look' bad, I’ll count on my Father to bring me through, He knows what's best for us...GOD is awesome.” (Georgia)
“God protects his creation, marriage. He is faithful and does keep His promises. The Lord gave me a promise of restoration long before I even knew what ‘standing’ meant. My husband swore it would never happen. Hours before he came home, he wanted to sit down and discuss the visitation schedule for our sons. I told him I refused what Satan wanted for our family and I wouldn't discuss it. Later that night the Lord answered my prayer, sooner than I thought. I had almost given up, but knew I had to hang on and trust HE was taking care of it all. Today, I sit here in awe of our marvelous, almighty, faithful God. He restored, reconciled, and renewed our love and marriage. A marriage that by man's views was long gone. Praise God, I am forever in awe of His love and faithfulness!” (Florida)
“At first I was the prodigal. I left home believing that because I had suffered my husband’s infidelity I was free to leave my marriage. One night I prayed that I would be able to see my husband the way the Lord sees him. I wanted to be friends because we have two children and many years together. One day I suddenly woke up understanding that my place was to be home with my family. I decided through the help of friends and God pulling at my heart to take a stand for my marriage. My husband did not accept my stand right away and had already entered into another relationship. He expressed many times that he no longer desired the marriage or a relationship with me. I zipped the lips and prayed scripture over my family every day. I separated myself in prayer and began to announce by faith the restoration of our marriage. To God be the glory, my marriage is restored! Thank you RMM, you played a big role in my testimony.” (New Jersey)
"After several months of standing, my husband suddenly returned home two weeks before Christmas! We serve an amazing God. And thank God for Rejoice Ministries. They kept me standing when I did not have the strength to stand. Our reconciliation has been difficult but my wonderful Savior has drawn me so close to Him that I know He will restore my marriage to more than it was before this nightmare began. Keep standing standers! God will honor your stand. Stand strong!" (Kentucky)
"Praise be to God. My husband and I are remarrying soon. God has changed him completely around and he has become the man of my dreams. I am grateful to Rejoice Marriage Ministries. There were times when I felt like giving up. God has truly reconciled our hearts and lives." (California)
"Last Sunday my husband came home. He said that he missed us and wanted to come home, if I wanted him to. I told him that he was missed and we wanted him home. I praise God that I was home when he came, because I was supposed to be out of town. Thank you for your ministry which helped me greatly with my stand." (Arizona)
"My husband and I are under the restoration process, I had the pressure of family, but our Lord led me each step. My parents are old and suffering and Dad urged me to divorce my husband. I told him that even if my husband is not worthy, Jesus is the only one "to undo the evil" (1 John 3:8). The love I have received in this trial has drawn me closer to God. I am still waiting for my prodigal, who is with me, but has not opened his heart with His Savior. God will open his eyes and heart." (Mexico)
“I was hard-hearted and pushed my spouse out and filed for divorce. God dealt with me and made a way for the divorce to be dismissed two months later. After over a year of my spouse telling me he was not coming home ever, he called on a Sunday morning and asked if I was going to church and if the gate was unlocked. He said he was going to start bringing his things home. Suddenly, just like you say. Praise God, He is working and I have zipped it. God Bless RMM.” (Washington)
"God is good. My husband came home yesterday and desires to restore our covenant relationship. I praise God for reaching down and touching him, and that God gave me the strength to endure during these hard times." (New York)
“Jesus is ALIVE! My husband and I have been married to each other twice. We had been separated for over two years and were heading for divorce again when the Lord appeared to me in a vision and asked me to fight for my marriage. At this time my husband had moved on and we were not communicating so it looked impossible. I prayed and fasted and cried and almost gave up a few times when I would hear stories from the other side. God surrounded me with His love and taught me to love unconditionally. I developed an intimate relationship with Christ that would never have occurred were it not for this situation. He encouraged me with dreams and more visions and I stood my ground. The more I prayed, the worse things seemed to get; my husband got engaged to the OW. But I trusted God and laughed at the enemy. I knew I was on the winning team with Christ. Six months after I started standing, my husband called me and said he was coming home. God's Words are the surest prophecies. Trust in God always!” (Arkansas)
"I want to share how great God is. After being separated for two years, my husband has returned. He is a changed man. Still we await the final victory of his accepting Christ as his personal Savior. Stand firm, even though it may not be in our time frame that our prodigal returns. The Lord knows what’s best for us." (Florida)
“Today is our wedding anniversary. It also marks one month that my husband has been home after many years away. I did not find your website until after Bob's death, but I would like you to know that through his writings I was able to see the truth on the other side of the mountain. I continue to pray daily for my husband and children until I see all the Lord has promised! May all standers be encouraged. God is faithful, loving, merciful and kind. God bless you all.” (Illinois)
“What a sad time in my family's life when my husband decided to leave. I'd become so overwhelmed with grief. I called my husband repeatedly to no avail. Only when I made the decision to "let go and let God" did things begin to change. My prayers turned from ‘Change him Lord’ to ‘Lord, please do a work in me.’ Taking responsibility for my part in our separation and asking for the Lord's forgiveness was the key to transformation in my marriage. During our separation, I learned to turn my ear only to the voice of God. My husband returned home. I quickly learned that the real work began during our reconciliation. It's been a few years since we've reconciled but the first year was filled with learning how to forgive. In the end, I found out that forgiveness is simply a decision away. Thank You Lord! My husband and I will never be the same.” (Texas)
“The Lord has answered my prayers. Our family is reunited after a long and painful separation. We have a long way to go, but the Lord is faithful. My husband is unemployed and has been since the time we have reunited, but God is our provider. The Lord is using me to provide for my family and I believe in this way He is opening my husband’s eyes to the truth. My husband has turned away from the OW and is now striving hard to receive God’s blessing. I believe this has made me closer to God and stronger in prayer. I feel the Lord is guiding me every day in how to trust Him and not fear. Standers, God uses the toughest situations to build your faith and in the end you will say, I have fought a good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. Now there is in store for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, will award to me on that day. 2 Timothy 4:7-8. Praise the Lord.” (Arab Emirates)
My wife filed for divorce. One year later, after court dates and mediation, she asked if I would have dinner with her and the kids. I accepted. I had not heard anything from her except business concerning the kids and the divorce. She called and asked me to lunch at a local park. I ccepted. As of today, my wife has dismissed the divorce and we start marriage counseling this Saturday morning. Thank You Lord. We have a long way to go, but I know He is right beside us through this new journey." (Missouri)
"God is Awesome and Faithful. After standing for my marriage and many false starts home, my husband is home. He moved home suddenly and quietly. He also stopped the divorce that was scheduled. He has even been ministering to my cousin with his suggestion to visit, ‘that prodigal marriage website.’ He encouraged my cousin to not file for divorce, but to ‘stand’ for his marriage. I am still in awe of how God works." (Texas)
“There is hope, don't give up on your prodigal. Praise God, He has sent my husband home. We were angry and I was ready to file for divorce; there was no hope. By the grace of God, He sent a relative and a friend to convince me to pray for marriage restoration. I also found Rejoice Marriage Ministries that same week. My hardened heart took God in and soon I was praying for my prodigal husband's return to God and return to us. He returned suddenly! He repented and recommitted to our family. I am still praying for my husband to completely return to God, and for the other person to return to God as well.” (Pennsylvania)
"I want to thank the Lord and praise His Name because He has restored my marriage and given back everything that the enemy has tried to steal." (Texas)
"My wife and I were in divorce court the first of this year. Through your support and encouragement, we are back together and doing better than ever. God has made a way where there was no way. Thank you for all you have done for me in the last year. You may never know just how many times Charlyne Cares spoke to my heart." (Washington State)