Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
“Praise God! His promises just keep manifesting left and right! My husband and I have been separated for several months and he filed for divorce not too long ago. Another woman was involved and in the natural our situation looked so hopeless. But God! I started standing and walking in love towards my spouse and he immediately noticed a difference. No longer was I hurt and angry and defensive, but I had a peace that even my prodigal could see. He began texting me and emailing me to actually coming over and just hanging out with the kids and me. This turned into him spending the night twice because he didn’t want to be in his new house alone! Now he's telling all his friends that we are trying to work things out! PTL! There's a long way to go but God has brought us this far and He will perfect that which concerns us. Never give up, even when things look impossible!” (Texas)(posted 7/4/2013)
"My husband and I were remarried on March 13. I just want to thank you for the way you have allowed the Lord to use your lives. Your ministry was my constant encourager. Thank You and praise Him." (Indiana)(posted 8/31/2012)
"My husband and I were having problems. He met someone and decided to move to another state with her. I was devastated and did not want our marriage to end but divorced him after pressure from him and others. I was online one night and came across Rejoice Marriage Ministries. I really felt inspired and started praying for my husband and our marriage. I had some doubt because I had never heard of standing before, but every time I looked at the site, I knew to keep going. After months with no contact we started talking again and I am thrilled to say we are now getting remarried next week." (California)(posted 7/3/2009)
"My husband of 25 years and I were separated for eight months, including the holidays last year. People, including my pastor, told me to file for divorce. I was devastated and asked God what he wanted me to do. I kept receiving the word "stay." I drew closer to God than I've ever been. My husband came home eight months ago. It hasn't been easy, but I thank God every day that my husband is home and that he will stay home. I stand on Hebrews 6:15; 'Then Abraham waited patiently, and received what God had promised." (California)(posted 11/20/2006)
"Praise God, my marriage is restoring. My husband said that he wanted us to start living together again. We have been dating for ten months. There is a lot of work to be done, but I know God is faithful and He will see us through. Our heavenly Father has also healed the relationship between myself and my in-laws. God is good. I believe above all, that we cannot doubt that God will do what He says He will do in His Word. He has taught me to love unconditionally. Thank You Lord for all that You have done for me and my husband." (Louisiana)(posted 11/10/2006)
“At the end of the summer my husband moved us into a home near his work. He had been gone for nearly three years before restoration. Though I was reluctant to leave the area where we lived for many years, God in his goodness has supplied much Christian fellowship and many friends in a short time. Restoration is happening all through our family between four generations. Miracles do happen and God is rebuilding our family on the Rock of Jesus Christ. Praise be to God! I hope this is of encouragement to others to know that God can restore a very large and diverse family. He does more than we can think or imagine.” (Canada)(posted 12/3/2012)
"Give glory to God! Despite my husband filing for divorce, moving out, and working across the country right now, God has touched his heart in a mighty way! I know that we serve a God who can do the impossible, as He has spoken to my husband in dreams and visions. He recently broke off the relationship with the OW and wants to come home to me and my son! Standers, you have no idea what God is doing on the other side of the mountain. I am so grateful for this time of growing in God and learning to seek Him and hear His voice. I cannot stop praising my Lord for what He alone has done and for sustaining me during this time. Psalm 55:22.” (Washington)(posted 2/5/2013)
“Well I knew in my heart I would be writing this one day, but in my head I don't think I truly believed it. My wife and I separated. I wanted to stay together, but she pursued a divorce. Very close to the final hearing to end our marriage she began to soften, to change, to open her eyes. We began our restoration about this time last year. Although there have been some bumps along the way, we seem to get over them easier than before with God's help. I am so glad I did not quit on my wife! Keep praying for your spouse and trusting in God's Word!” (Ohio)(posted 4/28/2014)
“Just a few weeks ago I submitted a testimony that was shared with other standers explaining that my ex-husband told me he loved me, was in love with me, always had been, and always would be. The timing of his message was amazing...just minutes after praying to God asking Him to please send me a huge and clear sign He was working in my ex-husband's heart...that I was struggling in my faith and needed that. Now I am beyond thankful and thrilled to share that my ex-husband and I are together and will be stronger in our faith and our relationship because of our struggle. I better understand God, love, and forgiveness.” (Kentucky)(posted 5/9/2014)
"I was sitting here praying and fasting for my husband that he would return home. I resolved to pray all night. He just returned home. Praise God." (Australia)(posted 12/29/2009)
My husband Joe and I were married for five years before he decided on a family vacation to Disneyland that he "just couldn't do this anymore." That was Halloween week and he had moved out of the house by Thanksgiving weekend.
My two-year-old daughter and I were devastated and shocked. Both of us claimed to be "Christians" and had a relationship with the Lord, attending church frequently, but never centered our lives and marriage around Jesus. I panicked at the prospect of being a single parent and immediately began searching Christian internet dating sites for a new partner. I met and began a long distance relationship with a man in a different state, seeking to fill the void in my life with this new relationship. I wandered as deep into the far country as my husband did until I was convicted one night by the Holy Spirit about being double-minded. How could I be actively praying for God to save my marriage when I was having an affair with a man "just in case" I actually ended up divorced?
My mother-in-law gave me a book shortly after that called "Can My Marriage Be Saved?" which is a compilation of stories of saved/reconciled marriages. One story referenced Covenant Keepers and when I looked them up online in a Google search, I came upon Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc.
Your materials captivated me; I had heard of covenant marriage but never this concept of "standing." Once I got a hold of it I couldn't get enough of the Bible and what it teaches about the covenant and God’s design for marriage. I started acting on these principles praying God’s truths over my marriage and family and I began to notice a change in myself so quickly that it was actually shocking. I prayed for the Lord to break me and mold me into the wife He wanted me to be. I didn't want to have an adulterous relationship any longer and became content having Jesus fill that space in my life. I made a commitment to honor the covenant even if Joe wasn't at the moment, and I took God at his Word that he is a God of healing and restoration.
Joe and I spent the holidays together and the further I got into my studies about standing, the easier it became for me to treat him with such God-given kindness and grace that my co-workers actually used to joke with me that we had a better relationship while going through a divorce than several of them did married. I took these little opportunities to witness to them about what I was standing for and what I knew God could do, and they would snicker at me and tell me to move on. I truly didn't believe that our divorce would go through...but it did. On April 20, 2010 a judge ruled our marriage "dissolved." I loved your teachings about praying over the divorce decree and that it is just a piece of paper, but does nothing to break the covenant if you keep standing (quite a concept for me to regard a court ruling as "just a piece of paper, since I'm a lawyer!!).
My little girl and I used to pray together at night and thank God for restoring our family and for the brothers and sisters that were yet to be born to Joe and me. She would ask when will Daddy come home and I would talk to her about God’s promises and tell her that we'd wait for him as long as it took. Thankfully, my story of reconciliation didn't take long. Literally two weeks after our divorce decree, there was Joe, who was on my front porch weeping over the mistake he had made and asking if we could "date.” Because of where my relationship was at with Jesus, I found it so easy to forgive him and confess my own earlier affair. God had given me a love for Joe that I had never experienced during our marriage.
We began an awesome time of courtship, healing, and inviting Jesus to be Lord over our relationship. I drafted a motion to the Court asking them to vacate our divorce decree and Joe moved back home last October. Our son was born on August 4 and is nicknamed "the miracle baby" by the same friends and co-workers who snickered at me when I told them God would heal and rebuild our family. As crazy as it sounds, I'm actually glad the divorce was final. I think it makes our reconciliation an even greater testimony to God’s powerful awesomeness than if it were just a divorce "close call!” Praise Jesus!!(posted 10/1/2012)
"God is Awesome and Faithful. After standing for my marriage and many false starts home, my husband is home. He moved home suddenly and quietly. He also stopped the divorce that was scheduled. He has even been ministering to my cousin with his suggestion to visit, ‘that prodigal marriage website.’ He encouraged my cousin to not file for divorce, but to ‘stand’ for his marriage. I am still in awe of how God works." (Texas)(posted 10/6/2006)
"Praise God, my husband came home suddenly. When it looked impossible, God moved. We are taking it one day at a time and I am fully trusting the Lord to save my husband and for our remarriage. God is good all the time." (West Virginia)(posted 4/7/2006)
“My suddenly happened this week! My husband and I had been seeing each other over the past few weeks. He texted me on Monday to tell me he was at a crossroads and was thinking about giving notice at his apartment to move out. He said he would lose his rent deposit by leaving early but it was worth it. He felt life together would be better this time. He asked me what I thought. I told him that I had always said the door was open and this was his home. Two days later he was bringing belongings over and has been staying ever since! The Lord has transformed both of our hearts. I am trusting the Lord's timing in all of this and so very thankful for His mercy and grace! All the glory goes to Him! I have never been happier!” (Canada)(posted 7/15/2013)
My husband filed for divorce and we were suppose to be in court, but I stood and told him we were not getting a divorce. I have prayed for him ever since I started standing. I have almost given up many times, but God would not let me. Yesterday my husband called and told me he was cancelling the court case and is coming to Germany with our children. He is willing to make our marriage work. Thank you, Lord. 'For nothing is impossible with God.' (Luke 1:37) Amen. (Germany)(posted 9/1/2006)
“Although my husband has remained in the house, he told me two years ago that he wanted a divorce. I began my stand at that time and would not agree to filing a joint petition for divorce and I know over the next two years, the Lord protected me from my husband filing divorce papers. During my stand, the Lord has changed me into someone I never thought I could be - I love my husband more than I ever have before and I finally have a beautiful relationship with the Lord. A couple of weeks ago, out of the blue, I received a text from my husband thanking me for all I have done for him and how much he really appreciated me. He then invited me out to dinner. The following week, we celebrated our wedding anniversary together and over the weekend he began sleeping in our bed. My husband hasn't verbalized his commitment to me and our marriage yet, but I know all things are possible through Christ Jesus!” (Minnesota)(posted 10/15/2012)
"My husband and I just celebrated our 18th Thanksgiving together, including two years ago, when he was not living at home. Praise God. This morning my husband and I were talking about my praying for our daughter. He said I shouldn't worry because my prayers cause things to happen. I praise God that He does work through my prayers and that my family can see God working. I praise God for every holiday and every day that we can be together as a family." (California)(posted 11/25/2006)
“I am really grateful I found this site. I was truly encouraged in faith to pray for my prodigal husband. He left and now he has returned home. It wasn't easy and it still takes a lot of faith and prayers, but daily I remind myself that my strength lies in the Lord. And for all the standers out there I would like to say, Many are the plans in a man's heart, but it is the LORD's purpose that prevails. Proverbs 19:21 Regardless of what your spouse, friends, even family say, only one voice matters and that is God. So let go and let God take control.” (Guyana)(posted 3/3/2014)
"I had a problem with my mouth and was always saying hurtful things which made sure that my prodigal would not return. Praise God, after months of praying, my prodigal has told me that he wants his family back and will be moving back in with us. This is the best Christmas gift I could have received other than my closer walk to God that this situation brought me to. I praise God that He does not give up on us." (North Carolina)(posted 12/28/2007)
"I would like to thank the Lord God for leading me to Rejoice Marriage Ministries many months ago. I have been standing for my marriage. On Monday morning my husband called me suddenly and asked me if it was OK for Him to move back home and we take baby steps towards restoring our marriage. I could not be happier. He moved back in yesterday. I am in complete awe of the changes I am seeing in both of us. Our God is able. Thanks, Charlyne and Bob, for teaching us to stand for our marriages." (East Africa)(posted 10/11/2007)
“Praise Jesus. My hubby called me out of the blue and told me he loved me, he was sorry and he wants to work on his family. I've been praying all day for God to send him someone to talk with and He sent the OW - the last person I would’ve expected. But I've been praying for her, too, and she told him maybe you need to work out your marriage. Another person called and told him the same thing. He got conviction. I love You Jesus. Don't give up, remain faithful and God will see you through. Hallelujah, hallelujah. I give all the glory to my Lord and Savior.” (Florida)(posted 1/18/2014)
“I was hard-hearted and pushed my spouse out and filed for divorce. God dealt with me and made a way for the divorce to be dismissed two months later. After over a year of my spouse telling me he was not coming home ever, he called on a Sunday morning and asked if I was going to church and if the gate was unlocked. He said he was going to start bringing his things home. Suddenly, just like you say. Praise God, He is working and I have zipped it. God Bless RMM.” (Washington)(posted 8/31/2012)
"Papers were signed by the judge to dismiss our divorce proceedings. The Standers Affirmation was placed in the file at my request. My husband and I are at peace. We thank Rejoice Marriage Ministries so much." (Virginia)(posted 6/11/2010)
"I want to praise God. We are celebrating our one year restored anniversary. My husband is better than ever. He has totally given up alcohol and has rededicated his life to our family and the Lord." (Colorado)(posted 7/18/2008)
"My husband left. After much prayer, God impressed on me to that He would heal and restore. When I felt like I couldn't go on, God would send a friend, an encouraging word, or a confirming devotion from Charlyne Cares. I knew I had to hold on and wait. Praise God, my husband has been back home for six months. What Satan intended for our harm, God is using for good. We are together as a family, and worshiping in church together after almost two years apart. When it looks completely impossible is when God comes in." (Kentucky)(posted 6/1/2007)
"My husband left me and filed for divorce. The divorce will be retracted and he has now been back reunited with the family. My kids are so excited to see their prayers answered. Thank you Bob and Charlyne for giving me hope and encouragement through your devotions and radio messages. The Lord has brought my prodigal home and is beginning to heal our family and my heart from this crisis. Nothing is impossible with our God." (California)(posted 10/4/2007)
"During Holy Week my prodigal who divorced me last year began moving things home. On Easter we spent time with both extended families after no contact with them in years. Hallelujah, Jesus is risen and He is resurrecting our marriage." (Ohio)(posted 4/17/2009)
"One year ago, my world came crashing down around me. I'd been a military wife and learned my husband led a secret life behind my back. His life was filled with sin. When he was home he was a devoted father, husband, and servant in the church. I was devastated and lost all hope. He never actually left the home, but emotionally he was gone. This man was stone cold towards me. I ran out of my own strength very early on, but God lifted me up and carried me through the most difficult journey of my life. My family and Christian friends told me to give up and that I was justified, but God promised me my marriage would be restored. I chose to trust in God and to this day my marriage is stronger than it has ever been and I love my husband more than I thought possible. I tried to give up almost daily, but God's Word and His promises gave me hope and increased my faith. I knew if I gave up on my husband he was a ticking time bomb and nobody else would care about his salvation and love him like I did. I see God working in his life daily and I am amazed at the man he's become." (Virginia)(posted 11/19/2006)
“I got your website from a friend and since that day it has provided inspiration and hope for my tomorrow. After struggling for 18 months, my husband has decided that our marriage of 16 years is worth fighting for. I bless God that he has left the other woman and returned both to God and his family. I realize that it is not always easy, but I thank God for restoration has come to my household. I want to encourage anyone else going through this, remember God honors covenant. As he was with Abraham, He will be with you, but you have to trust Him. Praying for marriages worldwide and ask that you keep us in your prayers, that God will strengthen us.” (Bahamas)(posted 10/7/2013)