Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"God does heal hurting marriages. My husband is not only home in our house but today he came home to our God." (California)
“My suddenly happened on Saturday. And it came totally different from what I ‘dreamt’ and ‘hoped’ for. After many months of separation and hardly any communication, the OW broke off the relationship with my husband so he had nowhere to go. She phoned me to come to her house to basically come and get him and his stuff. Oh dear, everything just went so horribly wrong when he saw me.... I just kept praying and praying for strength and to zip the lips. He eventually came home hours later, moved into the spare bedroom downstairs, and he is a ‘stranger’ to me. I will keep on praying for the divine work of the Lord in our marriage and for His breath of life and the salvation of my husband. PTL for bringing my prodigal ‘home.’ He is under the same roof now and the rest will come in God’s perfect timing.” (New Zealand)
"Even though we are separated, my husband agreed to go to a marriage conference with me. God answered my prayers by bringing healing and understanding to both of us. He has decided he would like to reconcile. We have obstacles to overcome as we are living in different states, but I believe God will work out all the details. Praise God my prodigal is on his way home. " (California)
“A season ago I was being handed divorce papers. I had been a born again believer for over 30 years and found as I went through this trial clinging to the Lord, that I had been saved by His death at the cross, but I had never grown beyond that and really developed a deep relationship and walk with the Lord. God used my time of separation with my husband to work in me, walk with me, and reveal Himself to me. I had never been able to say I am truly in love with the Lord before. I fought my divorce, trusted and obeyed the Lord, and He was faithful. Just in His time, my husband was moved by the Lord to seek reconciliation with me. He dismissed the divorce, and today he is living at home and I am watching in awe as God rebuilds our marriage stronger than ever, with Him at the center. I consider it a unique blessing to have gone through a trial of this magnitude and seen a small glimpse of the power, love, faithfulness, forgiveness, peace, and joy that our Savior is and has for us.” (Missouri)
“Praise God for He has restored our marriage. My husband demanded a divorce. I was devastated. I was a new believer and I couldn't grasp what was happening to my life. God was telling me to let my husband go. He also told me that the generations of divorce would end now. I was confused and cried out to God. God led me here, to RMM, and I never looked back. I submitted everything to the Lord. He worked on me and showed me things that I needed to change. God softened my heart towards my husband and cleansed my heart of unforgiveness. God continued His work in me and a few months later, my husband returned home. I encourage all standers to listen to the Lord and concentrate on fixing themselves and allow the Lord to fix our prodigals. He is so very faithful, even when our spouses are not. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. James 4:8.” (Ohio)
"My prodigal returned home some time ago. He is still fighting addictions and has not accepted Christ as his Savior yet. This past week I looked in the bedroom saw my husband on his knees by the bed. When I entered the room he was crying like a baby and asked me to pray for him. He will be saved soon." (Florida)
"My marriage was hopeless, dead as could be. But God. My spouse, who was breathing fiery threat, is now the sweetest supportive mate. We are building a beautiful home, and I am going to graduate school, a lifelong dream." (New York)
"My husband and I are restored and this past weekend we moved into the home we purchased together. Without God and your ministry encouraging me I don’t think I would have made it. God Bless you." (Oklahoma)
“Thank you RMM for encouraging me for three years. April of this year my husband came home...suddenly! He came home the week after our wedding anniversary. We are waiting for vow renewal now. I began to thank God for not letting me sleep through those early morning hours so I could be the one to intercede for my family. The attitude of thanksgiving planted joy in my life and I purposed that no matter what, I would honor the covenant I made before God to show Him I understand His covenant with me is forever, unbreakable. When I was faced with telling someone that my children and I were standing for restoration, I thought maybe this is the one who needs to see that we can trust Christ. People say, ‘You never gave up, you knew he d come back.’ I tell them I didn't know the outcome but God doesn't lie and we can pray His words and claim them. He is faithful!” (Louisiana)
“It has been a long wait but I did not give up. Every time I was discouraged and wanted to give up, this website and the daily emails always gave me the reason and courage to believe in God more and to hold on. My husband is home! If the Lord has done it for me, even me, He can do it for anyone. He never answers too late. He answers when we are ready. Do not give up. Keep praying for your spouse and God will do it. Pray ,pray, pray but you must also believe that the prayer is going to move even those we think can never change. The Lord is able. Do not give up.” (Minnesota)
"I thank God for answering my prayers. He renewed my marriage with a fresh start and new way in which to communicate." (Missouri)
"I give my God the glory for sending my husband back home. He is coming home tomorrow. Thanks for this ministry for preparing me for this miracle as I waited in anticipation for my husband to come home. I will continue to stand on God’s promises and put Him first in my life. He has done a work in me to humble me and I thank Him." (Canada)
“I have been fasting and crying out to Jesus. I gave it all to Him, but asked, ‘Lord I don’t want anything that is not in your time, but Father have mercy on my broken heart. If it is Your will and time, O Lord please bring my bride back. If it’s not Your time then I'll deal with it, just have mercy, O Father, on my heart.’ That night I must have woken up ten times frantically looking for my phone, and I didn’t even know why, but I never found it. I woke up in the morning and I felt God telling me to go get my phone right now, so I did. When I looked at it I saw that I had a text from my wife. She said that she didn’t know what to do anymore. She knew what she was doing was wrong and that I am her husband and she loves me with all of her heart. She said that she wanted me to come home! I immediately broke down and began to cry and praise the Lord. Praise the Lord for all of His power and majesty, as well as His mercy and grace. I know we still have a long road ahead of us to full recovery, but the Lord will get us through! Thank You my Lord and Savior, my rock and my refuge, I love You Jesus!” (California)
“After over 12 years of separation, my wife came to the church BBQ. It’s been 13 years since she came to church. There were many tears that day before she even arrived. Just when I was trying to understand what was happening, she asked if she could come to the house for the day when I was out as her relationship with her partner is over and she needed some time alone. I gave her a key for my house for her birthday. God is on the move. PTL!” (United Kingdom)
“PTL! After many months of separation, ignorance, and threats of divorce from my husband, out of the blue, he came to spend New Year’s Eve with me! We had an amazing conversation and I was pleased to hear that he had taken a look at and has begun to own up to his own wrongs through our marriage and was no longer solely blaming me! He told me that this was a positive move in the right direction for us and was very loving. My walk with Our Lord through this time has been life changing! Being an advocate of standing for my marriage had many looking at me as though I were crazy, but I followed exactly what the Lord has told me to do - to keep standing with love and kindness. My husband mentioned this great change in me and I can see how my walk with the Lord is inspiring him. The Lord kept asking me if I was ready this whole holiday season and I said "YES!" Now we are taking it slow and on the mend. I am giving the Lord all of His due glory!” (Pennsylvania)
“My husband returned home but I could tell he was still really struggling. We found out that there is a baby coming out of the other relationship. God prepared me for this news the week and day before. I handled it very well in front of my husband. I did break down after he left but God's strength got me through the night. To make a long story short, I am NOT giving up on our marriage! The enemy picked the wrong marriage to try to destroy. With all that is going on and family members contacting my husband with not so nice things to say, he told me that the only person he has seen God through has truly been ME! Praise God! God is working! Under the circumstances it looks hopeless, but with GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE!” (South Carolina)
“My husband has been back in our home living for over a year but we are still not officially back together. On Christmas Eve he said Merry Christmas to me and also said he loved me. We had a meal together with our four sons. Before dinner each of us said a prayer of thanks and asked God to help us as a family in the new year. My sons were very moved as they each read a special card their dad picked out for them. After we opened our gifts my husband had tears in his eyes. He told us this was the best Christmas Eve he has ever had. In God’s time I know my marriage will be fully restored. Please keep the faith.” (Pennsylvania)
"God is indeed awesome. Not only did He bring my prodigal home, but He is also working in bringing restoration to his whole family. Right before this happened, I was close to giving up. I was weary after the long stand and the back and forth. As I was driving home from work, crying out to the Lord, a car pulled in front of me, and there on her bumper was a Rejoice Marriage Ministry bumper sticker telling me that God does heal hurting marriages and there was hope. I cried all the way home thanking the Lord. Days later my miracle happened. Praise God that He never gives up on us." (Colorado)
"All glory to the Lord. My husband returned to the Lord and moved back home with us this week. We know the enemy will continue his attack against our family, but we will trust in God to carry us through and fight the battle for us." (California)
A CHRISTMAS MIRACLE
By Mary in Missouri
As another Christmas is drawing near, I am filled with such excitement knowing it is the day we celebrate the greatest miracle of all, which is the birthday of our Savior, Jesus Christ! I can't even imagine how exciting it was back in time when everyone was awaiting the actual birth of Jesus!
I wanted to share with everyone my own Christmas miracle of 2010 which is that my precious prodigal came home after three years of being in the far country! Praise the Lord! It was a few hours after Christmas Day of 2010 at 2:00 A.M. I was still awake, sitting in the living room when I heard a key in the door and in walked my dear prodigal! I can't describe the overwhelming joy in my heart when I saw him walk through the door! He had listened to a sermon and the minister said, “Receive your forgiveness and go home” and that is just what my husband did!
I could write a book about everything that took place from the day he left until the day he came home but it would have to be just that, a book! Maybe someday I will write a book about my stand if God leads me in that direction. Anyway, through much prayer by myself, my prayer partner and many other people's prayers, God touched my husband's heart and my husband turned his heart back to God and back to me and our children.
The years that my husband was away were very difficult for me and our two adult children. There were many tears, trials and conflicts. In the beginning of my stand, I just wanted my husband back but later on I realized that the most important thing to me, because I loved my husband so much, was his soul and where he would spend eternity. He was a Christian but had walked away from God and in the process he was then deceived by the enemy and tempted by another woman whom he started a relationship with.
There were days when I just felt like giving up and moving on but by the grace of God I didn't. I am so thankful to God that He sustained me and gave me strength to stand even though I felt I was so weak at times but it was worth it!!! I was up against negative advice, even from my own children, to move on with my life. It got so bad that I didn't even feel like God could hear me talking or praying to Him since nothing ever seemed to change. I know now that He was there with me all the time and the Lord was working everything out for my good, my husband's good, and our children's good.
A few of the good things that came out of this attack by the enemy to destroy our family are that my daughter's faith in God and walk with Him has gotten stronger. My husband realizes how much he and I are alike in every area of our life where before he thought we had nothing in common, which was a lie from the enemy. Our family has gotten closer to God and to each other. God has blessed us so much and in so many ways since my husband turned his heart back to God and back to his family! God turned what the enemy meant for evil and destruction into so much good for us. I just can't begin to tell you all the blessings that God has bestowed on us because there are so many.
I read other people's testimonies and I would wonder if I would ever have one to share. I have to admit that sometimes when I felt so hopeless I didn't even want to read testimonies and I am ashamed that my faith became that weak.
So, I just want to say, in all humility and honesty,that no matter how hard it gets in your standing for your prodigal spouse, don't give up on them! They need your prayers and interceding on their behalf because they are blinded by the enemy and they can't see the way out without our prayers for God to remove the blinders from their eyes so they can see God's truth and find their way back to God and home to their spouse and family!
God bless you all and may He give you His strength, His peace, and His joy as you stand in the gap for your precious prodigal! Please don't give up on them! It will be worth every difficult day, hour and minute of standing and praying!
God be with you and bless you and I am praying for you all!
“I pray the Holy Spirit uses this testimony. My husband left me suddenly. God told me pray like never before! I drew close to God in every way. Everyone, including my husband, told me to divorce him. He rejected God. Everything (in circumstances) said that it was over. I prayed for him every day and stood firm. I knew that these difficult circumstances were not something that was out of God's control. He finally reached out to me and said he couldn't do it any longer. He confessed everything. I got him safe to treatment, he accepted Christ in his life this week, and repented and asked for my forgiveness, which I readily offered! He says he loves me and has always loved me and thanks me for standing by him. He and I feel hope for our marriage. The Lord has great plans for our lives!” (Ohio)
“God has done so much for us in the past six years since my husband came home. I can't even name everything but He knows in my heart I praise Him for it all. I just wanted to publicly give Him praise for bringing us through many storms and always being there even though I do not deserve it at all. Thank You Lord.” (Oregon)
“When my husband left, I turned to God and prayed and fasted many times. I asked God to reveal to me whether He would save our marriage. He gave me many signs. I wanted to give up but God would not let me. My husband asked me to file for a divorce and I cried. One week later God spoke to me and told me to call my husband. I called him and he had nothing nice to say to me. He continued to ask me for a divorce. I was very humble and told him I would pray for him and I love him. Then he hung up the phone. One hour later, he called back and told me he wanted to reconcile and he loved me very much. That was nothing but God. He touched my husband’s heart instantly. My husband is not home yet, but he is in the process of moving back. He left the OW and started reading the Bible. No matter what your situation looks like, God is working behind the scenes. Trust Him and don't give up. In your darkest moments God is standing with you.” (Virginia)
"God has restored my marriage. He has been faithful even in those moments when I thought I could not take it any longer My husband has been home since June and our marriage is stronger than it has ever been. There is still work to be done, but God is in control. Since it was not my effort that restored our marriage, but God Himself, I am trusting Him. I pray, pray and pray. I read the devotionals Charlyne sends us every day. Thank you Charlyne and thank You God for sending her to me when You did." (Arizona)
"I praise God for restoring my marriage. My wife was ready to leave me. I still loved her very much, but my sinful ways had caused many problems in our marriage. I finally realized that I needed God in my life and I asked Him to forgive me of my sins. Since then I have been reborn as a new man in Christ and He has helped me to overcome the worldly temptations. My wife has now started loving me once again. She can see that I am a changed man. I praise God and thank Him every day." (Ohio)
"After years of standing, the Lord has won this battle for me. My wife said that she thought I might like to take her out for a meal as she thought I might have a question to ask her. She wanted me to propose. We went ring shopping the next morning, found the perfect ring for her, and went out for a meal. I got down on one knee and proposed and she said yes. Praise the Lord. A wedding invitation will be in the post! All glory to God." (United Kingdom)
"My husband walked out on me, I got evicted from my apartment, and my car was repossessed. I could not work because I was pregnant and had complications. I had to move in with my mom in her apartment. Now my marriage has been restored. I have a car paid in full, and a job making more money then I have ever made. My medical problems have been healed by prayer. The best part of my testimony is that through it people came to the Lord. I would not take back one thing I had to go through. God taught me intimacy with Him." (Florida)
“Just a few weeks ago I submitted a testimony that was shared with other standers explaining that my ex-husband told me he loved me, was in love with me, always had been, and always would be. The timing of his message was amazing...just minutes after praying to God asking Him to please send me a huge and clear sign He was working in my ex-husband's heart...that I was struggling in my faith and needed that. Now I am beyond thankful and thrilled to share that my ex-husband and I are together and will be stronger in our faith and our relationship because of our struggle. I better understand God, love, and forgiveness.” (Kentucky)
“A few months ago, our home was in such turmoil. I was disappointed to come to this after fighting for my marriage for 16 years. Prior to that, our middle child ran away from home. I was weak and weary from the physical and emotional pain but oftentimes, some friends would show up and pray for us when I was too tired and weary to do it myself. One day, I read about Moses and some battle he fought that lasted for 53 days. Somehow, I knew God was telling me that was also for me. Sure enough, after 53 days of intense standing in prayer, my husband called me and asked for my forgiveness with tears of repentance. We reconciled and I must say that he came home a changed man, and he is still changing to this day for the better. Meanwhile our son also came back home and we were finally reunited as a family. So I didn't have one but two prodigals coming back home!” (Canada)
"Praise be to God, my husband came home months ago. It has been difficult. The devil was constantly bombarding us with everything, but I stood firm and claimed God's promises over my situation. I am now seeing changes and all the glory is God's." (East Africa)
“A marriage restored many wonderful years now, Praise God! Our marriage is better than when we first fell in love, and each year God has been faithful to deepen our love and intimacy. He transformed not only our marriage, but our Christian walk as well. This is what the LORD says: ‘I will go before you, Cyrus, and level the mountains. I will smash down gates of bronze and cut through bars of iron.’ Isaiah 45:2 (NLT) The battle is God’s. All we have to do is stand faithfully, waiting for Him to act. Even now, when I see a rainbow, I am moved; it reminds me that God heard my prayers and answered them. Thank you, Jesus for Your love and mercies and restoring our marriage.” (North Carolina)
"The principles I've learned from the beginning of my stand are foundations for faith in my walk with God, even after my husband's return home. His time away was spiritual boot camp for me. I praise Him for the time of teaching before my husband came home. I've learned that my stand didn't end when he came home; it just grew to a new level, praise God." (Ohio)
"A couple of years ago I met someone and in a short time we divorced our spouses and married each other. Everyone’s lives were turned upside down, including children. The Lord convicted us recently and we both agreed we needed to go back and make it work with our covenant spouses. We annulled our marriage and are now prodigals turned standers. God is good, our covenant spouses have forgiven us and we are rebuilding our relationships with our Heavenly Father and also with our spouses." (Kansas)
PS from the Steinkamps: May this praise give every stander such hope and encouragement especially if your spouse has 'married' the other person. God does speak to His children even after they have legalized their adultery. God is in the reconciliation and restoration business, turning these two people to Him and back to their covenant spouses. God is faithful. Two more marriages are being restored! Hallelujah!
God does answer prayer. What seemed impossible happened by God`s touch. My husband came home after Thanksgiving. Our problems were deep, yet I could talk to my husband and he moved back home so quickly. I am praying for complete restoration of our marriage. Thank You Lord." (Connecticut)
"I am thanking God daily for His faithfulness and for moving in my husband's heart. I found out about his affair and by God's grace alone, have been able to lovingly walk alongside him as he's struggled to end his relationship, which he was finally able to do. We began counseling with a pastor from our church. There's a long road ahead, but God has placed a promise in my heart that He's going to restore my husband to Himself, to me, our marriage, and our family. To God be the glory." (China)