Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"When my spouse left me, I deepened my relationship with Christ and was praying for marriage restoration. I then realized that I was the prodigal, as I had left my first husband and had married another. I was given the opportunity by God to be obedient. He took the obstacles out of the way. On Christmas my loving husband proposed to me and on January 1, I was remarried to my true covenant spouse. Thank you so much, Mr. and Mrs. Steinkamp, for all you do to help restore all of us prodigals to the Kingdom." (Tennessee)(posted 1/12/2007)
“Praise God! My suddenly has happened! My husband and I have been separated for months. He told me he did not want to be married with such conviction I believed him. I was going to give up my stand but God said no. So I continued to fast and pray. Last Sunday God told me it was over. I didn't know what He meant until a couple days ago. I received a text from the OW saying my husband was miserable and we belong together. The next day my husband called and said he wanted to talk. He told me he wants his old life back and his marriage. I received a text from the OW saying I need to be with my husband and she will never see him again. My soul is overjoyed with thanks and love for God restoring my marriage. Keep the faith standers. With God ALL things are possible. Be blessed; this is only the beginning.” (Nevada)(posted 12/16/2013)
"I first came to standing when my second husband was taken into sin by someone he had met through work. They both divorced their spouses to be together. As God led me through this difficult time I realized that my spouse was not the only prodigal. I am the prodigal from my first marriage. We have been divorced seven years because of my sin and his addictions. He never stopped loving me or wanting his family back. God told me to restore my marriage and after much Bible study I realized that He was speaking to me of my covenant marriage. I have caused a lot of damage and hurt to many people, but thank God that He has brought me to my senses and saved me from myself and my sin. There is a wedding date set for January 1 to re-marry the husband of my youth. God gave us each a new love and forgiveness towards each other for all the pain that we have caused each other. God is also using me to lead my husband to Him by my faith and giving my husband the tools he needs to overcome his addictions. Our children could not be happier and neither could we." (State removed due to nature of testimony.)(posted 11/22/2006)
"I first give honor to God, my Lord and my Savior. My husband and I are living together under one roof. This is a big step considering we both had separate places and separate lives. We were separated for nine months. My husband called me one Sunday after church and we have been together ever since. The Enemy found a way into our marriage through our separation and I am dealing with some things. I know God works everything out for our good and I have to leave that to Him. God knows he is "at home" with my marriage." (North Carolina)(posted 11/21/2006)
“After some years of standing for the restoration of my marriage, my husband returned home six months ago. There were a few hiccups along the way, but last Friday, Valentine’s Day, we were remarried. The last two years saw many nights praying in my closet, fasting, and sending my Angels out to bring my husband home. I cannot tell you how many miracles God worked along the way. A couple of days ago, my husband told a friend of ours, how much in love with me he is, that for the first time in his life he had total peace, and how there was always an ‘inner presence’ drawing him back home. Don't give up standers! When you know God has called you to stand, you can be certain that it is just a matter of time... God is so good!” (Alabama)(posted 3/3/2014)
“PTL! My suddenly finally happened. After more than three years of separation and nearing the final stage of divorce, God restored my marriage. I had no idea that the Lord had moved the other woman out of my husband's life and was working on his heart in such a mighty way. He is worthy to be praised. Listen fellow standers, I got weary on the last stretch of my stand and was ready to move on but God intervened. Dear standers, please don't give up, even when it seems hopeless because my situation appeared that way. Just remember that Jesus is faithful. He is not a man that He should lie and He honors marriage. Never fail in bringing God's Word to His remembrance and claiming scripture for your marriage and family. I did and now my husband and I are moving on in our marriage by the grace of God. I’m praying for you all, so be encouraged because God will keep His promise.” (Nevada)(posted 11/18/2013)
“I've been coming to RMM for many months now. My husband, who many of you have prayed for, came home three months ago! This was after four sets of papers sent to me, none of which I signed. We are in the restoration process, but this has been a long, long road. For you standers out there waiting on your miracle, don't give up! As soon as you think you can't hold on any longer is just when the tide will turn! Our God has shown me so many marvelous things and I am still continuing to pray for all prodigals and standers out there! I prayed for God to bring my spouse home...but you know what? He did double! God is a God of miracles! And he doubles what the locust has eaten. Not only did he bring my husband back home, but he has now blessed us with our first baby! Praise God! Lord, I give you all the glory, and even though the devil may still be lurking, You God are the One who has already won this battle!” (Virginia)(posted 8/1/2013)
“My suddenly happened on Saturday. And it came totally different from what I ‘dreamt’ and ‘hoped’ for. After many months of separation and hardly any communication, the OW broke off the relationship with my husband so he had nowhere to go. She phoned me to come to her house to basically come and get him and his stuff. Oh dear, everything just went so horribly wrong when he saw me.... I just kept praying and praying for strength and to zip the lips. He eventually came home hours later, moved into the spare bedroom downstairs, and he is a ‘stranger’ to me. I will keep on praying for the divine work of the Lord in our marriage and for His breath of life and the salvation of my husband. PTL for bringing my prodigal ‘home.’ He is under the same roof now and the rest will come in God’s perfect timing.” (New Zealand)(posted 8/1/2013)
"After years of separation, my husband returned home the day before Thanksgiving. Our boys and I had hardly heard from him in months and now, suddenly, he is home. I am praising God for this miracle. I am so thankful that God did not give up on my husband and even arranged a divine appointment with a pastor who spoke the truth to him, which was one of my specific prayers for him. I am thankful that God kept me standing and praying for my husband through some very difficult times. I can't look back on anything that I have gone through and say that it was not worth it when I think my husband was lost and now is found. I know that God will continue to be with us as we deal with all the issues that come with our restoration. God is faithful and nothing is impossible for Him." (Washington State)(posted 12/1/2006)
“He is home! Praise the Lord, my precious husband is home. After several months of separation and an OW, God moved in my husband’s heart and mind. His eyes were opened to see the truth. I loved him unconditionally and cried out to our Lord. This journey was unbelievably hard but it changed me and my marriage for the better and right into God’s arms. Standers don't you dare give up. I wanted to many times and I would have missed out on this beautiful blessing and testimony.” (Florida)(posted 8/3/2013)
I took off from work and the two of us moved all of their belongings back to our apartment. The Lord has been healing our relationship every day. I praise God for His miracle of restoration." (Oklahoma)
“Some months ago my wife wanted a divorce. I believe because we had too many people, or voices instead of allowing God to be the main voice. It was more than any pain I have ever felt in my life, but I zipped my lips, and continued to pray. One day my wife came to pick up our kids, and she told me that God touched her heart to give us another chance. There is still work to be done, but to God be the glory! Suddenly we are working to restore our home.” (Illinois)(posted 8/19/2013)
“PTL my spouse told me he wants to move home! I'm still in shock because I've had such a bad week, and have been attacked by the enemy over and over. I was really down, but I did feel down in my spirit something good was coming, and I told myself that it made sense, because I wouldn't be having so much opposition if I weren't doing things God's way. Well, my husband came and spent today with the kids and me. I told him I missed him and his response was, 'I want to move home.' Thank You Jesus! This must have been what I felt coming up in my spirit! While he did admit it wouldn't be tomorrow, and he still isn't saved, God has been doing a mighty work in my husband's heart. Don't ever give up standers! Thank you RMM for your encouragement!” (Texas)(posted 9/30/2013)
"My husband and I met in junior high school and married after high school. We had been married 14 years when I realized he was pulling out of the marriage. I refused to give in. I found Rejoice Marriage Ministries and I was standing on the rock of Jesus and His Word and promises. My husband got an apartment and we struggled. Even though family members, a pastor, and my counselor all told me to give up and go on with my life, I knew in my heart of hearts that was not what I was supposed to do. Eventually my husband announced he was moving home. When he got there, he was not totally recovered or healed, but now, after three years of healing, we are closer than we ever were. He attends our church with me every Sunday, and we are in Bible studies together. Our Lord keeps his promises, even when we are not faithful. Be encouraged, be ready, stay strong, and stay in the Word. Satan will not win your marriage unless you let him. Our Lord will do so much more than we can ever hope for or imagine. Trust your Lord." (Indiana)(posted 11/22/2006)
HER STORY: "I was looking for happiness that I didn't have at home, therefore I left my husband and divorced him. My husband was standing for our marriage restoration the whole time we were apart. When I asked him to marry me again, we both knew the marriage restoration road would be hard, but we are determined this time to allow our Lord Jesus Christ to lead us every step of the way. Philippians 4:6,7,& 13 gives me hope and assurance that God is in control."
HIS STORY: "Four years ago, my wife of nearly 30 years left. Shortly thereafter, the Lord God promised me He would heal and restore my marriage and family. On June 17, 2006, in front of our children and grandchildren, I married her again. A month ago I thanked her for divorcing me because it brought me closer to the Lord. Satan has stepped up his attacks since we remarried, but we are both determined to stand for our marriage." (Virginia)(posted 11/18/2006)
"My husband left me and was going to file for divorce. Several months ago he began staying at home, but did not want to re-commit to our marriage. I felt like I was going crazy and I questioned if I was doing the right thing by continuing to stand. Every time I asked God, I got the same answer, so stand I did. My husband wants to renew our vows and move away and start over together. God is faithful and what He promises He will perform." (Texas)(posted 7/6/2007)
"Praise the Lord, we just celebrated our second anniversary of a marriage restored. God is faithful. Thank you, Jesus for carrying me through and calling me to this situation. Nothing is impossible for the Lord." (Minnesota)(posted 5/7/2010)
"I was praying for an Easter miracle. On Friday night (Good Friday) when I thought all was lost, my husband suddenly called and said he needed me. He said he needed to come home. He was done with the other person and really needed me. He had packed his car and was calling me from the road. God is faithful. All in His perfect timing." (New York)(posted 4/17/2009)
"My husband was done with our marriage and had moved on. I changed my ways, and I prayed and cried out to God. He held my hand and brought my husband home. God has healed our relationship over time, and we are very happily married. It has been two years since my husband returned. I praise God that I have had the opportunity to get close to Him and see His power and grace." (Washington State)(posted 7/18/2008)
"God brought my spouse home after an absence of several months." (Virginia)(posted 6/20/2008)
"My husband has returned home days ago after months of separation. He insisted on a divorce the day he left, but praise God for His faithfulness to those who seek him. We serve a mighty and powerful God. My husband now wants to make our marriage work. Thank you, Charlyne and Bob for obeying God's leading." (Louisiana)(posted 2/27/2009)
"My husband told me he did not love me any more, was in love with someone else, and moved out last year. If I had not come across this website in my search for answers, I would have let the enemy make me believe that my husband was better off without me, and that I deserve to be deserted. Instead, I stood and trusted God for restoration. Soon, my husband told me that he made a mistake, and was not in love with the other girl, but that he still did not have hope for our restoration. I kept on standing, and shared everything with him that the Lord revealed to me. God started working in both of us, and at the end of February, he moved back. We have felt like newlyweds ever since. I praise God, because this was all Him. Nothing we tried, seemed to work. We are growing closer every day." (Arizona)(posted 11/24/2006)
“My husband came home a few months ago, but he did not come home clean. At first he wouldn't accept my love or God's love, but now he is letting me love him and coming to church with me and starting to get involved there. It has been a struggle and many times I wanted to give up. It actually seemed harder having him home not loving me and the kids than when he was gone, because my circumstance was right in front of me when he came home. I have cried out to the Lord so many times in desperation, and He has given me the strength to continue to do what is right in His eyes. I am trusting the Lord to finish the good work He started in my marriage, and I continue to cling to Him and His promises. He gave me this verse: Exodus 14:13,14. I just want to encourage everyone to NEVER GIVE UP and wait for God's perfect timing. He will NEVER fail you! I love You Lord!” (Canada)(posted 12/3/2012)
“God protects his creation, marriage. He is faithful and does keep His promises. The Lord gave me a promise of restoration long before I even knew what ‘standing’ meant. My husband swore it would never happen. Hours before he came home, he wanted to sit down and discuss the visitation schedule for our sons. I told him I refused what Satan wanted for our family and I wouldn't discuss it. Later that night the Lord answered my prayer, sooner than I thought. I had almost given up, but knew I had to hang on and trust HE was taking care of it all. Today, I sit here in awe of our marvelous, almighty, faithful God. He restored, reconciled, and renewed our love and marriage. A marriage that by man's views was long gone. Praise God, I am forever in awe of His love and faithfulness!” (Florida)(posted 8/3/2013)
"My husband wanted a divorce so I moved out. I started standing and praying. Nothing was happening and my husband was still convinced that he wanted a divorce, but I continued to believe God for the restoration of our marriage. On Mother's Day my husband took me on a date and the Monday after Mother's Day he asked me and my son to move back in so we can be a family again. Praise God." (Florida)(posted 5/19/2006)
“I wanted to follow up on our restored marriage. It's been two months since my spouse has returned and I continue to stand and praise God. I have a blessing that my spouse has accepted Christ back into her life and understands the spiritual warfare that was bound to come. And it has. But by keeping our eyes up and not out and focused on Him, we press on. We're happier than we were before and are growing daily through the trials. Keep in mind that the standing does not stop once your spouse returns. It intensifies and the enemy does everything in every fashion to try and break it again. Trust in God. He is faithful and continues to pull us through all of the trials. We're praying together for all standers and prodigals to grow close to God or turn their hearts to Him...soon.” (Kansas)(posted 12/16/2013)
“Praise the Lord! I got my miracle. My spouse is coming home and the divorce dismissed! I had several years of crying out to the Lord day and night. I am so happy! I was in anguish crying out to the Lord God and heard a still small voice tell me to wait. After reading everything I could on God and marriage and studying scriptures about marriage. I told God I would wait as long as it took. Every time I experienced another obstacle I'd pray and remember what God said and my promise to Him. It looked hopeless. Finally after being forced to sign a court appearance paper I turned it completely over to God. This is when I saw the hand of God at work! Now when I look back, I see He's been working the whole time. Amazing! He is faithful. Never give up. God will do what He has promised! He is love. Learn to trust! My journey has only begun… But God! A scripture which really helped in the last month was Psalm 91:4.” (Nebraska)(posted 9/16/2013)
"My husband filed for divorce. I have been standing with the Lord for restoration and refusing to accept what I was seeing in the flesh. Things looked hopeless. Last night, my husband was at the house, gathering documents for the divorce when God turned his heart. This morning my husband has told me to cancel my attorney. He is dismissing the divorce and moving back home. God gets the glory." (Texas)(posted 1/18/2008)
It has been ten days since my husband returned home suddenly. I thank God and your Ministry for helping me through such a trying time. This is definitely a joyous occasion, but I admit that I have to go not just daily but every couple of hours to the Lord for reassurance that all will be well. I'm thankful that I'm able to see how God is fighting on my behalf. (New York)(posted 1/26/2007)
"My husband has been home for nine months. All the praise goes to the Lord. I continue to stand on the promises of Jesus to rebuild our marriage on the solid rock of Jesus Christ and restore the love in our marriage. I give glory to the Lord who answers prayers." (New York)(posted 9/19/2008)
We just received an update letter from Sondra and Andy, from Washington State, who now have a restored marriage after a non-covenant marriage of ten years. Sondra writes:
“We both are doing very well. God is growing Andy so fast. He continues to meet with our pastor and he is reading 'Fresh Wind, Fresh Fire' By Jim Cymbala. Today I was reading 2 Chronicles 15, in my Bible and verse 7 was underlined - 'But as for you, be strong and do not give up, for your work will be rewarded.' In the margin I had written; 'I was discouraged and felt God speak to me,' dated 3-11-96.
“It is so neat to read through my Bible and come across the prayers of a hurting heart and see how God has been so faithful--prayers that were prayed for Andy, scriptures verses with his name in them and dated and now all these years later, I see before my very eyes them coming to pass. Those were such hard, hard days, but God was there so close, always speaking. Many times I will have flash backs of different things I went through and then to look over and see my husband and the ring on his finger--when all looked just so impossible--I am humbled and awe-struck.
“Sometimes, years back, I would think to myself when I would get doubtful that if marriage restoration were not in God's heart to do; why would He be blessing and growing this ministry and then I would be encouraged.”(posted 8/30/2012)
"I want to thank the Lord for bringing my husband home one year ago. In the past year, I have seen the hate walls come down, and his softer, gentle side is being returned. What a wonderful God we serve." (Alabama)(posted 10/11/2007)
“Thank You Lord, Thank You Jesus. My husband has stopped the divorce. If it were not for RMM, teaching me about standing and praying for my marriage and my husband; sending me emails constantly, helping me believe and have faith in God that He will restore my marriage, I would have given up months ago. With God anything is possible. My situation was so hopeless, I didn't foresee this happy day. God is the creator of all miracles, Praise His name. Don't despair fellow standers, keep praying. Listen, God speaks to us all the time. God does answer. My faith is renewed. Amen.” (South Africa)(posted 11/18/2013)
“My husband and I just renewed our marriage vows at our church last week. Four years ago it seemed impossible, but through God all things are possible. I asked the Lord to be the architect of our marriage and He is rebuilding us every day. Our marriage is stronger now because there are three - God, my husband and me. May I also add the real work starts when the Holy Spirit brings them home. Don’t give up your spiritual warfare; it's a battle and you must stand. God will do the fighting for you, because the battle is ultimately His. He only requires your diligence to keep standing because that's when the devil steps up his attacks. Stay strong in the Lord and He will make you a loving couple again. Be blessed.” (Pennsylvania)(posted 3/12/2013)
"I give praise to God. My husband left me for someone else and for months I prayed and fasted. My prodigal and the other woman decided to break things off. During this time God opened my eyes to how I needed to be a better wife and He changed me. My husband has been home for several months and every day I see God restoring the love that was dead in our marriage. Everyone was skeptical about my stand, and said my prodigal had his own free will, but I knew that God had called me to stand and that He would complete the work that He began." (Colorado)(posted 5/15/2009)