Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"Once the prodigal, I have been standing for my wife. My wife called me and told me she loved me and wanted to come home. It has been a hard road at times but as Charlyne and Bob have pointed out, there is power in the spoken Word of God. Thank you so much my Lord, my Rock, my Deliverer." (Florida)
“Praise God! My husband is home. Suddenly. He just up and left the OW. Don't give up. My situation looked hopeless. (Numbers 23:19) God told me my marriage would not end. I went before the judge in May and the divorce was granted. It looked hopeless and final. Praise God, I'm still married; my husband’s attorney never drew up the final paperwork. No papers even exist. My husband said he didn't love me and was never coming home. But my suddenly came. I am rejoicing and praising God. No matter how long it takes, God will do exactly what He said He will do. When God told Noah to build the ark he didn't tell his family or friends. When God tells you your marriage will be restored, believe Him, no matter what anyone says or what it looks like. It will come to pass.” (Texas)
"I stood for my marriage for almost six months. I called a divorce attorney and things were deader than dead. Once I let go and let God, He restored my marriage and now my wife and I have a baby girl. I hope this inspires others to follow the Lord and not to listen to the world. He will fulfill his promise." (Germany/Armed Forces)
"My husband has been home for a few months. God has blessed my family and bringing my husband and I into unity. We have been working on our marriage. He was home for Christmas. I am thankful to God for not letting me give up on my marriage." (Oklahoma)
“I just want to praise the Lord because my marriage was restored suddenly. My husband came back home suddenly! PTL. After so many prayers and scriptures, the Lord did it suddenly. I know this could only be from God. Now my family is back together, to God be the glory for all He has done!” (North Carolina)
"My husband has been home for several months. Last week he took it upon himself to pay our household bills, something he has not done for years. What I expected to see happening in the restoration of this marriage, is not how the Lord is working things. I have been praying daily for my husband and big changes are happening all around me. Prayer does work." (Wisconsin)
To God be The Glory. My husband and I were remarried on Wednesday, June 19. We were divorced in 1998. The Holy Spirit spoke to my heart in 2000 that my husband and I would be remarried. I said to myself how can this be since he does not know the Lord, but I carried that promise in my heart. My husband then became a believer. We were then in each other’s lives, however I did not officially start standing until November 2003 when I received deep conviction in the middle of the night from The Holy Spirit as to my mistakes in not treating my husband properly from my heart. In the summer of 2004, I was led to Rejoice Marriage Ministries where I first heard the word “standing” and understood what I was already doing. He came home in February 2011, after two other relationships, and he came home very broken. Here we are, husband and wife, again after 13 years. My husband had no intentions of ever coming home, but God! (Florida)
“After some months of standing and praying, my wife came home suddenly. God spoke to her and brought her home last week. God is so good!” (Ohio)
"God is so good! My husband is coming home! I`ve followed RMM for almost four years . With a couple of setbacks, third time's a charm. After a few weeks of communication I pick him up from airport next week to come home. Although this is just the beginning God`s work isn't done. I's just begun!! (Michigan)
"My prodigal is home today. During the court session his lawyer told me, my husband wanted to see the children. Saturday we all went out to eat and he is home. We are both very emotional right now. Everything happened so fast it is still hard for me to believe. Praise God." (Oklahoma)
"Praise God for He has answered my prayers. My husband returned home but still struggles with thoughts of the other woman. It's tough to hear about it, but the Lord taught me perseverance and long-suffering while my husband was away. I just continue to talk to God about it and trust that He will deliver my husband from those strongholds. Prayer and fasting do work. My husband is not a reader, but he read Bob's book, and it was such an encouragement to him. Praise God for all He has done. I have to keep reminding myself that restoration is not an event, but a process." (New York)
"Although my husband never left our home physically, he left emotionally and spiritually. He left the church. He talked badly about Christians. He had started pursuing other woman and told me he no longer had feelings for me. He was looking for somewhere to go. Since he wasn't able to leave, I was able to stand with him still under our roof. God has taught me where I was wrong as well as shown me how to be patient and trust Him to restore my marriage. A few days ago my husband told me I am the love of his life and that he needs me in his life. He has returned to church and is allowing God to work in him. He acknowledged that he knows our marriage was saved because of my prayers. Every day God gives us something new. There are still battles, but we are winning the war. The love we now share is a new one and a growing one." (California)
"Praise the Lord my husband came home for Christmas. It was a complete surprise. God has been so good and faithful during this trial. He has given me many promises and scriptures. The Lord gently and patiently directed my steps. He has changed my heart for my husband and allowed me to love him unconditionally and deeper than ever. I am so to excited be on the path of restoration." (New Hampshire)
"My spouse told me in May 2006 that he wanted his family back. He wanted to come home. I had been standing and praying for my marriage since March 2005 when my husband told me he wanted a divorce. He was getting ready to deploy to Iraq when he told me. He said that he woke up one morning and something told him it was time to go home. I know it was God. That is the only One it could have been. We are doing good. We have our ups and downs, but God is working it out. Keep standing and praying. God does hear your prayers–and He answers." (North Carolina)
"Praise the Lord, my husband has been home for several months. He has told me he will love me forever and would miss me if I wasn't around him. That's a big change from wanting a divorce just a few months earlier. More importantly he is spending more time around our children and that is a blessing. Thank You God." (Kentucky)
"My husband told me he did not love me any more, was in love with someone else, and moved out last year. If I had not come across this website in my search for answers, I would have let the enemy make me believe that my husband was better off without me, and that I deserve to be deserted. Instead, I stood and trusted God for restoration. Soon, my husband told me that he made a mistake, and was not in love with the other girl, but that he still did not have hope for our restoration. I kept on standing, and shared everything with him that the Lord revealed to me. God started working in both of us, and at the end of February, he moved back. We have felt like newlyweds ever since. I praise God, because this was all Him. Nothing we tried, seemed to work. We are growing closer every day." (Arizona)
"God is so good. Friday my spouse told me he's ready to turn his path and work on our relationship. We have been talking daily since and spending time together. God is the center of restoration and I pray to Him more daily because this is only the beginning. Thank you for your ministry. God bless you and your family." (Indiana)
"In recent weeks both Charlyne Cares and broadcast program talked about 'The Suddenlies'. I read that email and listened to that message and wondered what I would do if there was a 'Suddenly' event in my life. This past week my husband called 'Suddenly' wanting to move things back in our house. He woke up and is leaving the other person because he misses his life, his kids, and his wife. Praise God for His answers to my prayers." (Ohio)
“After standing for my marriage for many months, my suddenly happened yesterday. Even though my husband said repeatedly that it was over and he was going to get a divorce, the Spirit of the living God has brought him home. Like the prodigal son, he is tired and hungry. I hold on to God's promises and Ezekiel 36 where He will restore my husband. He will show His Holiness through him. He will sprinkle water on him and he will be clean, He will put His spirit in him and give him a heart of flesh for his heart of stone. Isaiah 30:7 ‘and he will rebuild them as they were before.’ God is faithful!” (Texas)
"Praise be to our Almighty Lord. My spouse asked if he could come home. He will be moving in this week. He has shared that he is coming home out of obedience to the Lord. Our children are thrilled at the return of their father." (California)
“Thank You Lord. My husband had returned for a month but then left us again. We were devastated and could not understand why the Lord would bring him home just to leave again. Two weeks after he left he returned back a totally different man. I now understand God was still working on him and me. We pray together every night along with reading the Bible. Please don't ever give up. I was about to do just that the week before he returned. Please remember to only listen to God. I had many friends that week strongly telling me to give up and move on. Thankfully the Lord gave me strength to continue praying and standing. Thank You Lord for continuing to help our marriage. Always remember to put the Lord first and trust Him.” (Florida)
“In May, the Lord revealed to me through a dream that my husband would be back in my life after nine months. There was a false start in June, which was very painful, but it was not God's timing. Now, nine months later, our restoration is happening. There are still strongholds of lust, pride, idolatry, fear, and addiction, but God has brought us this far and I know He will continue to deliver us, according to His good purpose. To Christ be all the glory, we are nothing without Him.” (Florida)
"My husband left me and was going to file for divorce. Several months ago he began staying at home, but did not want to re-commit to our marriage. I felt like I was going crazy and I questioned if I was doing the right thing by continuing to stand. Every time I asked God, I got the same answer, so stand I did. My husband wants to renew our vows and move away and start over together. God is faithful and what He promises He will perform." (Texas)
"I was just about ready to give up this past Summer. I had been standing for 15 months. I had the divorce papers ready to type up and the typewriter jammed and would not type! A friend of mine gave me the name of Rejoice Ministries. I called them and decided to pray for my marriage to be restored (at the time I was very angry and disappointed in God). I kept going to the meetings and praying scripture having only faith that the Word of God would not return void. I prayed Scripture for myself too. I felt a change in me."
"As Charlyne teaches, our stand should continue till the day we die. Don't give up - your miracle could be just around the corner. God will honor His Word. I nearly gave up and would have missed out on the good relationship my husband and I are now enjoying."
"After a year my husband came home. At the beginning of my stand God spoke to me and said 'You will never be divorced.' He is true to His Word." (Ohio)
I met James twenty-two years ago. “Who’s that new salesman?” I asked my co-worker. “I think his name is James, but why do you care, I thought you were done with guys?” Coming off a bad relationship at 20 years old, I had sworn I was done with guys...but he had caught my eye. “If he is from New Jersey, I’m going to marry him,” I told her. She thought I was crazy. It turned out he was from New Jersey, near where I grew up outside of Philadelphia, and we DID get married! Three years later in Florida, we became husband and wife.
After four years, we moved to South Florida, and were blessed with the birth of our precious daughter, Avery, in 1995. Like many young couples, we struggled as we grew a life together, but with the birth of Avery our whole world changed. I began asking the big questions about life. Perhaps the biggest question of all…”God, I know you exist, but who is this Jesus?” God answered that question and many more through a local Pastor. In 1996, James and I both gave our lives to Jesus Christ. We had found a new life in Christ, and a new purpose as a family. James’ purpose was found in his passion to serve others as a firefighter/paramedic and we celebrated as he was hired by a Fire Department about 60 miles away from our home.
At the same time, I accepted the call to teach at a new Christian school our church had started. The same year, Avery, started Kindergarten. It all seemed to be coming together, a new life in Christ, our careers were established and Avery flourishing in school. Then our family’s peace was shattered when I found out James was having an affair. For the next seven years, James and I went back and forth, up and down, in our relationship. We struggled with our sinful nature and what God would have us do. We both had times we wanted to just give up on our marriage, but when he wanted to quit, I would stand fast, and when I was ready to set him free, he would not leave me. From my perspective it was the most painful, but amazing season of my life. I learned the true meaning of sacrifice, faithfulness and love. On Valentine’s Day 2008, after years of pain and struggle for both of us, James planned a special night. He took me to the beach, served me dinner, and gave me a beautiful new diamond wedding ring.
God’s love never fails. God’s love toward me, even in my sin, humbled me so that I could love and forgive James during the toughest season of his life. That love, as God promises, “covers a multitude of sins.” This man not only loved me, he was finally able to accept God’s love and forgiveness…which changed his life.
From that Valentine’s Day on, James loved us and served us selflessly. My husband and Avery’s dad, was the man I always dreamed he would be, the man I prayed he would become. We renewed our wedding vows on March 26, 2008, and began what we expected to be a long and wonderful new life together. Then came that tragic, but glorious day, almost one year later on March 8, 2009, when God took James home to Heaven. Traveling on his motorcycle to the job he loved as a Firefighter/Paramedic, James was killed. The day he died, James was right with his wife, with his daughter and with his God. James stood before God that day and heard the words we all long to hear, “Well done good and faithful servant...come and share your Master’s happiness.”
The promises God gave me through this journey were fulfilled. God promised me that James would “rescue souls from the flames.” His life and death are still accomplishing this truth. I continue to cling to His promise to me that, “Blessed is she who believes what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished.” The Lord also promised that He would “complete the work he started” in James, “until the day of Christ Jesus.”
James, God’s work in you is complete, well done. I can’t wait to see you again, until then you are finally home!
“PTL - my husband is home! The other person kicked him out and he and all his stuff have been home for over six weeks now. It has been just like Charlyne said- totally, suddenly and unexpected. Although my precious husband is grieving the broken soul tie and relationship, I see signs every day that God is doing a new thing in his heart! And even though we are divorced on paper and he is sleeping on the couch- he is HOME! He and I are talking more than we did our first years of marriage. He even mentioned getting married (jokingly- but I claimed it in Jesus name!) We have been out on dates together and are pretty much getting to know each other again. It's been many years of him being gone and it looked so completely hopeless. Even though the other has been ‘brought’ home with my husband in his grief - I know to keep praying for her, her family and mine. God is no respecter of persons - if He did it for me, He WILL do it for you! Ephesians 3:20.” (Minnesota)
“I had an affair of three months, got pregnant and my husband divorced me. At first he wanted to work things out with me and even raise the baby. I was selfish and made bad choices and chose the wrong path for a short time. We were apart for some time and I was getting my life back on track with God. The Lord has healed and forgiven my sins. Thanks to Him, my husband and I are remarried. He is amazing and I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me! Never give up!” (USA)
My husband has been home for two months. I remember reading that Charlyne didn't trust Bob when he returned for a while, but she trusted the Lord. I think of that a lot. I really started struggling again yesterday and today, and cried to the Lord for forgiveness, for peace, to show me what He's saying to me and how He wants me to respond, to help me be so sensitive to the leading of the Spirit, and to keep me in His will. Right in the middle of telling God once again that I just don't know if I can go on, a Covenant Transport truck passed me by. I knew the Lord was telling me, once again, that He will never break His Covenant with me to restore my marriage completely." (Texas)
“My suddenly happened last Sunday. My prodigal called and asked me to pick him up. The OW packed all her things and moved away. My husband has asked me and the kids to move in with him. Glory to God for His awesomeness. We still have some ways to go but praise God he is home with us. Trusting God for His promises of complete restoration and New Beginnings. God is always in control and on the throne making a way from no way. Thank You Lord for everything. Thank You Lord for bringing me through and I thank You for my husband and family too.” (Georgia)
“PTL, my wife has returned! After some years away and many months of standing, she rededicated her life to Christ and is currently going through the fires of repentance. She has begun referring to me as her husband again and is speaking of a ministry that we need to start to help others. All standers need to know, never to give up! This came suddenly and in a period of extreme silence. BUT GOD kept bringing me back to being obedient each time I wanted to quit. There is so much to praise but I want it known that I've heard so much from her that sounded like I was listening to Bob's writings. All the times I thought things were 'perfect' on the other side of the mountain, she tells me she was never happy. She said how the Holy Spirit never left her alone and finally got so loud that she decided to have a mustard seed of faith to leave the OM and come home. Not out of love (but the rekindling by the Lord is taking place now) but out of obedience. Now the standing really begins. Never give up!” (Kansas)
“My suddenly happened! I received a call from my hubby asking if I could have company. We began to talk and I looked up and he had his wedding ring on. I almost burst out in tears. I was so surprised and shocked! One day lead to another and Sunday we went to praise the Lord. It was awesome. Later he said he didn’t want to go back! GOD HEARS..GOD KNOWS..GOD CARES! We were separated for many months. We were separated before for a while and he came back and stayed for some months. It was a false start but this time is a NEW START for us because GOD makes all things NEW. God can and will restore your marriage. Just believe, pray, fast, and be a doer of His Word. People came against me but I stood alone with God. He rewarded and delivered His promise. I will continue to trust God and COUNT IT ALL JOY.” (Missouri)