Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
"My husband and I were having problems. He met someone and decided to move to another state with her. I was devastated and did not want our marriage to end but divorced him after pressure from him and others. I was online one night and came across Rejoice Marriage Ministries. I really felt inspired and started praying for my husband and our marriage. I had some doubt because I had never heard of standing before, but every time I looked at the site, I knew to keep going. After months with no contact we started talking again and I am thrilled to say we are now getting remarried next week." (California)
“I have been standing for some months now and my suddenly happened today. My wife and I really hadn't spoken because of a court order. But the order was dissolved last week and she got in contact to tell me that that she didn't want me back home. Within a week she had hit a lot of financial problems and had asked for my help. She texted me and she said she would go to the courts on Monday to do an immediate dismissal of the divorce. I thank God that she said that but I'm a little scared that she is doing it only because she can't do it financially. Please continue to pray that God softens her heart. Stay strong standers. God does hear our prayers. John 11:41-42.” (Florida)
"God has restored my marriage. He has been faithful even in those moments when I thought I could not take it any longer My husband has been home since June and our marriage is stronger than it has ever been. There is still work to be done, but God is in control. Since it was not my effort that restored our marriage, but God Himself, I am trusting Him. I pray, pray and pray. I read the devotionals Charlyne sends us every day. Thank you Charlyne and thank You God for sending her to me when You did." (Arizona)
"I give God all the praise. My husband came home on Monday. I give God all the praise. Miracles do happen." (Ohio).
"I walked out of my marriage in 2003 and quickly realized that I had made a mistake. After many mistakes that Charlyne warns against- seeking man's methods of restoration. I found myself lost and alone or so I thought. Then I discovered God's views on life, love, marriage and salvation. The road to restoration was frightening at first, but as I grew in the Lord and the more I focused on Him, the more I understood unconditional love and forgiveness. After being humbled and forgiven. My marriage was restored two years later. Now, I have the life and marriage that is founded in the Lord. In December, we celebrate our one year anniversary again. Praise the Lord. Rejoice Ministries was a lighthouse in my storm of martial problems." (Pennsylvania)
"After years away in the far away country and numerous false starts home, the Lord has brought my husband back. My circumstances seemed so hopeless but God prevailed, even if there is no home for him to come home to because my kids and I moved back to my parents' house. We now literally have to start from scratch, yet he still opted to leave the comfortable life he had in the far country. The spiritual warfare is even more real to me now, but I choose to rest upon the Lord." (Philippines)
“My prodigal of many years returned home in progressive stages over a few years, through which we maintained our purity. Last weekend on our original wedding anniversary, we remarried before three dozen family members and friends. The LORD provided everything, even a 'bridal canopy' to decorate the wall behind us. Today we re-enacted part of it and gave our testimony before a dozen other friends and neighbors, giving glory to Christ for our miracle. These have been the happiest days of our lives. I have watched my spouse become a believer, opening himself like a rosebud blossoming into a fragrant beautiful flower. As a woman giving birth in pain afterward forgets the labor for the joy of holding her child, I too, can barely recall the devastation and pain I had during my stand. Keep looking to the goal, to the Savior, my brothers and sisters. The reward is worth the cost we pay. I have seen that every prayer I had prayed has been answered. Wait for the appointed time!” (Pennsylvania)
“My wife returned home after a three and a half year stand. My entire stand I could sense the Lord reminding me to trust Him. I can honestly say the greatest joy in my stand was the deeper relationship I gained with the Lord. I consider all that was lost in the past three and a half years as gain. My message to all standers is to completely trust in the Lord Jesus. He will never leave you nor forsake you. No matter what your circumstance may be, never, ever give up on the Lord to restore your marriage.” (Pennsylvania)
"Our awesome God has kept yet another promise and my spouse has come home. Now we begin a new journey together. I praise God that He has given me this mission and led me gently down a very difficult, but right, path." (Ohio)
“I want to praise God that my husband has not left and we are drawing closer to each other every day. It's tiny little baby steps, then a big leap forward, then a step back. God is so awesome that the steps back are smaller and smaller as He directs my husband back to both of us. We are praying together now in the morning before each of us go to work. There are the little things that only I would notice that are suddenly back again. God is so good. I have to keep reminding myself that His timing is perfect, but I expect my miracle every day by faith. It's coming. We can't give up and we can't stop praying because our spouses’ souls are worth so much. I've been praying Psalm 51 and 32 this week over my husband and myself, and wow, Charlyne, you were right. Thank you for being a blessing to me.” (North Carolina)
“PTL! Fellow Standers, never give up. My spouse recently returned home. Psalm 147:15 (AMP) He sends forth His commandment to the earth; His word runs very swiftly. We are so happy that he is home and I know that God heals all wounds in His time. I pray my spouse will become saved. Keep praying and fasting, the Lord will deliver your prodigal home. Just keep the faith and know that it's not over ‘til God says it’s over. Please be encouraged by my testimony, God delivers.” (Alabama)
"Praise the Lord, my husband unexpectedly returned home today. His lease was up and he said he was going to move into another apartment. I just didn't know it was mine! Thank You Lord for the wonderful blessing and provision for the needs and desires of our family. We are so grateful." (Georgia)
"I am praising the Lord that my God brought my husband home this past weekend. It was very suddenly. Thank you Bob and Charlyne for your wisdom and direction on how to stand. I thank God for you both. There is much to continue to stand for, but God can do anything." (Arizona)
“I give God the glory, my husband came home. There were hard moments but God is faithful. I give thanks to God, now more than ever. I will place my faith in Him, knowing that He will finish what He started. He will restore what the locus has eaten; He will give breath and new life to my marriage. Do not doubt for one moment for nothing is impossible for God. Ezekiel 37.” (Florida)
"My prodigal came home with a lot of baggage. Through prayer that baggage is being left along the roadside as we travel our journey to complete restoration. Our God is so faithful to never give up on us no matter how many times we cling to the handle of that baggage." (Oklahoma)
“After some years of standing for the restoration of my marriage, my husband returned home six months ago. There were a few hiccups along the way, but last Friday, Valentine’s Day, we were remarried. The last two years saw many nights praying in my closet, fasting, and sending my Angels out to bring my husband home. I cannot tell you how many miracles God worked along the way. A couple of days ago, my husband told a friend of ours, how much in love with me he is, that for the first time in his life he had total peace, and how there was always an ‘inner presence’ drawing him back home. Don't give up standers! When you know God has called you to stand, you can be certain that it is just a matter of time... God is so good!” (Alabama)
"My prodigal returned home some time ago. He is still fighting addictions and has not accepted Christ as his Savior yet. This past week I looked in the bedroom saw my husband on his knees by the bed. When I entered the room he was crying like a baby and asked me to pray for him. He will be saved soon." (Florida)
"God spoke clearly to me and told me to stand, and He brought healing to my spirit. My husband watched these changes in me, but his hurt kept him isolated and angry. But God was working in his heart too. Five months ago, my husband confessed that he still loved me. Since that time, God has restored all aspects of our marriage. There is a trust and an intimacy that was never there before. God's peace reigns in our home and we continue to experience His blessing and provision." (North Carolina)
“After some months of standing and praying, my wife came home suddenly. God spoke to her and brought her home last week. God is so good!” (Ohio)
"My husband and I are entering our ninth month of restoration. Three years ago he began an affair. Thus began my schooling from the Lord of how and why to stand for our marriage. At one point we were within hours of being divorced. All the while the Lord kept encouraging me that this was only the shadow of death not the real death of our marriage. At times the grief was almost unbearable, but the Lord faithfully walked me through each hard day and always provided everything me and our three children needed. Three years and two false starts for home later, I can say the Lord has healed, strengthened, and set our 19 year marriage on a strong foundation. He used Rejoice Marriage Ministries so powerfully to help us. Thank you forever." (Arizona)
"My husband has been home for the last two months. As you often say, he returned home suddenly. Only four days before he returned home, he was trying to get me to answer some questions so he could complete divorce paperwork. I repeatedly refused telling him I would not and could not talk to him about divorce. We have been in marriage counseling since the day he came home. Each day I see the manifestation of the work God is doing in my marriage. I believe that he is now seeing the truth, God's plan is and has always been to restore our marriage. He has decided to finalize the adoption of our daughter, go on the family trip to Disney and to combine our finances again, all of which seemed impossible only a short time ago. I know my husband will soon be turning his life completely over to the Lord. All the praise and glory goes to our Lord, Jesus Christ." (Georgia)
My husband Joe and I were married for five years before he decided on a family vacation to Disneyland that he "just couldn't do this anymore." That was Halloween week and he had moved out of the house by Thanksgiving weekend.
My two-year-old daughter and I were devastated and shocked. Both of us claimed to be "Christians" and had a relationship with the Lord, attending church frequently, but never centered our lives and marriage around Jesus. I panicked at the prospect of being a single parent and immediately began searching Christian internet dating sites for a new partner. I met and began a long distance relationship with a man in a different state, seeking to fill the void in my life with this new relationship. I wandered as deep into the far country as my husband did until I was convicted one night by the Holy Spirit about being double-minded. How could I be actively praying for God to save my marriage when I was having an affair with a man "just in case" I actually ended up divorced?
My mother-in-law gave me a book shortly after that called "Can My Marriage Be Saved?" which is a compilation of stories of saved/reconciled marriages. One story referenced Covenant Keepers and when I looked them up online in a Google search, I came upon Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc.
Your materials captivated me; I had heard of covenant marriage but never this concept of "standing." Once I got a hold of it I couldn't get enough of the Bible and what it teaches about the covenant and God’s design for marriage. I started acting on these principles praying God’s truths over my marriage and family and I began to notice a change in myself so quickly that it was actually shocking. I prayed for the Lord to break me and mold me into the wife He wanted me to be. I didn't want to have an adulterous relationship any longer and became content having Jesus fill that space in my life. I made a commitment to honor the covenant even if Joe wasn't at the moment, and I took God at his Word that he is a God of healing and restoration.
Joe and I spent the holidays together and the further I got into my studies about standing, the easier it became for me to treat him with such God-given kindness and grace that my co-workers actually used to joke with me that we had a better relationship while going through a divorce than several of them did married. I took these little opportunities to witness to them about what I was standing for and what I knew God could do, and they would snicker at me and tell me to move on. I truly didn't believe that our divorce would go through...but it did. On April 20, 2010 a judge ruled our marriage "dissolved." I loved your teachings about praying over the divorce decree and that it is just a piece of paper, but does nothing to break the covenant if you keep standing (quite a concept for me to regard a court ruling as "just a piece of paper, since I'm a lawyer!!).
My little girl and I used to pray together at night and thank God for restoring our family and for the brothers and sisters that were yet to be born to Joe and me. She would ask when will Daddy come home and I would talk to her about God’s promises and tell her that we'd wait for him as long as it took. Thankfully, my story of reconciliation didn't take long. Literally two weeks after our divorce decree, there was Joe, who was on my front porch weeping over the mistake he had made and asking if we could "date.” Because of where my relationship was at with Jesus, I found it so easy to forgive him and confess my own earlier affair. God had given me a love for Joe that I had never experienced during our marriage.
We began an awesome time of courtship, healing, and inviting Jesus to be Lord over our relationship. I drafted a motion to the Court asking them to vacate our divorce decree and Joe moved back home last October. Our son was born on August 4 and is nicknamed "the miracle baby" by the same friends and co-workers who snickered at me when I told them God would heal and rebuild our family. As crazy as it sounds, I'm actually glad the divorce was final. I think it makes our reconciliation an even greater testimony to God’s powerful awesomeness than if it were just a divorce "close call!” Praise Jesus!!
“God is amazing! My prodigal left but I told him I loved him and would be praying for the restoration of our marriage. Praise God my prodigal is home. I still believe that he is being blinded by Satan but in my darkest moments I surrendered my life to Christ. God became so real to me. I see things now the way Jesus does. God is still working on my heart. I am not giving up. He is my Comforter, Counselor and Healer. I stand amazed at the strength God has given me. I know without a shadow of a doubt God will completely restore my marriage. My God is so big, so strong and so mighty there is nothing my God cannot do! Proverbs 3:5-6.” (South Carolina)
"My husband told me he didn't think he loved me. He moved out. He came home after a year. I still hadn't heard the words 'I love you.' He is saying them to me again. He and I are working on our marriage and it is all because of Jesus. God is ever faithful and true. I had to learn that the hard way, but when I finally did put all my trust in the Lord, that's when He moved." (Ohio)
"I was sitting here praying and fasting for my husband that he would return home. I resolved to pray all night. He just returned home. Praise God." (Australia)
“My husband has been back in our home living for over a year but we are still not officially back together. On Christmas Eve he said Merry Christmas to me and also said he loved me. We had a meal together with our four sons. Before dinner each of us said a prayer of thanks and asked God to help us as a family in the new year. My sons were very moved as they each read a special card their dad picked out for them. After we opened our gifts my husband had tears in his eyes. He told us this was the best Christmas Eve he has ever had. In God’s time I know my marriage will be fully restored. Please keep the faith.” (Pennsylvania)
“PTL that God brought my ex-husband back to me. Yes I said EX! I prayed for many years for the Lord to soften my husband's heart, but he was never willing to allow God to work in his life. After a long separation and divorce my husband came back to me after he spent many months in prayer and finally opening his heart to the Lord! I spent our entire separation standing still and allowing God to change me. I never imagined He would bring my husband back to me all this time later with a renewed heart and spirit! We are now back together and working toward re-marriage. PRAISE YOU JESUS!” (Virginia)