Much of what we do through Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc. is measured against how it would have affected me when Bob and I were divorced, and then after we remarried.
We receive many notices of spouses coming home each week. From that joyful date, it is going to take the couple about two years to heal the hurts, forget that other person, and to reconcile. Only then will they be ready to help other couples. We will never knowingly harm a struggling couple by publishing a premature restoration report. We hear of too many prodigals who leave again, because too much was being said.
These pages are not intended to be a report of all Rejoice restored marriages. Neither are they trophies for this Ministry. They are published to give you hope and encouragement.
“Thank You Lord. My husband came home on Valentine's Day. We still have a long way to go for healing and rebuking princes and principalities, but at least, my other half is standing with me at home. That's a huge part of the battle to victory. Please keep praying for us to regain the honor and level of respect that we should have for each other as spouses.” (Illinois)(posted 2/24/2013)
"God is indeed awesome. Not only did He bring my prodigal home, but He is also working in bringing restoration to his whole family. Right before this happened, I was close to giving up. I was weary after the long stand and the back and forth. As I was driving home from work, crying out to the Lord, a car pulled in front of me, and there on her bumper was a Rejoice Marriage Ministry bumper sticker telling me that God does heal hurting marriages and there was hope. I cried all the way home thanking the Lord. Days later my miracle happened. Praise God that He never gives up on us." (Colorado)(posted 4/19/2007)
“PTL, my wife came home yesterday. She left me and our children some months ago. Having her call me yesterday to get a U-Haul so she can come back home was the greatest gift I ever received. The last few weeks have been the worst we ever had since the separation. As a stander I did my best to keep the faith; it was hard. So many times my faith wavered and I feared that I was going to lose my wife. After listening to Charlyne’s CD about faith as small as a mustard seed, I went to the store to buy a bottle of mustard seeds. I put them by my kitchen window the night before my wife called to come home. Just know that through God anything is possible. Never give up, no matter what your mind or your feelings tell you. God is working on your spouse as soon as you asked Him too. It would have been so easy for me to give up on my wife, but my love and trust through Jesus and the Holy Spirit saved my marriage. We still have a long road to go, but we just started our journey for the rest of our lives.” (Virginia)(posted 2/11/2014)
"Praise God, I did not give up on my spouse. God wouldn't let me even though almost daily I begged Him to give me permission to let go. He promised me that my husband would be His and I held on to that promise. God was faithful and saw me through these hard times. Today my husband is home with me and my children, attends church with us, and is being transformed. Thank You Jesus." (Virginia)(posted 9/22/2006)
“It has been a long wait but I did not give up. Every time I was discouraged and wanted to give up, this website and the daily emails always gave me the reason and courage to believe in God more and to hold on. My husband is home! If the Lord has done it for me, even me, He can do it for anyone. He never answers too late. He answers when we are ready. Do not give up. Keep praying for your spouse and God will do it. Pray ,pray, pray but you must also believe that the prayer is going to move even those we think can never change. The Lord is able. Do not give up.” (Minnesota)(posted 11/4/2013)
"My covenant spouse came home in a suddenly. I had claimed in prayer Proverbs 19:2, Ezekiel 36:26, and Exodus 14 to take a stand against the divorce and the other woman. He went to see her in the UK. He had just told her goodbye and to return to her husband when he was hit by a car as a pedestrian. He broke both wrists. He called me from the UK hospital to ask to come home. Our three young children now get a new heritage of restoration. Praise the Lord for His victory over the enemy's schemes!" (Texas)(posted 4/17/2011)
"I have been standing for many months and my husband came home this week. There had been no sign of his return. God revealed Himself through answered prayers in a mighty way. My husband came home out of obligation more than love, just as God prepared me. The road ahead will be long as my husband mourns the break-up with the other woman but things are going exactly as God showed me they would. I know He is in control. We serve an awesome God." (Illinois)(posted 5/14/2010)
“My wife left me years ago. We reconciled after a few months only to separate again and eventually divorce. Although I was led to RMM through a friend's bumper-sticker and began to stand, it seemed that each month we were more and more alienated from each other. When things were at their worst, communication sad and hurtful, the kids aching and life very hard, God quite suddenly reversed the downward spiral. He (and He alone!) began to soften first my heart, then my wife's. He allowed opportunities for me to show my love to her again. And He started a process where each month we began to fall in love more and more all over again. Praise to His precious Name and Glory, we were remarried this past summer and are still growing in His love. HE is doing this restoration, and it is clearly HIS plan. In fact, He has used these past years to teach me so much and open His Word to my heart. I can thank Him for these trials, even though the hard times are so hard, His love and plan never failed.” (Oregon)(posted 2/11/2014)
“PTL! After many months of separation, ignorance, and threats of divorce from my husband, out of the blue, he came to spend New Year’s Eve with me! We had an amazing conversation and I was pleased to hear that he had taken a look at and has begun to own up to his own wrongs through our marriage and was no longer solely blaming me! He told me that this was a positive move in the right direction for us and was very loving. My walk with Our Lord through this time has been life changing! Being an advocate of standing for my marriage had many looking at me as though I were crazy, but I followed exactly what the Lord has told me to do - to keep standing with love and kindness. My husband mentioned this great change in me and I can see how my walk with the Lord is inspiring him. The Lord kept asking me if I was ready this whole holiday season and I said "YES!" Now we are taking it slow and on the mend. I am giving the Lord all of His due glory!” (Pennsylvania)(posted 1/14/2013)
“After over 12 years of separation, my wife came to the church BBQ. It’s been 13 years since she came to church. There were many tears that day before she even arrived. Just when I was trying to understand what was happening, she asked if she could come to the house for the day when I was out as her relationship with her partner is over and she needed some time alone. I gave her a key for my house for her birthday. God is on the move. PTL!” (United Kingdom)(posted 9/9/2013)
“When my husband left, I turned to God and prayed and fasted many times. I asked God to reveal to me whether He would save our marriage. He gave me many signs. I wanted to give up but God would not let me. My husband asked me to file for a divorce and I cried. One week later God spoke to me and told me to call my husband. I called him and he had nothing nice to say to me. He continued to ask me for a divorce. I was very humble and told him I would pray for him and I love him. Then he hung up the phone. One hour later, he called back and told me he wanted to reconcile and he loved me very much. That was nothing but God. He touched my husband’s heart instantly. My husband is not home yet, but he is in the process of moving back. He left the OW and started reading the Bible. No matter what your situation looks like, God is working behind the scenes. Trust Him and don't give up. In your darkest moments God is standing with you.” (Virginia)(posted 2/11/2014)
"My wife and I have started talking and seeing each other again. She stays in another state with the kids, but God used the kids to keep telling her to come home. We are now working on our marriage and we even went to her reunion last weekend together and enjoyed ourselves. Praise the Lord." (North Carolina)(posted 6/5/2009)
God has changed our lives and the Lord has really blessed our marriage. We just celebrated our 35th wedding anniversary. We have been back together seven years.
Charlyne has taught us to pray for what you may have done wrong in your marriage. God led me to Celebrate Recovery. I sat there and cried as I had verbally abused my wife. She could not forgive me, so she left for someone else.
I was at Cell Group and when I returned home, my wife, Vickie had returned home, suddenly with our daughter. That is when the standing really starts. Our Celebrate Recovery leader and the Assistant Pastor were over for dinner last month. When I called to invite them to dinner, I shared with them the most wonderful words my grandson had said recently. His words made standing for marriage restoration worth doing. Our six-year-old grandson said to my wife, "Grandma it's been a while, can I stay overnight?" My heart just melted. That is the best anniversary present anyone could ask for!
As your books say, "We can break the generational curse of divorce." Our grandson was born with our marriage restored and he is so cute and loves his grandma so much.(posted 10/1/2012)
"After many falls into the pit, my prodigal daughter has come home suddenly. The road she was on wounded her in many ways physically but I know my God has a road of recovery for her. Next will be her father. Thank You God for Your unique plan for healing and restoration." (Washington State)(posted 10/3/2008)
“Wow! I don’t even know where to start. I have been standing for my marriage for almost two years. Last month I decided to fast and pray for 20 days for a breakthrough with my prodigal. He was living with the OW so there was little communication between us. I received many signs during this time to continue my stand. Five days after my fast was complete my ex-husband called me and asked me to come home right away. When I got there he hugged me and our daughter very tight and said that he was home! We got married four days later! This was from a man who said that he would never marry again....BUT GOD! It happened ‘all of sudden’ just like RMM said it would. I'm so grateful for this ministry that gave me daily hope. Our God is awesome! Even when we don’t see it, He is working it out! Please standers, don’t give up! He will do just what He said He would do!” (Kentucky)(posted 4/14/2014)
"My husband filed for divorce and moved out. I decided to stand for my marriage, I made changes in my life to develop my spiritual walk with God while I waited with faith that God would put us together and better than ever. During this time, I also prayed for his salvation. Not only is my husband back home and divorce cancelled, but he now has a spiritual mentor. We have prayed together for the first time." (Texas)(posted 12/8/2007)
“In May, the Lord revealed to me through a dream that my husband would be back in my life after nine months. There was a false start in June, which was very painful, but it was not God's timing. Now, nine months later, our restoration is happening. There are still strongholds of lust, pride, idolatry, fear, and addiction, but God has brought us this far and I know He will continue to deliver us, according to His good purpose. To Christ be all the glory, we are nothing without Him.” (Florida)(posted 9/30/2013)
"My husband and I are going through separation and my prodigal has been involved with someone and even filed for divorce. By the grace and mercy of the Lord, we are now attending marriage counseling, dating once a week, and attending church together as a family. I give God all the praise for putting my marriage on the path of restoration." (Georgia)(posted 10/11/2007)
“A few months after my wife left, I was introduced to RMM by my sister who was going through the same thing with her husband. We fasted often and prayed everyday even though she lived on the other side of the country. After a few months of praying her husband had an ‘epiphany’ as he described it and decided he wanted the marriage. When my sister told me this I was a bit jealous, unfortunately. We continued to pray for my wife and, yes, a few months later she too returned home. PTL! Please keep praying and never give up!” (Michigan)(posted 1/28/2013)
“Today is our wedding anniversary. It also marks one month that my husband has been home after many years away. I did not find your website until after Bob's death, but I would like you to know that through his writings I was able to see the truth on the other side of the mountain. I continue to pray daily for my husband and children until I see all the Lord has promised! May all standers be encouraged. God is faithful, loving, merciful and kind. God bless you all.” (Illinois)(posted 1/6/2014)
“I received a call from my husband. He left the OW and drove all night. He is now home and yesterday spent time catching up on some sleep. I am so blessed and happy. My husband says he understands now, he loves me and has taken steps to stop contact with everyone who interfered before. He has cut all ties to the other woman, a step that has never happened before in previous attempts. He is happy and no longer has the dead look in his eyes. Thank you God for everything.” (Nevada)(posted 1/14/2013)
"My husband came home last week, testing the waters. Praise to You, Jesus." (Texas)(posted 1/26/2007)
“Just a few weeks ago I submitted a testimony that was shared with other standers explaining that my ex-husband told me he loved me, was in love with me, always had been, and always would be. The timing of his message was amazing...just minutes after praying to God asking Him to please send me a huge and clear sign He was working in my ex-husband's heart...that I was struggling in my faith and needed that. Now I am beyond thankful and thrilled to share that my ex-husband and I are together and will be stronger in our faith and our relationship because of our struggle. I better understand God, love, and forgiveness.” (Kentucky)(posted 5/9/2014)
"I first give honor to God, my Lord and my Savior. My husband and I are living together under one roof. This is a big step considering we both had separate places and separate lives. We were separated for nine months. My husband called me one Sunday after church and we have been together ever since. The Enemy found a way into our marriage through our separation and I am dealing with some things. I know God works everything out for our good and I have to leave that to Him. God knows he is "at home" with my marriage." (North Carolina)(posted 11/21/2006)
"God has healed our broken marriage. Every prayer for my wife's heart has been answered. God has broken all contact with the other person, and has rescued us. I can testify that our marriage has gone from one of the worst to one of the best. God is faithful." (British Columbia)(posted 11/23/2007)
“I have been reading your daily devotions and standing, waiting for my wife to stop the divorce for some years . We are three weeks from the final court date. My wife came by tonight and said she wants to call off the divorce. Praise God!” (Maryland)(posted 1/27/2014)
“I wanted to follow up on our restored marriage. It's been two months since my spouse has returned and I continue to stand and praise God. I have a blessing that my spouse has accepted Christ back into her life and understands the spiritual warfare that was bound to come. And it has. But by keeping our eyes up and not out and focused on Him, we press on. We're happier than we were before and are growing daily through the trials. Keep in mind that the standing does not stop once your spouse returns. It intensifies and the enemy does everything in every fashion to try and break it again. Trust in God. He is faithful and continues to pull us through all of the trials. We're praying together for all standers and prodigals to grow close to God or turn their hearts to Him...soon.” (Kansas)(posted 12/16/2013)
“After standing for some years my husband came home! PTL! After lots of prayer, fasting and unconditional love my breakthrough came. The other relationship ended, the OW moved out of state. Despite a non-covenant child and things looking hard - my God put everything in place! My husband is home and it feels great and worth every trial. With God's help our marriage is being rebuilt. Thank you for your prayers and support. God does heal hurting marriages. Prodigals do come home! With God all things are possible, so keep standing!” (Florida)(posted 10/8/2012)
“Hopeless is the only way I could describe my situation. My husband left, told me he loved the OW, and said he was never coming home. It was difficult to do, but I did not listen to my husband. I listened to and believed God and His Word. I blocked out the advice of friends and loved ones and only obeyed God. My husband came home and it was still a fight. I tolerated things from him that I thought I never would tolerate out of obedience to God. No matter how messed up I thought my husband was, I continued to allow God to lead, guide, and work on me. God told me to relocate with my husband. My husband was still saying he didn't think we would be together. I was so afraid, but I chose to obey God in spite of my fears. We moved and PTL so did God in such a mighty way! My husband is loving, affectionate, and apologetic for the role he played in our trial. I have grown so much spiritually and will forever stand for my marriage and yours! God is able! Pray and have faith! Victory is yours!” (Louisiana)(posted 2/26/2014)