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Not every breakthrough brings a husband through the door straight away, some have other purposes. Today, God blessed me with a new way to think, and it was both a breakthrough and a gift.
Rejection has had me broken since my husband told me about another woman. Broken. Just like you I’m guessing. Other woman, other man or just plain don’t love you anymore. They’re all translations of the same thing, rejection. Rejection wounds our heart and stirs up the ugliness of pride. Of even more concern is that feelings of rejection bring Satan an avenue of attack, and it is broad.
Many, many times in the first months of standing I wanted to say to my husband “Go on then, have her. See ya, and don’t come back.” No more prayers, no more fasting, no more hope. And all the other similar head talk imaginings fed into that same desire. Why would I want a disloyal man like you, bad father, neglectful husband, unethical work colleague (office affair), I married the wrong man, on and on. I now, almost three years in, usually recognize those things quickly as the slimy conversation of the devil but not always.
Today in a weak moment the ‘just have her’ thought quietly, sneakily slithered through my brain again but God let me know – that’s just rejection. The simple thought that was dropped into my head caused me to sort of see it from a bit of distance, objectively. As if it was a slide under the microscope. Aha! I feel rejected. I have been rejected so naturally there will be notions in my head and feelings that reflect that. But I don’t have to be taken down by them. It made everything so clear. It actually took out that sting of pain we all know so well, the tear starter. Present rejection is the reality but it is not going to be the eventuality. The sadness evaporated and clarity returned.
I have had an emerging love for my husband for some months now that I haven’t known in years, even before the awful day. I even have a growing respect for this man who is still involved with the same woman and still rejecting his God along with me. That budding love and respect were also breakthroughs and gifts straight from our Father in Heaven. They took time to appear and develop. I couldn’t rush them into myself, though I tried, but had to wait till God made me ready.
So watch for the breakthroughs. They can be subtle but they are seismic life changers all the same. And watch for the sound of the slithery serpent in your mind too. Rejection is so crushing it can lead us to do the impetuous, spiteful, bitter, savage and sad things that contribute in keeping spouses away. These dangerous words and/or actions are temptations for us just like any other likes too much alcohol, or swearing, or gossip, or flirting. If we recognize them as the real temptations that they are, we can call on God to help because in 2 Corinthians 10:13 we are told God is faithful and will not allow us to be tempted beyond what we are able, and that the way of escape will be provided that we may be able to endure it.
We will not be tempted beyond what we can bear so take Charlyne’s good advice and zip those lips. God is our strength to do that. And the side bonus is you will not feel bad afterwards. I know the nauseous feeling of wanting to take back ill spoken words and sobbingly repenting to God and asking Him to fix it. You probably do too. Take heart, today is a new day, just get it right today.
The second part ofIsaiah 49: 23-25 (NAS) says:
“…and you will know that I am the LORD; Those who hopefully wait for Me will not be put to shame. “Can the prey be taken from the mighty man, Or the captives of a tyrant be rescued?” Surely, thus says the LORD, “Even the captives of the mighty man will be taken away, And the prey of the tyrant will be rescued; For I will contend with the one who contends with you, And I will save your sons.…”
How good is that to know.
May God bless you with clarity and peace in the area of rejection,
Karen in Australia
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