Teach us to number our days aright, that we may gain a heart of wisdom. Psalm 90:12
I love the saying, “The days are long, but the years are short.”
That is one of the most honest statements I have ever heard. As the mother of sixteen-month-old twins and a newborn, I felt like some days would never end. It seemed as if my husband was gone at work for days at a time. Now my twins are halfway through their junior year of high school.
At breakfast the other day, I announced to my family the goals I met in the previous month. One of those goals was losing a few pounds. I immediately followed it up with, “I wish it would all come off tomorrow.” To which my husband replied, “You have had five babies in three pregnancies. You didn’t gain it in a week so don’t expect to lose it in a week.” Sometimes I can’t stand the voice of reason.
When we have hit hard times as a family, it seemed as if the days would never end. My husband, Scott and I would pray for an end to the trials. We wanted an immediate fix for the pain.
An immediate fix may not always be the best solution. Despite our desires.
During those early days of being a mom of three kids under 16 months, God used that time to show me what He wanted from my life. I thought He would have me stay in a vocation that I had been in since high school. Instead, He wanted me to embrace the chance to be a full time mommy. He changed my heart and it has been one of the greatest blessings of my life.
When our youngest was born, we soon discovered she had a rare birth defect that has meant many hospitalizations, surgeries and a daily medical routine that can be overwhelming. I have spent more nights than I can count in a hardback emergency room chair, waiting for answers. In those moments, I have been able to hold the hand of my daughter and teach her how to call on Jesus when she can’t take the pain.
As a teenager, I remember thinking our family would never be happy again. We were destined to be a miserable, divorced family. Even in the hard days, we found a way to laugh.
Regardless of what you are facing today, Jesus has not forsaken you. Take time to find goodness in the midst of what you are facing.
I know your desire would be to have an end to the current trial you are facing. Can you notice goodness despite what is happening?
Someone wrote us recently and suggested we not publish testimonies unless they are testifying to the fact their marriage has been restored. My immediate thought was, “No way!” Don’t worry, I found the way to craft my response and sound much nicer.
There is so much we can learn when we are walking through trials. Our faith is increased as we see Jesus carry us. We are a witness to others as they watch us walk through trials.
Today, you may feel weary. You may feel frail, like you can’t take another minute of this heartache.
Take time to notice the goodness around you. A few months ago, I started keeping a Gratitude journal. After reading Ann Voskamp’s book, One Thousand Gifts, our MOPS group challenged each other to notice goodness around us.
Is there goodness to be found in the midst of your marriage problems?
- Do you have a relationship with Jesus that has changed?
- Have you seen loved ones come to Christ because of your trials?
- Where have you seen answers to prayers?
- Has Jesus provided for your financial needs? Housing? Job?
Give thanks to the Lord, call on his name; make known among the nations what he has done. Psalm 105:1
I know you want an end to the trial you are facing. So many of you are deep in situations that seem to have no finish line. Trust in the fact that Jesus is still on the throne. He has not forsaken you.
Grab a journal and start noticing goodness around you. Can you come up with a list of 10 things? How about 100? Maybe even 500.
There is goodness all around us, even in the pit! Next week I will share how I saw the goodness of God in the midst of an awful, terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day.
Lori Steinkamp Lassen
Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc.
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