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As many of us have heard as we have been standing for our prodigal’s return, “But you must pray for God’s will to be done.” I am sure that these words have brought many of us to doubt and sometimes question our stand. Maybe we even thought, “Is my spouse ever going to come home?” or “What if it really isn’t God’s will for us to be together anymore?” Let me reassure you those are lies of Satan who’s out to kill, steal and destroy our families.
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24 (NKJV)
I’m sure many of your family members have joined you in your stand but some have lost their passion. They don’t have the same drive that you do. The outcome for them is different than the outcome for you. Not that they don’t want what you do. They do want your family restored, your prodigal returned to you and the family, but for you it is your other half. It is who God has given to you to spend your life with. Your soul mate so to speak. Most believe that you can just “find someone else.” But for us, there is no one else. For no one else will do. This prodigal is who God intended for us. From the time we were conceived God knew who we would marry. He had a purpose for each and every one of us. That purpose included the spouse of our youth.
My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. Psalm 139:15-16
It is not God’s will for marriages to fall apart. If you are praying for your marriage to be restored and last a lifetime, then you are praying for God’s will to be done. Are you praying for your spouse to return to God and to be saved? Then you are praying for God’s will to be done. For God doesn’t wish for any of His children to perish. We are all God’s children. That includes your spouse. Your spouse is lost. The Lord goes after the lost and brings home the strayed as we read in Ezekiel 34:16.
“I will search for the lost and bring back the strays. I will bind up the injured and strengthen the weak, but the sleek and the strong I will destroy, I will shepherd the flock with justice.” Ezekiel 34:16
Our spouses who have begun new relationships may be telling us many things while listening to lies of the devil. They say hurtful things to us. But be strong and hold onto God’s truths that are in His Word. Our prodigals tell us, “God has given me free will to make my own choices.” Let’s look at a couple scriptures in Proverbs and one in Psalm to explain our free will.
Psalm 33:10-11 says The Lord foils the plans of the nations he thwarts the purposes of the peoples. But the plans of the Lord stand firm forever the purposes of His heart through all generations. It is God’s purposes and His plans that will prevail. No matter what we choose to do. No matter what path we take, God’s will is firm. It won’t change. He will bring it to pass.
Lets look at Proverbs 16:9. In his heart a man plans his course, but the Lord determines his steps. And then in Proverbs 19:21. Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.
The Lord established the family before He established the church. Our families are important to the Lord. That is why Satan wishes to take down our families. Satan is out to kill, steal and destroy the very backbone of our churches. The family. God has placed guidelines in the Word as to how the family is to operate. How husbands and wives are to treat each other. How parents are to treat their children and how children are to treat their parents. When those guidelines aren’t met, Satan has a foothold and destruction begins.
We have friends and families telling us it’s ok to divorce our spouse due to their sinful lifestyle with another. Our own spouse may also be telling us this. I know mine has. Such a statement is a lie the devil uses to destroy our families. Yes, the Bible does state that divorce is permitted in such an area. However, the Bible also states that God hates divorce. I know that when I married my spouse, my husband and I were both Christians attending church. Probably much like many of you. That means that God was present when you entered into your covenant. God has joined you together. “So they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Matthew 19:6
“For I hate divorce!” says the Lord, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,” says the Lord of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.” Malachi 2:16 (NLT)
Are you praying God’s will for your life and marriage? Are you standing strong on His Word and His promises, believing that He who began a work will see it through to completion until the day of Christ Jesus? Don’t let the lies of Satan waver your stand. Be strong and of good courage. The Lord is fighting your battle. He started a work in you the day you were conceived. He knew this was going to happen and He was prepared. He has it all worked out. Just rest in Him. He’s got this.
Barby in Pennsylvania