Meanwhile, Saul was still breathing out murderous threats against the Lord’s disciples. He went to the high priest and asked him for letters to the synagogues in Damascus, so that if he found any there who belonged to the Way, whether men or women, he might take them as prisoners to Jerusalem. Acts 9:1-2
A very common question that many standers ask is: How can I believe that God can change my spouse when my spouse says, “I will never come back. I never really loved you. You need to get on with your life, I’m happy now.” I cannot possibly write all the words that prodigal spouses say to their one flesh mates to destroy any and all of your hope or belief that they would ever change their mind or have a heart transplant to return home. Don’t listen to their words; listen to the Lord’s Words that He speaks to your heart. He will speak through His Word! You must continue to believe and never give up on your marriage.
After our divorce, I had to choose, as you have to choose every day, who I was going to serve and trust. After realizing my sin in divorcing Bob, I repented and turned my entire life over to my Lord and said, “You are going to have to unscramble my own life as I have made a terrible mess of it.” I surrendered everything to my Lord and asked Him to put my “Humpty Dumpty” back together again. My Lord was my only hope and I knew He was the only one who could help me through the largest crisis in my entire life.
“Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?” Hebrews 13:5b, 6
Our Lord God is in the heart changing business every day. He can and does change men’s and women’s hearts all the time. God created His children and sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to die on the cross for all sinners. Your Lord God does not give up on His children.
Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. Hebrews 11:1
If you ever get discouraged or depressed, never forget Saul in the New Testament. Every day pray for your beloved spouse to have a Damascus Road experience. As part of your devotions today, read Acts, Chapter 9. Saul was becoming the chief persecutor of the early church. He was the government’s hit man assigned to get rid of Christ’s followers. But God had other plans for his life.
There was not an early church Christian who thought Saul would be touched and transformed by Jesus. How many family members, your church family or co-workers say the exact same thing about your husband or wife? Anytime you start to be confronted with negative words, ask them to please go read Acts 9 first and see how the Lord used Paul (Saul) to write so many books in the New Testament. Your spouse will NOT know in advance what the Lord is going to do to their life now or in the future. You only are to pray and believe with your Lord God.
Saul was chosen by God to become an ambassador for the Gentiles. It did not matter what Saul had done or what he was doing to the Christians at that time. God had a bigger and more powerful plan for his life. It does not matter what your spouse has said or has done or is still saying and doing. God has a plan for them and for your marriage, if you will stand firm, waiting on your Lord to touch your spouse.
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD. Isaiah 55:8
Believe God has a plan for you, for your spouse and for your family’s future. Bob and I have been living examples of what God can do. When I was standing for my marriage, I did not expect or know in the future that Bob and I would be writing a daily devotional, writing books and making CDs as we helped standers around the world, encouraging hurting, rejected, abandoned spouses to never to give up on what God can do in your marriage.
As he neared Damascus on his journey, suddenly a light from heaven flashed around him. He fell to the ground and heard a voice say to him, “Saul, Saul, why do you persecute me?” Acts 9:3-4
Jesus said to Saul, “Now get up and stand on your feet. I have appeared to you to appoint you as a servant and as a witness of what you have seen of me and what I will show you. I will rescue you from your own people and from the Gentiles.” Acts 26:16
There is not one person who is too difficult for the Lord to change their heart of stone. Continue to pray fervently for your spouse and all prodigals that they will come to their senses. Pray that they will have their own personal Damascus Road experience with their Lord God. We all need to pray that every prodigal will be obedient to the Lord’s voice and fearful of God if they continue living in their disobedience. There are severe consequences to living in sin and in disobedience. Are you praying daily for your spouse’s eyes and ears to be opened to the Lord’s light revealing the need for a Savior and Lord in their life?
One powerful scripture that you can pray daily is:
“Lord, open their eyes and turn them from darkness to light and from the power of Satan to God, so that they may receive forgiveness of sins and a place among those who are sanctified by faith in me.” Acts 26:18
Lord, I pray for every prodigal husband or wife who is away from you. I pray this for every spouse, rebellious teenager or lost loved one who is in the pigpen of life. Lord nothing is too hard for You. Only You touched and changed Saul into a Paul; now may You go after my husband or wife and all spouses who are living in the far country of their sinful lifestyle. Lord, reveal Yourself to them as You did to Saul by the power of Your Name and Your Blood that was shed at Calvary, bringing them home quickly, suddenly, repenting and wanting to rebuild their marriage on the solid rock of Jesus Christ. Thank You, Lord, that nothing is too hard for You to accomplish and I believe in Your mighty power. Amen.
Don’t ever give up on your spouse! If you have, repent and start standing again. God is right there urging you to start believing again! Always remember Saul becoming a Paul!
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