Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with God’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality. Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited. Romans 12:9-16
How are you doing in showing love to your spouse despite your present circumstances? Every day ask the Lord to show you how you can show love even when your spouse is not being loveable.
I know that you love your spouse very much and you may have been hurt and rejected. Your spouse may act like you do not exist.
The scripture above is one of many favorite scripture passages that my Lord gave me, when Bob was in the far country. The Lord showed me two different scriptures regarding love and asked me to examine my heart and see how I was loving my husband. I found out I was to genuinely love others and hate evil. I failed at that moment and repented.
I pray that you have chosen to forgive your spouse for what they did to you. May I ask you again, “How are you doing in loving and respecting your spouse today?” Our prayer is that you will be able to love your spouse unconditionally every day, praying and interceding for them during your prayer time, forgiving them every day for all that they are doing to you.
“You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’ But I tell you, Do not resist an evil person. If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. And if someone wants to sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well. If someone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles. Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you. You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” Matthew 5:38-44
Your spouse has been tempted by the enemy and may have fallen into sin. We need to pray for our loved ones every day and for God’s divine protection around them. Pray that the Lord will speak to your spouse, showing them the way of escape, so they will repent and turn from their present lifestyle.
Every day you can choose to forgive your spouse for being gone from you and your family, so when they suddenly appear at your door, there is no deep root of bitterness or anger.
Imagine you saying, “What are you doing here?” This week do a self-examination and see if you are harboring unforgiveness. If you are, it is easy to fix. Cry out to the Lord, repenting, confessing and asking the Lord to touch and heal your wounded heart and remove all unforgiveness from your heart.
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.” Matthew 18:21-22
May I also remind you to forgive the other person (or the other people) who are influencing your husband or wife. Will you start praying for their salvation and for their families? There are many Moms and Dads who are weeping over their prodigal son or daughter who are living in sin. Now you can pray in agreement with them! We can choose today to “act and react” as Jesus would. We can walk in sincere love and not condemn or criticize, but pray and forgive others. You will be surprised how the Lord will bless you!
Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:17-21
The next time you see your spouse, what will they see? Unconditional love that is sincere? I pray so. Do not allow the enemy to steal from you any longer! Choose to walk in love and radiate your Lord’s love every day to your spouse and to others.
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