Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse… Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay, ”says the Lord. On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head. ”Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:14, 17-21
How was your Thanksgiving? Are you hurting? Are you upset that your spouse never called you or even talked to your children on Thanksgiving? Were you alone this Thanksgiving because your spouse had your children? Are you willing to forgive your spouse one more time?
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times. Matthew 18:21-22
I know if I were with you right now listening to your story of how your spouse left you and your children, I would be hurting for all that you have had to go through. However, what is God’s will for your life? God wants you to learn the importance of forgiving your spouse or anyone else who has hurt you. Let’s never forget what our Lord Jesus said on the cross after His horrendous flogging and all the insults that He went through that day.
Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” Luke 23:34
Have you learned to take captive the negative thoughts that the enemy, Satan, is continually trying to tell you? Satan wants to steal and destroy your faith, your hope, and God’s promises for the restoration of your marriage. Satan wants you to stop praying and give up on standing for restoration of your marriage, especially through the holidays. Satan wants to steal God’s plan and purpose for your life and marriage.
Do you know how much the Lord loves you in spite of your circumstances right now? God is in control of your life and your marriage. He desires good things for you. Never forget that Satan cannot touch a hair on your head without God’s permission. God can use it to turn around for your good in the future. Not all things are good, but God can use all things. You can be victorious.
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose… What, then, shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things? Romans 8:28, 31-32
Forgive your spouse for all that they have done to you on Thanksgiving and for what they are doing to you and to your children every day. The enemy will try to destroy your walk with your Lord Jesus Christ by you building a wall of unforgiveness in your heart. Forgive your spouse or anyone else who may be hurting you now or has hurt you in the past. Your walking in forgiveness is vital for your own spiritual walk and for restoration of your marriage.
“‘And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.’ For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” Matthew 6:13-15
Loving your spouse unconditionally is a choice. Do you struggle with loving someone who has hurt you? That may be your spouse, your in-laws, friends who have abandoned you since your marriage problems began. You can love your enemies.
You may feel abandoned, but your Heavenly Father will never leave you or forsake you. You need to learn how to love regardless of other people’s actions.
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?” Hebrews 13:4-6
Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8
May I challenge you this weekend to examine your heart. Are you able to love unconditionally? Your answer will reflect your spiritual growth and maturity in the Lord.
Let me share a special prayer for you to pray:
Lord, heal my hurts and the pain in my heart. It feels like it is breaking in two. Lord, remove all sorrow and heal my broken, crushed spirit. Help me to forgive and love my spouse unconditionally. Holy Spirit, empower me to love my Lord, my spouse, myself, my own family members who are rejecting me and my enemies as the Word teaches me to do. Reveal God’s truths and open my spouse’s blinded eyes and my loved ones who are deceived as I pray for their salvation daily. Thank You Lord that Your mercy and grace is sufficient for me today. Make this Christmas season special to me regardless of my circumstances. Lord, resurrect hurting and dead marriages around the world throughout the Christmas holiday season. I pray this all in the mighty Name of Jesus. Amen.
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