Do you battle low self-esteem? Do you feel like you are a nobody? I know that you have been rejected and wounded by one of the most important people in your life, your spouse. You may be thinking, “Why would my Lord do a miracle in my hopeless marriage? Who am I?” Let me share a powerful story that happened to Zacchaeus just a few days before our Lord’s crucifixion.
Jesus entered Jericho and was passing through. A man was there by the name of Zacchaeus; he was a chief tax collector and was wealthy. He wanted to see who Jesus was, but being a short man he could not, because of the crowd. So he ran ahead and climbed a sycamore-fig tree to see him, since Jesus was coming that way. When Jesus reached the spot, he looked up and said to him, “Zacchaeus, come down immediately. I must stay at your house today.” So he came down at once and welcomed him gladly. Luke 19:1-6
Jesus told Zacchaeus that he would go to his house to visit. He was a tax collector and was a very wealthy man who was not liked, due to his occupation.
Jesus said to him, “Today salvation has come to this house, because this man, too, is a son of Abraham. For the Son of Man came to seek and to save what was lost.” Luke 19:9-10
If the Lord Jesus came to visit your town to speak, whose home would He visit before He spoke. Possibly someone who was a very strong supporter or maybe several well-known local pastors? No, that day Jesus chose the most unlikely person to visit. Why? Because Jesus’ whole purpose in His ministry was to seek and to save the lost.
Are you burdened about your spouse’s salvation and eternal destiny? Do you pray for unsaved friends and family? Are you willing to stand firm with the Lord for restoration of your marriage forever? Your Lord has a plan for you and for your whole family. He wants salvation to come to your home!
But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance. 2 Peter 3:8-9
Zacchaeus was curious about Jesus being in his town, so much so, that due to Zacchaeus’ small size, he had to climb up a sycamore-fig tree to be able to see Jesus. What are you doing to see Jesus? Are you reading your Bible and praying daily? The enemy can tempt you to turn your back on God. God has solutions and answers to your problems, if you will only seek His face, surrendering your will and way in your life. Ask Him questions and then listen for His answers.
“‘Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.’” Jeremiah 33:3
We need to start fasting and praying in our churches for restoration of families and pray for the prodigal spouses. We need to fight the enemy for our Christian brothers and sisters, as well as pray for the ones who have never known the Lord. Will you start praying for churches to become burdened about sinners and for the prodigal spouses who have left their church choosing sin?
Do you feel that your spouse is so deep in sin that the Lord will never go after them, rescuing them from the enemy’s trap? That is a lie from the enemy, Satan. You need to know your Lord’s heart and realize that He is more concerned about your spouse than even you are! Your Lord is going after your lost, deceived and blinded spouse!
Zacchaeus had a touch from the Lord. When Zacchaeus was in the sycamore-fig tree he was curious, but after Jesus had spoken to him, his heart had been touched. How can we tell? Look at how he answered Jesus:
But Zacchaeus stood up and said to the Lord, “Look, Lord! Here and now I give half of my possessions to the poor, and if I have cheated anybody out of anything, I will pay back four times the amount.” Jesus said to him, “Today salvation has come to this house, because this man, too, is a son of Abraham. For the Son of Man came to seek and to save what was lost.” Luke 19:8-10
When the Lord speaks to your spouse, pray they will stop their activities immediately and desire a touch from Jesus Christ. Your spouse will become a new person in Christ. They will then be willing to obey the Lord for His will in their life. Zacchaeus was so convicted by the sins in his life, he was willing to pay back four times the amount that he had cheated others.
He had a heart transformation. The Lord spoke and Zacchaeus knew he was no longer a wee man, but a man who had been chosen by Jesus Christ to have salvation come to his life and change him completely.
Will you believe that for yourself, your children and most of all for your precious beloved spouse? Salvation will come to your house through the power of your Lord Jesus Christ!
The Lord is holding out His righteous right hand to never leave you nor forsake you. Will you believe that Jesus’ nail-pierced hands will never give up on your beloved spouse? Now believe, keep praying, and grow in the Lord. The Holy Spirit is asking you today if you will wait for God’s perfect timing?
From a Stander in Maryland
I’ve been standing for my marriage for a few months and had a few setbacks where I wanted to give up. I just didn’t see a way and my husband’s negative behaviors started to distance my heart and body. Just when I wanted to give up God gave me Luke 18:27, “All things are possible.”
In the midst of this chaos, my mother in-law was recently diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer and given a grim prognosis. Despite my husband leaving our home, his mother has remained living with me and our young son. So her many appointments and daily care has fallen mostly on me with some help from my husband here and there. In the darkest moments, I questioned God, asking ‘Don’t I have enough to deal with and now a terminal illness?’ I found comfort and strength in our Lord to push through. Philippians 4:19, “But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ.”
It’s only by the grace of God that all my financial needs are met and her enormous medical bills. I’ve been more consistent in tithing since my husband left and God’s work amazes me that I am making it on one income and have saved some money as well.
God hasn’t restored my marriage just yet, but I see His promises in my mother in-law’s health. After her recent diagnosis and a 16-day stay in the hospital, the doctors had all but written her health off and tried to persuade our family to accept hospice instead of chemo due to the medical expenses. I was adamant that God is a Healer and it’s in His hands, but we have to try our best medically to prolong her life. She started chemo with no side effects and significant improvement. She came home and is walking around, caring for herself and breathing significantly better without oxygen. God reminded me that He is in control and that anything is possible by God. To God be the Glory! He answers prayers!
CHARLYNE’S PRAYER FOR
Lord I come to You in praise and thanksgiving for who You are. I will extol You at all times; Your praise will always be on my lips. You are faithful to all Your promises. Thank You Lord that You are turning the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers this special weekend. I am confident of this, that He who began a good work in my spouse and our family will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.
Lord, I have not stopped praying for my husband and asking You to fill him with the knowledge of Your will through all spiritual wisdom and understanding. Thank You that You have rescued him from the dominion of darkness and You are bringing him into the kingdom of the Son he loves, in whom he has redemption, the forgiveness of sins. I pray that out of Your glorious riches You may strengthen ______ with power through Your Spirit in his inner being so that Christ may dwell in his hearts through faith. I pray that You will make _____ to be made new in the attitude of his mind, and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. I pray that _____ as a father will not exasperate his children, instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
Let me not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time I will reap a harvest if I do not give up. I am like a woman in childbirth, I cry out, I gasp and pant. You will lead the blind by ways they have not known, along unfamiliar paths You will guide them; You will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth. These are the things You will do. Thank You that You will not forsake my spouse and loved ones. Praise your holy Name. Amen
Every week we hear from people hurting, looking for encouragement and direction as they pray for restoration in their marriage. Many times they will ask us how they can connect with others who are in their same situation. Those desperate requests have been on our minds and hearts for a while. Isolation is a very serious concern when you are walking through a valley. We need each other.
We are working on a website upgrade that will meet these needs. The new site will be user-friendly and will allow you to have a full experience as you use the many resources available.
The best news? As part of the website upgrade we will be offering a mobile app! One of the features of the new website and mobile app will be a place where you can connect with other people. You can share each other’s burdens, offer encouragement and pray for one another.
After reading Mark Chapter 5, I knew it was time to give my testimony. This is not my first time standing for my marriage, but I’m happy to say that God gets all the glory and praise. My first time going through a separation was eight years ago when I found this website. It helped me tremendously while I stood for my marriage. Fours months after no contact at all, I had my suddenly moment one day and the rest was history or so I thought.
Never in a million years would I think that I would be separated from my husband again after everything we’ve been through years ago. However, we recently separated and because of Rejoice Marriage Ministries, I’m better prepared for the devil’s antics and confusion. I allowed the devil to slither his way in and I’m ashamed to say that we made it easy. We stopped attending church and didn’t put God first the way a marriage should be.
I’m happy to say that God is healing us slowly and we are back to church every Sunday. I know God is moving in all of our lives and it may seem like all is lost, but please don’t lose hope. God is a Healer and never makes any mistakes. I will never lose sight of His miracles, blessings, mercy, grace, and can only hope and pray that I don’t disappoint Him. Thank God He is a forgiving God because where would I be without His mercy and forgiveness? I’m praying for us all.
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