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by Charlyne Steinkamp

Why do you look for the living among the dead? He is not here; he has risen!  Luke 24:5-6
I love celebrating Easter! I especially like to ponder the many things that took place during Holy Week. Will you pray with us that thousands of men, women and children will have their hearts transformed during Holy Week? Fast and pray for your spouse to have a spiritual breakthrough. Pray that their heart will be softened, eyes and ears opened, and that they will flee from their wrongdoing as they surrender their life to the Lord!
God sent His Only Son to be born so He could shed His blood on the cross for each of us to have eternal life.
Are you reading God’s Word daily so you can grow and mature in the Lord?
This is a great week to spend time in God’s Word, reading from the Gospels about the death and resurrection of Jesus. Make a special time to pray specific scriptures and prayers for your husband or wife who is blinded to God’s Truths, to His will and to His way. Remember, commit your life to God’s plan for your marriage and God’s Word will not return void.
I listened to the audiobook of Priscilla Shirer’s, Fervent this past weekend. We must choose to be fervent in our prayer life. We may be praying for salvation to come to our spouses and children, a healing for a relative who is very sick, for your financial needs, or employment. Your Lord knows your deepest burdens and heart’s desires, but we must be faithful in our prayer closet and pray boldly, standing on the promises of God.

So Judas came to the grove, guiding a detachment of soldiers and some officials from the chief priest and Pharisees. They were carrying torches, lanterns and weapons.  John 18:3
Jesus, knowing all that was going to happen to him, went out and asked them, “Who is it you want?” “Jesus of Nazareth,” they replied. “I am he,” Jesus said. (And Judas the traitor was standing there with them.) When Jesus said, “I am he,” they drew back and fell to the ground.  John 18:4-6

Did you notice the mighty power that knocked the Romans soldiers down in the Garden of Gethsemane?
There were approximately 300 to 600 soldiers with all their weapons. But the officials, chief priest and Pharisees were afraid Jesus would use His mighty power like He did when he healed the sick or cast out demons. When Jesus spoke, “I am He.” He spoke in the Greek words ego eimi, which is translated, “I AM!”
By just speaking who He was, the Roman soldiers were knocked down on the ground! What a sight that must have been! Jesus showed all of them His mighty power and then surrendered to be taken away.
Do you know the I Am? Have you gone astray becoming a doubting Thomas who needs more proof that Jesus Christ arose and is alive? Do you believe and trust God that He will do what He has spoken in your heart about your marriage? What must Jesus do to convince you? Is His death, burial and resurrection not enough for you to believe the power He has?
Jesus could have called as many angels as He wanted to protect Him, but He was being obedient to His Heavenly Father. When Jesus prayed in the garden, He asked for God’s will to be done, knowing what that would mean.

Jesus cried out to His Heavenly Father, “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.”  Luke 22:42

When the soldiers came in such force, Jesus told His disciples to stop fighting. Jesus commanded Peter, “Put your sword away! Shall I not drink the cup the Father has given me?”  John 18:11
Our Lord Jesus Christ was nailed to a wooden cross between two criminals. Do you remember that Peter denied Jesus before He was even crucified and the rest of the disciples ran away from the soldiers?

God loves each of us so much that Jesus had to pay the ultimate price of suffering a horrific death to show His mighty power on Resurrection Sunday!
Are you running from God’s assignment? Is that assignment standing for marriage restoration? The Lord sees you and your spouse as one flesh and married for life. Never doubt the power of God to resurrect your hurting or dead marriage!

But God! Never forget Resurrection Sunday! The women went to the tomb to prepare Jesus’ body, but the stone was rolled away! Jesus was gone! He was alive! He arose from the dead and defeated death and Satan forever!

For we know that since Christ was raised from the dead, he cannot die again; death no longer has mastery over him. The death he died, he died to sin once for all; but the life he lives, he lives to God.  Romans 6:9-10
Jesus then appeared to Mary Magdalene. Jesus spoke her name, “Mary.” Instantly, Mary recognized Jesus’ voice! May I challenge you to seek and know the Lord in a new way this Easter and the rest of your life. First, start reading God’s Word daily and listen for the Holy Spirit’s voice to speak to you! Ask the Lord to open your ears to hear His voice clearly to be obedient to His instructions turning to the right or to the left.
We need to remember who we are in Christ. May we never forget that Jesus empowered His disciples and us by the power of the Holy Spirit. May we always remember Satan’s tricks and strategies wanting us to live in fear, doubt, unbelief, and defeat, but Jesus wants us to live victoriously!

In fact, this is love for God: to keep his commands. And his commands are not burdensome, for everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith. Who is it that overcomes the world? Only the one who believes that Jesus is the Son of God.  1 John 5:3-5

From a Stander in California
“I just witnessed an awesome display of God’s power and wanted to share it with you.
We often pray for God to bring a laborer into our prodigal’s pathway. Well today, God used me to be that laborer.
We recently purchased a classic car for my husband. He needed to take the car to a neighboring county 50 miles away to have some work done on it and needed me to go with him so he wouldn’t have to wait in the shop for three or more hours. I admit I didn’t have the best attitude about going because I was so busy with work and it was going to take all day.
After we dropped the car off, I needed to go to the bank. I could have gone to any bank but decided to go to the area I used to work in. After the bank, it was lunch time so we went around the corner for lunch. While sitting and eating lunch, the thought came to me that perhaps I could get my hair cut at the salon I used to go to. We drove over there and I went in to see if they could do a walk-in. Luckily, they could take me in.
This young man comes to do my hair and begins chatting with me, telling me how he cuts hair for homeless people in his spare time. We began to chat and he tells me he cuts hair at his father’s church. Well, that opened the door! I asked him if he goes to church and he told me, not anymore. Apparently, he had been offended by someone in the church and dropped out a few years ago and has not been in church since. This young man is 31 years old and I gathered from our conversation that he really had not made the transition from being raised in church to a personal relationship with Jesus as an adult. I sensed immediately it was an opportunity to minister to this young man.
I cannot describe the joy it gave me to minister to this young man. And if that wasn’t enough, I believe God gave me a glimpse today of just what lengths He will go to in answering our prayers. This young man’s father undoubtedly had been praying for him, praying God would send a laborer into his path. I just bet this father would have never imagined how God was going to do that. I just happened to go to that bank, and suddenly have this desire to get my hair cut, go to this salon on this day and this hour and sit in this young man’s chair. Quite a sequence of events. Why? Because God loves that young man and he needed to be ministered to. But I ended up getting ministered to as well for I have prayed for God to send laborers into my prodigal children’s lives to speak a word into their lives and I just saw firsthand how God works in ways we could never have imagined. I feel ashamed of myself grumbling about having to go today. Surely God was ordering my steps because He loves us so much.
It’s been many years now since my husband came home, but I will never forget how he told me that when he was away he heard audible voices telling him to go home. He told me they were so real that he turned around to see who was there. Is there any doubt how God can work in answer to our prayers? Forget trying to figure out how God is going to do something. His ways are so far above anything we can imagine or think.
I love you all and never cease to thank God for this ministry.”

The Prodigal’s Perspective
“What is my prodigal spouse thinking?” abandoned spouses want to know. In this one-of-a-kind book, returned prodigal Bob Steinkamp answers the questions about what he was thinking and doing while he and his wife were divorced, and then as God was restoring their marriage. You will search far for a book that is this open about the prodigal experience.

From a Stander in Texas
“When our four children were quite young, I took them and walked straight out of our home, turning my back on God and my husband. My heart was as hard as stone as I made choice after choice that tore my family apart.

Quite a few years down the road, God woke me up to the truth of all I had done. He revealed to me that no wrong my husband ever did justified anything I chose to do. I repented with a broken heart for all I had done and vowed to follow Him wherever He led me.

Eventually, God opened my eyes to His plans for my family when He pointed me back home to my husband. I told Him that I would follow Him even there, but I also informed Him that He would have to perform a miracle! God reminded me that nothing is impossible for Him. Just a few months ago, our four young adult and teenage children walked arm in arm with me down the aisle back to their father. We are a family restored by a mighty God! “


by Victoria in West Virginia

Come and hear, all you who fear God; let me tell you what he has done for me.  Psalm 66:16
I sit here and I am in awe of God and in shock. How do I put into words all that God has done?
I have been standing for many years. There have been many seasons in the years. Some winter, some spring, some fall and some summer. With each the promise of change, the hope of the restoration. But I have never ever been in a season like this, since I began my stand. Since November when my husband met me up at my sister’s house for Thanksgiving and was restored back to his mother, I have seen the mighty hand of God move. I have seen my husband grow tender and respectful of me. I have seen him call me his love again even when he is still in a non-covenant marriage with a non-covenant child. 
Each month, if it was not a visible sign from my husband, it was a devotional or a dream that God gave me. But March has proven to be the opening of the flood gates of heaven. It seems that in the month of March God has taken me on a journey and, one by one, I came across verses that I had gotten so many years before and had underlined in my Bible. What was interesting was the order of these verses. He showed them to me on the days He gave them to me those many years back and all spoke of this being the season. 
Of course I was like, God are you serious? Am I crazy? Am I reading too much into this? What could God possibly say to convince me that I was not crazy? How about my husband asking if we can talk and when we do, he tells me he has moved to the spare room and that he and his non-covenant have agreed to part ways and get a divorce? What if I told you that it happened on the weekend of their wedding anniversary? What if I told you, of the three verses that God gave me to look at, the last one was one He gave me one day after their wedding anniversary which said, “A little while and the wicked will be no more; though you look for them you will not find them.” (Psalm 37:10) What if I told you that I read that verse over and over on their anniversary weekend, not sure why God led me to that verse He gave me back in 2013 and then found out Monday it was because they were no more?
Then, as if that was not enough, for the next seven days God, in mighty ways, forms and miracles, confirmed what He was doing – restoration. I sit here telling you a miracle of God. Nobody did this, only God. Not my husband, not me, not anyone. I didn’t pray enough for it, I didn’t perform to get it, I couldn’t mess up. It is just the will and timing of God that is now birthed in the natural. So, on Easter Sunday my husband is coming up to visit. He comes for the first time a free man. He comes on Resurrection Sunday. He comes after my pastor preached on the ministry of restoration. God has done it and He is shouting it on the roof tops for me. I sit here at times numb at the greatness of it all, scared to death, amazed, laughing and crying. At times, I want to not think I want to do anything, but think I want to turn my mind off. And at other times I want to do nothing but think on it. 
God is not a liar. I know that as standers, we have told ourselves that and we have told God that. You know you heard from God but you go years and you go through divorce, you see a non-covenant and even a non-covenant child and you cry out, “I know I heard from You.” Standers, you are not crazy no matter what has taken place, no matter what your spouse has done. What God told you He will do, He is doing it. We are coming up on Resurrection Sunday as a reminder that the grave is empty. He is alive and in Him all things live!!  Our marriages are alive!
Praise the Lord! This testimony does not even begin to touch on the grace, mercy, love and patience of God almighty. We serve a mighty God.

Acknowledge and take to heart this day that the Lord is God in heaven above and on the earth below. There is no other.  Deuteronomy 4:39

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