Monthly Newsletter


by Charlyne Steinkamp

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.  See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.”  Isaiah 43:18-19
As we begin a new year, we can trust the Lord for His plan in our lives in 2017! We can trust the Lord for His perfect timing and believe that there is a divine reason for every circumstance we are facing!
Never forget the promises, signs or dreams that God has given you. Stand on them. Cling to them. Hunger to read God’s Word daily. Nothing is too hard for God! Your marriage, your finances, your children, your job. Nothing is too hard for Him to conquer!

Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.  Ephesians 3:20-21
You can choose to live victorious this year. Surrender your life to the Lord. That means no holding back. Ask the Lord to show you areas of your life where you are holding onto your will instead of God’s perfect will for you, your marriage and family.
Ask the Lord to reveal any secret sins that you are refusing to surrender to Him.

There is freedom in Christ. This year, choose to crucify your own sinful nature and allow the Holy Spirit to break any chains of bondage that you or your spouse are struggling with. Remember to pray  personalized scriptures for you and your spouse to break all strongholds for the restoration of your marriage.
One of the main secrets is to spend time daily in the Word. You can use a tool like the Bible reading calendar to guide you as you read the Bible faithfully.
Here is one of the scriptures that I prayed for Bob when I was standing. It is perfect for your spouse:

Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.  2 Timothy 2:22
In this newsletter you will find an article that I hope will challenge you. This year can be a year of transformation for you, your children and a breakthrough for your beloved spouse! Never doubt the power of God and His heart’s desire for all sinners to be liberated!
We all must examine our own hearts this new year to be all that the Lord wants us to become as clean vessels with a pure heart!
Will you become more focused, disciplined, and steadfast as you fight for your marriage restoration with His mighty weapons?

We want to personally thank everyone who gave through the year-end giving in December. We have been praising the Lord as we received gifts of all sizes. We had more people participating at the year-end giving, from around the world, than years before. We heard from many special friends whom we had not heard from recently.
We understand so many of you are on a tight budget. It was a blessing to us as we watched you give sacrificially above your tithe. We pray that the Lord will bless you and multiply your gift.
Every one of you are so important to this ministry to make everything happen every day! When you read all the testimonies, remember you are part of us proclaiming marriage restoration in so many ways with giving free resources to hurting spouses!
This year, pray about being a monthly partner with whatever you can afford and the Lord will increase it!
We love you! We are praying for a spiritual breakthrough in your marriage in 2017!
– Charlyne, Tim, Lori and staff

Christian Character Traits for 2017

by Charlyne Steinkamp

Be available to the Lord to use you every day throughout your day.
Become a disciple of the Lord Jesus Christ.
Become an excellent husband or wife and an excellent parent.
Be aware of the enemy’s tricks, schemes and strategies.
Be blessed abundantly by God in your spirit, soul and body.
Be bold for all the Lord’s children who have fallen into Satan’s trap of sin.
Be Christ-like in all you do every day.
Be devoted to the Lord’s plan and purpose for your life and marriage.
Be diligent in reading God’s Word daily.
Be disciplined in all you do.
Be dressed –  Put on the Armor of God daily on you and your family.
Be faithful to God and to your marriage vows!
Be fearful of God.
Be filled with the Holy Spirit daily.
Be focused in all things you do as unto the Lord.
Be forgiving. Do not hold on to offenses or grudges.
Be fruitful as you live your life and share the Gospel to others.
Be gentle in your behavior.
Be helpful to others who are hurting. Share God’s Truths.
Be hopeful to all who you meet and know.
Be honest in everything.
Be humble and gentle.
Be joyful – radiate the joy of the Lord which is your strength.
Be kind to your family members and others.
Become knowledgeable. Read books about marriage and prayer.
Be a lighthouse for the Lord.
Be loving to your family and others unconditionally.
Be a marathon runner and finish the race well!
Be obedient in all things.
Be patient and wait for God’s perfect timing in all things.
Be a peacemaker.
Be a prayer warrior for your marriage, family and around the world. 
Be a proclaimer for marriage restoration.
Be quiet – choose to zip your lips.
Be righteous in all you do.
Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion.
Be sensitive to others who are hurting. God may be sending you to speak and pray for them.
Be single-minded…not double-minded.
Be strong in the Lord – never forget God’s mighty power.
Be a student who studies God’s Word.
Be thankful in all circumstances. This is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.  
Be thoughtful to others.
Be truthful –  adultery started with one lie.
Be trustworthy. Honesty is a great character trait.
Be united with others who believe in the permanence of the covenant marriage.
Be a valiant warrior in God’s Army.
Be a worshipper. The Lord loves His children praising His Holy Name.
Be yielding to the Lord’s will and way in your life all the time.
Be aware of youth of all ages who need love and help as they are missing one important parent at home.
Will you choose to live a victorious live knowing who you are in Christ?
Will you choose to surrender your heart and life to the Lord this year, withholding nothing?
There is freedom in Jesus Christ. Will you choose this year to crucify your sinful nature and allow the Holy Spirit to break the chains of bondages that you struggle with every day? Pray Psalm 51 for both you and your spouse to have a pure heart.
Let’s pray:

Lord, remind and reveal to me all the hidden areas or secret sins that I have refused to surrender to You! Lord, I want my spouse to flee from sexual immorality, pornography, gambling or any other addiction. Help me and my spouse be delivered from Satan’s lies and strategies this year. Lord, change me first, this year starting right now.
Lord, use me, mold me, make me into the mighty woman of God I need to be which includes being the wife, mother, daughter, cousin, aunt or friend I need to be.
Lord, use me, mold me, make me into the mighty man of God that You want me to be. Make me be the spiritual leader in my home as the husband, father, son, cousin, uncle or a friend I need to be as a believer.
Lord, forgive me for not staying focused on Your plans and purposes for my life. Guide and direct my steps every day. Guard my heart, my mind, and my mouth daily that I will not sin against You.
Thank You, Lord for making me into a strong believer. May my beloved spouse have their own personal encounter or a Damascus Road experience this year. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.

Every day ask the Lord if you are going astray or walking away from Him. 
One big hint is when you are not spending time in the Word or praying daily! Beware! The enemy is trying to take you on a detour road.
Do not become weary or tired, because in due season, you will reap a harvest of reconciliation and restoration of loved ones, and most of all, your marriage restoration.
What is the key? Choose to pursue righteousness which is Christ-likeness!!

But you, man of God, flee from all this, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness.  1 Timothy 6:11 (emphasis mine)

Our inbox has been overflowing since the holidays with testimonies from men and women around the world who are praising the Lord for His faithfulness! We wanted to share them with you today, not to discourage you if things don’t seem to be changing in your situation, but to encourage you to praise the Lord…even in the small things!
If you enjoy reading these testimonies, make sure you read Charlyne Cares every Saturday, where the entire day is devoted to testimonies!

“I want to encourage other standers whose marriages had financial infidelity. God heals. Truly, God can heal all things. And He will use creative means, too! Over the holidays, I was so surprised to receive a gift card to an area restaurant. I thought about giving it to someone else but held onto it. A couple weeks later, it hit me: that restaurant was one my covenant husband mentioned quite often. I took it out and prayed that my husband, who wasn’t in contact with me and with his family in another state, and I could go on a date. Well, the kind person who gave us the gift card probably never imagined they provided a date for my husband and me this past weekend! Also, my husband paid for the extra we ordered beyond the gift card amount! I believe this is the seed of financial healing and trust between us. Standers, God knows. He knows the hardships and betrayals of all sorts. He is God. May He put together all things in our marriages as we trust Him. Amen.”  (Florida)
“It hurts to see someone you love in pain, knowing their need of a new heart. It’s like watching them be on a waiting list for a heart donor, not knowing if it will ever happen. I was told by the Doctor to wait and pray in the waiting room at the hospital (aka the distant country) because He said there was a new heart on the way for this transplant to occur. So, I trusted Him. He was in control, there was nothing else I could do. I know my covenant wife is hurting. I realize we both needed this heart transplant. I made it out of my surgery; that’s why I’m trusting that same Doctor for her. Especially when His nametag reads ‘Jesus.’ I know we all hate waiting rooms but it gives us a chance to read the Word and comfort our children during this trial. Thank the Lord for His grace to become the spouse and parent He intended us to be, for entrusting you to fight for your family. ‘The only thing worse than waiting on God is wishing you had.’”  (Ohio)
“Wow, God is great! My wife told me after Thanksgiving that she didn’t want to be with me anymore. We are both still living at home. I know God is working on our relationship because there are days where she talks to me with joy. Today we had an argument but God was there. As I listened to the 2017 Rejoice Pompano Bible Study, I received a text from her apologizing for the attitude she had this morning. Thank You Lord, You are amazing.”  (Tennessee)
“My husband and I have been separated for several months and there is an OW. My court date to finalize the divorce was today. I did submit my court date to RMM. Right before the judge called our case, my husband told me he did not want to go through with the divorce; he just can’t leave the OW because she’s pregnant. We dismissed the divorce case and are in the process of working out a separation agreement. When we were leaving the courthouse, I saw a truck right out front that said ‘Restoration.’ My suddenly is near!”  (Michigan)
“My wife asked me to move out and filed for divorce. She revealed to me then that she was dating someone. With a heavy heart, filled with despair, I hit my knees in prayer. Believing it to be hopeless, the Holy Spirit spoke to me and said, ‘It isn’t over. I will restore your marriage next year. I’ve raised the dead…your marriage is not a challenge for Me.’ Soon, God directed me to this site, and hope flared in me. When she left town for New Year’s with the OM, I was once again crushed, but as I played ball with my son in the yard, the Spirit spoke again and asked me, ‘If I filled the sky with doves, would you believe?’ Within a minute, a flock of doves filled the sky from the north, then another from the east! PTL! Standing is hard, but I KNOW that God will keep His promise. Praying for Him to change my prodigal’s heart, returning her to me and the Lord!”  (Texas)
“I have been dwelling in God’s awesomeness since this past Saturday. My love (whom I have not seen or spoken to in a couple of years) had been calling me for a few months now. I never picked up or returned his call, refusing to have this conversation. This past week, he called AND texted, wanting me to meet with him. Initially, I was adamant about not responding, but God rebuked me and said that at the end of the day, he’s still my husband; I needed to answer him. I decided to accept the invitation, and asked God to intervene before we met. He still ‘claims’ he wants a divorce, but it didn’t bother me. We actually laughed, reminisced, he complimented my looks, and shared how unhappy life was for him. Without judgment or chastisement, I was glad to share with him what God told me to do, and that my thoughts about divorce from years ago still remain the same today! God is so awesome!”  (Tennessee)
“About a month ago, I submitted our court date for prayer. A few days before the hearing, my husband met with me and said that God had broken the concrete walls of his heart. While we were together, he contacted his attorney to stop the divorce. Jesus is victorious!”  (Colorado)

For many people the beginning of a new year is often the starting point for some new ways of life. We hear that most diets are started in January. For those desiring that our Lord heal their marriage, the beginning of a new year might be the perfect time to allow Him to work in your life. What better time than right now to declare that the enemy is not going to have your marriage (remember, all that we have to take from Satan is that which he has stolen from us). For the stander who has been wavering, today is the day to get back on track. Regardless of the circumstances, may these be days of seeking and doing God’s will with a renewed spirit.

Armor of God Figurine
This is a dimensional display of the Full Armor of God, 9 1/2″ tall; full color figurine is a visual reminder of what God has provided for our protection. Based on Ephesians 6:14-17. Silver and red; circular base is engraved with the Scripture quote. Vintage historical finish; boxed; for home, church or classroom. A unique Christian gift idea.

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