In the midst of this awful separation between my wife and me, I found God. As the weeks turn into months, I can clearly feel God’s presence and the work He is his doing in my marriage and in me. I have so much faith He will heal our hearts and restore our marriage. I have been able to think clearly and have been able to fight the daily attacks of Satan and his minions.
“The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” Exodus 14:14
I have also been able to think clearly and have a better understanding of what I can do to assure we never get to the same point or do the same things that got us to the point where we are today. As I have been building a personal relationship with God over the past three months, I have been able to hear the subtle messages and voice of God (the Holy Spirit) talking to me. During my conversations with God, I often come up with something that compares to rebuilding our marriage.
Many people love the idea of finding an “old rust bucket” car to fix up. We hear many stories where a person spends thousands of dollars and hundreds of hours of time restoring an old car, which has been abandoned and neglected over the years. Then for some reason they see the potential in this “rust bucket” and are willing to put a lot of effort into restoring the “rust bucket” to its original state or better yet, to a much better state. These people are willing to take a chance on the “old rust bucket,” praying it will be fixable and not giving up on the project.
When the work begins, there are countless hours of researching the how-to of old car restoration. The process begins with part shopping, metalwork, rust repair, the best upholstery shops in the area, tires and rims, engine repair and so on. Once all that is completed the work begins and the “old rust bucket” that was neglected begins to take on a transformation. The work could take a few weeks, months or a couple years but, at the end of the project when the final coat of paint is sprayed on, the car it is restored. More times than not to a much better state than it was when it was new.
After the project is complete, we admire the restored beauty and we never look back at what caused the damage. All we can talk about is the hard work and effort we put into fixing the car to its show quality. Then we enjoy our work for years to come.
Now, we are not going to stop there. We have spent a countless amount of energy on this project and we need to continue to work on it. We just re-built something that was awful into something beautiful. The car may get a name and for sure it will get a weekly washing, waxing, the chrome will be polished and the widows will be so clean they look as if they are missing. The motor is serviced and is tuned up to keep it purring like a cat. We do not want her to go back to the state she was when we first spotted her in the old barn, rusting away from neglect.
Our marriages are no different from the car restoration story. The project of restoration is not going to be easy but it will be fulfilling at the end. We must not look back at what caused the damage but move forward with the rebuilt marriage.
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! 2 Corinthians 5:17
After the restoration of our marriages, we cannot forget to keep working on it, keeping it in pristine condition. We must follow God’s Word on marriage to keep it alive and running smooth. The last thing we want is to neglect our marriage again and create another “old rust bucket.” Just think of the effort we put into it to fix it.
All of our projects, especially the project of marriage restoration, must begin with letting God into our hearts. Then we must pray and have full faith in God and that He answers prayers.
Jesus replied, “Truly I tell you, if you have faith and do not doubt, not only can you do what was done to the fig tree, but also you can say to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and it will be done. If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.” Matthew 21:21-22
Remember, pray with authority daily! Pray for marriage restoration. Rebuke Satan and other evil spirits daily.
In the name of Jesus, I command the Spirit of Divorce remove itself from my marriage, my home and my family. It is not welcome and cannot live here! Amen
Donnie in Texas
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