So, I get up one morning and it starts. Before I even get dressed I’m having thoughts that aren’t in line with my stand. “Wonder who she woke up with this morning?” “She’s never coming to her senses. Why not just leave the wedding band off today and see what you can drum up for yourself.”
More thoughts as I drive to work. Perhaps, there is an impending non-covenant marriage. Maybe she is not even with another man (oh boy). I get to work, and I’m met with questions about my stand. “You’re divorced? Why do you continue to wear your wedding band?” “You’re just hoping to get back together one day. Are you in denial?” Fortunately, they don’t articulate that. However, it’s written all over their faces. For the message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God. 1 Corinthians 1:18. Maybe it’s not written on their faces at all… Maybe it’s just more deception.
The reality is this: LORD, I’M HAVING A CRUDDY DAY!
Know what I’m talking about, brother? It comes at the most inopportune times. The enemy is attempting to take you and me out! I pray and ask for relief from this attack. The words of that Tenth Avenue North song ‘Losing’ pop into my mind. It’s only then that I text my standing brother on the other side of the state. One who is in the trench fighting for the heart of his wife, and for the hearts of standing men all over the world. One who can directly identify:
Actual Sent Text: “Oh, Father won’t you forgive them, for they don’t know what they’ve been doing…… Need a lift… Got one?” Within minutes, my phone is ringing. We share and encourage each other for the next 45 minutes. During the conversation, we confess to each other that there have been times when we wanted to call for encouragement. We didn’t call because “I didn’t want to bring you down.” In retrospect, the thing that we felt like we shouldn’t do was the thing we needed to do the most.
Brothers, we were not intended to stand all by ourselves. We were not intended to do LIFE, all by ourselves. We need each other. We need to encourage each other. We need to call each other, and occasionally we need to call each other out. That’s why I am so grateful for Rejoice Marriage Ministries and their efforts to continue the Standing Firm devotionals even with the changes. Keep writing, keep encouraging.
My standing brother and I agreed that those times when we felt like calling and didn’t are the times that we should call the most. If you are having an outstanding, victorious day, your brother needs to hear from you. If you are having a cruddy day, your brother needs to hear from you. We made a covenant before we ended our call that in the future when we needed a lift, we would call.
Brothers, surround yourself with men who will stand with you, stand for you and support you in your stand. They don’t even have to understand your stand as long as they will support you with godly encouragement. You need the encouragement that Dad will bring to you through them.
Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12
Until the last wound of the last heart of the last man is healed,
We fight! We fight! We fight!!!
Standing Until I See Jesus Face to Face,
Rusty in North Carolina
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